I will share everything with others, I'm bursting with a desire to share. What's missing?

It might seem a bit strange to sum up the conclusion in just one sentence, but it's true: you are the one with the real social anxiety.

Hello, question asker. These days, lots of people say they have "social phobia." Most of the time, people are expressing their feelings, which are real, but not as intense as clinical symptoms.

The thing is, when people say they're anxious about social situations, it's not that they can't do it, it's just that they don't enjoy it.

The scariest part about socializing is that it's tough to avoid. People who say they're socially phobic but can easily step away from socializing aren't really socially phobic. They're just social masters. He just doesn't want to be one.

It's true that social phobia is about avoiding situations you find uncomfortable, but you can't control that. It's not that these people have problems with emotional intelligence, but that they can't control their reactions. Everything is like a set program, and once it starts, it's hard to stop.

The questioner's excessive talking and self-disclosure are aimed at the anxiety of the phenomenon of [cold spots] in social interactions. You're using non-stop talking to avoid social pressure. Then, self-disclosure will exacerbate your anxiety, so you can only use more explanations to make up for it... Thus, this forms a vicious cycle.

It's pretty easy to break this cycle. Next time you hit a lull in the conversation, just remind yourself, "I'm not the host," and you'll see an immediate effect.

The above are just my views on the situation of the questioner. Here's some news that I'm not sure is good or bad that I want to share with you, the questioner.

If there's no profit in it, no one's going to care about your privacy.

As you've probably already found out, unless the privacy you've shared is really interesting, no one else will even bother to listen.

So, there's no need to worry about losing face over something that's already been said. Just be careful of scams that use your personal information.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi! I'm a pretty modest and consistent person, just like a valley.

It's so lovely that you want to share your thoughts and feelings with others.

Let's think about this question together: Is it better to share every detail about oneself with the people you have a good rapport with, or do you express every detail about yourself to everyone you know? When you express yourself to the people you trust, it's a sign of trust in the relationship and shows that you have emotional needs. However, if you express every detail about yourself to everyone you know, it might involve privacy issues.

I truly believe that someone who is willing to share is a happy person. They don't have too many complicated thoughts because they have plenty of time to express and share, rather than think. This means that the self-world you construct is a relatively simple, pure world, and you don't think deeply about the kind of impact your expression might have on yourself.

So, there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to share to a certain extent. We just need to be a little more careful at times. Even if we can't decide what to say to whom, we should at least choose who to tell our stories to and focus on the right direction when expressing ourselves.

Language is such a wonderful way to communicate our emotions!

Your thoughtful sharing allows the other person to get to know you better. As you mentioned in your description, will others know all about your shortcomings? Will this give the other person a handle on you?

I'm sure you'll agree that these answers are all positive, which is why I think we should choose a trusting relationship and someone who truly understands us when expressing ourselves.

Language is a great way to communicate emotions. It allows us to see the other person's thoughts and understand their worldview. Similarly, language helps us get to know each other better, which is essential for building a strong relationship. So, as long as we choose the right person to express ourselves to and we're happy in the process, that's all that matters.

It's okay if you're not sure if sharing is good or bad. It just shows that you still love the world, that you still have things to say, and that you are still happy. That's enough. We can just get the balance right for you.

Warmest regards!

Hello, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to send you a 360-degree hug.

From your description, it seems that you are very open and willing to share with others, perhaps to the point where you feel uncomfortable if you don't share everything. This reminds me of a concept called the "onion personality."

I believe there may be a slight misunderstanding. The onion personality I'm referring to is not the same as the original meaning of the onion personality, which is a personality that is highly self-monitoring and, therefore, a personality that is generally perceived as pleasing.

You, on the other hand, are more like an onion, with layers and layers to peel away, only to discover that there is no heart at the end. In other words, you are all outward-facing, with no core of your own, no inner core.

You are more like someone who is eager to connect with others, but it's important to remember that we must first connect with ourselves. Our inner self is like the foundation from which we move forward. Now, your foundation is empty, and it may be that you don't like it, that you feel uncomfortable with it. So you look outward for approval, hoping to trade your self-exposure for the closeness of others. But it doesn't seem to be working, and you yourself want to end this state of affairs, but you can't quite control yourself.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you might benefit from embracing some of the qualities associated with the avocado type of person. This is someone who has a solid core and may not require a significant number of external links to feel comfortable.

Similarly, Andy in "The Shawshank Redemption" was confined to complete darkness for a month. While others anticipated a different outcome, he emerged with a smile, though somewhat worn.

When asked by others how he managed to persevere, he indicated that it was through his own inner strength and resilience.

Indeed, his mind is filled with the music of Mozart, the wisdom of books, and the experiences of solitary confinement. He is able to engage in meaningful dialogue with his inner self.

It might be helpful to consider limiting your sharing with others for the time being. You could try writing down the words you want to share, either to post online or just to read yourself.

As an alternative to sharing with particular individuals, you might consider expressing your desire to share and avoiding discomfort to others by writing. This could potentially lead to a reduction in your own feelings of dissatisfaction.

You might also consider talking to yourself, treating your inner self as a person, and then talking to the other, weaker you, about your life, your feelings, and whether you are happy or not.

You might find it helpful to read the book and talk to the protagonist when you are thinking about sharing with others.

You might find it helpful to read a few books like "Belonging," "Self-Consistency," and "Meeting the Unknown Self." These books can help us learn to look inward and ultimately give us all a sense of resilience and consistency.

I am frequently both Buddhist and depressed, an intermittently optimistic and driven counselor, and I have a deep appreciation for the world and all its wonders.

Comfort the OP from afar.

The questioner's description is as follows:

I share everything with everyone!

I have no privacy when I share like this.

I'm not going to get into trouble if I don't say this.

But is it not good for oneself to talk too much?

I share the daily lives of my designated friends, and it's a repetitive cycle! Is it unwise to contribute your privacy in this way?

Words to the questioner:

We humans have a natural desire to share. When we share and understand each other's thoughts, we build stronger connections and make others feel like they're part of our family.

From what I can tell, the issue may be excessive exposure, but I don't think it's as serious as the questioner thinks.

Another problem is that we don't need to tell others everything when we communicate. When we chat, we choose topics and confidants. This requires the questioner to grasp a degree on their own to avoid being caught with their hand in the cookie jar or revealing too much privacy.

This is the solution.

We can and should chat with friends about things like complaints, for example, your partner, something you want to complain about, or aspects of the relationship you are dissatisfied with.

The topic of conversation can be anything, but the content of the conversation must be controlled. The questioner must gradually hone in on communication.