I'm obviously friendly, so why do I always mess up my relationships?

As the ancients wisely observed, if we respond to evil with good, what will we have to offer in return?

If I might offer a translation, this saying goes: If you repay evil with good, what will you repay good with?

This kind of remark is actually suggesting that you should respond to good deeds with good deeds and to bad deeds with bad attitudes.

It is not uncommon for people to hear the truth but act inappropriately.

It is important to remember that friendship is not about being nice to everyone, regardless of whether they are nice to you or not.

It would be wise to limit your interactions to those who are friendly and good to you, and to reciprocate their kindness when possible.

It would be wise to maintain a relationship with those who are worthy, and perhaps consider ending the relationship with those who are not.

If you encounter someone who is ungrateful, treacherous, vengeful, or even duplicitous, it may be best to reconsider your interactions with them.

It would be wise to know how to respond with indifference or even confrontation when appropriate, especially once you have noticed the problem and you have been hurt.

It is important to remember that remaining friendly with those who are unkind to you may make it seem as though you are someone who can be easily bullied, that you don't matter, and that you are not worth paying attention to. Similarly, if you treat those who are kind to you the same way whether they are kind to you or not, it may make it seem as though you are not grateful for their kindness.

In life, it is important to respect our own feelings and the kindness and goodwill of others, rather than pretending to be tolerant just to seem friendly.

It is perfectly acceptable to feel angry and to take action against perceived injustice.

Sometimes, it might be helpful to express that you actually mind, that you care a lot.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that they may not have been as friendly as you would have liked, and that your feelings may not have been respected. Instead of dwelling on it, you could respond in a way that is respectful and true to yourself.

Many people place a higher value on being true to oneself than on simply being friendly.

I believe this will be more cherished by many people.

I hope you will find this information useful.

The questioner has provided specific examples to illustrate the current situation and dilemma. It is evident that the questioner has been hurt deeply by the simple kindness of others. Despite her own kindness, the questioner feels that the world is against her. She also feels that there are always selfish and unreasonable people around her, even though she has not provoked anyone. Describing the suffering is difficult. However, it is important to say that the questioner is not to blame. This may be a practice for the questioner to better understand herself. Life is a process of continuous learning. Setbacks are even more conducive to growth. The fact that the questioner can write about it is a good start to awareness and change.

It is important to protect yourself when dealing with individuals who are self-centered and lack empathy. Kindness is a valuable asset, and assertiveness is a necessary quality in professional interactions.

It is important to understand others, accept yourself, and establish boundaries.

It is recommended that you set aside time each day to meditate and listen to your inner self. This will help you to identify your true emotions, understand the needs behind them, and learn to express them.

Satir identifies five modes of communication: the pleasing type, which involves making others happy at the expense of one's own value; the blaming type, which involves protecting oneself by blaming others or the environment; and the two remaining types, which involve a lack of trust and vulnerability, as well as a tendency to become angry.

The Super-rational type is often cold and enjoys dispensing advice and reasoning with others. They may also isolate themselves from their feelings. The Interrupting type often avoids important matters and focuses on trivialities. They may speak inappropriately and be unwilling to face conflict. Despite appearing happy, they may actually be lonely.

Consistency is key. This means avoiding self-repression or blaming others, resolving problems with mutual respect, and so on.

Everyone is a unique individual and a unique existence. How to connect with others is up to you. First of all, you must make yourself comfortable. It is up to you to choose whether to be what others see you as or be your true self. It is recommended that you learn how to deal with others and communicate with them. You should also learn to set interpersonal boundaries and have the courage to say "I need..." or just say "no" to others face-to-face. This is more effective than sulking.

Teacher Lin Zi's psychological explanation of selfishness: "Self-centered, lacking empathy, lacking self-awareness, indifferent to the feelings and needs of others, convinced of one's own qualifications and power, focusing on material gains, acting arrogantly and unreasonably, and in interpersonal interactions, preferring to exploit and use others."

It is recommended that you spend time with such a person. To connect with your true self, you may wish to do something you loved doing as a child, or you could find your true self through sports, mindfulness, etc. To become yourself, you should get to know yourself better through other people and the world. May you be treated gently by yourself and the world!

It is important to accept yourself, rewrite the script, and rewrite the story of your life.

It is important to accept yourself, rewrite the script, and rewrite the story of your life.

Everyone is an expert at solving their own problems. By discovering their own bright spots, they can rewrite their life stories.

Lin Zi said, "Positive self-identification is the key to developing self-confidence, a sense of belonging, and mental health." It is recommended to first clarify what your most satisfied self is like, make a good plan, because you can only be the director and protagonist of your own life's script, and everything is possible!

From this point forward, begin anew with the rewrite of your life story. Discard the false and retain the true. Love yourself well. Live your life as you see fit and make it more fulfilling.

Listen to your heart's desires, accept your own imprint, leverage your strengths, and be authentic. You will become a person who radiates energy from the depths of your soul.

Please find below my thoughts on the matter for your consideration.

Please find below my thoughts on the matter for your consideration.

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Hello!

You're friendly, but don't get a friendly response. I understand.

You are friendly and tolerate your classmate's unreasonable desk occupation. However, she does not treat you with respect. After you took the wrong book, she attacked you.

Have you thought about why she did that? Did you tell her what you needed?

You didn't do anything wrong with your landlord, but he blamed you for something you didn't do. Did you express your anger?

My university classmate W is poor and takes advantage of others. I've helped her, but she's ungrateful and badmouths me when I don't help her.

If you treat others kindly, they may not treat you kindly in return. You can't always be the one doing the giving. You may think you are helping, but it could make the other person feel inferior and hate you.

Being friendly is good, but you also need to set boundaries and say no to unreasonable requests.

Your classmate can take up your desk once or twice, but you can't put up with her all the time. You have to learn to say no. She might've taken up your desk, which led to you taking the wrong book.

Ask her to apologize for the landlord's slander. You paid the rent, so there's no reason to invite her to dinner. Tell her such excessive requests are unacceptable. There are reasonable people out there.

Say no to your roommate and don't befriend people with different values.

I hope this helps. Best wishes!

I empathize with your situation.

From your account, it is evident that you consistently assume the role of the scapegoat, bearing the brunt of negative circumstances.

Despite exhibiting resistance on an internal level, the individual in question lacks the capacity to extricate themselves from the prevailing circumstances.

There are often multiple contributing factors to this phenomenon.

Firstly, there is a lack of understanding of the intricacies of interpersonal relationships. The assumption that being kind to others will result in reciprocal kindness is erroneous. In reality, relationships are complex and the naivety displayed can be exploited by others.

Secondly, the assumption is made that if one tolerates others, conflicts can be reduced and harmonious relationships can be maintained. However, this approach may be perceived as a sign of weakness and could potentially lead to increased blame being attributed to the individual.

Third, there is a strong inner resistance, yet on the surface, there is an obligation to comply and concur with all demands. There is a pervasive sense of having to submit and acquiesce, to simply "let it go."

Fourth, a multitude of excuses have been proffered to justify the subject's actions, at times including implausible justifications.

The root of these problems can be attributed to a lack of self-confidence, which has manifested in various ways, including in academic and professional settings. The individual in question has consistently exhibited a tendency to withdraw, which can be perceived as a form of self-preservation.

A lack of self-confidence is frequently associated with one's familial experiences and academic history, upbringing, mentality, approach to problem-solving, and the opinions of others.

To address these issues, it would be prudent to consider the following aspects.

One strategy is to cultivate self-confidence. Confidence is a valuable asset, and it can be developed through incremental steps. One approach is to focus on tasks or activities that one is confident in, and to spend time with individuals who provide positive reinforcement and help one identify personal strengths.

Should the need arise, one may consult various literature sources.

Secondly, it is essential to learn how to navigate interpersonal relationships in a nuanced manner, avoiding the pitfall of oversimplification and unquestioningly catering to others. Those with a low profile may find themselves subjected to greater scrutiny and criticism.

Thirdly, it is essential to develop a systematic approach to problem-solving and a diplomatic manner when interacting with others. It is crucial to articulate one's opinions on all matters and to concede only when circumstances align with one's preferences. It is also vital to firmly challenge any assertions that are incongruent with the situation or are based on false accusations. In essence, one should strive to be a resolute and discerning individual.

As a result of initiating change, the dilemma in question will eventually cease to be a dilemma.

It is possible that a new state of life will be initiated.

Hello, landlord. I hope my answer is helpful to you.

It's normal to feel uncomfortable and worried. It often feels like you're the one giving and the one suffering, right?

In interpersonal relationships, we don't always express our needs. When others say something about us, don't we also fail to express our feelings and thoughts? So, what are our expectations and needs of others?

For instance, what should we do at the table, what should we do with the landlord, and what should we do with that university classmate? If we don't express ourselves when we feel like something is wrong, we're basically saying that we don't care about our own needs.

So, it's really important that we learn to communicate and express ourselves in relationships, and to look after our own boundaries. At the same time, we also need to understand why we're afraid to express ourselves, and why we feel forced to bear these grievances. We also need to understand that we can choose our relationships. We don't have to be friends with everyone; we can choose the right people to be friends with, and make our relationships a source of nourishment and support for ourselves.

My advice to you is:

When conflicts arise in a relationship, it's important to learn to communicate and express ourselves, speaking our true feelings and needs.

It's inevitable that we'll face conflicts and contradictions in any relationship. The key is to handle them in a constructive way so that we don't become resentful, alienate each other, or even damage the relationship. Instead, we can use communication to gain a deeper understanding of each other and strengthen the relationship.

To make this happen, we need to focus on two things: the atmosphere when we communicate and the way we communicate.

When you're communicating, it's best to choose a time when you're both in a better mood, rather than when you're in the middle of an emotional outburst. This way, you can listen to each other better. As for the method of communication, I suggest using non-violent communication, which means expressing your feelings and thoughts, needs and requests without criticizing or blaming.

For instance, if your colleague keeps leaving their books on your desk, even if they pile up and you can hardly write, you never complain about it, but deep down you don't really feel comfortable, do you? So at this point, we need to protect our boundaries by objectively expressing our feelings and needs. You can say to them, "So-and-so, your books are on my desk, and it's making it difficult for me to write. I don't feel very comfortable, and I hope you can understand. So, can you put your books back on your desk?"

Then, you can also listen to her talk about his feelings and needs. Maybe she didn't mean to, and she didn't realize it would affect you. When you say it out loud, maybe she will pay attention to this aspect of the problem because you're not accusing her, you're just expressing your feelings and requests. This kind of communication often helps develop your relationship and helps you understand each other better.

2. Figure out why you're afraid to speak up when you feel wronged. It's not because you're wronged, but because you're uncomfortable and not at ease.

It might be tough for you to express your feelings and needs, as mentioned in the first point. That's okay. We need to understand ourselves and then figure out why we're afraid to express ourselves.

What if we just let it all hang out? What are we really afraid of?

It seems to me that our reluctance to express our true feelings and needs in relationships stems from a fear that others won't approve of us. And this fear is born from our own lack of self-approval. We seek external approval and like from others because we don't like and approve of ourselves enough. When others criticize us, we feel sad and angry because we care too much about what they say.

So, to break this cycle, the most important thing we need to do is strengthen our self-identity, learn to accept and understand ourselves, and, even more importantly, learn to recognize and like ourselves. When you recognize and like yourself enough, you won't care so much about the voices from the outside world, because you know that they don't know you; they're just evaluating you from a certain perspective. You don't have to live in their evaluation; you just need to live your true self.

3. We need to be selective about our socializing. Choose relationships that are supportive and use good relationships to detoxify bad ones.

Yes, we do need relationships and social interaction, but we actually have a choice about our relationships.

As Mr. Zeng Qifeng said, "People are social animals. The more relationships we have, the more nutrients we get, and the faster and better we grow. And a nourishing relationship with nutrients should be a relationship full of friendly trust, embracing love and freedom."

As you build more and more of these supportive relationships, you'll find yourself feeling more confident about pursuing happiness and success.

Supportive relationships usually have six key elements: positive, harmonious, emotionally resonant, caring, supportive, and encouraging you to take on challenges. You can identify your supportive relationships.

If some relationships are truly irreparable, we can learn to stop, adjust ourselves, and avoid the negative impact of the relationship on ourselves. For example, we can devote ourselves more to deep connections with other friends and establish good, deep relationships with family members, friends, and colleagues who understand, support, accept, and respect us. This way, we can use good relationships to detoxify bad ones.

I hope this helps! Best regards,

My dear, after reading your words, I thought of an old saying that I think you'll find quite fitting: a grudge is as small as a grain of rice.

If you give someone just the right amount of help when they're in trouble, neither too much nor too little, they'll be really grateful.

But if you give someone a helping hand and they lose their sense of boundaries and take it for granted, one day when that help stops, they might feel resentful.

In junior high school, I used to give my tablemate the egg for breakfast because I didn't like eggs, and it continued for a long time.

One morning at breakfast, I was with my best friend from childhood, so I gave her the eggs without giving them to the person sitting next to me as I had done before. She was a little upset with me for this, and it led to a bit of a distance between us.

What she doesn't know is that my childhood friend has always been very nice to me. She's just never thanked me for it!

She has no idea that the egg belongs to me, and I'm free to give it to whoever I want. She just doesn't have that same sense of awareness and boundaries. It's so worth it to recognize a person by an egg!

Oh, that W! She's always eager to use your desk as hers. She mixes your books together without realizing whose they are. She mistakes your careless mistakes for deliberate actions and spreads rumors to slander you.

My dearest, what is the point of maintaining such a relationship? It only consumes you, so it's time to recognize this point and justifiably stay away from bad people and bad things.

Not everyone is worthy of your sincere love. Once you see the truth, love yourself! You'll be attracted to people who are just as warm as you are.

As for rumors and slander, it's totally up to you whether you believe them or not. You don't have to worry about it! You can't interfere, and you don't have to explain yourself. Just be yourself, and leave the rest to time, because you don't need to prove yourself to anyone!

Warmest regards! I'm Yanningning.

My dear, I give you a hug, and I can see that you are depression/the-mother-in-law-is-very-strong-and-unreasonable-she-pretends-to-be-pitiful-and-aggrieved-in-front-of-her-husband-and-cries-20179.html" target="_blank">aggrieved and angry. From your description of the events, it seems that you always run into bad people, which makes you very depressed. But don't worry! I'm here to help.

We can't change what's already happened, but we can learn from these incidents and deal with them in the future to minimize the harm!

1. Your classmate from high school, her actions are really infuriating, but did you explain to her at the time? Or does she have a problem with you personally and just wants to deliberately make things difficult for you? Either way, you can totally win this!

So is she really thinking that you are like this because she doesn't know you? Or is she just looking for a reason to make things difficult for you because she doesn't like you? Either way, you've got this!

This is a point of distinction. There is always a reason for someone's ill will. If it's a misunderstanding, it's better to resolve it than let it fester. And you can do it!

If she can't stand you no matter what, then you should definitely fight back when you need to! You've got to remember that people with bad hearts often like to bully honest people the most.

The past is in the past, and while it can't be changed, you can definitely make sure you're careful in the future when you encounter such people!

2. Your landlord is being picky with you because you haven't invited her to dinner. I think that treating her to dinner is a personal favor, and not treating her to dinner is your responsibility. The good news is that you have been paying the rent on time!

If she picks on you, you have the power to choose not to rent her house or just ignore it. As long as you pay the rent on time, I don't think she will make a fuss about money.

The good news is that unless she finds a new tenant, she won't want to get rid of you. And if you find a more suitable house, you can leave her. So the choice is in your hands!

You've got this! Don't be afraid.

3. Your university classmate is even more excessive. You have helped her so many times, but she is ungrateful and even slanders you behind your back. This is probably what the common saying means: "A little favor is never forgotten, but a big favor is always resented." It is only natural not to help her, and you should not feel any sense of loss. But here's the good news! You're not helping her, and you're not losing anything. So, you can stop worrying about her and focus on your own life.

4. Not everything we see in such things is negative. It may be that the emotions it brings you are all negative experiences, but from such things we can also see clearly into people's hearts. At a small cost, we can see clearly into people and avoid the pitfalls in interpersonal relationships. This is a great thing! I believe that you will learn from your mistakes and, if you encounter such people in the future, you will know better how to protect yourself.

5. Absolutely! You can also reflect on why they all like to bully you so much. Is it because you are weak-willed? In this regard, you can receive psychological counseling on the platform to see if there are some reasons in your personality that make others feel it's okay to bully you.

You can do it! Not all injustices can be accepted calmly, but you can change something.

Absolutely! I hope you feel better and wish you a happier day.

Hello! Give the friendly you a 360-degree hug!

From your question, I can tell that you're ready to learn why you can't get kindness in return even though you are friendly and helpful.

To be honest, I don't know why, and I'm not going to waste my time analyzing why other people repay kindness with hatred and bully you for every little thing. I also believe that you have done a lot of self-reflection and you have been wondering if it is because you are not friendly enough or helpful enough.

You can also do something more friendly or help others! But, obviously, the behavior you want to improve your relationships with others may make your relationships worse. In other words, the way you solve problems has led to the problem.

It's time to break out of this vicious cycle! We can do it by using other methods to disrupt and destroy it.

For example, if being friendly has ruined your relationships, then starting today, I will be a shrew, a calculating person, and an indifferent person who doesn't help others casually. Anyway, since your relationships are already ruined, even if you become a shrew, where can it go from here?

The worst that can happen is that you move to a different house. You're paying rent anyway, so it doesn't matter who you rent from. Your university classmates said bad things about you. You've graduated from university and you're in a new environment. Who cares about those bad words? The best that can happen is that you move to a different house. You're paying rent anyway, so it doesn't matter who you rent from. Your university classmates said bad things about you. You've graduated from university and you're in a new environment. Who cares about those bad words? The most exciting thing that can happen is that you move to a different house. You're paying rent anyway, so it doesn't matter who you rent from. Your university classmates said bad things about you. You'

I have a suggestion for you! Why not try being a bit more selfish and less friendly in your relationships? And why not be more calculating too?

Then we'll see what happens!

I am often both Buddhist and pessimistic, but I'm also an occasionally positive and motivated counselor. The world and I love you!

Dear questioner,

I'm Kelly.

Let's figure this out together.

I'm friendly, but I always end up with bad relationships.

Our culture says good things happen to good people.

Being friendly to others is good.

Kind people who help others have good relationships.

Kindness also requires wisdom.

Some people are ungrateful and selfish. If you help them, it won't end well.

My parents taught me to be kind. When I was young, a classmate asked me for money. I didn't have any, so I asked other classmates to lend it to me. I lent it to the person who asked me for money. He didn't pay me back.

Later, he told people I was evil for asking for money. This taught me that when people ask for money, they show their true colors.

I also thought about my own perceptions when my friendship with classmates ended. But I didn't think about my abilities when I borrowed money. I just wanted to be a good person. I never thought about what would happen if I didn't pay it back.

It taught me to recognize people.

You lose money but gain experience.

If another classmate asks for a loan, I will say no.

If I don't learn from one experience, I'm being stupid, not kind.

If someone is ungrateful and doesn't reflect on themselves after you've been kind to them, it's meaningless.

Some people think good people don't get good rewards because they put their good intentions in the wrong hands.

The Auspicious Sutra says to stay away from foolish people, befriend the wise, and respect those of virtue.

Wisdom comes from life.

Just like someone who borrows money and doesn't repay it, he thinks he's being clever, but he doesn't consider the fact that he may have lost a classmate or many people like me along the way in his life who would have helped him.

There's a difference between being clever and being wise.

"Being nice to others may be a way of hiding your fear of saying no."

Maybe we're afraid to say no and be ourselves. Maybe we always give in. Could this happen at home too?

For example, being afraid to disobey our parents or trying to please them.

Do we reject others' fears?

Are you afraid of being called unfriendly?

Examine yourself to see if you have a pleasing personality.

In her book, "Yes, Butt Kissing Is a Disease," psychologist Harriet Braiker says:

Many people think pleasing others is harmless. They think it's nice to be seen as a good person. But many pleasers are addicted to pleasing others. They can't control themselves. They even become addicted to the praise and recognition they receive from others.

You can become aware of yourself in these ways:

1. Always trying to please others.

2: No principles or limits.

3: Afraid of troubling others.

4: Don't know how to say no

You can also see a counselor to explore yourself and grow.

[Boundary]

Boundaries protect us. Learn to set boundaries. Read "Self-Boundaries."

Your things are yours, and my things are mine.

Boundaries are invisible but exist. Many problems are caused by unclear boundaries.

Manifestations of unclear boundaries

a. They let others lead them and don't stand up for themselves when they're under pressure.

b. They can't say no. They say yes to everyone.

c. Take on too much responsibility for other people's feelings.

d. Focus on love and selflessness too much.

3. Behavior comes from energy.

Grow up together.

Click "Find a coach" in the top right or bottom to continue. I will communicate with you one-on-one.

Hello, dear questioner!

I just want to say, I think you're amazing for thinking about this and being so aware!

You were such a kind and thoughtful person, but I'm wondering, why didn't you get along with others?

I'd be more than happy to go through it with you, and I really hope it helps a little.

1. Take a moment to feel your emotions and remember to guard your boundaries.

You mentioned that in high school, your desk mate kept throwing her books on your desk. Even when the pile was so high that you couldn't write, you never complained to her. But she repaid you by telling others that you stole her books.

Now that you can look back, I'd love to know if you minded when she put the books on your desk at the time.

I'm just wondering, did you do it willingly?

I know it can be tough, but do you think you could find it in your heart to tell her how you feel?

If we feel like we're giving something when we do this, it's important to make it clear to her.

It's so easy to get caught up in other people's lives and forget to set our own boundaries. That's why things like her saying you stole her book happen.

We totally get it if you feel uncomfortable saying this.

We may think we're being kind and considerate, but others might see it as us not setting boundaries and unintentionally allowing others to do whatever they want.

So if you want to feel comfortable and have a good relationship with other people, it's really important to be able to set your own boundaries. That is:

Say yes when you mean yes, and say no when you mean no—but do it kindly.

If you don't want to do something, it's okay to say no!

For example, you might want to think about not letting your tablemate put her books on your desk, just to be on the safe side!

I'm sure you have your reasons, but I just wanted to check in and see if you've thought about how your college friend's behavior is affecting your willingness to help her?

Even if there's a reason for others, it's so important to guard our own boundaries. For example, if a university classmate is ungrateful, we can distance ourselves from her to protect ourselves.

Or you show your attitude when she speaks ill of you.

You know, we always have a choice.

2. Learn to communicate consistently, my friend.

2. Learn to communicate consistently.

I'm here to help!

We all make mistakes. When we put ourselves in a bad position and show goodwill to others, but don't get the interpersonal relationship we expect, it's okay to take a step back and think about why we're doing this.

Could it be a little bit of flattery?

I'd love to know how you formed this pattern!

Of course, this has to do with our upbringing and our beliefs. We all have them!

The great news is that you're aware of this and realize that this doesn't lead to good relationships.

I just wanted to say congratulations on taking the most important step!

Satir suggests that when we're feeling stressed, we tend to fall into one of five communication modes:

And then there's appeasement.

Let's talk about blame.

Hyperrational

Interruptive

And finally, let's talk about consistent communication.

If you feel like you're being treated unfairly but don't push back, it's possible that you've been asking yourself to be kind to others.

I'd love to share a little saying with you:

Your kindness must have a sharp edge, my dear.

Being overly friendly may make others think you are weak and vulnerable, and they might even pass the buck to you, say bad things about you, etc.

Interpersonal communication is something we all learn as we go through life.

Satya is all about keeping the lines of communication open and honest.

It means learning to express your feelings and thoughts in a calm and gentle way when you're interacting with others.

We all have to deal with things that make us uncomfortable from time to time. It's how we handle them that matters!

Let's say, for instance, that you come across a landlord like this. You could say:

If I don't pay you rent, I'll often invite you to dinner. Would you like that?

I know it can be tough to decide between collecting the rent and inviting her to dinner.

Or, if you don't like her scolding you, you can also tell her, "I'm here to rent a room, and if you continue to disrespect me like this, I'm afraid I'll have to deduct a portion of the rent for every time you scold me."

(You can record the conversation to keep evidence, or if you really don't like such a landlord, you can find another place to rent. No problem at all!)

I'd highly, highly recommend Mr. Huang Qituan's book, "How Others Treat You Is What You Teach Them." It's a great read!

Sometimes, if we just let things be, it can encourage others to take advantage of us.

If you keep this up for too long, it might start to make you feel a bit uncomfortable.

All relationships are conspiracies, and it's so important to guard your bottom line from the very beginning.

A healthy relationship is all about mutual respect and equal rights, and taking care of each other's emotions and needs.

And no matter how bad the other person is, we can only change ourselves, my dear.

Take all the time you need, my dear.

I really want to praise you for your kindness and comfort. I hope you can grow your own strength, guard your own boundaries, and take care of yourself.

Then, no matter who you meet, you can deal with them calmly, my dear.

Kindness is something that should be given to those who deserve it.

I really hope things work out for you!

I love you, world! And I love you too, my dear friend!