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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Good morning, I am writing in response to your question.
From your description, it seems that your teacher's words have had a significant impact on your emotions, which in turn has affected your grades and confidence. The appearance of another student of the opposite sex has made you feel dependent. This sense of dependence is actually a need for affirmation from others. It is also clear that this incident has had a certain impact on you to this day, causing you pain. This kind of pain makes you unable to let go, and I can only offer my support remotely.
Your lack of confidence is a result of your teacher's comments and the actions of one of your classmates, a boy, who may have provided you with a degree of comfort. This has led you to believe that the other person has positive feelings towards you. However, after sending him messages that were perceived as irrational, he did not respond. This has caused you to experience a range of negative emotions, including sadness, anger, and disappointment. It is essential for you to affirm your self-worth and develop confidence through the approval of others. Currently, you lack the internal confidence to support you in navigating these challenges. This has led to a perception of inadequacy, a belief that you are unlikable, and a sense of unworthiness.
The psychological depletion caused by such emotions has a significant impact on an individual's ability to move beyond this aspect of themselves that causes shame.
It is important to recognize that the aspects of ourselves that we are reluctant to confront are indicative of an underlying reluctance to accept ourselves fully. We tend to avoid contemplating these aspects, which can lead to feelings of shame and sensitivity about past experiences. This avoidance can result in feelings of inferiority, preventing us from moving forward and letting go of past hurts.
To overcome these challenges, it is essential to confront them directly. Only by acknowledging, accepting, and addressing them head-on can we facilitate self-healing, personal growth, introspection, and the identification of unmet needs. This process enables us to understand our inner selves and address childhood issues. If you are unable to heal yourself, professional counseling can be a valuable resource. The Yi Xinli platform provides a safe and supportive environment for discussing these issues. Through external and internal techniques, you can relieve yourself of these burdens while gaining insight into your inner child. This process allows you to see yourself more clearly, learn to let go, and move beyond the pain. By doing so, you can develop a stronger sense of self-belief and resilience.
I hope you find this information useful.
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I can totally relate to feeling stuck in the past, especially when it comes to school and unreciprocated feelings. It's hard to move on when there's so much emotional weight tied to those memories.
It sounds like you were going through a really tough time with your studies and selfesteem. Sometimes we need to take a step back and realize that our worth isn't defined by grades or others' opinions.
I admire your honesty about how deeply you felt these experiences. It's not easy to admit when we've struggled, but acknowledging it is the first step towards healing.
The way you described your relationship with the boy feels very intense and onesided. Maybe it was more about finding someone who made you feel seen and understood during a difficult period.
It seems like you poured a lot of your emotions into messaging him, hoping for validation. I wonder if seeking support from friends or a counselor could have provided a healthier outlet for those feelings.