I have been troubled for a long time. Do I have a psychological problem or does my mother have a psychological problem?

Good morning, host. Thank you for the opportunity to address your question. My name is Han, a listening therapist from Yixin.

Upon examination, it becomes evident that your mother's primary interactions are with your aunt, with a significant focus on providing care and assistance. This dynamic may give rise to feelings of imbalance, particularly if it appears that your mother's attention is being diverted from her role as a family caregiver and towards meeting your aunt's needs. In this context, it is essential to identify the source of this perceived competition. Is it your aunt, or is there another factor at play?

Let us consider another perspective to ascertain why the mother is willing to share the details of her luxurious life with her sister-in-law.

What needs of the mother are met by their connection? What does your ideal mother look like to you in the family and in life?

Let's address these questions together.

First, it creates a sense of neglect and imbalance. We crave our mother's affection, expect her to provide better care for the family, desire more attention and involvement from her, and question her status when we feel these needs are not being met.

This is a typical emotional reaction.

Secondly, it is important to recognise that your mother has numerous roles and identities in her life. She is your mother, but also your aunt's sister, your grandmother's daughter and your father's wife.

It may also be necessary to maintain equilibrium among the various identities. What factors influence the balance of power in this situation?

If we accept that the mother is devoted to her sister-in-law, should we not also consider the sister-in-law's commitment to her mother?

Third, let's examine this need within ourselves and acknowledge it. When we desire love and attention, we often have expectations of our mothers, our families, and our lives.

What channels can be utilized to express ourselves reasonably while simultaneously advocating for ourselves?

I would like to express my gratitude for this encounter, the world, and my appreciation for you.

Your complaints make me feel sorry for your mother. You and your father may not understand her.

Put yourself in her shoes. Don't think like a mother, just open your mind. Does your mother's behavior resemble that of a young couple in love?

Have you ever spent every day on the phone with your boyfriend/girlfriend, wanting to give him the best and spend money on him? Are these behaviors similar to how your mother treats your sister-in-law?

There's more to life than love. Family and friends are important too. A mother and sister-in-law who keep in touch every day must have a good relationship. Any good mother will think of her sister-in-law first. You may feel jealous and resentful, but try to see things from her perspective.

When you're in a relationship, do you think of your partner first? Or your best friend?

Spending 500-1000 yuan a month is worth it if it makes my mother happy. It's good that my mother and aunt are still friends.

They're the best relatives and friends. It's good to let your mother do what she likes and make her happy.

Being happy is the most important thing! Don't take this too much to heart. You can't buy happiness.

If you understand your mother, she will understand her neglect. Love is mutual.

One day you will have your own family. When you are busy, won't it be good to have your mother and sister-in-law to keep you company? Open up your mind!

I hope this helps.

Hello! I'm the place of peace of mind. Thank you so much for coming to the platform to talk about your troubles.

It seems from the description that your mother is very involved with your auntie! She interacts with her online every day and spends 500–1,000 yuan a month at your auntie's house. It seems that your mother has always devoted all her attention to your auntie's family, which is great because it shows she's a very dedicated person. However, this has made you quite angry.

Have you expressed your anger? If so, I'd love to hear how!

If not, I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Mommy's behavior seems to make you feel as if you have no mother and that you have been abandoned by her. You feel hurt and sad?

Have you had the chance to express these feelings of hurt and sadness to your mother?

I'd love to know how she responded!

If not, I'd love to hear your thoughts!

From the text, I can tell that you love your mother! I could also understand the close relationship between your mother and your aunt at first. But over time, you feel neglected and indifferent from your mother, so you are unhappy, angry, and also very tired.

I'm excited to hear your thoughts on this interpretation! Does it match your feelings?

The core issue you raised today is the parent-child relationship, and there are some challenges in the relationship between you and your mother.

You have the motivation to ask for help and hope to get the help you can get, and I really appreciate this about you!

I'd love to know if you've already taken the initiative to find your mother. It would be great to hear if you've both been honest and communicated sincerely.

Absolutely! I'm so excited to hear more about what you need and want to share with your mother.

And are you ready to listen to her?

With a loving connection, there's no room for conflict! I wish you all the best!

Hello,

I'm Kelly. You're not having a problem, you're just more concerned about your mom. Let's look at the situation together: your mom and her younger sister.

Mom and her sister-in-law.

Does the OP's mother not work?

Does her mother work?

Can a new mother become obsessed with TikTok?

If it's short, the questioner can understand her and let her have fun. Maybe she'll stop playing one day if you don't pay attention to her behavior. She seems a bit like a child in adolescence, a bit "rebellious." The questioner can care about her a little bit. Is she approaching menopause age?

TikTok has attracted many mothers. Mothers need someone to share things with. Maybe her sister-in-law is her "soulmate" because they can talk about things together.

I also have a friend like this. She likes TikTok, but I don't know anything about it. I like to read, but she doesn't want to listen to what I share. TikTok has lots of different content, and it's short.

Also, she's close with her sister-in-law. Was she close with her sister-in-law before? It's good that they have someone to lean on, just as you have good friends.

My mom and her younger sister are like family. They understand each other and rely on each other. The younger sister is also an important person in my mom's life.

Your aunt became your mom's only support.

[Mom and you]

The questioner can think about this: In your family of three, it seems that dad and you don't understand mom. Is that also how mom feels?

She feels you don't need her, ignore her, and don't understand her. This makes her bond with her aunt stronger.

[About marital problems]

If the couple has a good relationship, the father respects and loves the mother and listens to her.

Let Dad spend more time with Mom. Take her for a walk, ask her about her favorite TikTok content, and find topics that interest her. When their relationship improves, Mom may also change her behavior.

[About boundaries]

The questioner should focus on her own feelings and trust her mother. Give your mother some time.

Let your mother do what she likes, and you can do the same.

[About giving things away]

1: Maybe your mother likes your aunt and knows how to show it. She gave her the gift to show her appreciation?

2: Explain that your family is well off and that your mother can afford it.

3: Mom has the right to make her own choices.

[About family meetings]

1: The family can talk.

2: Make an appointment with your mother to talk.

3: Listen to your mother.

4: Change how the family interacts.

5: Tell your mother to care more about the family and you.

The questioner can also study psychology, learn more about themselves and their parents, and look at how psychology changes at different ages.

Best of luck!

I'm Kelly.

I love you, world.

Dear questioner, My name is Yang Yiqing, and I am a listener on the Yixinli platform.

In light of the aforementioned issues, I am compelled to engage in discourse with you with the aim of providing a source of solace and assistance.

From your description, it appears that you experience feelings of helplessness, indignation, and even grievance. Why does your mother provide such comprehensive care for your aunt's family but seem to disregard her own family? Why does your mother ignore your father and you?

Which of these individuals holds a greater position of importance in the subject's emotional hierarchy?

Furthermore, your current distress seems to be more about "I'm tired." Is this phenomenon due to me or my mother? From your question, it is evident that you experience self-doubt, fear of confronting your emotions directly, fear of acknowledging that you feel uncomfortable with your mother's behavior, and even fear of denying your mother's behavior. This ultimately leads to doubting yourself and your emotions and perceptions.

In light of these observations, I am compelled to express my profound empathy for your situation. It is evident that you are grappling with a complex web of emotions, including a sense of helplessness and a longing for maternal connection and care. Despite your strong attachment to your mother and the desire to express your innermost thoughts and feelings, you find yourself hesitant to do so. This reluctance may stem from a fear of being misunderstood or of being perceived as having abnormal needs. It is crucial to recognize that your feelings are valid and deserve to be acknowledged.

It appears that acknowledging the problematic nature of one's mother's behavior is a challenging endeavor. The inclination to prioritize personal transformation over disloyalty to one's mother is a common phenomenon. This phenomenon can be attributed to the deep-seated loyalty children exhibit towards their parents from an early developmental stage. This loyalty is often deeply entrenched and difficult to alter, leading many children to choose self-transformation over confronting their parents' inappropriate conduct.

With regard to the mother's behaviour, it is possible to suggest the following reasons:

The mother has not fully disengaged from her original family.

The mother-in-law is a relative who was raised in the original family and is therefore a familiar presence and perhaps a safe haven within. The mother may not have truly separated from her original family, so that she is still emotionally and deeply reliant on past experiences and relationships. This is her comfort zone, and she is unwilling to step outside it.

The mother is deficient in social contacts.

Does your mother lack other social contacts? Does she engage in any remunerative activities?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether your mother has any other social circles.

Human social nature may prompt the mother to seek external relationships.

If the mother lacks other social interactions or does not receive the satisfaction and sense of achievement she needs from them, or if the mother has been frustrated and traumatized in other social interactions, and the sister-in-law seems like the ideal confidant, then the mother can fulfill her emotional needs and gain a sense of personal existence and value from the sister-in-law. For example, the mother can give the sister-in-law gifts, purchase items for her, request assistance from you in sending express deliveries, and so on. Through these "helpful acts," the mother can gain a sense of achievement in this relationship, or, in other words, the mother is needed and seen in this relationship.

It is therefore understandable that the mother relies heavily on this relationship with her sister-in-law.

The roles of you and your father within the familial structure.

It is essential to be aware of this yourself. What role do you and your father play in the family? Do you provide your mother with the necessary support?

At the times when she required encouragement and affirmation, did you offer her timely and appropriate praise?

In instances when she requires companionship and assistance, do you promptly offer her assistance and support?

Are you providing her with the opportunity to demonstrate her need for a sense of presence and worth?

If the mother does not receive the requisite support and companionship from the child and father, it is logical that she will seek it elsewhere.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the roles played by both parents and the mother in the family unit.

Indeed, these roles are mutually reinforcing. It can be said that it takes two to tango. There must be a reason why the mother is acting this way, and she must have her own reasons and difficulties.

The following advice and methods are presented for your consideration.

It is recommended that you engage in self-reflection.

First, it is essential to acknowledge and examine the underlying emotions and reactions that contribute to a given situation. Each emotion has a rationale for its emergence. Identifying the feelings and needs that precipitate the emotion is crucial for understanding its origin.

For example, if the subject states that they are feeling tired, it is important to accept that they are experiencing that sensation and not attempt to alter their state in order to avoid feeling tired.

One should not resist negative emotions, as they can provide insight that is often overlooked. If one is experiencing fatigue, it may be a result of dealing with one's mother's unresponsive needs or a manifestation of self-doubt. This can serve as a reminder to allow oneself to feel the full spectrum of emotions rather than attempting to suppress them.

"I would like to engage in a dialogue with my mother regarding her culinary offerings, which I find quite palatable."

It would be beneficial to engage in introspective discourse to ascertain the underlying motivations and dynamics of one's own inner self.

It is essential to comprehend the underlying motives that drive the mother's actions.

As the aforementioned analysis illustrates, what underlying needs might be motivating the mother's actions?

One might also consider consulting with the father regarding the couple's history and recent developments. Given their prolonged relationship, it is plausible that he possesses insights into the underlying causes. Even if he lacks such knowledge, engaging in dialogue could prove beneficial.

Additionally, one might inquire about the mother's sentiments during her interactions with the aunt and what her actions would be in the absence of the aunt. It would also be beneficial to ascertain the role the aunt plays in the mother's emotional state.

What can be done to assist the mother? Was the mother's demeanor similar at the time of the child's birth?

At what point did this transformation occur? What precipitated this shift?

Modifying the familial atmosphere and behavioral patterns may prove beneficial.

It seems reasonable to posit that my mother would still like to return to her family, provided that the underlying reasons are identified and the requisite support and companionship are provided. Alternatively, a direct appeal for her support might prove effective.

It is also possible that you and your father are simply too reserved.

It is of the utmost importance to gain an understanding of your mother's character and the role she plays in your life.

It would be beneficial to consider undertaking an action for her benefit.

It is possible that happiness will result from taking the initial step to effect a change.

Ultimately, it is my sincere hope that you will experience familial bliss and that you will ultimately succeed in achieving reconciliation.

Should you have any further inquiries or wish to discuss the matter further, I would be delighted to engage in further conversation. With best wishes for your future endeavours.

Hello! I just wanted to give you a 360-degree hug.

From what you've said, it seems like this is a really frustrating situation. It doesn't seem like your mother has done anything wrong, but it does seem like she's focused all her attention on her sister-in-law.

It seems like you're in a tough spot. It's frustrating to have a valid point but no one to talk to about it. Plus, she's your mother, so you can't just have a disagreement with her or stop seeing her.

From your questions, you said: "From the beginning, I would patiently listen to her, and I was also willing to help her send express deliveries to my sister-in-law and buy this and that. Now after a few years, I no longer want to hear anything about my sister-in-law. My mother holds an iPad in her hands every day, either watching TikTok or reporting her daily life to her sister-in-law.

Based on these descriptions, I have a few questions I'd like you to think about.

First, if your mother wasn't like this before, what changed? Did she retire?

Is there anything else I should know?

Second, it could be that it was like this before, but you don't know if you were at school or work or something like that and left home, not living with your mother.

Third, can you tell me how the family atmosphere was in your home before? For example, what was it like at the dinner table when you used to eat together, and what is it like now?

What were the main topics of conversation, and how did the others respond?

Fourth, what's your father's take on your mother's current situation?

Fifth, how is the relationship between your parents? Of all kinds of relationships, intimate relationships can provide the most and the most important emotional and emotional value. If someone we know falls in love, they'll often cancel plans with us, or if we ask them out, they'll ask to spend time with their lover.

We often say that such a friend is unfaithful.

It's more that he's found other people who can provide him with emotional and sentimental value. We're all social beings, living in various groups and relationships, and we find meaning in our connections with others and gain the emotional fulfillment we need.

We're all just ordinary people, and it's tough to beat loneliness when you're on your own and trying to meet your emotional needs.

Ideally, a couple should be each other's greatest source of emotional value. However, if they're unable to meet this need, they may seek it elsewhere.

I'm not sure how your parents' relationship is or what their usual interactions are like. If your mother talks about the same things with your father or you that she talks about with your aunt, how would you react?

I don't know the specifics of your family situation, but this is just a possible line of thought.

The question doesn't give us much information, but you can think back to what your mother gained from her frequent communication with your aunt. This might include a sense of being needed, being bothered by others a lot, and paying for others. Many people feel this reflects their own value and believe they are needed by others. You can think about what your mother gained that she didn't get from the family.

You might also want to talk to your mother about what you're feeling. Or you could come up with some activities you can do together. That way, you can observe each other's actions, emotions, language, etc. with an empathetic and appreciative attitude.

You can also speak with a counselor if you'd like.

I'm a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes pessimistic, occasionally positive and motivated. I love the world and I love you.

It appears that you are not entirely satisfied with some of your mother's daily behaviors. She has gradually become a "head-down" person, sharing the glamorous aspects of life with others while ignoring those around her. She and her sister-in-law frequently discuss the highlights of life but neglect to communicate and interact with family members.

It is important to recognize that life is not solely about the actions of individuals on the internet. While the internet is an integral part of modern life, it is essential to manage the amount of time spent online and avoid excessive usage.

It is possible that your mother is currently spending an excessive amount of time on her phone and with her sister-in-law, which has resulted in her overlooking your feelings.

At this time, you will be experiencing a high level of dissatisfaction. Despite your expressed dissatisfaction, the other person does not seem to change much. It is possible that he and your sister-in-law have a very close relationship. Although your sister-in-law is not a central figure in your original family, they are still relatives and may have a lot to share with each other. They already know each other very well. She reports her daily life to her sister-in-law and sends her gifts in secret.

It is possible that this is an overly simplistic assessment. It seems that her life is largely confined to the company of her sister-in-law and brief online videos. This kind of life still requires some adjustments, and it is important to consider expectations in this context. It is not realistic to expect rapid change from our mothers.

It is unreasonable to expect her to suddenly enrich her social activities and not just spend time with her sister-in-law. There may be other things he can do, so you should also consider whether there are other more engaging activities that she could participate in. Prolonged exposure to the same information can also lead to feelings of fatigue and exhaustion.

Additionally, you may notice a gradual shift in your personal aesthetic preferences. During this period, it is important to allow yourself some independent space. If you find yourself in a situation where you do not want to engage with certain ideas, it is beneficial to take a step back and give yourself time to reflect. It is also helpful to have a supportive outlet where you can discuss your feelings and release some of the accumulated stress from your past experiences.

It is therefore important to have a reasonable plan of your own in order to maintain emotional stability. You may also find it beneficial to spend time with friends rather than dwelling on your mother's messages. I would also recommend reading "Seeing Yourself Grow," "Loving Yourself Back," "Explosive Growth: Awakening Your Life's Superpowers," and "A Life Not Bound by Ideals."

Please advise.

Hello, question asker! I am Jia Ao, and I'm excited to help!

I read your post and I can totally relate! It's so clear that your mom is really focused on your aunt and her family, and maybe not as present for you and your dad. It's totally normal to feel a little confused and worried about this. So, how can you shift your mindset to feel better?

Let's chat!

[Look at the problem objectively and calmly]

From your description, it seems that your mother has a very strong emotional need for her sister-in-law. She's got a lot of love to give! "She either posts on Douyin or reports her daily life to her sister-in-law, telling each other about everything they do and eat every day, as well as the family's trivial matters. No matter what she eats or does, she thinks about her sister-in-law and her family... From your mother's perspective, she must have some kind of emotional connection with her sister-in-law. In her past growth experience, her sister-in-law was very close to her. This emotional dependence cannot be replaced by you and your father, but there is simply too little communication between you, making you feel neglected.

[Embrace your emotions as they are]

Who do you think has the bigger problem, you or your mother? The answer is both of you! This question is not absolute; it is just a matter of perspective. When you stand in your mother's shoes, you'll see that she must have her own reasons for doing this. People are emotional beings, and you can only win someone's heart with your own. She can feel the love and warmth from your aunt, but have you and your father noticed it? From your perspective, it is only natural to feel pain and loss because your mother's focus is clearly on someone else, which is very abnormal. Just accept your emotions honestly and take care of your own feelings.

[Learn to put yourself in other people's shoes]

Instead of worrying and struggling so much, it is a great idea for you to communicate with your mother, express your true inner feelings, try to consider things from each other's perspective, and be more understanding and tolerant of each other. If there is enough love and warmth in the family, there's no reason why your mother would want to hurt your feelings like this or seek psychological comfort outside the home!

[Show more love and care]

It's so important to encourage your father to show your mother that he cares and pays attention to her with his actions. You should do this as long as you are still a family, and you don't need any reason for it. It's a wonderful way to show your love and support for your mother!

A harmonious family is the most important thing in the world! You should never deliberately reject or prevent your mother and sister-in-law from getting along. Let it be! With a little understanding and less complaining, now that your sister-in-law and her family are caring for your mother, there's absolutely nothing to complain about or worry about! You just need to adjust your own mentality.

[Establish a positive mode of coexistence]

It doesn't matter how your mother gets along with other people or how well you get along. What matters is that you get along well at home, communicate well, establish a good pattern of getting along, talk about any problems, and don't hide them in your hearts. You're a family, so don't worry or doubt about this forever! I wish you get along more and more harmoniously.

I really hope my answer helps! Sending you lots of love from the world and I ?

Hello, I'm Jianlin, a psychological counselor! From your description of the problem,

My mother absolutely loves using TikTok and chatting with my aunt on the iPad about all kinds of family matters for hours on end! She'll even give my aunt all kinds of things.

It makes you feel a certain resistance in your heart, which is totally normal! It's just that you're not sure if there's something wrong with you or your mother. In short, you feel that this is a very strange thing, right?

I totally get why you're not happy about your mom's behavior. It's not about the money, but more about how she's been focusing on your sister-in-law and TikTok, and not as much on your dad and you!

It's so obvious that he's in love with watching short videos and chatting with his sister-in-law through them! I bet if they ever meet face-to-face, they'll have so many topics to talk about!

Then it's obvious! He doesn't really like to give gifts to his sister's family, but he really likes to satisfy his curiosity through videos.

He absolutely loves satisfying an inner need through TikTok and videos! It's so inspiring to see how a simple habit can be formed over time.

When chatting about what he needs, what his sister likes to eat, etc., he will say, "Oh, this thing on Douyin is good! I think my sister will like it, so I'll share the joy with him, but while sharing, I'll buy it for him. In fact, he is satisfying a curious need in his heart, and it's so great to see him so excited about it!

When we are doing something that interests us, he will definitely be unhappy if you stop him, right? So we try to understand his psychology.

We can also turn his shopping mentality on its head by saying, for example, when he sees something nice, "Oh, I want that too! We can ask mommy to buy it for you, or buy it for daddy." At the same time, you can also talk about these kinds of topics when communicating with him. You can even set a common goal of communication with him!

This is an analysis from the perspective of a mother and her habits. Of course, if you can grasp a mother's mentality like this, you'll see that there's absolutely no reason to object to him buying his sister-in-law some gifts!

You should definitely try it out and see if that's the case in your mother's heart!

I'm so excited to share my personal opinion in response to your question! I really hope it helps you, and thank you so much for asking!

Hello, question asker. I'm pleased to have received your invitation and I'm ready to help you answer your questions and solve your problems.

You say your mother always cared about her sister-in-law and neglected you and your father. You feel angry and confused because your mother always thinks too much about outsiders. I understand how you feel.

Your mother values and cares deeply about her sister-in-law. Ask her if her sister-in-law was a very important or even the most important person in her life during her childhood. Find out if your mother's sister-in-law provided her with love and support that no one else could. Find out if your mother got spiritual strength from her sister-in-law that she didn't get from other people. You will understand why your mother values her sister-in-law so much by learning about this from your mother's childhood.

Your mother's attachment to her younger sister-in-law had a significant impact on her growth and development. It's likely that they had a past that you're unaware of, which made it difficult for your mother to let go of her emotional needs for your younger sister-in-law.

I see that you say your mother severely neglected you and your father, but was very good to your aunt's family and would ask you to provide services. This shows that your mother has deep feelings for your aunt and is willing to invest money and manpower to maintain her relationship with her. It also shows that she is not influenced by you. This shows that her relationship with her aunt may be deeper than her relationship with you and your father.

This is an issue. Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory is clear: after our physical needs for food, clothing, shelter, and transportation and our safety needs are met, we all need love and a sense of belonging in interpersonal relationships. In an intimate relationship, people may seek intimacy from the outside only when they cannot get their emotional needs met from the other person in the long term.

Your mother and father were not as close as they could be. Your mother needed emotional support, so she got close to your aunt. Everyone has emotional needs, and your aunt was willing to accompany your mother. Your mother got what she needed most from her aunt, and the emotional support that your father and you could not provide.

Your mother may not love herself. She needs to be loved by others so much that she needs a spiritual pillar and company. That's why she chose the person she approves of the most.

You need to spend more time with your mother. Show her more concern, chat with her more, try to get to know and understand her again, and accompany her to see the things she likes. Appreciate and praise her good points. Get her attention back by making her feel the flow of love, support, and the need and being needed in your little family. She won't seek it from the outside world too much when she's needed in this family and has a sense of love and belonging.

Read a book by psychologist Wu Zhihong called "Why Family Hurts." You'll learn that your mother over-gives herself because she's trying hard to be recognized, accepted, and loved.

You need to get rid of your troubles soon. You need to understand and empathize with your mother so that you can have a better relationship. There needs to be more communication and love flowing between you. You can do this. Good luck.

Greetings, question asker.

From the information provided in the narrative, it is possible to gain insight into the family situation.

1. The family's financial situation is favorable, and the mother allocates a monthly expenditure of 500-1,000 yuan on the aunt.

Secondly, the family unit comprises three individuals.

The emotional response may be summarized as follows: the expectation was that the family would be a loving one, but the influence of the aunt has resulted in a lack of interest in family matters and a dearth of topics for discussion between the subject and his father.

As a result of the manner in which your mother interacts with you and your father, you harbor resentment towards your aunt, which is evidenced by your reluctance to engage with any information pertaining to her.

In your subconscious, your aunt has effectively supplanted your mother in your affections.

Let us now consider this from two perspectives.

From your perspective, as a family of three, you should be in love with each other. However, your mother spends her time on her iPad, either watching TikTok or sharing her daily life with her younger sister.

In a family of three, the sister-in-law is regarded as a relative and is therefore excluded from the family unit. This delineates the boundaries that have been established within the family structure.

In terms of emotional needs, it is evident that the subject in question requires the love and affection of their mother, as well as a warm and harmonious atmosphere within the family unit. However, it is unclear whether the subject has taken the initiative to communicate their needs to their mother, or whether they and their father have made any efforts to persuade their mother to return to the family and live a happy life.

From the perspective of the mother in question, what motivates her concern for her younger sister? Is it due to the perceived inferiority of her younger sister's familial circumstances, or is it rooted in a sense of kinship and a perceived obligation to provide care?

In either case, it would be beneficial to consider the underlying reasons for your mother's actions.

It is possible that your mother feels like she is an expendable character in your family. She may believe that she no longer needs your care because you are already grown up.

The parents in question are middle-aged and have exhibited a decline in their level of interaction with one another.

In another scenario, the mother in question has not fully emerged from her original family unit, indicating a psychological separation from her former kin.

It can be posited that your mother has already become involved in your sister-in-law's family. This may be indicative of a discrepancy in the perception of family boundaries between families with multiple children and those with only one child in our country.

The situation at hand is not indicative of a psychological issue on the part of either individual, but rather a discrepancy in perception stemming from the disparate original families they hail from.

The solution is to respect your mother's perception of her original family, allow her to interact with her sister-in-law's family as she sees fit, demonstrate increased concern for her well-being, pay attention to her needs alongside your father, and share more engaging personal experiences. This approach will encourage your mother to spend less time on social media platforms like TikTok and engage more with you and your family.

It is essential to cultivate an environment where your mother feels her contributions are valued and indispensable to the family unit. By providing her with more opportunities to engage with the family, you can redirect her attention from her own family to yours. This may help to shift her affection from her sister's family to your own.

The strategy of seeking common ground while maintaining differences is a fundamental tenet of all harmonious relationships.

It is my hope that the above analysis will prove to be of some assistance to you.

I wish you the best regards.

My name is Chu Mingdeng, and I extend my sincerest regards to the entire world.