If you are on good terms with yourself, what happens when everyone else disapproves?

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

After reading your description, I can see that you have a good relationship with yourself. This is great! When faced with disapproval from others and their dislike, you can accept it calmly. If you feel lonely, it means you still have expectations of others. Our innate pursuit of intimacy can be described as an instinct. This is something we all have. According to Erikson's eight-stage theory of personality development, we need to face the conflict between intimacy and loneliness in early adulthood. If we have difficulty gaining a sense of intimacy, we will feel lonely. You say that you will feel a little lonely and can't bear depression anymore. This is because you have not dealt with this part of the conflict. We can help you see your internal conflicts and find a balance.

I'd love to share some advice with you:

If we understand how the psychological projection effect affects us and make some adjustments to our inner selves, we can embrace more harmonious external relationships.

The projection effect in psychology is a fascinating concept that suggests we often project our feelings, thoughts, and emotions onto other people, believing that they see themselves in the same way we see ourselves. From this perspective, if we truly recognize and like ourselves enough, we'll also feel that other people like and recognize us. Moreover, when something is lacking within us, we'll go out and look for it. If we are internally fulfilled and truly love ourselves enough, we'll find that we don't need the recognition and liking we receive from the outside world to feel fulfilled and loved.

So, if we can develop a good relationship with ourselves, it'll help us feel good about ourselves and think others like and approve of us too! Psychology says we should focus on our own relationships first, accept and understand ourselves, care for and take care of ourselves, and recognize and support ourselves. When we're happy with who we are, we're stronger and can handle the disapproval and dislike of others better.

If we care so much about other people's disapproval and dislike, it might be helpful to take a moment to reflect and realize whether we approve of and like ourselves enough.

2. We all need a secure relationship because we are born with a need for intimacy.

When we're born, we can't speak, walk, or do much else. We need our moms and other caregivers to take care of us and love us. Without them, it's tough for us to survive. Humans are really vulnerable, but we've learned to work together to make it through the centuries. We've become the masters of the earth, but we didn't get here alone. We relied on each other and formed strong relationships. That's a trait in our genes and an instinctive need.

So, even if we're totally comfortable with ourselves, we might still feel a bit lonely and isolated because our inner desire for connection and intimacy can sometimes get in the way. It's totally natural to experience a bit of heartache when we're trying to find balance.

3. Accept yourself and others, learn the right way to communicate, seek supportive relationships, and become the best version of yourself in working with others.

I agree with you wholeheartedly! We absolutely need to have a good enough relationship with ourselves so that we can become self-identifying, self-appreciating, and self-supporting. And when we do that, our inner strength will be filled with love! If we can accept everything about ourselves, accept that we don't have the best relationships right now, and accept all of ourselves, then our hearts will gradually become more and more tolerant of ourselves. And as we do that, we'll also gain more courage and confidence to face the various relationships and challenges in life!

And when we really accept and understand ourselves, it's amazing how it helps us to see the difficulties of others. We can think from their perspective and slowly accept others. And when we really accept others, understand them, and respect them, it's so lovely when they pass on warmth and love to us, giving us more recognition and affection.

This will help you start a positive cycle of interaction with others. You'll feel more warmth and kindness in your relationships, and you won't feel hurt or avoid relationships and interactions with others.

In relationships, communication is really important. We can learn some great non-violent communication methods! When we're talking to someone, it's best to let go of judgment and accusations. Instead, we can just state the facts, express our feelings and needs, and our requests of the other person. At the same time, we should also listen to the other person's feelings, needs, and requests. We don't have to argue about who is right or wrong. Just through communication, we can get to know each other better! I highly recommend reading the books "Nonviolent Communication" and "Crucial Conversations." They'll help you feel at ease in relationships!

At the end of the day, it's so important to choose relationships that make you feel comfortable. Look for people who can give you understanding and support, and avoid those who might negate, undermine, or doubt you. I once wrote two articles on relationships: "What kind of relationship is a healthy relationship?"

I'd also like to mention "Four Steps to Teach You How to Build Good Relationships." If you're interested, you can read them for reference. In addition, I highly recommend that you read Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence" and "The Courage to Be Disliked."

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!

Greetings, question asker.

A careful reading of the short question description suggests that it involves both self-identity and social identity.

I will endeavor to provide an analysis and counsel as follows:

"Getting along well with oneself" represents a form of self-identification.

The situation described by the questioner, "developing a good enough relationship with yourself," can be considered an example of self-identification in psychological terms.

This concept was proposed by American psychologist Erik Erikson. It refers to the fact that an individual possesses a consistent and stable sense of identity about the self.

However, as the original poster described, the individual is confronted with disapproval from all quarters.

Self-identity is not derived from external influences; rather, it is shaped by one's internal values and beliefs.

"Recognition by everyone" can be defined as a form of social identity.

The "situation of being unrecognized and unloved by everyone," as described by the questioner, can also be considered a form of social identity.

It is, at the very least, an approval from someone with whom one is acquainted.

Your friends will categorize you as "unrecognized" and "unloved" based on certain values and emotional needs, and they will exclude you from their social groups.

Accordingly, the aforementioned premise is a logical possibility.

It is essential to accurately ascertain the extent of "good enough."

It is unclear what level or state the "good enough" described by the questioner represents.

However, if one analyzes the situation from the perspective of a high sense of self-identity, it is easy to cause an excessive elevation of the sense of self-identity.

This state of being overinflated can easily result in arrogance and stubbornness. Blind confidence and stubbornness will undoubtedly impede one's ability to consider alternative perspectives, potentially leading to misinformation and flawed judgment.

The scenario postulated by the questioner, in which the individual is unable to endure the situation and finds it untenable to continue living, is not implausible.

The fundamental objective remains the enhancement of one's social identity.

It is recommended that the questioner should, based on a moderate self-identity, still endeavour to enhance their social identity to a certain extent.

It is evident that humans are social creatures. The emotional recognition of family, colleagues, and friends is a fundamental aspect of human existence.

The fulfillment of one's own needs is not a comprehensive solution, and a life that is solely self-focused cannot be sustained over time.

There are numerous methods for improvement. One such method is to begin by enhancing one's relationships within the domestic sphere and refraining from inflicting harm upon those with whom one shares a close bond.

It is imperative to demonstrate respect for colleagues in a professional setting, adhere to the principles of honesty, and fulfill commitments in a reliable and consistent manner.

It is advisable to adopt the perspective of others and to attempt to comprehend their circumstances. With the passage of time, this approach will likely engender respect from others.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove to be of some assistance to you.

Hello, questioner! I'm Jiang 61.

First of all, I want to thank you for trusting us with your question and for thinking it through with us.

You asked, "What happens when you're not recognized by everyone and are not liked, despite being on good terms with yourself?" Let's talk about it.

1. Questions

1. Relationship

You asked, "If we build a solid relationship with ourselves, what happens when we're not recognized or loved by everyone?"

From your first question, it seems like you're thinking about people and relationships.

Let's talk about relationships.

Relationships are about the connections that exist between people, between people and things, and between things and things.

We can think about relationships between people in two different ways: the relationship between a person and the self, and the relationship between a person and others.

The question you asked today is mainly about relationships between people, which is an interpersonal issue. But people also need to connect with things to survive.

? Relationship with oneself

You think I have a good relationship with myself. I love myself, pay attention to my own expectations, and satisfy my own needs. You think that means I'll be fine.

? Attention from others

However, I don't have a good relationship with others. I'm not recognized, accepted, or liked by them. You're wondering if I'll be able to live a good life.

2⃣️, Question

You said, "I can live a self-contained life even though I feel a little lonely. But if I can't bear the depression anymore, will I still be unable to live?"

I'd like to talk about self-coherence, other-coherence, and depression.

Self-consistency

Self-consistency is about following your own logic and being able to prove that you're not contradictory or wrong. It's a simple concept.

Hejia?

Hejia is about whether the logical system in which the theory is located, the logical systems related to the surrounding area, and the deeper logical systems are consistent. This is self-consistency.

Depression

Depression is a negative emotion, which is not the same as clinical depression. It can make a person feel low and listless. Usually, this kind of emotion is short-lived, and it can be restored to a stable state through positive adjustment.

Depression

Depression is a symptom of neurosis, which is a disease caused by overuse of the brain, mental stress, and physical exertion. This can lead to a dysfunction of the body. Symptoms include insomnia, anxiety, hypochondriasis, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, neurasthenia, and nervous vomiting.

Is it self-consistent?

The second question you're asking yourself is whether you can maintain a good relationship with yourself but not with others. These are two different questions.

Self-consistency is a logical problem. It means that the points and arguments you put forward can be logically related, and there will be no contradictions. So it has nothing to do with relationships.

Is there a chance he'll become depressed?

First, depression is simply a state of low mood. This emotional state can be influenced by relationship status.

Secondly, is there a chance that depression could be caused by an unharmonious relationship with others? There's no evidence to suggest that this is the case.

2. Discussion

1⃣️, self-identity

As you can see, your first question is actually about self-identity, even though it seems to be about relationships.

Self-identity

Self-identity, also known as self-recognition, is about having a consistent view of yourself. It's about integrating all the different things that make up your identity, like your current self-image, physical self, social expectations, group identity, experiences, and future hopes. When you have a strong sense of self-identity, it's like having a complete, harmonious, and consistent structure, which is important for personal growth and self-affirmation.

Self-identity includes personal identity and social identity. It's also about self-recognition, and it's the first and most fundamental level.

Individual identity

Personal identity is all about how you think, what you value, and other things that make you who you are. It's the second part of self-identity and it's shaped by how you interact with the world around you.

Social identity

Social identity is mainly about feeling like you belong and are part of a group. It's the second part of your self-identity.

Not having a clear sense of who you are.

The questioner is thinking about what would happen if social identity were lacking, especially the recognition of others, that is, a lack of social identity. I think that inside you would feel like you didn't belong, like you didn't agree with others, like you were ignored by everyone, and you would feel lonely.

2⃣️, Hierarchy of Needs

Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory

Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory says that everyone has these five levels of needs, but the urgency with which they manifest themselves varies. A person's most urgent need is the main reason and motivation for action.

As human needs are met, they change from being satisfied externally to being satisfied internally.

As human needs are met, they move up the hierarchy. Once lower-level needs are satisfied, we move on to higher-level needs, which are: physiological needs, safety needs, emotional needs, respect needs, and self-fulfillment needs.

We're moving on to discuss emotional and respect needs.

Emotional needs

This level of needs includes two aspects: the need for affection and the need for a sense of belonging.

The need for affection

Everyone needs to interact with others and form good emotional relationships. They need to maintain harmonious relationships with peers, colleagues, and loved ones.

They love others and also need to be loved.

The need for a sense of belonging

Everyone needs to feel like they belong, like they're part of a group. They want to care for and look after each other.

If this level of need isn't met, he'll feel lost and helpless. There's no way to talk about the need for respect.

The need for respect

The need for respect is about feeling like you matter. You only get that sense of worth once you've been recognized.

There are two types of respect: internal and external.

Internal respect

Internal respect is about a person wanting to be capable, competent, confident, and independent in different situations. Put simply, it's about a person's self-esteem.

You said that if someone can build a good relationship with themselves, it shows that they're highly motivated and have a strong sense of self-worth. They'll have a lot of self-confidence and respect.

External needs

External respect is about wanting status and authority, as well as being respected, trusted, and highly regarded by others.

The need to be respected can give a person confidence in themselves, enthusiasm for society, and a sense of purpose.

Let's revisit the issue you brought up. When you're not recognized or liked by everyone, or when your external needs aren't met, you're not going to be motivated externally. You won't feel the passion to pursue a sense of value or the enthusiasm to be needed. You need to make some improvements.

3⃣️, depression

Depression is a mood disorder. As we said earlier, there are lots of reasons why someone might be depressed, and it's not directly related to how they interact with others, how they see themselves, or whether their external needs are being met.

There's no need to worry about it.

3. How to change the lack of recognition

From what you've said, it seems like you're struggling with feeling unappreciated by others and are looking for ways to improve this. You might want to try the following suggestions and see if they help.

1. Improve your self-identity.

It seems like you need to work on your social identity. You said that you're not recognized or liked by everyone.

That is, the current lack of social recognition.

Know yourself.

Right now, you need to get a good, honest understanding of who you are, what you like and dislike, what you're good at and what you're not so good at, and accept that you have your flaws.

Learn and improve.

Find out what life is like, learn from them, and get involved in knowledge, social interaction, and behavior to improve your own skills.

Get involved in social activities.

Learn to communicate with others, pay attention to others, respect others, and praise others. Find a close friend with whom you can talk about topics that interest both of you, expand your social circle, gain the approval of others, and receive social support.

Make yourself better.

Don't be afraid of failure. Use what you've learned to study, work, and live your life. Try different ways to improve yourself and find a path that suits your growth. Build confidence and win praise.

2⃣️, meet external needs

You can only know who you are, where you come from, and where you can go once you've perfected your self-identity. Once you understand your abilities and know what you can do, what you accept, and what you provide, with a clear sense of boundaries, you can respond in a timely manner based on your own characteristics, strengths, and preferences to meet external needs.

Get the recognition you deserve and a sense of worth that lasts.

3⃣, Build good relationships with people

Building good relationships is an essential step towards success and ultimately reaching the highest level of the hierarchy of needs – self-actualization. It requires effective communication and emotional self-management.

Building effective relationships

Interpersonal relationships are social relationships that people form in the course of their work or daily lives. These relationships affect people's psychology and create a sense of distance in their minds.

Effective communication

Effective communication is key.

Communication is basically the exchange of information. It's the whole process of sharing a message with someone and hoping for a certain response. If you get what you want, it's effective communication.

Communication includes both verbal and non-verbal messages, with the non-verbal part often being more important than the verbal part. Effective communication is really important when it comes to dealing with interpersonal relationships and complex social relationships at school and work.

Here are the steps to effective communication:

There are four steps to effective communication:

The first thing to do is to express your feelings, not your emotions.

The second step is to express what you want, not what you don't want. Let's say you're angry. Don't say you're angry.

Step 3: State your needs, not your complaints. Don't let the other person guess what you want.

Step 4: Instead of complaining about where you are, express where you want to go. Focus on the end result, not on the event itself.

Let's talk about managing your emotions.

Finally, a few words about emotional management. It's really important to learn how to manage your emotions if you want to handle interpersonal relationships well. Emotional management is:

Next, you need to recognize your emotions.

This is the first step in emotional management. When you have an emotion, recognize what it is, such as anxiety, anger, sadness, etc.

It's important to accept your emotions.

Healthy emotions are in line with the situation. When your feelings match the reality of the situation, you can tell yourself, "This is normal." This is accepting your emotions.

This way of thinking will help you feel less stressed and more in control.

It's important to be able to express your emotions.

When we talk about emotional expression, we're talking about sharing our own emotions. It's all about using "I" and "my feelings" to show how we're feeling.

Cultivating Emotions

Cultivating and practicing emotion management is also key. There are a few ways to do this:

(1) Living a regular life will also help keep your emotions in check.

2) Find something you enjoy doing and use it to boost your mood. Love yourself and love life, and appreciate the beauty around you.

3) Look after others and care for them. Let love fill your heart. Helping others is the best feeling. It's great to help people help themselves.

4) Connecting with nature and taking in the essence of heaven and earth can help open your heart and soothe and stabilize your emotions.

5) Spend time with people who are emotionally stable to help keep your emotions in check.

Questioner, I hope you find this exploration of the problem you raised of facing disapproval from everyone helpful.

I hope the questioner is doing well!

Hello! I totally get where you're coming from. It's totally normal to feel a little unsure about your current personality and to wonder if it's right or wrong to continue like this. This is also the critical period when a sense of autonomy is established! The good news is that if our relationship with ourselves develops well enough, we can maintain our style when faced with disapproval and not being loved by everyone.

That is the stable period!

Now, let's talk about something really important: self-identity. This is the concept of who you are and how you see yourself. It's related to a sense of autonomy, which is your own personal experience. Wang Yangming talked about the unity of knowledge and action, the Buddha talked about liberating all living beings, Taoism talked about the self, and Jesus talked about teaching. All of these great thinkers had something really valuable to say! And the best part is that you can learn from them all. It's a lifelong journey of learning and growth. No matter what period of time it is, you can constantly modify yourself and become the best version of yourself!

Let's dive in and explore this together!

The incredible journey of self-identity begins during our school years. It's a time of rapid growth and development, shaped by our earliest interactions with our loving parents. Our parents' views and evaluations of us become part of our identity, guiding us as we learn to evaluate ourselves.

The educational environment we are exposed to and the social environment we grow up in also have an impact on our further development of a sense of self-identity. It's so exciting to see how we can refresh our original perceptions in the light of others' evaluations, and re-evaluate and re-perceive ourselves!

And the best part is, you can do it all yourself!

A sense of identity is to recognize oneself. And guess what? Through continuous learning, our sense of autonomy is also released and recognized! Even if some things are not recognized by others, we still feel that they are right, such as quarreling with parents during adolescence. This is an expression of this kind of behavior. So, there's absolutely no need to be nervous, worrying that it will affect your circle of friends and your character development.

Our relationship with ourselves is an exciting journey of lifelong learning, awareness, adjustment, acceptance, and constant self-improvement. It's a path to greater stability and a state of inner peace and contentment.

Let's dive in and explore this together!

People are social beings, and the relationships between people are called interpersonal relationships. We all need interpersonal relationships! Existentialism believes that the meaning of human existence is to be happy and healthy, so we should live for ourselves. However, since people are living on the earth, they need to interact with each other. Therefore, we cannot be too self-centered and willful, but should be knowledgeable and reasonable—and we can be!

It's true that everyone is affected by the opinions and judgments of others. But here's the good news: people who get along well with others also need the approval and affection of others. And according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, everyone has social needs (also known as the need for love and belonging) during their growth. So, the quality of our relationships with others directly affects the satisfaction of our personal social needs.

Let's dive in!

When we recognize, accept, and positively view ourselves, love and respect ourselves, and are in a relatively stable state, we will feel more secure and in control in interpersonal relationships. And the best part? We'll be more likely to accept our own inabilities and failures!

If they are not loved and accepted, people with high self-esteem will also feel anger, sadness, and injustice. But here's the good news! No matter what you do or what you think, you cannot satisfy everyone. And that's okay! No one, not even the president or the emperor, can make everyone like them.

Let's dive in!

If we have developed a good relationship with ourselves, we can live a self-sufficient life despite being unappreciated and unloved by everyone. And the best part is, we can remain unaffected and stick to our character!

People with a high sense of self-identity have received respect and recognition in the past, and are also more likely to learn to respect and understand others in relationships, learn to share, and are able to use their own respect and understanding for others to influence others' attitudes towards themselves through reasonable communication and correct feedback.

I've got some great suggestions for you!

1. Cognitive therapy is an amazing concept that shows how our perception of things determines our emotional, behavioral, and physiological responses.

2. When we are not accepted and recognized by others, it's time to think about how we respond! Are our current coping strategies still effective? Absolutely! We can always adjust to more effective and adaptive strategies, which will help us improve our negative emotional experiences and behavioral responses.

3. Distract yourself by doing something else. Don't let depression overwhelm you! Some people feel like they can't go on living, but you can! You can choose to view negative events differently, and you can choose a different result.

Fourth, love yourself well and don't give up easily! Your inner self-identification is relatively stable, and you have the power to trust yourself.

I really hope these suggestions are helpful to you!

Best of luck!

Hello! I'm a heart exploration coach, and I'm here to help. It seems like you're asking about our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with others, and you have some questions about that.

If we have a good relationship with ourselves, we'll be okay even if no one approves of us or loves us. We might feel a little lonely, but we can still live a happy, self-sufficient life. And if we can't bear the depression, we'll find ways to live.

I'd be happy to answer your questions!

1. About our relationship with ourselves

I'd like to mention a concept here that I think is really important: self-identity. This is also known as self-identity. It was first proposed by the American psychologist Erik Erikson. He defined it as "an individual's subjective feeling and experience of their inner consistency and continuity in the past, present, and future."

Our sense of self-identity first takes shape in school, but it really starts to develop in our early years through all the wonderful interactions we have with our parents in our original family. Part of our parents' views and evaluations of us will become part of our own standards for evaluating ourselves.

The educational environment we're exposed to and the social environment we're in as adults also have an impact on the further development of our sense of self-identity. It's so important to remember that we can always refresh our original perceptions in the light of others' evaluations, and re-evaluate and re-perceive ourselves.

Having a good enough relationship with ourselves is a state of relatively high self-identity.

It's so important to remember that our relationship with ourselves requires a lifetime of learning and awareness, adjustment, acceptance, and constant self-improvement to make ourselves more stable and achieve a state of inner peace and contentment.

2. When we feel good about ourselves, it's easier to connect with others.

The questioner is curious about what it would be like to be disowned and unloved in relationships with others if our relationship with ourselves has developed well enough.

We're social beings, and the relationships between us are called interpersonal relationships. We all need these relationships! Existentialism believes that it is in relationships that we find the sense of existence and value that individuals need.

We all feel the effects of what others think and say about us. It's only natural! And everyone needs the love and approval of others to feel good about themselves. Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory says that we all have social needs (also known as the need for love and belonging) as we grow and develop. The quality of our relationships with others directly affects how happy we are with our personal social needs.

Our relationship with ourselves has a big impact on our relationships with others and the world around us. How we see others and the world reflects how our inner world sees ourselves. This is called projection, which means that everyone sees the world and others in their own unique way.

When we recognize, accept, and positively view ourselves, love and respect ourselves, and are in a relatively stable state, we'll feel more secure and in control in our interpersonal relationships. We'll also be more willing to accept our own inabilities and failures, which is a great thing!

In a safe and loving environment, we're more likely to open up to others, seek their love and respect, and offer them the same warmth and kindness in return.

If they don't get the love and acceptance they need, people with high self-esteem will also feel anger, sadness, and injustice. The good news is that they can get over negative emotions more quickly and readjust their state and coping strategies. Because they have the strength within themselves to affirm themselves, they will not easily change their self-identification because of negative external evaluations.

3. Interpersonal relationships have rules, but don't fret!

If we've built a strong, loving relationship with ourselves, and we're able to embrace the reality that not everyone will recognize or love us, can we still thrive on our own, even if it means feeling a little lonely sometimes?

I'd love to know how someone who has developed a good relationship with themselves behaves in their relationships and interacts with others!

There's a golden rule in relationships that I think we can all agree on: "Treat others as you would like them to treat you."

Many folks have used the opposite of the golden rule, "How I treat others, others must treat me."

People with a high sense of self-identity have received respect and approval in the past, which makes them more likely to respect and understand others in relationships. They're also more likely to share, and to influence others' attitudes towards themselves with their own respect and understanding, reasonable communication, and correct feedback.

Cognitive therapy is all about how we see things affecting how we feel, what we do, and even how our bodies react.

It's totally normal to feel like we're not accepted and recognized by others sometimes. It's okay to feel this way! But it's also important to think about how we respond to these feelings. Do we have good coping strategies? Do we adjust in time to more effective and adaptive coping strategies, thereby improving negative emotional experiences and behavioral responses?

Some folks can live a lonely but self-sufficient life, while others can't bear depression, and still others feel like they just can't go on living. We all have different innate qualities, different psychological resilience, and different ways of thinking about negative events, so it's no surprise that we all have different outcomes!

People who get along well with themselves are the kind of folks who don't give up easily. They've got a pretty good grasp on who they are and what they're capable of, so they're confident in their own strength. And if they ever feel like they're lacking in that department, they're not afraid to ask for a little help from others.

It's so important to understand and accept ourselves, and then to work on improving ourselves. We can do this throughout our lives, by being aware of ourselves and reflecting on how we can grow and improve in all kinds of relationships. This helps us adapt to our environment, feel more satisfied with life, and become better at coping with and solving problems. It also helps us upgrade our mental model, which is a fancy way of saying we can learn and grow!

When we were little, our caregivers had a big influence on us. Now that we're grown up, we have to rely on our own hard work to improve ourselves.

Wishing you the very best!

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Hello!

I'm glad you asked this!

I don't know why you asked this.

Has anyone told you that if we have a good relationship with ourselves, we can face others' disapproval or dislike?

What if you imagined being on good terms with yourself?

A problem never exists alone. I'd be happy to go through it with you.

1. Self-relationship is the root of life.

If you have a good relationship with yourself, you will be more harmonious, stable, and consistent.

All psychological problems come from a bad relationship with yourself. You make things hard for yourself and mess with yourself.

We often don't realize we're hurting ourselves.

It's subconscious.

When would we all disapprove of ourselves?

Sometimes, when we feel unloved and unappreciated, it's how we feel.

Like many children, they feel their parents don't love them, but they fail to notice the love.

The story says we ignore our mother's cooking but are moved by a stranger's noodles.

We expect more from our parents.

Self-relationships are not always simple.

Like depression, we turn our anger inward.

How would you say that a person's relationship with themselves is good enough?

Some people hate themselves but don't realize it.

A person who has a good relationship with themselves will have good relationships with others and the outside world.

Because unconditional love and acceptance of oneself is nurturing.

When we are kind to ourselves, we are kind to others.

If not, it can become another hidden war against oneself.

For example, you may think that no one likes you and you may shut yourself off.

2. Social adaptability.

Social adaptability is how a person relates to society. It includes things like communication and how a person fits into society.

Everyone feels unappreciated or misunderstood sometimes.

But no one lives in isolation.

We must connect with others.

Adler said, "All worries are about relationships," and "all happiness is also about relationships."

Interpersonal relationships are important to us.

If we can't get approval from others, we can return to ourselves and sort out our relationship with ourselves first. When we accept ourselves, we will be more rational in our evaluation of others.

When we are at peace with ourselves, we are more likely to be at peace with others and the world.

They don't see that everything in the world isn't black and white.

Some people can live a lonely but self-sufficient life, but others can't bear depression. I don't think these two scenarios exist.

A good relationship with yourself leads to a good relationship with others and happiness.

They'll find everything's changed.

Someone who is self-reliant can seek love when they feel lonely.

He can attract love through his own value and charm. He can also make others pay for him through asking for help, demanding things, and showing weakness.

Even if he can't get what he wants, he can still be happy alone and do what he likes.

3. Self-centeredness.

Some people are self-centered.

They are self-centered and extreme. Their world is black and white.

Self-centered people don't listen to others.

They often have trouble understanding other people and prefer to judge things based on their own views, which can lead to conflicts.

Have a good relationship with yourself. Distinguish between the two.

Just share these.

Read "The Terrific Me" if you're interested.

Best wishes!

Two potential outcomes are possible.

One can be attributed to the prolonged absence of recognition and the recurrent experience of interpersonal rejection. Over time, this can result in the dissolution of one's sense of self-identity and existence, leading to a sense of isolation and incongruence with the social norm. The prolonged absence of interpersonal and relationship nourishment can lead to a depletion of vitality and nutrients in the heart, which can manifest as depression and a sense of collapse. However, the premise of this situation is that all people do not recognize and love the individual in question. However, this premise is essentially unfounded, as one's parents and relatives will always love them, and people usually have friends who are willing to accept them.

One must live a self-consistent life and possess a solid inner core. One must not depend on external feedback, deeply accept oneself, recognize oneself, be true to oneself, express oneself, have a strong inner core, and not be afraid of rejection. This enables one to live comfortably and at ease. The prerequisite for this is that one is indeed very strong within and can be self-reliant.

It would be prudent to abandon the assumption that everyone dislikes and disdains you. Instead, it would be more beneficial to re-examine the reality you encounter. If it is true that many people do not like and dislike you, you can attempt to understand and change, and optimize yourself.

If the reason is perceived to be indirect and passive, with no underlying issue or necessity for modification, then it is possible to maintain one's authentic self, disregard the influence of the group in question, seek out individuals who are aligned with one's values, and then dedicate oneself to self-development and the pursuit of a fulfilling life.

Hello! I'm the skinny donkey of the ancient west.

Maslow said that we all have five basic needs. They are physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs, and self-fulfillment needs, in order from lower to higher. —Quoted from Baidu Encyclopedia

Let's start at the very bottom of the pyramid with the physiological needs. These are the basic things we need to survive, like food, water, air, and shelter. It's only natural that when we're hungry, thirsty, or in need of oxygen, we're not going to be thinking about anything else. Our main motivation at that point is to get food, water, or air. This is something we all experience, and it's perfectly normal.

Safety needs: We all need to feel safe and secure in our lives. This includes feeling physically safe, having a stable life, and being protected from pain, threats, or illness. Until we feel safe, we're only focused on these basic needs. - Quoted from "Baidu Encyclopedia

Social needs are all about the love of friendship, love, and affiliation. Once our basic needs are taken care of, social needs really start to shine!

In Maslow's hierarchy of needs, this level is a distinct level from the previous two. It's so important to meet these needs, as they can affect a person's mental state if they're not met.

- Quoted from Baidu Encyclopedia

Everyone needs to feel respected. It's about feeling like you're accepted for who you really are and that you're capable and competent.

They care about achievement, fame, status, and opportunities for advancement. And it's so important to them that others recognize their talents!

When they get what they need, they not only earn the respect of others, but they also feel confident inside because they are happy with who they are. If these needs aren't met, it can lead to feelings of frustration.

This is a quote from the Baidu Encyclopedia.

Everyone has a need for self-fulfillment. This is about realizing your true potential and becoming the best version of yourself. When you've achieved self-fulfillment, you're able to accept yourself and others.

They're great at solving problems, really aware of themselves, and super good at handling things on their own. They also love having some quiet time to themselves. To make the most of their talents, it's important to have met some of their other needs along the way.

Of course, people who are self-actualized may focus too much on satisfying their highest-level needs, which can mean that they don't pay as much attention to satisfying their lower-level needs. This is something that's been quoted from the "Baidu Encyclopedia."

Maslow's hierarchy of needs tells us that we need to connect with people and increase our sense of self-worth.

My living environment has made me sensitive and inferior since childhood. I've felt isolated from my classmates at times, but I've never felt lonely because of my personality. This can also make it harder to socialize, because it's difficult for a person to feel respected, needed, and fulfilled.

People who are close to you can accept you for who you are and support you in facing your strengths and weaknesses. Let yourself have a strong heart. When you have a firm direction, even if everyone is against it, you can still hold fast to your heart and move in the direction you need to, and you'll be ok!

Take Jack Ma, for instance. He founded Alibaba, and e-commerce has had a big impact on the brick-and-mortar sector. Why? Because the people who started these businesses had their own unique vision and were determined in their hearts. They were so committed to their ideas that no matter how difficult things got, they wouldn't give up easily.

But remember, confidence isn't arrogance. Just because everyone disagrees with you doesn't mean you're wrong. It's okay to have different opinions! You just have to view yourself in the eyes of others in a dialectical way. For example, if everyone disagrees with you smoking and drinking, it may be that you like it, but it's not necessarily good for you.

But someone with a unique vision like Steve Jobs will forge ahead despite opposition. He was a true pioneer!

As the old saying goes, "Use others as a mirror to see your gains and losses." And another old saying goes, "Accept good advice readily and hate evil resolutely."

It's so important to keep an open mind when others have objections to us, whether they're based on goodwill or misunderstanding. And it's also a great idea to take a look at ourselves to see how we can become even better!

It's so important to be aware that blind self-confidence and obstinacy will only make you paranoid, stubborn, and self-righteous. We can learn from the frog sitting in the well, who will never know the vastness of the world.

I'm sure you'll agree that this could mean missing out on some great opportunities for improvement!

We can do this by understanding Maslow's hierarchy of needs and examining our inner selves, so that we can look at our gains and losses, right and wrong, in a dialectical way, and make ourselves better and better, and happier and happier.

Wishing you all the best!

Good morning, my name is Lan Xiao. Thank you for asking your question. I hope my thoughts will be of some assistance.

If we cultivate a positive and constructive relationship with ourselves.

I view this as a process of re-recognition, which leads to a clearer understanding of oneself. This allows for reconciliation with oneself and the formation of close friendships.

What are the consequences of being unrecognized and unloved?

In this regard, I admire Yang Mi. Despite the many negative comments, her stardom can be said to have come from her own path. As she has stated:

"There is a shadow under your feet only because you are facing the sun. I believe that everyone is a resource that you have borrowed from a limited supply.

It would be prudent to express gratitude to those who seek to discredit you and bide your time until the opportune moment arises. I am of the opinion that these issues will not become a significant part of your life.

It is important to remember that these comments are not the be-all and end-all. It is crucial to ensure that you are fully aware of your actions and their consequences. If someone has identified an area for improvement in your work, it is essential to address it promptly and effectively. There is no shame in admitting mistakes and taking steps to correct them. Some missteps are not as detrimental as they seem if you learn from them. I believe this is a mindset that I developed over time. Failure is a common occurrence in my professional life. It is just a phase in my career, but it should not become a barrier to my growth and development.

In the event of disapproval or a lack of affection, I no longer respond reflexively but rather adopt a dialectical approach.

If another party's proposal is logical, I will consider it. If it is not, I will maintain my own position.

In essence, it is advisable to conduct oneself in a manner that is consistent with one's true self, without any reservations.

Best regards,

It is a fundamental human need to be recognized by others, and self-recognition is a crucial aspect of navigating external reactions.

The concepts of the self and the other are, in a conceptual sense, opposites that are inextricably linked and coexist symbiotically. The self cannot exist or be needed without the other, and a world without others would render the concept of the self unnecessary and without application. Conversely, a world with only the self would be meaningless.

Therefore, the notion of an entirely isolated individual is untenable. The fundamental tenet of survival is the ability to coexist within a social context.

It can be argued that the definition of the self provides clarity regarding the external world, and that what is denied is made precious by recognition. When the self is denied by others, self-recognition becomes a fundamental basis for existence and continuation, providing strength and a foothold to resist external pressure.

However, it is also evident that the approval of others is a fundamental need for all individuals. This naturally leads to the question of whether self-approval is sufficient to bear the burden of being rejected by everyone.

When faced with disapproval from all quarters, it is only natural to question the reasons and basis for one's persistence. In such circumstances, it is inevitable that one will compare the difference between gain and loss. When one is prepared to stick to one's own opinions, it may not be too difficult to face pressure, because one is in possession of a clear and well-defined set of values, which serve to inform one's actions.

A self that is not recognized by others does not necessarily result from a self that is not recognized. It may be possible to achieve a state in which one can enjoy the benefits of both.

It is a commonly held belief that all individuals originate from a common source, whether physically or mentally. It is challenging to assert that an individual is wholly unique, let alone that they are inherently incompatible with others and a rebel against societal norms. However, a specific maverick may conceal aspects of their identity that are similar to other individuals, such as being flamboyant and assertive or living apart from the mainstream. Alternatively, they may exhibit a fundamental divergence in values from others, which may result in a sense of distance from others, such as selfishness or superiority.

Indeed, individuals typically attempt to avoid or reconcile the conflict between their own perspectives and those of others, whether in verbal communication, actions, or ideas. However, there is currently no effective method for doing so.

It is evident that this is also the consequence of distress and significant expense. Such absolute opposition is not a situation that is inherently instigated and is frequently a passive or involuntary process. The two are not a contradiction of choosing one or the other. Self-acceptance does not necessarily result in "the disapproval of everyone." What is disapproved of is merely more specific words, actions, or concepts. Self-acceptance can be entirely accompanied by others' approval and approval.

There are occasions when one can defy the crowd with a cold stare and stand alone against the world. There are also times when one can stand alone against the world. However, more often than not, disapproval manifests in the form of more specific words and actions. Consequently, one is compelled to inquire as to why one is not being approved.

One might inquire as to the specific nature of the disapproval. Alternatively, one might engage in introspection regarding the value of the action in question.

Or is there a complete contradiction of necessity? Is there a way to improve the coordination?

Perhaps an agreement could be reached that such absoluteness is unnecessary.

It is my sincere hope that you will find happiness.

Hug!

If you have a good relationship with yourself, you probably don't care what others think.

If you have a good relationship with yourself, you can still get approval from most people.

You can't be liked by everyone. Even if you were a yuan, you wouldn't be liked by everyone. Some people may think money is worthless.

The title is contradictory.

If this is the state of a person, then their relationship with themselves is not good.

A person who is able to reconcile with himself is flexible. He can enjoy solitude and integrate into groups. He may even be able to speak to people and to ghosts.

In Zeng Qifeng's book, he says mental health is about fitting in. To be mentally healthy, you have to be happy with yourself. Then you can be happy with others and with society.

What is a good relationship with oneself? Ferrum explains this well in the book For One's Own People.

It's about being mentally developed, pursuing happiness, and living for yourself. You can love unconditionally and conditionally, have the ability to love, have a certain level of morality and ethics, and become a better version of yourself. You can read the book, and Yixinli has an interpretation of it.

To develop these abilities, talk to yourself and grow in your relationships.

You can talk to yourself in three ways: impulsively, rationally, and morally. Freud said this in his book, "The Three Dimensions of Dialogue with Yourself." It's about integrating the three parts of our personality: the id, the ego, and the superego. You can read this book.

Growing in a relationship means defining ourselves and showing our value. Even the loneliest person has a relationship with others. This is not with a specific person, but with a professional role.

Growing in relationships is about learning to love, give, be responsible, respect, care, manage relationships, and become a better self in a beautiful relationship.

For more on intimate relationships, read Intimate Relationships by Roland Miller.

Talk to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who is Buddhist and depressed, but sometimes positive.

Hello, landlord! I hope my discussion will give you some inspiration after reading your description.

We just need to do our best, and that's all we can do! Others' disapproval won't affect our own development. We all understand one simple truth: different people will have different answers to the same question. Everyone thinks their answer is the only one, and they all think the other person's answer is unreasonable.

When we do another multiple-choice question, the question always asks us to describe the problem in our own words. But when we look at the answer, we see that it says, "Just make sense." This is actually a great way of showing us that there is no single correct answer. As long as we can get to the point, we will get the corresponding score!

This is actually how life works, too! We can only enjoy the sweet rewards of happy surprises if we do our best.

As long as we're doing what we think is right, we'll see some pretty amazing things! Don't get stuck looking back at yesterday — keep moving forward! There might even be better things waiting for us to explore and enjoy.

As we continue on this journey, we'll find that our horizons expand and our knowledge grows. Along the way, we'll meet all kinds of people, and they'll all play a part in our destiny. No matter what challenges we face, we can trust that they'll help us grow. Even the toughest difficulties can become stepping stones if we look at them that way.

It's totally normal that what we do isn't always recognized by others. They see the process of your hard work, not the results.

It's so important to remember that other people's disapproval is just a stepping stone. Let them know that their disapproval is only superficial.

Just as when Ma Huateng established QQ, many people didn't think highly of him. At a meeting, he almost sold it to Zhang Ruimin of Haier, but he hesitated. After all his hard work, and despite others' lack of understanding and optimism, he eventually built the powerful Tencent empire!

As long as we do what we think is right and stick to our beliefs, the road ahead might be a little rocky and full of people who don't understand or approve of what we're doing.

This kind of disapproval can shake or confuse us, but it's important to remember that it might be an opportunity, and that by persevering, we can reach the other side of success.

It's also important to remember that other people's disapproval is something you should reflect on every day. You can turn this disapproval into something that others envy through your own hard work. The road to becoming a leader is bumpy, but if you can overcome this hurdle, you'll be on your way!

There will be more setbacks on the road ahead, but don't worry! As long as you maintain an optimistic spirit and believe in the power of time, all suffering will pass, the sun will rise in the east as usual, and you should not give up because of temporary difficulties or stop because of temporary failures. Just hang in there, and you will see that the road ahead is full of light!

I really hope this is helpful for you!

Hello, I'm Evan.

You seem confused about relationships. It seems like you don't have good relationships with others and don't want to be in a relationship. I don't know why you're resistant to relationships.

The questioner may have had too many bad experiences or been hurt too much, causing them to avoid or isolate themselves from relationships.

Maybe at first, the questioner also wanted human relationships, but after being hurt a lot, the questioner felt disappointed and stopped trying. We live in a world full of people. If the questioner is still living in the city, it seems that they cannot make new connections to make their lives better.

The questioner has strong ideas about relationships and is determined to live alone. Many people cannot do this. It is not easy for the questioner to like himself and live alone, but he is mentally prepared for this.

Depression is when we dwell on the past and feel stuck. Many people who get along well with others don't suffer from depression. If being alone makes the questioner happier, it's unlikely they'll suffer from depression.

For introverts, interacting with others is hard. They need time alone to recharge. Extroverts can gain energy from interacting with others.

The questioner didn't describe his views on relationships, so I can't discuss his situation. I can only give him simple advice on how to live comfortably alone:

Think about living alone.

If you want to live alone, think about the problems you might have. Think about what you will face and how you should deal with them.

Learn to face your emotions, think about what you do, and accept the results. Be ready to think about what you do so you don't get upset.

It doesn't matter if you choose to live alone or not. Either way, it's important.

Take care of yourself.

People live in a society, and it's not easy to live alone. This requires the questioner to make great efforts. I wonder if the questioner is prepared for this.

If you live alone, you have to learn to take care of yourself. Enjoy your independence, but don't forget to cook, clean, and make your room comfortable. And don't let yourself become disconnected from the outside world.

We live in this world, not in isolation. Just because we live alone doesn't mean we should ignore everything else. I wonder what the OP thinks of this suggestion?

Know yourself.

If you live alone and don't socialize, you'll have a lot of free time. Use it to get to know yourself or do something you're interested in.

You will get to know yourself and think about your future.

Does the questioner feel lonely in an empty room? What makes the questioner feel lonely? How does the questioner fight loneliness?

Is it cleaning your room, or is it finding ways to feel fulfilled? If you want to communicate with others, how would you respond?

Get a pet.

If the questioner feels socializing will be too difficult, they can try adopting a pet. Having things in the room can help the questioner feel less lonely.

Living alone can be stressful. Pets can help relieve stress.

Pets help people build relationships. They need to be fed, walked, and cared for. This can help people reconnect with others.

Pets can also make a lonely life healthier and happier.

Talk to a psychologist.

Talk to a psychologist about your thoughts on living alone.

Maybe they can change their views on relationships or living alone.

I hope this helps.

Hello, question asker.

I am a healer, and I will give you a hug. If you are happy with yourself, you will be fine when others disapprove.

We are all self-deprecating, but we just need a little confidence. Encouragement and praise allow us to grow from small achievements. Treating others and yourself well is a form of happiness. As long as you can get along with yourself, your heart will be full.

If we love ourselves, it's okay to let others disapprove. Find what you want, and don't worry about what others think. People aren't always good, and relationships aren't always easy. It's enough to have a clear conscience.

You can live a self-contained life, even though it can be lonely. But if you can't bear the depression, you won't be able to go on living. We all have problems. Don't care too much about what other people think. This is a way of life, whether you are lonely or not. When you are willing to go out into the world, the world is yours. If you don't want to go out, the world will still be yours. Depression is the body's reaction to something we cannot bear mentally. When the pressure exceeds the threshold, you will feel nervous, anxious, scared, or even manic. All of these are the stress that our actions cause in response to the objective environment. I have a few suggestions for you to consider:

1. To be a good person, you must first adjust your inner self. Stress relief is an outlet for emotional release. While diverting attention, let go of mental burdens and face reality bravely.

2. Everyone gets criticized and everyone talks about others. We can't control that, but we can control ourselves. Don't take things too seriously.

3. Make friends, talk about life, set goals, and complete them to achieve small victories.

4. Go outside, open your heart, and let things be simple. Then good things will happen.

5. These suggestions are just ideas. The world is connected to you and me. Best wishes!

Good day, inquirer.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a state of inner confusion. Could you please elaborate on the circumstances that led to this confusion and prompted you to seek answers to the aforementioned question?

As you have described it, if our relationship with ourselves develops sufficiently, what happens when we encounter a situation in which we are not approved of or loved by others? Can we live a self-consistent life despite experiencing loneliness, or will we not be able to cope with the depression and will not be able to live anymore?

All relationships are with the self. When the self-relationship is sufficiently developed, the individual will exhibit a high degree of emotional stability when confronted with disapproval and dislike from others. The individual will not be unduly influenced by the emotions of others but will instead focus on their own emotional well-being and pursue their own goals.

When an individual exhibits a high level of self-acceptance and self-compassion, it is indicative of a profound sense of inner strength. This inner strength enables the individual to withstand external pressures and challenges without succumbing to feelings of despair or negative thoughts.

When individuals achieve a state of self-acceptance and self-compassion, they become their own greatest source of support. When faced with challenges, they are better equipped to confront them with courage and resilience. They cultivate a profound sense of self-assurance, perceive life as a source of joy, and interact with others with confidence and positivity.

It is unclear why this confusion was raised. By raising the question, the inquirer indicates that the issue has a certain impact on their emotional state and a desire to understand the answer.

It would be beneficial to gain an understanding of the underlying causes of this confusion. Once this has been achieved, it would be helpful to determine the type of response that would be most beneficial.

In order to navigate life successfully, it is essential to develop a sense of self-awareness and self-acceptance. When we have a clear understanding of our own identity and strengths, we are better equipped to love and value ourselves, which in turn allows us to interact more positively with others, society, and ourselves.

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you regarding a query I have regarding your recent work. I would be grateful if you could provide me with further information on

You have a thoughtful approach to problem-solving. Your perspective aligns with self-psychology and humanistic psychology, which is noteworthy. I recently came across a relevant passage in the book "Helping Skills" that might address your question.

[Personality Development Theory]

Rogers posits that infants evaluate every experience based on their own feelings, which he terms the "organism evaluation process." In contrast to adults, babies evaluate things based on how they really feel, not on external cues.

The organismic evaluation process is an internal guide that everyone is born with, which leads people towards self-realization. When people trust this internal guide, they are free to explore experiences that are beneficial to the organism.

The organismic evaluation process is defined as the actual experience plus the self-concept, which is a fully functional human being.

In addition to having an organismic evaluation process, children also have a need for unconditional positive attention. They need to be accepted, respected, warm, and lovingly valued. When children feel valued, accepted, and understood by others (usually parents or caregivers), they begin to experience self-love and self-acceptance and develop a good sense of self with little internal conflict (which is what you mean by having a good enough relationship with yourself to be self-consistent).

In order to gain their parents' love, children often sacrifice their own spontaneous, playful state in favour of sitting "appropriately" and "well." This is based on the need for love, whereby value conditions rather than the organism's evaluation process become the guide for children in organizing their experiences. When a child internalizes the value conditions of their parents, these conditions become part of their self-concept.

The presence of a greater number of value conditions will result in a greater distortion of one's own true experiences. This is due to the efforts made to cater to others' value conditions and please others in order to gain their approval and affection.

The body evaluation process comprises the actual experience and the self-concept, which is the internalization of value conditions. When there is inconsistency, a negative self-image, low self-esteem, untruthfulness, anxiety, depression, or maladaptive behavior, it is an indication that the value conditions have been internalized into the self-concept.

Your logic is therefore entirely sound. A good relationship with yourself entails respecting your genuine feelings, eliminating external influences that do not belong to you, becoming a person who fully utilizes their skills, and avoiding depression, anxiety, and maladaptive behaviors.

It is important to note that loneliness and being lonely are not the same.

It seems that, although the questioner has considered this matter carefully, they are still concerned about losing the relationship that provides them with the necessary conditions for continued growth and development. This is to say that they are anxious about the prospect of separation and the potential challenges that may arise as a result. However, this is not the case. The "everyone" that you mentioned may simply represent the individuals within your comfort zone, and they do not necessarily reflect the views of the wider world, particularly those on the Yi Xinli platform, or indeed my own perspective.

Rogers highlighted the necessity for individuals to recognize the discrepancies between their actual and ideal selves in order to overcome the separation and rigidity that often arise. This requires an awareness of the distortions and denials that may occur and the ability to perceive them accurately. To achieve reintegration, individuals must

Eliminate conditions of worthiness.

Receiving unconditional positive attention from others has been shown to positively impact an individual's self-evaluation.

The world is not full of opposing voices. There are many ways to help you get the unconditional positive attention you lacked in the past, and that is through a therapeutic relationship.

The combination of real experience and self-concept (formed after being influenced by value conditions) with a therapeutic relationship (based on empathy and unconditional positive attention, sincerity, and acceptance of the therapist/helper) allows for the formation of a new self-concept and the development of a fully functional person.

You are not alone. What you hear is not always opposition. On the Yixin platform, you will often hear, "The world and I love you." When you ask a question, many people will already have provided an answer. This is a therapeutic relationship, not an adversarial one.

My name is Zhang Huili, and I am a therapist who specializes in working with individuals to improve their self-esteem and emotional well-being. I am also dedicated to becoming a healer myself, and I am grateful for the feedback I receive from the people I help in the process. This is a warm and loving process. I hope my answers can help you, and I look forward to hearing your feedback.

Hello, host! I have a question, too. When I'm on good terms with myself and I'm faced with disapproval and dislike from others, my emotions may fluctuate a little. Sometimes I may even feel a little lonely, thinking that they don't appreciate the good in me. But I won't be too affected. I can still live a good life with self-confidence and optimism! I'm confident, I have a clear conscience, and I have my own inner spiritual world. When my heart is strong, the opinions and comments of others are not so important to me, especially those who don't want to do anything. We can simply ask them to leave our world.

Of course, we all have different things that we need to work through. I'm not sure who you mean by "everyone."

Everyone is vulnerable at times, and there's no such thing as a perfect person in this world. If, at your most vulnerable moment, the people you trust most or your family don't approve of you or love you, you're going to feel sad, and that's okay!

But on the other hand, I will take a deep breath and think about it. What could be the reason, what happened, that makes me feel that everyone disapproves of me and dislikes me? Is it my own fault, or is it the fault of others, or is it just an illusion in our own minds?

We all have our own special qualities and characteristics, and we're all wonderfully unique individuals. Even the most amazing people can't be loved by everyone. As long as we do our best, try to stay happy and positive every day, appreciate the gift of life our parents gave us, and greet each day with a smile, we'll definitely be able to enjoy the rewards and meet the best version of ourselves!

Hello, my name is Zeyu.

"If I have a good enough relationship with myself, what will happen when I face disapproval from everyone?" When we have a good enough relationship with ourselves, we will have the confidence to face disapproval from everyone and believe that we can deal with the problems at hand.

"If we develop a good enough relationship with ourselves, what happens when we face a situation where no one approves of us and no one loves us?" When faced with a situation where we are not approved of and not loved, it is natural for our instinctive human reaction to be one of feeling left out and isolated. We may feel anxious and uneasy inside, full of uncertainty and feelings of self-doubt.

If we can develop a good enough relationship with ourselves, we will still experience these things and even feel sad, but we will not doubt or deny ourselves. We will not deny ourselves completely, but we will also avoid extreme thoughts, such as being arbitrary and paranoid. We will recognize that we are not wrong, that the whole world is not wrong, and that if we are not liked, it is not our fault but the fault of the world.

When we develop a good enough relationship with ourselves, we can face our own strengths and weaknesses and face reality with an open mind. We can allow others not to like or approve of us, and this dislike or disapproval is not directed at us personally, but at a certain part of our own personality. When our relationship with ourselves has developed well enough, we may still feel lonely and isolated, and we may still long for the love and acceptance of others. At the same time, we may also have a need for social interaction. Although we are born alone, human beings are by nature social animals.

While there are examples of depression or the inability to live, these are generally extreme cases. In most cases, if we can develop a good enough relationship with ourselves, we will follow our nature to develop interpersonal relationships and social circles, and we will be able to integrate into them like a fish in water.

Could our relationship with ourselves be developed further? Perhaps we could learn to accept the real self, allow ourselves to make mistakes, accept that others may not like us or approve of us, gain a better understanding and knowledge of ourselves, and know what kind of person we are and what our needs and expectations are.

Additionally, we can enhance our emotional resilience and more readily accept ourselves by bolstering our courage and confidence in navigating challenges. For further insight on this topic, I would suggest reading the books "Unconditional Acceptance of Yourself," "Knowing Yourself and Accepting Yourself," and "The Power of the Present Moment." If you feel so inclined, you might also consider exploring mindfulness meditation and professional psychological counseling as potential avenues for support.

I hope this article will be of some help and inspiration to the questioner. It is my sincere wish that the questioner will be able to find a satisfactory answer to resolve the confusion they are facing.

You've already done a great job of working on yourself and your relationships. Now it's time to focus on how you interact with others.

1. The relationship between oneself and oneself

I have a question. You say that you handle your relationship with yourself very well, which means that you accept yourself unconditionally and like yourself no matter what state you are in. But you also have a new question: when others don't approve of you, how do you view and accept yourself?

You have fallen into a new conflict and dilemma.

Examine yourself and your relationship with yourself.

2. The relationship between oneself and others

When we accept ourselves, we will always hear doubt from the outside world. We must distinguish between this doubt. Some of it is the negative impact we have on others, and the other person will tell us how they feel. We must establish interpersonal interactions with others and negotiate naturally. We must also accept that others have expectations of us. We will try to do things we can't do to meet the expectations of the outside world. When we can't meet these expectations, we will be criticized. This criticism is often directed at the expectations of our parents and partners.

I prefer mutual satisfaction and the feeling that we care about each other in my interpersonal interactions. When we influence others and they give us feedback, we make timely adjustments so that we become more open-minded and accept the outside world with greater depth.

We must also allow others to have a relationship with us that is different from ours with tolerance and love.

3. Your question is about establishing interpersonal relationships and obtaining your needs in the relationship.

You need to do some of this on your own, and you also need to build relationships. It's clear from your description that you want a relationship, but you don't know how to make it happen.

Your next homework is to identify the interpersonal relationship issues that affect you. I am ready to walk with you into yourself and others.

Hello, I'm June, and I'm so excited to get started!

From your description, I can tell that you're having some difficulties in your relationships. When you encounter conflict, you don't express your anger to the outside world, but instead turn the aggression inward. You're using your strong superego to demand that you have the ability to "be at peace" with yourself and the ability to be alone, which is great!

If we develop a good enough relationship with ourselves, just think of what we can do when we face a situation where no one recognizes us or loves us!

1. A person who has developed a strong sense of self should have had a happy upbringing, a secure attachment relationship, a clear understanding of their abilities, and a good grasp on the order and rules of the world.

2. When a person feels good about themselves, they are usually able to deal with conflicts appropriately in interpersonal interactions, and have a clearer sense of morality and boundaries. This is great! They will not excessively infringe on others, causing others to dislike them. They will also not easily allow others to infringe on themselves. When they are misunderstood or humiliated, they will dare to express their emotions.

Absolutely! Some people may feel lonely, but they can still lead a self-sufficient life. But if they can't bear the depression anymore, they can absolutely still live!

People absolutely need social interaction! If a person is misunderstood, rejected, and isolated for a long time, these emotions will gradually accumulate, and one day they will become so overwhelming that they will lead to depression.

Everyone has a past, and it's made them who they are today! Someone who lives such a lonely and desolate life must have experienced a lot of trauma. But the fact that they have survived so many traumas shows that there is a lot of strength within them!

Absolutely! With the help of a counselor, you can explore where you are stuck and sort out your emotions. You can establish a new interpersonal model!

I'm so excited to share this with you! It's just a reference, but I really hope it helps. Wishing you all the best!