I truly feel it's not my charm; am I just appearing to be easily bullied?

Good morning, my name is Gu Daoxifeng, and I am a heart exploration coach.

Despite the prevailing notion of equality in today's society, the concepts and practices surrounding inheritance remain a point of contention. This discrepancy does not stem from the question asker's actions.

The book Men Are From Venus, Women Are From Mars explains the differences in the thinking of men and women. What the questioner finds offensive may not be a significant issue to her husband. Additionally, men and women may have different boundaries for what they can tolerate, so they cannot empathize with the questioner. This is not the fault of the questioner.

When the original poster was at school, he/she provided feedback to his/her grandparents. Their generation may be relatively conservative in their thinking. One may feel that this is dishonorable and hope to minimize the matter; the other may be more sociable and not feel that this kind of small action is that serious. It is not the original poster's fault.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider these issues from a different perspective.

The questioner is learning to write with a brush, and the teacher's teaching is too "personal" and makes the questioner feel uncomfortable. Could it be because of the teacher's professional habits? They are indeed teaching children, and my sister-in-law also teaches children to draw. It is true that he will correct the posture of the child and guide the way the child holds the brush. It may not be ill-intentioned, but the questioner feels uncomfortable, and it is reasonable to ask to stop and leave. After all, the purpose of learning is to be happy.

The colleague of the original poster's husband made physical contact with the original poster and initiated a conversation after consuming alcohol. It is unclear whether he would behave similarly in a sober state. I have a relative who displays a tendency to engage in prolonged conversations with strangers when under the influence of alcohol, indicating a lack of self-control. If the original poster were to go to the bathroom, would her husband still engage in such behaviour?

If the concern is simply that this person may have a poor drinking habit, it is not a deliberate attack on the original poster. The original poster may not have cause for concern, and there is no problem with maintaining a distance to protect oneself.

My colleague's husband wants to add the original poster to his contacts. Since there is no conclusive evidence, the answer is based on speculation. However, some people believe that maintaining a connection in their address book for future reference is a prudent measure. Others have their own ideas, and we can also have our own standards, without worrying about the result of rejection.

The questioner should not be concerned about being bullied. Based on the questioner's past responses, it is evident that the questioner's solutions are not only decisive but also emotionally charged. Furthermore, every decision the questioner makes ensures that there are no concerns, which is a commendable quality.

The questioner can attempt to ascertain whether, subsequent to each action, they will encounter the same issue with the same individual once more. If not, it is highly unlikely that the other person will conclude that the questioner is susceptible to intimidation. In fact, they may perceive the questioner to possess a robust sense of boundaries.

Even in situations where one feels weak, it is possible to be powerful. A classic example is the tongue and teeth. Teeth are hard, but they will gradually fall out as we age. The tongue is soft, but it can always remain with us.

The questioner may attempt to identify the aspect of themselves that exudes strength, which will diminish the influence of negative psychological perceptions.

Collisions between individuals' boundaries are an inherent part of getting along with others. When another person encroaches upon a boundary for the first time, they will likely be met with resistance. Based on this, I believe they will be less likely to continue doing so in the future. In such a situation, it may be helpful for the questioner to firmly state their position.

It is reasonable to act in accordance with your own moral code and in a way that is beneficial to yourself. It is not necessary for others to approve of your actions; what matters is that you feel happy and relaxed afterwards.

"The Courage to Be Disliked" may assist the questioner in understanding their own needs.

Best regards,

Hello! I'm listening.

When I heard you say, "You really are not charming," I could feel the judgment around you. It's so sad that people think you're showing off and that you're not charming. I can understand why you'd want to avoid such judgments and attacks. It's natural to want to protect yourself.

And when you say this, you're just trying to protect your interests from being violated and to help others understand your grievances.

You are so much more than just your looks. Being attractive is not a reason to be harassed.

You are such a charming person! Why don't you want to admit it? Look at those three things you mentioned.

It's so lovely that others take the initiative to find you! It's a wonderful expression of attraction.

But don't worry, it's not your fault. It's like being harassed on the bus for wearing shorts. It's not your fault, it's the harasser's fault. It has nothing to do with you.

Your thoughts are yours alone, and no one else can speak for you.

Every feeling you have is really important. They all express your emotions, thoughts, and feelings. Please don't ignore them. It's so important to express them boldly. If they make you unhappy, uncomfortable, or make you feel that your interests have been violated, then please, defend your feelings bravely.

Because they really matter, sweetheart.

You've got this! It's so important to protect your own boundaries. You are actually braver than you think.

I can tell you have a lot of power because you can think of ways to deal with uncomfortable situations and protect yourself. You've done all three things really well!

You used flour, which was a great idea! You also stopped the teacher's class when you felt uncomfortable, which was very brave. And you didn't add that person on WeChat, which was a good move. You're a strong, independent woman! I'm so proud of you. But I'm not sure why you say you're easy to bully.

You are so powerful! You can absolutely discuss this matter with your husband courageously. Not many women are like this, so you're in good company. Many women will endure in silence, but you're brave enough to speak up and ask for help.

It's so important to maintain those boundaries!

It's important to remember that not everyone is as easy to bully as they seem. It's often a gradual process of exploration during contact.

It's so important to understand the other person's boundaries. This is a process of exploration, and there is also some empiricism in it, but empiricism cannot be followed exactly. You still need to engage in an in-depth relationship to get to know whether the other person is a good or bad person to provoke.

It's all about evaluating whether you're ready to stand up for yourself. You can see the process in the example below. Once he realizes you're not someone to be trifled with, he'll probably think twice before trying anything.

Hug the brave you!

Dear questioner, I just wanted to send you a big, warm hug from afar and let you know that I'm here for you. I know that what you've been through has been really tough.

But don't you worry, I'll give you some advice that I really hope will help you deal with these situations better.

I just wanted to say that I think you handled the WeChat incident really well. It was so brave of you to keep your distance. It's always the best way to protect yourself.

If you feel like it, you can even set a "work communication only" note, which will make it super clear what you're looking for and help you avoid any unnecessary trouble.

It's totally normal to feel uncomfortable when you're trying something new, like practicing calligraphy or singing. Many girls will have similar experiences, so you're not alone! To make sure we can enjoy these activities without worrying, we can take a few simple steps to make sure we're safe.

For instance, if you're practicing calligraphy, you might want to choose a more public place so that other people can also keep an eye on things. And if you're singing and you feel uncomfortable, it's totally okay to excuse yourself by saying you need to answer the phone or go to the bathroom.

It's so important to remember to speak up when you feel uncomfortable. You can do this by saying things like "I don't feel very comfortable" or "Please keep your distance."

And don't forget your own value! You are a unique and precious person, and you shouldn't doubt yourself because of the actions of others.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, I have some tips to help you relax and unwind. Try listening to your favorite music, going for a walk, or doing some yoga. These activities can help you feel more at ease and relieve stress.

And please don't forget to ask for help! Talk to a close friend, family member, or counselor about how you're feeling. They can offer practical advice and support.

I just want to let you know that you are so much stronger than you seem. It's clear to me that you have a great sense of reason and awareness of self-protection.

Please believe in yourself and learn to protect yourself. I wish you all the best!

Good morning! I extend my support and encouragement to you from this distance.

I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance, and I hope that my input can provide you with the support and guidance you require.

From your description, it is evident that you have a well-defined personal policy regarding contact with the opposite sex. This awareness and policy will protect you from being hurt. However, everyone's interpersonal policies are different, so the policy you implement to protect yourself may be considered overly sensitive by others. As long as your protection of your own policies and awareness does not cause any harm to yourself or others, you just need to be honest with yourself and respect your true feelings in that moment.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this matter.

In other words, you have the right and freedom to decline any behavior from others, particularly from the opposite sex, that makes you feel uncomfortable. You have the right to say, "Your behavior makes me feel uncomfortable. Please stop doing that." It is important to make it clear that your boundaries have been violated and that you cannot be treated in this manner.

While men are naturally sensual creatures, they are particularly attracted to women's appearance and are prone to physical urges. However, a woman's beauty is only one aspect that attracts men, along with a woman's figure, temperament, speech, and mannerisms, which are all manifestations of a woman's charm. For those men who often sexually harass women, given the opportunity, all women could become their victims. Therefore, it has little to do with whether you are an attractive, beautiful woman who will not resist.

Furthermore, it is evident from your account that the individuals in question are all acquaintances. The verbal and physical actions that initially caused you discomfort were designed to test your boundaries and bottom line. They were not held accountable for their actions and received support from those around them. They believed you were being overly sensitive and that you had consumed too much alcohol and were joking, so you should not have taken it personally.

In the event of feeling disrespected and hurt, it is important to seek support and understanding from those closest to you. However, if this support is not forthcoming, it is essential to maintain your own boundaries and protect your feelings. It is also important to avoid internal attributions that might negate your feelings of being hurt. You deserve to be treated well by yourself and others.

It is imperative to decline any form of molestation or harm.

Hello. I am honored to answer your question and I am confident that my suggestions will be helpful.

We were inspired by a recent popular online picture of an original wife and a mistress standing together. The picture doesn't indicate their relationship, so people who haven't seen that TV series have to guess their relationship.

It's clear that this is difficult to predict. It challenges the stereotype of the "other woman" that we have in our minds. In fact, it's the opposite.

However, as can be seen from some of the comments on the Internet, there are many such cases in reality. The so-called "other woman" may not be as good-looking or as physically attractive as the original wife, and she may not have a good appearance or family background, but she can still become the one who destroys the family. Cheating is cheating.

This is our nature.

Girls will undoubtedly encounter sexual harassment during their growth process, including obscenity and rape.

Let me be clear: these inappropriate behaviors are not caused by the girl's good image, charm, lack of modesty, beauty, or clothing. They are caused by the boys who do these things. And those boys have problems.

Their motives are not just to take advantage of us. They are also driven by a desire for thrills or a need to feel capable. These motives cannot be understood with normal thinking and logic.

If you encounter these situations, you have every right to refuse and tell those around you what has happened. You can also seek appropriate protection. Afterwards, you can tell the people you trust, such as your father or husband, that you need protection. If you suddenly call them or need them to pick you up after work, they will know you are in danger and need their attention and care.

Many people will try to discredit the victim by acting in ways that are either incomprehensible or demeaning.

This is an unreasonable situation, plain and simple. Remember that news story we used to laugh at about a group of people in India who raped a lizard? Was the lizard at fault?

We must recognize that victim-blaming is unacceptable and that we must approach the situation with logic and reason.

We must recognize that our self-reflection is not about being bullied because we look like we're weak. It's about the fact that those who bully others often do so to themselves. It's possible that without our knowledge, all the women around him have been bullied by him, regardless of their type or age.

We must protect ourselves and fight back appropriately. Reflection is not the answer.

If family and friends cannot understand us in this process, we must understand at the cognitive level that those who do wrong are never victims. We must protect our own safety, mental health, self-esteem, and rights.

I will sort things out for myself and talk about them in a more objective and organized way with my husband or a trusted friend. They will understand how we feel.

The world loves you!

Hi there, I've got a question for you.

You feel confused and self-doubting. You feel clearly harassed, but when you confide in someone you trust, you don't get recognition or support. This makes you very puzzled, and you doubt whether you are overthinking. Let's answer your questions together and hope that it will enlighten you.

[Emotional flashbacks]

It seems like a small thing, but not adding your colleague's husband's WeChat yesterday triggered a flashback for you. It's like a "button" that brings up negative feelings from a similar incident. It's important to you, and it's not a small thing.

"Flashback" is a psychological concept that refers to the sudden reappearance of strong emotions from past experiences in the current environment or experience, and it causes obvious stress or negative effects.

The negative feelings that this event brings you are self-denial and self-deprecation. For example, you might say that you don't look good, that you have a family and children, and that your figure has gone out of shape.

This is one of the key signs of emotional flashbacks, and it can lead to self-deprecation. You might feel like you're overthinking it, but it's probably best to avoid adding to it to avoid unnecessary trouble.

This is another sign of emotional flashbacks: a sense of doubt and fear of the outside world and social interactions.

[The importance of this matter to you]

You might not even realize it, but when your mind processes information about your colleague's husband adding you on WeChat, it can trigger associations like "you are no good, you are unattractive, you seem like an easy target." This is somewhat similar to the "victim-blaming" phenomenon: when you feel harassed, instead of blaming the other person for their rudeness and offensiveness, you attack yourself, thinking that it is some characteristic of yours that attracts the other person.

This is because in the past, when you were offended and harassed and sought support from your closest people (your grandparents and your husband), you were told you were overthinking things and not to worry. This feeling is still there and will come up when you encounter something that reminds you of it.

[How to solve it]

You can learn about the psychology of "emotional flashbacks" on your own, become aware of it in your daily life, practice it, and heal yourself. If you need more support, you can choose a psychological listener or counselor to accompany you on this journey of healing emotional trauma.

I hope this is helpful.

I'm your friend, Potato Maling, who has grown up with you. Thanks for your attention.

Hello!

I just want to say upfront that it's totally okay to feel uncomfortable and uneasy about these behaviors, whether they come from a colleague's husband, a brush writing teacher, or even your husband's colleague. It's very normal to feel this way.

I can see how these behaviors might be frustrating for you. It's not that you have a certain charm, but rather that your attitude and reaction give these people an opportunity. When you're facing these behaviors, you haven't made a clear rejection or resistance, which may make these people feel that you're acquiescent or that you can be bullied.

I'd like to suggest a few things that might help you change the situation.

It's so important to express your attitude clearly. When you feel uncomfortable or violated, you should definitely tell these people how you feel. Let them know that their behavior is inappropriate.

When you're expressing yourself, try to stay calm and rational. It's important not to overreact emotionally, as this can make your voice more credible.

It's so important to be aware of your own protection in any situation. It's natural to trust strangers, but it's also good to be cautious and not accept their invitations too easily.

It's so important to be aware of your surroundings and of other people at all times. If you notice anything unsafe, it's always a good idea to take steps to protect yourself.

If you ever feel like you can't handle things on your own, please know that you can always ask for help. You can turn to your family, friends, or even professionals for support and advice.

If you think the situation is serious, you can always reach out to relevant organizations or legal departments for help.

I just wanted to say, no matter how charming you are, it's never okay for anyone to violate you. You deserve to stand firm in your position, protect your rights and interests, and don't be swayed by other people's actions. You're strong and you're worthy of respect.

You have every right to feel the way you do.

Every scenario you have listed, every discomfort and fear, whether the other party means to or does not mean to, whether you are infinitely charming or unremarkable, does not affect your true feelings, and does not affect the fact that it is "harassment." The standard of judgment is in you. Is there any need to teach calligraphy by holding your face close, or to hold hands while drinking?

Any attempt at explanation is therefore futile. The fact of harassment is established as long as the result bothers and harms you.

Harassment is usually only subject to moral criticism.

However, there are few options for fighting back against this reality. You can either endure the humiliation or get away as quickly as possible, which is what you should do. Most harassment is not criminal, and at most it is within the scope of public security penalties. Verbal abuse and limited physical contact can be easily explained away as impolite or inappropriate.

It's like swallowing a fly: there's no physical harm, but the psychological disgust and discomfort is just as strong and long-lasting. You must be careful and stay away.

It's not just you. Thousands of women have had similar experiences.

You're absolutely right. They don't have to pay much of a cost. It's because evil is unrestrained and common that it's so rampant. It's not a matter of your charm or your being "easy to bully." You are the person involved, and you must have thought about how to fight back or make them pay. Unfortunately, because the nature and level of such incidents are only in the realm of morality, and when the other party is not moral, how can they be bound by morality?

The best solution you can think of is to reject and stay away. This is not just your experience. Many women will encounter this too.

However, I hope you can observe and evaluate such examples in the context of a larger population and sample. After all, there are so many people in the world, and it is not unusual to occasionally bump into a fly or two. You do not have to feel responsible or reflect on the disgusting nature of the fly. It is simply a probability event.

I wish you happiness.

Good day, my name is June Lai Feng.

From your account, it is evident that you are experiencing a sense of unease, yet those in your immediate vicinity appear to lack an understanding of your feelings.

You are correct in your assessment that the harassment you have experienced is not a reflection of your physical attractiveness, but rather a manifestation of the perpetrators' perception of your vulnerability. You have not acted inappropriately, and your feelings and thoughts are of paramount importance.

Your feelings are genuine, and everyone's interpretation and experience of harassment may vary. What others perceive may not necessarily align with your personal experiences and sentiments.

I am aware that you are not making a fuss, and I understand your feelings. Your feelings are genuine and should not be dismissed or belittled. No individual has the right to sexually harass you or treat you inappropriately, regardless of your appearance, personality, or behavior.

Sexual harassment is a violation of another person's rights and dignity. It is illegal and unethical business practice.

In this situation, it is important to have confidence in your own perceptions and take steps to safeguard your well-being. It is not advisable to doubt your instincts based on the opinions of others. If you experience any form of discomfort or harassment, it is essential to recognize that these are genuine concerns and you have the right to address them.

Additionally, you may wish to consider measures to prevent similar incidents from occurring in the future. These could include avoiding acting alone and being vigilant.

Should you feel uncomfortable or harassed, you are encouraged to seek assistance and support from those around you. It is advisable to inform them of your feelings and experiences, so that they may gain a full understanding of the situation.

If you feel harassed, you have the option of taking action to protect yourself. You can inform the harasser of your feelings and request that they cease their actions.

Should they fail to respond, you may wish to consider reporting the matter to the police or seeking legal assistance.

It is important to note that the lack of sensitivity or understanding of harassment does not negate the legitimacy of one's feelings. Each individual's experiences and reactions are unique.

It is important to have confidence in your own abilities and character, and to avoid allowing the actions of others to affect your self-assurance and self-image. You are a distinctive individual who deserves respect and protection.

Additionally, it is important to prioritize your emotional and mental well-being. It is understandable that this process may be challenging, and it is crucial not to blame yourself or doubt your worth.

Your value should not be contingent on the actions of others, but rather on your own personal attributes and character.

It is important to remember to take care of yourself and to recognize the value of your feelings.

I would like to extend my best wishes to you for a happy future.

It is of the utmost importance to believe in yourself and maintain your position. No individual has the right to sexually harass you or behave inappropriately in any way.

It is your right to be treated with respect, protection, and support.

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can sense your inner confusion. At the same time, you have a very good sense of awareness and the courage to face this uncomfortable feeling, which I admire.

From what you've shared, I can appreciate your feelings. Given that your colleague's husband added you on WeChat, it's understandable that you might associate this with the fact that he was previously contacted by another girl at work and was verbally abused by your colleague.

At the same time, you have also considered some of the behaviors of your friends from high school and work, as well as even your husband's friends, that made you feel uncomfortable. When you shared your feelings with others, they didn't seem to understand or even thought you were making a big deal out of it, which made you feel a bit misunderstood. Is that right?

After reading your description, I can appreciate your feelings. I want you to know that I support you and believe you are taking the right approach. It's important for us as women to be mindful and cautious, especially when it comes to potential risks.

Given the unfortunate behavior of your colleague's husband and your previous experiences, it's understandable why many women in society have had similar experiences. It's a sad reality that many women have been hurt without being on their guard and on the premise of trust.

Your decision to come here and talk about this problem shows great courage. Many people would not have the courage to do that, and would either try to bear it alone or not speak up at all.

From what you've shared, it's evident that you're a highly rational and self-protective individual.

Perhaps what puzzles you is that those men who want to contact you must think you are easy to bully. It's possible that this is the instinct of the male, because the male is originally an animal that thinks with his lower body.

Many men tend to cast their nets widely, looking for someone who is easy-going, soft-hearted, and unprepared, and then striking. It would be inaccurate to say that you are easy to bully.

I admire your courage in refusing and protecting yourself. You deserve praise for that.

At the same time, I would like to suggest that everyone has their own merits and their own charm.

Sometimes, we may not fully recognize our own strengths and charms. We often tend to focus on the positive qualities of others, which is perfectly natural. However, it's also important to acknowledge and appreciate our own unique attributes.

I believe you have your own unique charm.

Good afternoon, questioner. Thank you for your sincere question. I am ZQ, a heart exploration coach from the Yixinli platform. It is important to remember that regardless of whether you believe you are attractive or not, no one has the right to bully or take advantage of you. You have your own principles and it is essential to stand firm in your beliefs.

And you also have your own family and children, so you may have encountered some unusual situations in your life. For example, when you were in high school, some boys might have come to observe you when you went to brush-writing training during work hours. The teacher who taught you to write with a brush seemed to be taking advantage of you in some small ways.

It seems that your husband's colleague may sometimes exhibit unusual behaviors, which can make you feel uneasy. Additionally, your colleague's husband has added you to WeChat, which could be a sign that someone may be engaging in subtle forms of bullying or exploitation. It's important to note that this does not imply that you are a passive individual.

It is possible that if you feel like you are being pushed around a little, it could be that you are not quite as assertive as you could be. Having a sense of boundaries is something we need to maintain and establish for ourselves. If this situation persists,

It is possible that other people may encroach on your boundaries, thinking that you will always back down and put up with it, or that you won't say a word even when someone puts their hands on you. However, it is important to remember that you are not like that. You have the capacity to resist and refuse, and you have your own bottom line and principles.

When others engage in bullying behavior, you may find yourself resorting to methods you deem appropriate to prevent further harm. For instance, when you were in high school and your husband's colleagues were flirting with you, you chose not to respond.

I believe these methods are helping you to gradually establish your own personal boundaries.

You are actually a very brave person, and you are also a very strong person. You are able to discern more clearly what you want and what you don't want. You are keen to avoid getting into trouble, while also being mindful of not becoming an easy target for bullies. So, from a comprehensive point of view, you know what you want.

It would be beneficial for you to continue maintaining your own boundaries. If a person has no boundaries, they may be vulnerable to being bullied by others. Currently, your boundaries are gradually forming. In the future, it would be helpful for you to also courageously adhere to your principles and not let others belittle you. If some people do not listen to reason, you may wish to consider addressing the situation more directly, which could potentially lead to them learning a valuable lesson. Additionally, it would be advantageous for you to have the support of your friends or trusted family members, as this can help you maintain your boundaries effectively.

Could I ask you a question, ZQ?

Hello.

I was angry and felt wronged. As a woman, I found this behavior unacceptable and was really angry. I also felt aggrieved. In these kinds of situations, no woman is at fault. Some people will think that women are displaying their sexual charm, causing men to make mistakes. That is wrong.

We supported each other by patting each other on the shoulders, and we were stronger for it. We faced the harassment from these men head-on.

In chronological order, there was a boy in his second year who often lifted your curtain while you were taking a nap to peek at you. He did this repeatedly, and you confronted him.

After you started working, you learned to write with a brush, and the male teacher held your hand close to his face as he taught you how to write. You went karaoke with your husband's colleagues, and one of his colleagues got drunk and kept holding your hand.

Yesterday, your colleague's husband tried to add you as a friend on WeChat.

This was four times in total. The male's behavior was extremely intrusive and made you feel very uncomfortable. It was harassment, plain and simple.

This is sexual harassment.

You always solved the problem yourself, and I saw you mature with each solution. When you were in high school, you complained to your grandparents, but they didn't help.

You finally solved the problem by sprinkling some flour. The second time, the teacher who taught you how to write with a brush stuck her face close to you while she taught you how to write, which was an unacceptable invasion of your personal space.

You said "stop" when you couldn't take it anymore and you never went back. The third time, your husband's colleague was drunk, and you got away from him when he tried to hold your hand, and then you made an excuse to leave.

Yesterday, you stood your ground and refused to add your colleague's husband to your WeChat for the fourth time. You have refused all these advances with dignity, and you are a role model for many women.

We must learn from you and refuse to be harassed, refuse to flirt, and refuse to let men harass women because of their gender advantage.

For men, even the head of the family, it may not seem like a big deal. They may even know their husband's colleague is taking advantage of him, but they just say that's just the way he is.

You mentioned this four times. The men in the family don't think those men have taken much advantage, so they don't think it's a big deal. They're unable to see things from a woman's perspective and believe women are making a big deal out of it. They just see it as harassment, not something that needs to be punished morally or legally.

You're not overreacting. These issues need to be talked about. It's at the very least an uncivilized and rude phenomenon, and I'm calling on all women in society to resist male harassment.

Many of the questions we get here are about men harassing women, and you are not alone. This phenomenon will be reduced only if all women resist together.

Men simply cannot empathize with the pain and rage women experience. They cannot fathom what it's like to be in our shoes. Some women even underestimate their own strength, making it easy for men to take advantage.

In the future, we will be braver and give ourselves more self-confidence and courage. We will let them know that we women will not be harassed or violated casually.

We must make it clear with our tone of voice, our eyes, and our body language that we will not tolerate such behavior and find it offensive.

These men don't think you're weak and easy to bully. They don't have to bear any consequences or pay a high price.

They are bold and unrestrained, and they recklessly harass women like that.

We must unite to fight this kind of male harassment. All women must avoid such harassment, protect their safety, and no longer suffer such injustice and bullying.

The world and I love you. Love yourself too.

Good morning, my name is Coach Yu, and I would like to discuss this topic with you.

First, let's consider the importance of boundaries. It's helpful to understand the boundaries of others and to recognize your own boundaries, as they help distinguish you from others. Many emotional and interpersonal challenges in today's society may relate to the difficulty of maintaining appropriate boundaries.

When our boundaries are violated, our bodies may send out signals such as a faster heartbeat, a feeling of heat all over the body, restlessness, and sweating.

Sometimes we don't want to offend others, sometimes we don't want to damage relationships, sometimes we avoid potential risks (such as losing our job or being retaliated against), and sometimes we feel that we are "overthinking" and "making a big deal out of it," ignoring signals that our boundaries are being violated. We may be afraid to establish and maintain our own boundaries and may not know how to protect ourselves.

Perhaps we could consider asking ourselves what our feelings and physical reactions might have been in the following situations: 1. When a colleague's husband added me to a group chat. 2. When a high school boy peeped in through the window.

Could you please share what your feelings and body's response were when the male teacher put his hand on your shoulder to teach you how to write? And what were your feelings and body's response when your husband's colleague grabbed your hand while drunk?

Perhaps we could also consider whether we feel particularly uncomfortable in these situations. It might be helpful to think about whether we feel offended for no reason.

It might also be helpful to consider our inner needs when we don't choose to respond immediately when we are offended. If we do respond, it might be useful to think about what we would say.

Perhaps we could consider taking action?

It's important to remember that we can't control what others say or do. We can't expect others to know how to behave, but we can take the initiative to establish our own boundaries and clearly express to others how uncomfortable we feel when we are being offended. If necessary, we can use some warning words and methods.

If this is something that is troubling you, it might be helpful to seek support from someone you trust. This could be a family member, friend, or counselor. Talking to someone can help you work through your feelings and find ways to cope with the challenges you're facing.

It is also important to affirm ourselves and empower ourselves. Sometimes, other people's comments may reflect their inner feelings. Reading and exercising can help you to enrich your life and establish a stable self-evaluation system. You may find that you are confident.

We would like to suggest the book "Where Does Strength Come From?" as a recommended read.

Good day, questioner. My name is Evan, and I am a Feng Shui consultant.

From the description provided by the questioner, it can be inferred that the questioner is highly sensitive to unscrupulous approaches and has thus taken measures to protect himself effectively.

In both their personal and professional lives, women are frequently subjected to a range of unscrupulous tactics, which are often contingent upon their physical attractiveness and perceived vulnerability. These tactics can be seen as a form of psychological testing, designed to assess a woman's resilience and capacity for resistance. In the face of such challenges, it is understandable that the questioner's feelings may be valid. It is crucial to recognize the right of individuals to feel uncomfortable and to take action to safeguard their well-being.

Any behavior that causes the questioner to feel discomfort, whether it is physical or verbal, can be considered harassment.

The occurrence of harassment is not contingent upon the physical appearance or personal charisma of the questioner; rather, it is contingent upon the behavior of the other person. It is a fundamental human right to be treated with respect and to be protected from harm, regardless of one's physical appearance, age, or any other factor. This right extends to all individuals, both in the workplace and in life.

The questioner is entitled to decline any conduct that causes them discomfort or distress, and they are under no obligation to experience feelings of regret or culpability with regard to the actions of others that are deemed inappropriate.

As previously stated, the questioner's colleague's husband attempted to add the questioner to WeChat. The questioner demonstrated sound judgment in declining this invitation. It is important to note that the questioner is under no obligation to add this individual as a friend, particularly if such an action would result in discomfort or potential complications.

It is prudent to maintain a certain distance in such circumstances. The questioner has correctly identified the potential risks associated with this behavior and has taken the sensible decision to avoid any further complications.

It is crucial to maintain personal boundaries and avoid unnecessary proximity, even if the other party does not intend any harm.

In regard to the other incidents the questioner has experienced, whether it was voyeurism in high school, being harassed by a teacher while learning calligraphy, or groping while singing, these behaviors are all disrespectful. The questioner's feelings are reasonable, and the questioner is not making a big deal out of nothing.

In the event that the questioner believes their rights have been infringed upon, it is their prerogative to voice this opinion and take the necessary steps to safeguard their interests. It is entirely reasonable for the questioner to be vigilant and express discontent with violations of personal boundaries.

The act of confiding is not intended to create a significant issue; rather, it is a means of seeking understanding and support. It is imperative that the questioner is provided with the necessary support and respect from those in their immediate vicinity, as ignoring or belittling them is unacceptable.

It is encouraging to note that the questioner has the fortitude to confront these issues and pursue solutions. It is recommended that the questioner persevere in upholding their principles and safeguarding their boundaries.

Concurrently, it is advisable to cultivate closer relationships with individuals who are more dependable and respectful of your values. Such individuals will be more likely to appreciate your values and sentiments.

Furthermore, in the event that analogous circumstances persist and engender feelings of confusion or unease in the questioner, it may be advisable to pursue professional psychological counseling.

Psychological counselors can provide more specific advice and support, which will facilitate the questioner's awareness of whether their typical behavioral patterns have given rise to negative thoughts in others. Additionally, they can assist the questioner in more effectively addressing these issues and enhancing their self-protection and self-awareness.

Furthermore, it is advised that when encountering harassment, the questioner should promptly utilize legal recourse to defend their rights. Any act of weakness or concession may exacerbate the situation, leading the other party to perceive the questioner as vulnerable and susceptible to intimidation. It is imperative for the questioner to remain resolute in defending their rights, and those who seek to test the boundaries of the questioner will likely exercise caution in their actions, weighing the potential consequences of offending them.

In the event of harassment, the questioner is advised to seek assistance from the Women's Federation, which can be done by pursuing the legitimate rights and interests afforded to them by law.

I would like to reiterate that the questioner has the right to safeguard their feelings and dignity, and that they are not alone in this situation. It is my hope that this response will prove helpful to the questioner.

Good day. I am a heart detective coach, and I am privileged to be able to offer you some counsel.

From your lengthy text, it is evident that you are grappling with feelings of insecurity and a sense of being repeatedly victimized.

Furthermore, you have attempted to communicate with others, yet your responses have been disproportionately affected by inconsequential issues.

It is my assessment that you are not making a significant issue of this, yet your overall demeanor may be perceived incorrectly by others. Primarily, there is a prevalent misunderstanding about the dynamics of relationships between men and women. Additionally, it is possible that your aura is not as strong as it could be.

As you stated, you may have experienced a decline in your physical appearance, given your role as a mother and wife. However, you were also attracted to the opposite sex during your high school years, which does not imply that you are susceptible to intimidation. Instead, it suggests that you possess a distinctive charisma that is evident to others.

Therefore, this does not imply that the subject is at fault or engaging in inappropriate behavior. It merely indicates that the subject does not appreciate the discomfort experienced by the object of their attraction.

Indeed, this form of personal charisma can be enhanced through the cultivation of female empowerment, which can facilitate the optimization of one's overall aura and energy. Consequently, the individuals with whom one interacts in the future will be more aligned with one's desired social interactions.

I would therefore like to enquire as to the kind of people you would like to become acquainted with. Do you have any particular preferences?

For example, would you prefer to associate with a group of intelligent individuals, more attractive mature women, career women, or perhaps some good friends like brothers? Do you have a preference regarding these options?

If this is the case, then it is necessary to ensure that the personal aura is aligned with the desired emotional state, taking into account the final decision and the current state of affairs.

Please organize the text and send it to me, and I will assist you in organizing it and planning it in detail.

It can be reasonably assumed that the aforementioned colleague's husband has added you to the WeChat platform, though it is unclear whether this is a business-related group or not.

It is also noteworthy that if the husband in question is a "repeat offender," it is likely due to his proclivity for engaging in conversations with young girls. If he is indeed a "repeat offender," it is plausible that he has selected you as a target.

This does not imply that he selected you exclusively.

Furthermore, during one's high school years, there will inevitably be individuals who are perceived as undesirable. It is possible that this individual may have previously harassed other girls, but this does not necessarily indicate that he has only harassed you.

In considering the nature of interpersonal relationships, it is essential to discern whether the attraction between two individuals is rooted in mutual attraction or whether one party is merely seeking to fulfill a perceived need in another.

Given your apparent benevolence, it would be relatively simple for such individuals to approach you. Consequently, if you wish to avoid further contact with these people, it may be necessary to enhance your energy.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether a change in physical appearance would be advantageous.

For example, if one is currently relatively weak, can one gradually become a strong woman? Is there a specific look one aspires to achieve?

Should this be the case, you are encouraged to organize and send me an email in which you describe the kind of person you aspire to become and the characteristics of your true self. When combined with your position in the workplace and the type of work you do on a daily basis, we will be better positioned to package you in a way that is most effective.

In this manner, the detrimental magnetic fields and individuals in one's vicinity will eventually dissipate.

Moreover, should there be a circle that one wishes to integrate, a method of doing so can be identified.

Thus, one's age can also be regarded as an opportunity for self-awakening and self-creation. To this end, visitors are invited to formulate their queries and suggestions, access the author's personal website, and pose questions. The author will respond to inquiries as comprehensively as possible.

I am eager to hear from you and wish you the utmost success.