I often feel lonely, longing for affection, and have low spiritual energy. What should I do?

Hello, host.

I can empathize with the feeling of unease in the heart caused by this kind of loneliness and emptiness. As the host mentioned, this may be due to a lack of inner energy.

So, how might we boost our inner spiritual energy?

Please note that the following personal opinions are for reference only.

1. It would be beneficial to exercise regularly, eat a balanced diet, and get enough sleep.

It would be remiss of me not to mention the importance of good health. Without a healthy and strong body, people are prone to decline.

It is only natural that you will feel listless at times, so it would be wise to focus on maintaining your physical health.

It would be wise to pay attention to eating a reasonable diet of three meals a day, and to avoid overeating or drinking, while also ensuring that we ingest food energy in an appropriate manner.

It would be beneficial to get enough sleep and save more energy, as sleep is the best way to recharge our body.

2. Reading and meditation are also beneficial.

Reading can be a wonderful way to broaden your horizons and open up your spiritual world.

Meditation can be a helpful practice for gaining insight into our own hearts and minds through complete stillness, which can in turn help us better understand ourselves.

3. It would be beneficial to connect with family members, rather than relying on them.

Family members are often the people we are closest to and trust the most. It is always beneficial to communicate pleasantly with family members.

Allow yourself to experience the comfort and joy of home, and share that with others. This can be a wonderful way to recharge.

It is important to find a balance in your relationships. While it is natural to rely on your family, it is also important to give back to them in a way that shows your appreciation and warmth. This can help you become a more gentle and compassionate person.

4. It would be beneficial to connect with family and friends and treat them sincerely.

It is also the case that honest and sincere friends and family can give each other positive energy. It is fair to say that good friends make you happy.

If the relationship is causing you discomfort, it may be best to avoid forcing yourself to be overly kind or compromising your boundaries.

It is not necessary to feel distressed because you do not have a large number of friends. Having a few close friends is enough.

5. Consider enhancing your charm, meeting the right person, and falling in love.

The above are all ways to get energy from the outside world. It is important to remember that after absorbing energy from the outside world, we must also become people who save and emit energy, rather than turning it into a dim light. So, bring your own sparkle to life, enhance your charm, attract the opposite sex around you, and start a beautiful relationship. Love makes people braver and better.

If I may make a suggestion, I think it would be a good idea for you to take the lead.

I am Warm June, and I extend my love and appreciation to the world.

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can see that you are aware of the situation and have reflected on it. I can also see that you have made efforts in the past. However, it seems that you need to be noticed and seen. I commend you for facing the situation bravely and seeking answers.

From the questioner's description, it's clear that they want to be noticed and seen because of the likes in their circle of friends. You're right about this. Most people check their circle of friends after posting to see if there are any likes or comments. I also have this problem, so it's not just you.

The questioner has made an effort in the past and will try to comfort themselves and distract themselves. However, when they post to their Moments again, they will feel this sense of loss again.

The questioner must be aware of when they first felt this sense of being needed. They must also be aware of when they did not feel it.

When you don't feel this way, what do you do?

I would like the questioner to be aware of how they communicate with their family. The need to be noticed and seen is a lack of security, stemming from being ignored and not being taken seriously at home. There is also the feeling of being focused on by family members and needing attention outside as well. I want to know which situation the questioner is in.

If the questioner's confusion is resolved, what will you feel? What efforts have you made to resolve it?

You need to decide who will be the first to notice your change.

I don't know the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I can offer suggestions to help lift your mood.

And master the art of finding beauty and joy in life.

Some people have an uneventful life, some have a glamorous life, some have a miserable life, and some have a passionate life. There's nothing wrong with any of it. It's about whether we can see the beauty and interesting points in it. Vision determines the height of life, and perspective determines the direction of life. If you change the way you look at the people and scenery around you, and go somewhere else to change your mood, you will discover that life is actually really multifaceted.

It is important to understand that everyone experiences insecurity to some extent.

This may stem from an unhappy family environment, the people and events encountered during growth, or the uncertainty of the future due to the turbulence in the wider social environment. You see someone else's confident, sunny, positive side, but that is only part of the picture.

He also has a self-deprecating, weak, and negative side. When faced with sudden situations or major setbacks, he can instantly collapse and be at a loss for what to do. This side of him is often not shown in public.

You must accept yourself and focus inwardly on yourself.

First, accept negative thoughts and emotions. Affirm yourself and your past efforts, even if they did not meet expectations. This is the only way to regain your motivation.

We should remind ourselves often that we are already the best we can be. We can take care of ourselves.

You need to find professional help.

If you don't know how to relieve stress, you need to seek help from a professional counselor right away. They can provide the necessary psychological counseling and help you rebuild a positive attitude.

Adjust your state of mind through exercise and yoga.

Take up yoga, aerobic running, or walking. These activities relieve mental and physical tension. Talk to someone. Find a good listener. Turn your internal monologue into external speech. Do mindfulness meditation. Clear your mind. Reflect on yourself. Examine your heart. Clear your emotions. Calm your anxious mood.

Life is beautiful, but it's also hard. You're not alone in this.

We must admit that we have no choice but to make a living, whether it's from the small loneliness and depression to the heavy pressure, pain, and anger, or to the physical and mental wounds that feel like a strong thunder.

We can adjust our state of mind, integrate our resources and strengths, and strengthen our inner selves.

You must create a separate space for yourself, a quiet space. Make it stable and safe. Use it to cultivate your inner self, soothe your wounded self, and give yourself the greatest support.

No matter what problems you encounter, don't give up and don't be afraid! I will always be by your side and support you!

Come on!

Greetings,

You indicate that you frequently experience feelings of loneliness and powerlessness and seek the love and care of your family and friends. When you are in a state of loneliness and powerlessness, you will endure a period of depression lasting several days.

A friend's greeting can rapidly facilitate the transition from a state of powerlessness to one of strength. Conversely, there is a perception of relative dependence on one's mother and friends, accompanied by the sensation of drawing energy from them without offering anything in return. There is a concern that one is a burden to one's friends, and a sense of taking from the relationship without reciprocating. There is apprehension about taking the initiative to request assistance from friends, yet there is a lack of understanding of how to foster self-strength and overcome feelings of loneliness and powerlessness.

You have previously indicated that a simple greeting from a friend provides you with renewed strength. I find this observation particularly intriguing.

The experience may be likened to that of entering a state of loneliness and powerlessness, wherein these emotions are so pervasive that one becomes wholly absorbed in them, to the extent that one feels unable to move or escape. At this juncture, an external call may disrupt the prevailing atmosphere, akin to the dissolution of a fantasy. This act of disruption may then facilitate a return to mobility and a restoration of strength.

Subsequently, one may posit that it was the intervention of an external party that facilitated recovery. The provision of external support is often a crucial factor in overcoming feelings of loneliness and regaining strength.

This prompts the question of whether this is akin to entering a new myth.

If the feelings of loneliness and powerlessness are themselves an illusion, they can be dispelled by the call of a friend. Is it not possible to perceive these feelings as an illusion?

The following occurrence of feelings of loneliness and powerlessness should be approached with a third-party stance, whereby the individual acknowledges that they are merely entering a state of loneliness and powerlessness. With this detached third-party perspective, the individual can then observe the nature of these feelings.

One might inquire as to whether fear will manifest itself, and whether a sense of complete abandonment will be experienced.

Do you experience feelings of unworthiness with regard to the receipt of love? Do you envisage a lonely and powerless child who is fearful of encountering others?

It is proposed that if one can adopt a more passive stance towards feelings of loneliness and powerlessness, allowing oneself to experience these emotions without seeking external validation, one may gain insight into the underlying causes of these feelings. As one becomes more comfortable with these emotions, they may begin to feel less overwhelming and more manageable. This process can foster a sense of confidence and strength in the face of these emotions.

While feelings of loneliness and a sense of powerlessness may still manifest intermittently, one can now adopt a stance of mastery, fostering harmonious coexistence with these experiences, engaging in discourse with them, and ultimately, facilitating their resolution. This represents a profound source of strength.

In addition, it would be beneficial to ascertain whether loneliness and a sense of powerlessness manifest concurrently in one's consciousness. Is it the case that these two sentiments emerge simultaneously when one is overlooked or ignored?

If this is the case, it may be beneficial to examine past experiences with loneliness as one grows up. Were there many experiences during childhood that led to feelings of powerlessness when one was alone and not receiving attention?

Consequently, these two sentiments become inextricably intertwined upon maturation.

It is possible that you have not yet observed that loneliness and powerlessness are not necessarily linked. One might inquire as to why, when an individual is alone and has no one to keep them company, they are assumed to be powerless.

It can be argued that everyone is an independent individual, and that loneliness is almost a norm. It could be proposed that being lonely but having one's own independent inner world can also be a source of strength. It may therefore be possible to utilise this uniqueness, this loneliness, to interact and exchange ideas with those around us, to discover the differences between each other, and to support each other with mutual understanding. This may be a relationship that can nourish each other.

It is not necessary for individuals to rely on one another to overcome feelings of loneliness. Loneliness is a common experience, but it does not have to be debilitating.

If one is able to sever the connection, then the fear of loneliness is no longer a concern. It is possible that the fear itself may be a sense of powerlessness.

You inquire as to what one should do when experiencing a lack of energy and a sense of powerlessness. Perhaps the most effective course of action would be to simply allow these feelings to be.

It is recommended that these feelings not be taken too seriously, as though they were an adversary that must be immediately vanquished. Instead, they should be regarded as a transient phenomenon, akin to a visit from a charming yet transient guest.

Subsequently, one is at liberty to engage in any activity that one desires. This may include resting, contacting a friend, or remaining alone.

This may be a more straightforward approach. Fundamentally, individuals have the autonomy to determine their actions at any given moment.

It is my sincere hope that this information is of benefit to you. Sincerely,

Greetings, question asker.

A careful reading of your question leads me to believe that this is a common problem that affects a significant number of people.

I would be pleased to engage in further discussion on this topic, with the aim of providing insights that may prove enlightening.

1. Re-examine the concept of loneliness.

Loneliness is a subjective phenomenon, characterized by feelings of isolation and alienation from others or society. It is not an objective state.

I am curious to know how you experience loneliness.

To what extent are you amenable to receiving the affection of your friends?

Additionally, do you experience doubt regarding your self-worth, questioning whether you deserve as much as your friends provide?

In the experience of loneliness, it is a natural human response to seek solace and the love of others.

These are typical human requirements.

One may also choose to spend time in solitude to gain insight into the nature of loneliness.

At what point in your experience of depression did you first perceive that a simple greeting from a friend could provide you with strength and resilience, even after a few days of low mood and feelings of powerlessness?

The question thus arises as to whether we feel secure enough.

Do you believe that you are loved and that your friends love and accept you, even in the absence of significant time spent together?

The question thus arises as to whether a sense of one's own value is present.

Does one possess an objective self-assessment, one that is not influenced by the opinions of others or material possessions?

For example, it is not the case that one cannot bring anything to the relationship; rather, the care and love one provides is of intrinsic value.

Furthermore, the individual in question is of significant importance to the aforementioned parties.

The connection between the two parties is meaningful in and of itself.

When viewed from an alternative perspective, loneliness may be experienced as a source of discomfort, yet it can also facilitate freedom and enable one to engage in a multitude of activities. During this period, the desire to seek love may diminish.

2. An examination of the concepts of intimacy and attachment.

In the event that one's inner strength is insufficient, it is only natural to allow others to provide satisfaction.

The love and companionship provided by others is typically more beneficial than the sense of comfort derived from oneself.

Concurrently, it is essential to recognize the capacity to form attachments with others while simultaneously establishing a sense of self-attachment.

It is possible to establish another person as a secure base, and it is also possible to establish oneself as a secure base.

In the context of immaturity, there is a tendency to rely on external sources for self-function.

For example, humans tend to crave the love and companionship of others.

In psychology, the ability to care for oneself and treat oneself well is a key concept.

This is frequently more challenging than providing care for others.

For example, if one desires to be loved, it is first necessary to believe that one is worthy of love.

In the absence of self-love, individuals tend to seek external sources of affection and validation.

3. Cultivate self-love.

It is commonly understood that everyone is capable of loving themselves. However, there are instances when individuals may lack clarity on the precise methods for doing so.

The act of loving oneself entails a conscious awareness of one's innermost needs and a profound understanding of one's self. It is an act of acceptance and affirmation.

For example, consider the underlying reasons for your need for significant amounts of external validation and affection.

Please describe the specific deficiencies you perceive.

Psychological energy can be replenished.

It is imperative to cultivate self-love and an affirmation of one's intrinsic value.

An individual's level of confidence is not solely contingent upon their abilities or perceived distinction. Rather, it is primarily influenced by their self-perception and self-esteem.

When individuals provide themselves with unconditional support, it is beneficial to have the love and encouragement of others. However, when such support is unavailable, it is possible to compensate for this deficit through self-reliance.

First and foremost, it is imperative to embrace the notion that one is inherently complete in and of themselves.

Those wishing to pursue this topic further are encouraged to read "I'm Really Great" and "Parenting the Inner Child."

It is important to allow for a gradual growth process.

I wish you the utmost success!

Many times in life, we encounter various situations that make us feel like we're misunderstood by others. We feel like we're an island unto ourselves, but there's so much more to us than meets the eye! We've learned to embrace our energy deficits and all that they bring.

You find it hard to give yourself energy, as if this energy can only be drawn from the outside world, as if it is something passive that you cannot quickly process on your own. You have some negative feelings and emotions within yourself, and your problem lies in the desire for the outside world to give you eternity. But guess what? You can change that! You can give yourself energy. You can process those negative feelings and emotions. You can choose to feel loved. You can choose to live your life to the fullest. You can choose to embrace the world around you. You can choose to feel eternal.

♣I often feel lonely and want to feel loved. My energy is low

♣You miss your friends. You want to live because you feel loved!

♣It's only when someone cares that you have the courage to face difficulties!

Let's conquer loneliness together!

Let's talk about energy!

But the eternal love that never gets lost is really worth striving for! Think about it: from kindergarten to university, how many classmates have been your classmates all along? How many people have been able to accompany you all the time?

☮️☮️☮️☮️Absolutely! Try to cherish the love you have collected in the past by sensing it from within.

And guess what? Others may also have some losses!

Everyone has their own amazing collection of love!

Energy is outward-seeking, and that's a great thing! Other people may also have moments when they don't feel so good, and that's okay. You can realize that the other person may be imposing some difficulties on you, and you are afraid to mention it to them. Or you may also perceive their inner emotional expression, and that's something you can work through together.

Maybe they don't want to be taken advantage of all the time either. We're all adults here, and we can all make our own choices. You can be selfish, they can be selfish, and your mother can think about herself a little. Maybe you long for constant companionship, but you can also gain energy from 'being alone'.

Often, when we want to talk about something or release our inner pain, we have all kinds of worries. But here's the good news: other people may not be able to handle so many complex feelings, but they also have their own considerations.

You can see what your current task is, and it is also very important to accompany yourself through the long years. You are worried that you will trouble her, and you are worried that you cannot be alone. You can also see your mother's fatigue, and you also have some career plans to go.

I highly recommend that you try to find the right balance when your energy is low and your friends can't keep you company. Let yourself think about your future plans and learn for your own rise. I wholeheartedly recommend that you seek psychological counseling, because your friends can't be your counselors. You can truly recognize your own positive and outstanding aspects, so that energy will accumulate. Best of luck!

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