If it lacks practical value, it is ignored. How to break free from emotional control?

Hello, I'm Strawberry!

From the question and the confession of the original poster, I can understand how hurt and sad you feel. The person she confided in should be someone you care about very much, so in the process of giving, you didn't realize that she was taking advantage of you. But you can get over this!

From what you've told me, it seems like she saw you as a useful person at first and approached you, even making you fall in love with her! She's a formidable character, that's for sure. She can get along with you without developing feelings for you, which is pretty impressive. She has a very good disguise, making it difficult to guard against her.

Once she's used you, she'll move on. She's a bold and daring person, unafraid to go after what she wants. She'll stop at nothing to achieve her goals, and she's not afraid to use any means necessary. She's confident and self-assured, and she's not afraid to make waves.

The character of this girl is shaped by the people and things she encounters during her upbringing. Even if you try your best to save the relationship, she won't change easily because she doesn't want to.

I still can't forget how good she was at first! What should I do?

1. Let go of the good memories!

During this relationship, I'm not sure if the other person has ever invested the slightest bit of emotion, but the questioner obviously invested a lot! You were willing to give because you thought she was great and that having her was your own happiness.

You may have had many good memories! If you keep remembering these memories and holding out hope that you may still get back together, that will only make you more unable to let go of the relationship.

You've come to the end, and that's okay! Give yourself time to accept that she doesn't love you. You know her intentions, and you know what you want. Don't add salt to your wounds. Time will heal you and help you move on from this relationship.

2. Embrace the realization that what attracted you to the other person was an illusion.

The other person approaches you with the intention of getting your help and other values. What attracted you to her in the first place is just an illusion seen by the eyes. But here's the exciting part: her illusion will continue to appear in the next person who can help her achieve her goal!

You've gotten to know her really well, and her behavior has given you a chance to get to know her better sooner. It's a great thing that you've realized this now, before it's too late! You're going to be able to move on from this in no time.

3. Absolutely, you should talk about it!

Because she doesn't want to be treated like this and also thinks about how nice she was before, it makes the questioner even more unable to let go of her. But there's a way out! Try confiding in someone you trust, or you can also try the platform's recent counseling room, where there will be listening therapists and heart explorers. Throw out the "stone" that is blocking inside yourself and see what advice everyone will give you. Look at this issue from someone else's perspective.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner! Best wishes!