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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
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After this argument between you, you may sense your boyfriend's somewhat indifferent attitude, which could give you a certain degree of unease and fear.
It may be helpful to consider that behind any emotion is often an unmet expectation or need. It could be beneficial to be aware of instances when you may be seeking to fulfill certain inner needs from your boyfriend through arguing, such as the desire to be valued, cared for, concerned, and considerate.
It seems likely that there will be many arguments between you, which may mean that your inner needs are not being met through arguments. This could be making your relationship worse and worse, and your boyfriend may feel more and more that you are being unreasonable. At this time, you may feel aggrieved and angry.
You might find it helpful to try keeping an emotional diary. This is a way of recording your inner feelings and emotional experiences from your arguments in words. This can help you to perceive and understand the needs behind your emotions. It can also help you to find better ways to respond and meet your needs. This is rather than always expressing them emotionally.
For instance, you might consider directly telling your boyfriend your inner needs and how you want to be treated, rather than letting him guess your needs through emotional expressions. This may help to ensure that your needs are responded to and met in a more appropriate and accurate manner.
At the same time, you might consider trying to give yourself these needs for satisfaction and response through your own efforts, rather than always hoping that others can give them to you.
If your boyfriend's words or actions make you feel uncomfortable, it might be helpful to express your true feelings in a honest and courageous way. It's important to remember not to evaluate his actions, but to focus on your own feelings.
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I feel you on this. It's tough when the person you care about pulls away. I guess it's important to reflect on what both of us need from this relationship and talk about it calmly.
It sounds like your boyfriend might be feeling overwhelmed. Maybe he needs some space to process his feelings. Have you considered giving him a little breathing room while also setting up a time to discuss things openly?
Communication is key in relationships, but it's clear that something has shifted between you two. Perhaps you could try expressing your feelings without blaming each other, focusing on how you can support each other.
The change in his behavior is noticeable. It might help if you both share your expectations and concerns with honesty and empathy, trying to find common ground that works for both of you.
It seems like the dynamic of your relationship has changed. Sometimes, couples therapy can provide tools to communicate better and understand each other's perspectives more deeply.