I inexplicably dislike it when people butting in and ask questions. I act like a rulebook. Why?

There's a child inside you, waiting to be born! This child is a passive receiver, a good child who listens obediently. When others interrupt or something unexpected happens, that person may have some emotional needs that require a response from the other person in the moment.

Intolerance of this situation means, in part, that perhaps on an inner level you have long used ways of suppressing your own needs to interact with other people and have become accustomed to not voicing your own needs. When someone constantly interrupts other people, or when they don't follow the rules, it's an opportunity to tap into that part of you that feels unsatisfied! It can lead to feelings of irritation, but it can also lead to feelings of excitement and motivation. Why not use this as a chance to explore new ways of interacting with others and to find ways to satisfy your own needs?

Because you feel dissatisfied inside, you find other people annoying — and you're ready to change that!

Another great reason is that the way you adopt rules will give you a wonderful sense of stability and certainty. Generally speaking, stability and certainty need to be provided by the caregiver. If the caregiver does not provide enough stability and certainty, there will be relatively less flexibility and resilience.

When you're interrupted, it also means that something unexpected has happened! This is your chance to flex your flexibility and resilience muscles. Why do so many people follow the rules? Part of the reason is that inner stability and certainty are not enough, so they are prone to intolerance of rule changes.

Hello! I'll give you the best 360-degree hug ever!

From your questions, I can tell you're not being too harsh on others, which is great! You say that you're like a disciplinary code, that you'll cooperate with the process, that you're used to not saying anything, that you don't want to cause trouble for others, etc.

Some people are strict with others but lenient with themselves. Others are lenient with others but strict with themselves.

You are different from them all! You are strict with others and yourself.

At the same time, I bet you're eager to stand out from the crowd! You probably want to be noticed for who you are, not just blend in with the rest of the pack. Following the rules can sometimes feel like being one of many, but there's so much more to you than that!

Think about it: when you were a student, what kind of students got the teacher's attention? They were the ones who were either particularly good at studying, or particularly bad at studying, or particularly naughty and unruly, and didn't play by the rules!

And that's why they stand out! They're different from everyone else, and that's a good thing.

And that's not all! Other students with less distinctive characteristics are often quickly forgotten. This is not about the vagaries of human nature, but rather the fact that the human memory cannot hold so much inherently vague and unclear information.

I bet you don't like raising your hand to answer questions in class either! And you probably try not to stand up if you can avoid it. Even if you don't understand what the teacher is talking about, you probably won't go and ask the teacher individually.

The great thing about this is that, like most people, it often means safety and fewer mistakes. In fact, this is the situation of most of our lives: going to school and work step by step, and getting married and having children at a certain age.

I'm not sure why you've made yourself into a disciplinary code and are so hard on yourself. The biggest possibility is that you have been suppressed and have been required to follow certain rules during your growth process. But guess what? You can change that!

Absolutely! It's totally okay to be strict with yourself. But if you expect others to be the same as you, that's a bit much to ask.

Asking others to follow the same discipline as you is actually a subconscious resistance to discipline and an acceptance of other people's behavior, but using a defense mechanism of reverse formation. Reverse formation means the more you want it, the more you reject it.

It's like you want to break the rules, but you're actually sticking to them!

Your question is very brief, and I'm not sure what the reason is. I suggest you think about it yourself. If you don't follow the rules of discipline, what will happen?

You can use a piece of paper and pen to make a list. At the same time, you can also try to break the so-called rules little by little. For example, if the team leader says something you don't understand, ask the person next to you.

Absolutely! You can talk to a counselor.

I am a counselor who is often pessimistic and occasionally positive. The world is an amazing place, and I love you all!

I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts with me. I believe the present is a positive thing, and I am grateful to have met you.

From reading your description, I am curious about what experiences you have had in the past that have shaped this way of thinking. It is not that this way of thinking is inherently problematic; it has both advantages and disadvantages.

On the one hand, there are clear advantages to this approach. It is more efficient, actions are consistent, and you obey the arrangement. However, there are also some potential drawbacks. You may miss out on listening to other people's opinions and could find yourself unprepared for the unpredictable.

Perhaps you were raised to obey, not to have your own thoughts, and not to express yourself. This may have caused you to feel uncomfortable inside. Because of this emotion, you don't allow others to behave in this way either, which stirs up past trauma. At the same time, complete obedience means completely giving up your own thoughts and agreeing with the other person's point of view. But is the other person's point of view and arrangement necessarily appropriate? Or is it possible that there are omissions or incomplete perspectives? To change this kind of conditioned reflex, you need to be aware of it first, give yourself a few seconds to buffer before making a decision, and then you won't be so easily carried away by your subconscious mind and react automatically.

"All rivers run into the sea." Perhaps, then, the way forward is to allow and accept every voice, with a view to making things more comprehensive and complete.

It's possible that you were raised to obey, not to have your own thoughts, and not to express yourself. If so, you may recall that at that moment, you actually didn't feel comfortable inside. Because of this emotion, you may not allow others to behave in this way either, which could stir up past trauma.

At the same time, complete obedience may mean completely giving up your own thoughts and agreeing with the other person's point of view. However, it is important to consider whether the other person's point of view and arrangement are necessarily appropriate. It is also possible that there may be omissions or incomplete perspectives.

If I might suggest, to change this kind of conditioned reflex, it would be helpful to be aware of it first, give yourself a few seconds to buffer before making a decision, and then you might find you are less easily carried away by your subconscious mind and react automatically.

I hope things work out for you!

Hello, question asker! I can see that you usually follow certain rules when doing things, which is something to be thankful for. And when doing things in a team organization, your adherence to rules does save the team a lot of time, and your approach also makes sense—great work!

1. "I'm not sure why, but I just don't like it when people butt in or ask questions. I like to follow the rules and cooperate with the process, especially when we're doing activities or going on trips. I don't want to cause trouble, but I also don't want to be a robot following orders without contributing anything."

I absolutely believe you can respect your own actions and practices because everyone is different. That means everyone's thinking is different, so if we can respect ourselves, then we can definitely respect others as well! Especially when we see other colleagues talking too much and asking questions, we can also respect these behaviors of theirs, take our time, and believe that you can definitely do it!

2. "I get annoyed when I hear someone talking too much or asking too many questions, because I think it's a waste of time. I'm used to keeping quiet, but I'm full of thoughts like, 'If the leader says something, just listen and do it, what's there to ask?'

"What's the point of asking questions?"

Have you ever noticed that when someone asks a question, it can sometimes feel annoying? It's an interesting question, isn't it? When did this feeling start? Was it when you were young and asking lots of questions at home and getting rejected? If so, why not allow yourself to ask questions now? For example, if the tour guide doesn't explain something clearly during the tour, or if you don't understand something, why not ask?

Absolutely! There's nothing wrong with colleagues asking questions. We just need to remember that we've attached a certain meaning to this matter. In your opinion, as long as the leader says it is fine and takes on all the responsibility, that's great! But remember, it is a group activity, and it is most effective to involve all team members in the discussion collectively. Or we can adjust the discussion time to the day before departure to discuss and ask questions, which will save time when departing to participate in the activity.

3. "I'm ready to be more lenient with others! But every time I'm pulled along by my conditioned thinking. Why is this?"

Is it control? Absolutely not! I think everyone seizes the time, follows the instructions, and ensures that every step is done without error, so that one link follows another smoothly and perfectly.

If anything goes wrong and delays the process, I'll have to roll with the punches, learn from it, and keep moving forward. I'll have a great day!

I totally get it. You don't want to ask this of others, but you want to make the most of your time. From this description, I can tell you're in a hurry, so I'll say it again: When you encounter this kind of thing, can you allow yourself to? To allow is to accept what is happening in the present moment. You can say to yourself: Yes, I allow it. I allow them to be different from me. I allow them to solve their problems. I also allow myself to slow down, to stop criticizing myself and others, to relax, to slowly feel my body merging with my emotions, and to stop fighting with myself.

I'm sure you will! You'll feel better, more comfortable, and ready to take on the world!

Then next time you encounter this kind of problem, you can adjust the team, prepare well for the joint discussion before you set off, and I know you'll have a great day!

Good day, question asker. I am the answerer, Enoch.

From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner should be relatively strict with himself in his daily work and life. He is often able to understand and execute instructions well. However, when others cannot receive and execute instructions as well as he does, and when they also raise problems, he will feel uncomfortable. He does not want to listen to low-level questions and it will affect his mood for the rest of the day. He wonders why he is like this.

It is important to note that individuals possess unique personalities. The questioner's personality is likely to be avoidant. People with avoidant personalities tend to be self-disciplined and adhere to rules. They dislike individuals who do not follow rules and are sensitive. When they observe someone violating rules in their presence, they experience discomfort but refrain from commenting. Consequently, they may become upset over minor issues. To avoid distress, they opt to spend less time with others and prefer solitude or independent activities over collaboration with others.

Furthermore, the questioner displays some perfectionist tendencies, striving to maintain control over their surroundings. When faced with a lack of control, anxiety may ensue.

It is often the case that the external environment is beyond our control. However, we can manage ourselves as best as possible. While pursuing our own objectives, we also try to help control the overall environment as much as possible. If problems still arise, then it is not our problem. We should not let it affect our mood, but rather find something else to do to pass the time, so that we will not get emotional.

It is important to recognize that there will always be aspects of life that cannot be fully satisfactory. It is my hope that the questioner will develop greater tolerance, understanding, and patience with themselves and those around them. This will enable them to better adapt to the challenges and opportunities that life presents.

Hello!

There's no need to rush. Everyone has the right to express their thoughts and feelings. The question is, why do I feel uncomfortable when others express their thoughts or suggestions freely? Maybe by understanding the emotional needs behind the emotions or other emotions that are being suppressed, we can better understand ourselves.

We all have that inner voice that's like a timekeeper, wanting to make sure we're making the most of our time and getting things done efficiently!

For instance, when I'm taking part in activities or going on a trip, I'm happy to play my part and I don't want to cause any trouble for anyone else. But I have to say that I do get a little annoyed when I hear someone chatting away or asking too many questions. It can feel a bit like time is being wasted.

I'm used to keeping my thoughts to myself, but I find myself wanting to tell others what to do. I know it's not the best way to get things done, but I just can't help myself! I guess I'm still learning to let go of these expectations I have of others.

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First of all, when others speak, I instinctively feel a little bit of an emotion of "this is not right," and then this thought causes me a bit of annoyance. It seems that if others' actions cannot proceed as planned, the questioner will feel a little bit uneasy. But is the starting point and purpose of the feelings and thoughts expressed by others really to hinder communication? Or are there other possibilities?

For instance, they might not truly understand, and they need to communicate to gain a deeper understanding. Or they may not realize that their questions might slow down the process. But no matter what, if you prepare a certain question session during an activity, the purpose of this open communication is to understand what others are thinking. There's absolutely nothing "wrong" with it, but how does the "questioner" feel when experiencing it? Does the irritability really come from them, or is there an unexpressed demand in their hearts?

We all have a lot on our plates! We're used to keeping up with the "norms" and "normality" to make sure everything runs smoothly, which can sometimes mean we don't get a chance to express ourselves. It's no surprise that the busier we are, the more anxious we become. When our emotions are stirred up by others, we might be afraid or reluctant to admit how we really feel. And when the questioner sees others asking questions that seem to "interfere with the process," it can feel like the situation doesn't match what they expected. This is a great opportunity to take a step back and really understand ourselves. Only when we're able to see the unexpressed emotions in our hearts and what expectations and desires we have can we truly understand ourselves.

Secondly, try not to be too hard on yourself and remember that you can't control what others say or do. If you want to be free, it's best to look after your own boundaries and not take on other people's problems as your own. Otherwise, we can end up making things worse and not see how we got into this mess in the first place!

For example, there's no such thing as a perfect stage. When doing an activity, there will always be problems of one kind or another. That's why it's so important for people to be more self-disciplined and vigilant. But compared to the orderly workers, the audience seems to lack the necessary "self-discipline." Sometimes they really come with problems, and sometimes they are too "carried away" and delay the progress of work. That's where the host comes in! The host will increase their ability to control the situation, give reminders, and control the audience, who have a relatively poor sense of time. In this way, an activity can basically come to a perfect end. But if the questioner is not the host, or a worker who has the right to interfere with the process, then doing your own thing and maintaining emotional balance may make things end better. Otherwise, it will become another hurdle that makes it difficult for the staff to do their jobs.

At the end of the day, it's so important to accept yourself and take responsibility for your emotions. We all experience different emotions in response to the actions of others. Sometimes these emotions are positive, like when we see someone doing a good deed and we just want to praise them and learn from them. And sometimes these emotions are negative.

Let's say, for instance, that you see someone who's always stirring up trouble and talking nonsense. You might even want to punch them to make them realize where they really are! But remember, behind every action, we need to take responsibility. We may even have to suffer "silent suffering" and be taken to the police station. So, the best approach is to be self-aware from time to time, to be aware of our emotions, and take responsibility for them. We can remind others kindly, but we don't need to control them. For those who lose control and "speak without thinking," they need to take responsibility themselves. In the end, the one who is "judged" is also themselves, that is, the actor themselves.

I'd highly recommend reading "Self-Boundaries" by the wonderful Georg Simmel. You can find it online.

Take all the time you need, my friend.

Wishing you all the best and lots of luck!

Good morning,

From your account, it is evident that you adhere to a strict set of guidelines. Adherence to these guidelines provides you with a sense of stability and assurance. However, should you transgress a rule that you have set for yourself, it can lead to a disruption in your emotional state. Is this an accurate assessment?

An individual's mode of interaction with their surroundings or people is closely related to their early nurturing environment and subsequent growth environment. In particular, the mode of interaction with parents or significant others in the early nurturing environment and the interaction between parents are all learned imperceptibly and become part of the personality that affects later life.

It is possible that rules are part of internalization, and that you agree and accept that such behavior is in line with your inner needs. Patterns outside the rules will be seen as disturbances that upset you and make you feel uncomfortable.

"If something goes wrong and I'm delayed, I'll experience anxiety, attribute the situation to external factors, and perceive a lack of efficiency. I haven't had a productive day." This pattern of reacting to disturbances by experiencing anxiety and attributing the situation to external factors may also have been learned.

In the past, we have observed the interaction patterns of our colleagues and gradually incorporated them into our subconscious.

We refer to these methods of dealing with people, situations, and events as "strategies." In some cases, a single strategy may be the reason for an inexplicable dislike of others' nosy comments and questions. It is important to note that different individuals have varying coping strategies. Accepting others as unique individuals and seeking common ground while maintaining differences can greatly enhance one's overall experience.

As someone who has experienced the challenges of navigating the rain, I hope that my insights can be of benefit to you. Wishing you the best.

Dear Sir/Madam, My name is Liu and I am a psychological coach and listener. I hope this message finds you well. Best regards,

My perspective may be limited and subjective. I believe that the value of asking questions and providing answers lies in the opportunity to gain multiple perspectives, which can facilitate divergent thinking and help us gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our own, self-consistent answers. The ultimate goal is to enable ourselves to find a harmonious way of getting along with ourselves and the world.

When waiting in line, if someone cuts in front of me, I experience a certain level of anxiety. While I may not always express it, I find myself compelled to intervene to get them to stop. In activities with an established process, if someone does not respect the process and causes significant disruption and inefficiency, I become frustrated. Although I do not speak up, I find myself questioning why they are not following the established rules.

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As a result, feelings of discontent and frustration towards others can have a detrimental impact on one's emotional state, work and study efficiency, and even the positive mood experienced throughout the day. This is a common occurrence.

Firstly, each of us is a proponent of order, and simultaneously, each of us is also a defender of order. When we influence others, we are also influenced by others. This is the social nature of human beings in a business context.

Given our strong social nature, we tend to comply with social norms and have a psychological inclination to uphold them because we have internalized these norms. This upholding of "rules" is not only reflected in our own adherence to them but also in the subconscious expectation that others will behave in a consistent manner.

It is likely unavoidable for the majority of colleagues in a professional setting. We frequently discuss conformity, which refers to the tendency of individuals to behave in accordance with the majority due to social pressure.

It is common to consider oneself as a member of a group and to discuss the influence of social pressure on that group. However, it is important to recognize that one's own words, actions, and attitudes can also exert influence on others within one's own sphere of influence.

This is why it is possible for individuals who are not in supervisory roles to experience emotional distress when others do not adhere to established rules and regulations. While this may not be considered coercion, it is a psychological predisposition that can influence our reactions in certain situations.

Secondly, we all have the expectation that others will adhere to the established rules and processes, as well as save time. However, given the inherent differences in individual "boundary sensitivities" and "error tolerance mechanisms," the psychological impact may vary.

I have carefully reviewed your self-introduction.

Please also provide your perspective.

I believe the following reasons may be causing your discomfort:

(1) The desire for fairness.

It is not uncommon for individuals to become frustrated when they perceive that others are not adhering to the established rules and regulations. This can lead to feelings of inequity and discontent, particularly when the individual has been following the rules themselves.

Lack of cooperation from others can negatively impact overall efficiency. The desire for fairness can lead to dissatisfaction and anxiety.

(2) Psychological tendency to resist chaos and pursue perfection.

Regardless of the task at hand, we will have a set goal, set a pace, allocate time, and make a plan. However, since many tasks require input from multiple individuals, for example, when traveling in a group, collaboration is essential. In the process of collaboration, you will find that you can control your own pace, but you probably won't be able to fully control others. Everyone is different, and everyone's mentality is also different. At this time, it is easy to deviate from the expected goal. Once a chaotic and disorderly state occurs, it is easy to stimulate negative feelings.

(3) Personality is dependent on the situation and susceptible to external environmental factors.

Individuals who are field dependent tend to be overly influenced by the actions and behaviors of others. This can lead to fluctuations in emotional stability, execution, and problem-solving abilities when faced with changes in the surrounding environment. When our internal structure is unstable, we tend to focus excessively on others and have "excessive expectations" of them. This often results in a blurring of the boundaries between "self" and "other."

When evaluating others, apply your own standards and assess them against your own requirements.

Dear Colleague,

I have encountered this sentiment previously: "If you do not wish to be hurt, do not expect too much from others; if you do not wish to hurt others, do not allow others to expect too much from you." This may not be a particularly rigorous statement, but it is often the case in business. There are no perfect individuals in this world, and we are all flesh and blood with our emotions and desires, which make us individuals with both strengths and weaknesses.

Failing to meet high expectations often results in greater disappointment.

Such expectations can easily lead to confusion and suffering.

3. Based on your situation, I would like to make the following suggestions:

(1) It would be beneficial to define your own limits, determine what you can and cannot control, and then respect these limits.

Be firm with yourself, yet flexible with others.

These words may appear straightforward, but I have consistently found them challenging to implement. The reason these principles have been espoused since ancient times is that even if we cannot fully achieve them, we must strive to develop and enhance ourselves.

The most painful experiences are often not within our control. However, by focusing on what we cannot control, we may miss opportunities and regret actions we could have taken.

The more effort you put in, the more mistakes you make, the more you care, the more you worry.

The most we can do is take care of ourselves.

It is advisable to consider the aspects of your life, studies and work that you have the ability to control. These may include tasks within your own sphere of responsibility, such as completing your studies through hard work, and such as adhering to a healthy lifestyle with self-discipline. It is important to learn to manage yourself before attempting to control the behaviour of others.

It would be beneficial to refocus on your self-growth goals. When you find yourself attempting to "control" variables you cannot control, it is advisable to stop, calm down, and then reassure yourself that you are doing your best and should feel positive about it.

(2) Each individual has their own set of responsibilities. You are entitled to express your opinions, but you cannot assume the role of another person.

As a responsible individual, you may occasionally find yourself wishing you could switch roles when faced with unfair treatment from colleagues or partners. It is important to recognise that we cannot be someone else and to be prepared for this.

Every link in the chain has a related responsibility mechanism. For example, when traveling abroad, managing everyone's itinerary is the job of the tour guide or leader. We can appropriately offer our opinions and even provide assistance within our abilities and experience. However, if the decision-making authority is not in your hands, how angry and aggrieved you feel will only increase your psychological pressure. They have responsibilities and costs that others need to bear, and they need to be responsible for the choices of others.

You have taken on a significant amount of responsibility and shouldered additional burdens, which has likely resulted in fatigue.

I hope you will be kind to yourself. It is challenging to adhere to your principles, perform your duties well, and maintain the standards you have set for yourself. If you then use your own standards to excessively judge and demand of the outside world, it will consume too much of your energy and will not be conducive to accomplishing your goals.

It is also important to regulate the internal turmoil and express and alleviate the subtle and complex emotions. You may wish to consider communicating with a professional psychological worker to sort out your thoughts, and at the same time, you can also implement some stress-relief measures, such as doing moderate physical exercise, singing, or writing about yourself.

(3) Learn to transform your challenges into opportunities, gain self-awareness, and embrace your strengths.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience distress when reflecting on their own behavior. This can lead to self-blame, with individuals perceiving themselves as overly controlling, meddlesome, or perfectionistic. This can further exacerbate psychological distress.

It is important to avoid jumping from one extreme to another.

From another perspective, I believe you have the potential and strengths to achieve more and better results. This is a double-edged sword, so don't deny yourself completely. You are a person with a sense of responsibility, a strong sense of initiative, and a holistic view of many things. You can detect various problems in time, and you are keen and prudent.

This is a highly valuable personal quality. Should you lead a team in the future, or assume responsibility for organizational work, project management, quality supervision, and so on, you will undoubtedly contribute significantly to the organization.

However, you will likely also need to learn how to communicate effectively with others and reach consensus in collaboration. This will require a process. It is futile to dwell on the past. Focus on the present and future.

This concludes my response.

Thank you for your attention.

My name is Ms. Liu. I am a psychological detective coach and a psychological counselor at Yi Xinli. You are welcome to contact me via the psychological detective channel or the counselor channel to ask questions, communicate, express yourself, and receive an assessment and analysis. Best regards,

Each individual serves as a beacon, whether they pose questions or provide responses. Through the use of language, they have the capacity to illuminate the hearts of many people, and this is our shared energy.

Good day, I am Fei Yun, a psychometric coach. Based on my assessment, you exhibit a high level of discipline and adherence to rules. It is likely that you have performed well in academic and professional settings, reflecting a strong sense of responsibility.

Such individuals frequently exhibit a lack of patience with others, or rather, a deficiency in understanding and tolerance. They are inclined to impose their own standards upon others, which often results in emotional outbursts and the deterioration of interpersonal relationships.

I previously held similar beliefs. On occasion, I even considered those individuals to possess poor comprehension and posed questions that were, in fact, quite trivial. I would be pleased to engage in further discussion on this topic.

?1. Individuals are accustomed to evaluating individuals and objects based on their own values and sentiments.

This is an inherent aspect of our cognitive processes. Our upbringing, education, and life experiences have shaped our values, which are all "beliefs." With the support of these beliefs, we have formed inherent standards for judging people and things.

This is analogous to two individuals facing each other with a number 6 in front of them. One individual may perceive the number as 6, while the other may perceive it as 9. Who is correct?

As previously stated, differing perspectives yield disparate conclusions. As you have indicated, individuals who adhere to established norms, collaborate assiduously, demonstrate robust execution capabilities, and operate in an efficacious manner are of particular interest to you.

For some individuals, leadership, the establishment of a particular ambience, or the creation of problematic situations may be preferred.

From the perspective of the individual, judgment is inherently biased. The existence of personal values entails the establishment of standards, and the presence of standards implies the capacity for judgment. Consequently, it is essential to strive for neutrality and objectivity in one's interactions with others and in one's assessment of external phenomena.

Our inherent beliefs can act as constraints on our lives, impeding our ability to perceive a broader range of possibilities and potentially leading to the deterioration of interpersonal relationships.

One should endeavor to adopt the perspective of others and to consider matters from a vantage point of greater elevation, thus affording oneself a greater range of possibilities. One might inquire, "What is my own opinion on this matter? But what might be the opinion of the other person?"

The capacity for mental maturity can be gauged by an individual's ability to accept the coexistence of two disparate concepts without impeding their actions. The acquisition of wisdom frequently stems from the ability to perceive phenomena from a multitude of vantage points.

2. An understanding of one's natural temperament can facilitate the optimization of one's strengths.

The second half of Lin Wentai's "Psychological Nutrition" presents a discussion of the five natural temperaments of individuals: happy-go-lucky, calm, melancholy, radical, and dedicated.

All individuals possess one of the five natural temperaments, albeit in varying proportions. Each temperament possesses distinct advantages and disadvantages. An understanding of the relevant temperament can significantly facilitate the maintenance of relationships, as well as the processes of work, study, and living.

For example, an individual with a melancholic temperament tends to eschew teamwork and prefers to work independently. He is averse to being controlled by others. An individual with a sanguine temperament values relationships and is willing to go to great lengths for friends. An individual with a radical temperament is driven to achieve his goals at all costs and regards anyone who gets in his way as an adversary.

It is erroneous to assume that an individual who is unable to accept inquiries from others and who is inclined to procrastinate is necessarily exhibiting "controlling" behavior. Rather, this tendency may be indicative of an individual's adherence to a distinct set of standards for conducting themselves. It is crucial to refrain from hastily ascribing labels to oneself or others and to maintain a stance of self-awareness, neutrality, and objectivity.

It is my hope to provide a new perspective, to reveal the greater truth in things, to offer a greater range of choices, and to foster a deeper love for the world and for myself.

Should you wish to continue the discussion, you are invited to click on the link entitled "Find a Coach," which you will find in the upper right-hand corner or at the bottom of the page. This will enable you to communicate with me directly and to participate in a one-to-one dialogue.