Hello, I'm happy to answer your question. I hope my suggestions help.
You and your boyfriend don't have any problems. You just have different ideas about social interactions.
We can't judge whether someone is acting green tea. Men can't tell when a woman is acting green tea, and women can't tell when a man is acting green tea.
It's a physiological and gender characteristic. As girls, we know where our abilities lie. Once we break through this, we can see it's abnormal.
But we don't know what normal behavior for boys is, so we don't know when something is abnormal.
Boys don't know what girls are like. When girls act differently, they don't know if it's normal or not.
If someone asks for help, we help them.
Boys are dominant, while girls are weak. It's natural to think that if a girl can't open a bottle cap, someone should help her.
From a girl's perspective, we compare girls to elementary school students. When an elementary school student says, "Sister, I can't open this bottle cap. Can you help me?" we question whether the child is being lazy or really can't open it and needs help.
From a boy's perspective, girls are vulnerable and not as strong as boys. So a boy will help them when he can.
Our boyfriend can't tell the difference either. We haven't encountered male green tea in our daily lives yet.
Secondly, we have to deal with it and not let it become an emotional issue. We can't tell the difference between normal and green tea behavior. We can even turn it into a funny thing to ease the relationship.
If we make a conflict emotional, we become those green tea people.
Green tea creates misunderstandings, unhappiness, and even breakups between couples. This gives people a chance to move up or show how kind, generous, and considerate they are.
If we're unkind, it confirms their approach.
We need to be more reasonable and gentle to help our boyfriend understand why we think that girl is a green tea.
For example, we can ask friends of the opposite sex or friends of the boyfriend who have a good relationship with us to help us. We can ask the boyfriend's friend, "Is my boyfriend in a bad mood lately?"
We can use tricks to get my boyfriend to ask if he'd feel uncomfortable.
Will he see this as normal or a boundary issue?
We can tell our boyfriend that we're here to help. If she needs help, we can help her. For example, if she needs to open a bottle cap, she can come to me. If I can't open it, I can come to you and you can open it.
If the girl goes to my boyfriend, that's the problem. He's crossed the line between male and female socializing.
I went to chat with my boyfriend's male friends without even thinking about my boyfriend. This made people feel uncomfortable.
The problem is that we and our boyfriends are good people. We wouldn't turn away from a girl in need or ignore his ex when she's in trouble. It's how things are handled that causes problems.
We just need to communicate and find a way to handle things that is more acceptable to ourselves and our boyfriends.
It all comes down to the essence of the problem.
The problem is that there's a girl.
This girl seemed strange at first, but then I realized she was not a green tea. She may not be common or normal in some ways. We can't say if her life is bad just because we don't know her.
I don't understand how a girl can want all the opposite sex at once. It's not that I like A, so I'd break up with their girlfriend and date A. It's that I like all the opposite sex and want them all, even if they have girlfriends or like me.
This part will be strange, but we can talk about it with our boyfriend.
Ask your boyfriend if he's curious or excited about meeting this girl. If he wants to have sex with someone other than his girlfriend, it's about loyalty and how he sees sex. We need to talk.
If a boyfriend likes a girl and wants to be with her, we need to talk about whether we still love each other. If we don't, we need to talk about breaking up before starting a second relationship. We can either cheat or move on, but neither is good.
Ask your boyfriend if he knows anything about the girl. If he knows she's slept with all his brothers, ask if he can accept her as a partner or if he'd sleep with her.
These two things help us understand the man and whether he's right for me.
We must first decide what we want from marriage and love. You still hope for a better outcome with him. We need to pay more attention to our partner's views on marriage and love.
A woman like this can help us understand our boyfriend better. We can see what he's like, how he deals with things, and how we can support him.
If you handle this well, you'll know each other better and be closer. You'll also know how to deal with it in the future.
If this matter is not handled well, we can learn more about ourselves and the other person. We can understand our relationship better.
I hope you can find a better way to deal with it through self-reflection and communication with your partner.
I love you!


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I understand your frustration and it's really tough being in your shoes. It seems like trust is a big issue here. You need to have an honest conversation with your boyfriend about boundaries and what's acceptable behavior from both of you. Communication is key, and it's important that he understands how these interactions make you feel.
This situation must be so disheartening for you. It sounds like you've been very patient and tried to handle things maturely, but your concerns are valid. Maybe it's time to set clear boundaries and expectations within your relationship. If your boyfriend truly cares about you, he should respect your feelings and work on distancing himself from people who cause tension.
It's heartbreaking when someone you love doesn't seem to acknowledge your worries. Your boyfriend needs to realize the impact of his actions on you. Perhaps suggest couples counseling; it can be a safe space for both of you to express your feelings and work through this together. It's essential that you both feel heard and valued.
Feeling like you're not being listened to can be incredibly isolating. It's important to stand firm on what you believe is right for the health of your relationship. Consider having a calm discussion about the future and where you both see yourselves going. If patterns don't change, you might also want to think about whether this relationship dynamic is sustainable longterm.