If you can't handle relationships well, why do you feel unhappy wherever you work?

Greetings! I extend to you a warm embrace from a distance.

I am gratified to have read your request for assistance and hope that my contribution will prove beneficial to you.

From your description, it is evident that you experience feelings of inferiority, lack of self-confidence, and a lack of self-acceptance. It is apparent that you are not fully aware of these aspects of your inner self.

Our relationships with others are a reflection of our relationship with our inner selves. When there is a lack of self-acceptance and a tendency towards harshness and non-acceptance towards one's inner self, and there is a lack of awareness of this aspect of oneself, there is a tendency to project this aspect of the self outward onto others, with the assumption that others will not accept one's true self either.

As a result of an innate self-protective mechanism, individuals may unconsciously disengage from relationships in order to avoid experiencing the pain associated with rejection, disinterest, or rejection in a relationship. What are your thoughts on this phenomenon?

It is crucial to develop the capacity to care for and take care of oneself in the workplace. Work is not the sole determinant of one's identity; it is a means to an end. Allocating 3 to 5 minutes daily for introspection is an effective method for connecting with one's inner self and maintaining awareness of one's physical and mental state.

It is recommended that individuals cultivate interests and passions outside of their professional lives. This can enhance their overall contentment and fulfillment, while also increasing their control over their lives. Concurrently, it is advised that they work assiduously to enhance their professional abilities, thereby becoming irreplaceable in their respective fields.

This will also result in an increase in self-confidence and a sense of control.

It is similarly crucial to learn to accept oneself more fully, to develop self-confidence, and to enhance one's sense of self-worth. Only when one can accept oneself entirely, believe oneself to be good enough, and deserve to be treated well by oneself and others can one strive to be true to oneself in relationships and not concern oneself with the attitudes and evaluations of others, because one is certain of one's identity.

It is this author's recommendation that the reader peruse the text entitled "How to Overcome Social Anxiety."

My name is Lily, and I am a regular listener of the Q&A Pavilion. I have a profound appreciation for the world and for the people in it.

That's a great question!

Interpersonal relationships are a whole other topic, and they can be tricky to navigate. It's not just the questioner who might find them challenging. Our understanding and approach to interpersonal relationships can shift and evolve at different times and stages in our lives. So, don't be too hard on yourself if you're facing some hurdles. In fact, most people will have this kind of experience at some point.

It can feel like finding a job is really tough, especially in the past two years. It's clear that the person asking the question is capable of landing a great job that pays well. Even under high pressure, they can handle it. Is there anything else going on that might be affecting things?

The first job required special attention to detail, and the questioner herself also maintained a constant state of alertness to avoid mistakes. There was no problem with her abilities, but in terms of interpersonal relationships, she had nothing in common with her colleagues, and felt that she was an outsider, which troubled her. I wonder if this was the reason you left the company?

The second job might not have the same level of prestige, but you said you're still learning the ropes and could really benefit from some guidance. It's clear that your manager and other colleagues at this job are genuinely invested in your growth. This also suggests that your interpersonal skills have taken a leap forward. You might want to reflect on why this is. Is it because the people around you are different, or have you made some personal changes? Either way, give yourself some time to adjust to the role. Take it slow and enjoy the journey!

It's totally normal to meet someone at work who's super easy to get along with and everyone loves them. You've got this! It's more important to think about how you can protect yourself than whether you can understand them or whether they've already seen through you. Try to put some distance between you. You might see something in them that you can learn from. I get it, it's about relationships. Pay attention to this area and see what you can learn from it.

Don't be in a hurry to dismiss your ability to handle interpersonal relationships. The workplace is indeed different from school, and you need to experience and accumulate. Don't worry, just observe and discover more. When dealing with interpersonal relationships, you can first think about how to make yourself comfortable and relaxed, and the surrounding environment will naturally become harmonious.

And it's not that if you don't like to talk, you can't handle interpersonal relationships. You just need to figure out a way of doing things that suits you, and I'm here to help you with that!

I really hope my answer is helpful to you, so please keep up the great work!

The solution is straightforward: identify a profession that aligns with your abilities and preferences. Avoid pursuing a role that requires significant adaptation merely to receive a high salary.

In the context of work, it is essential to recognize a fundamental truth: when one accepts remuneration from others, one must also accept their opinions. This is the nature of the workplace.

It is important to recognize that every situation has two sides. If this salary addresses your financial needs, it is essential to approach it with gratitude. If your objective is to receive compensation without experiencing mistreatment, there are alternative options, such as the demanding, high-frequency work at the National Institute of the Arts.

It is important to recognize that work is not the entirety of one's life. Learning to interact effectively with colleagues is a crucial aspect of the professional realm. The term "loyalty" is particularly pertinent in this context.

This necessitates the ability to empathize with others by placing oneself in their position. If one can perceive the positive qualities of others with the perspective of an angelic being,

Subsequently, integration into the group will occur organically. It is imperative to refrain from judging others, as this is a dualistic mode of thinking that originates from the ego and is an unconscious behavior.

It is evident that the contemporary workplace is replete with complexities, characterised by a multitude of competitive behaviours. It is therefore prudent to commence one's career in a relatively straightforward role within a straightforward work environment.

It is advisable to pursue work that aligns with one's interests. Initially, many positions may be met with reluctance, but with time and proficiency, they can foster a sense of satisfaction.

The key factor is one's attitude.

If one is employed as a dishwasher, one might posit that the act of washing dishes can serve as a cathartic release for inner pressure. This is, in fact, a commendable position to hold.

The act of washing dishes has the potential to positively impact the health of tableware for all individuals. This is a meaningful act that can contribute to a healthier society.

In your professional endeavors, it is imperative to cultivate an altruistic mindset imbued with universal love. Those who succeed in doing so will find themselves well-received in all spheres. This is because altruistic individuals are perceived as virtuous.

An individual with a virtuous aura is unlikely to be rejected.