I'm very concerned about others' opinions and constantly feel afraid and oppressed. What should I do?

Hello, host!

From what you've said, I can see that you're really aware of yourself and what you're feeling. I can also see that you're trying to change this feeling, but I can also see that you're feeling helpless and confused. I just want to say that when you came here to ask, you started on the road to change.

From what you've said, it seems like you think you're easily influenced by others. It also seems like you pay more attention to what your family thinks, which can put a lot of pressure on you and make you feel bad about yourself. Is that right?

From what the questioner has said, it seems like this way of thinking comes and goes. I'd like to ask the questioner to think about when they first had this experience. What happened at that time?

How did you handle it? What did you do to get over those feelings?

Based on what you've shared, I'd like to encourage you to reflect on your relationship with your family. Do you feel you have a good communication with your parents?

Our sensitive personalities are often shaped by our family education, so it's always a good idea to keep the lines of communication open with your parents.

I'd like to encourage the questioner to enjoy it. What does the way you want to look like look like? What things will get you there?

How will you feel when you achieve your goals? Who will be the first to notice your change?

I don't know the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I'll share a few ways to relieve your emotions.

First, adjust your mindset and become one with your body and mind.

If you make a habit of doing everything you say you'll do and following through on your commitments, you'll see a big boost in your confidence in no time.

It's important to keep your word, both to others and to yourself.

To be in sync with yourself is to speak your mind.

② Learn to accept yourself!

We can only focus our energy on action by accepting and understanding ourselves. That way, we can stop fighting emotions like remorse, guilt, and regret.

First, when we have negative thoughts and emotions, it's important to accept them and tell ourselves, "I know, I'll deal with it later. For now, I need to focus on finishing this." And most importantly, we should learn to affirm ourselves and our past efforts, even if they didn't meet expectations. This is how we can regain our motivation.

We should remind ourselves often that we're already the best we can be today.

It's important to remember that not everyone's opinion of us is true.

It's important to remember that everyone's feelings and opinions are just their own and don't necessarily reflect the truth.

④ Keep learning and growing, so you can become a well-rounded, thoughtful person.

People often care what others think because they have limited abilities and are not satisfied with certain aspects of themselves. When they realize they're inadequate, the best thing they can do is keep learning and improving so they can handle problems on their own.

fifth, look for and celebrate small wins.

In your daily life, whenever you feel a small sense of accomplishment or receive feedback from the outside world, you might as well jot it down in a few words as your "gratitude diary" (I personally use "happy things" to keep a record of them). You can refer to it often in the future.

The questioner can also get help from a professional counselor.

Finally, I want to tell the questioner that everyone has their own problems. You can't change them directly, but if you don't give up, things will gradually get better.

Don't worry, we're here for you.

Let's start by adjusting our mindset and becoming one with our body and mind.

You know, if you really want to improve your self-confidence, you should try doing everything you say you will, every day. I bet you'd see a big change in no time!

Remember, keeping your word means doing what you say, to others and to yourself.

When you're in tune with yourself, you're able to express exactly how you feel.

It's so important to learn to accept yourself!

It's only by accepting and understanding ourselves that we can focus our energy on taking action, rather than fighting negative emotions like remorse, guilt, and regret.

First, when we have negative thoughts and emotions, it's okay to accept them and say to ourselves, "I know, I'll deal with it later, for now I need to concentrate on finishing this task." And most importantly, we can learn to affirm ourselves and our past efforts, even if they didn't meet expectations. This is a great way to regain our motivation!

Let's remind ourselves often that we are already the best we can be!

It's so important to remember that not everyone's opinion of us is true.

It's important to remember that everyone's feelings and opinions are just that — their own. They don't necessarily reflect the truth. So, while your feelings are real, they might not be 100% accurate.

So, keep learning and growing! You'll become a person with a lot of depth and inner richness.

It's totally normal to care what others think. We all have areas of our lives that we're not totally happy with. The good news is that you can work on those things and become the best you can be! Keep going, study hard, and you'll be able to handle whatever life throws at you.

fifthly, don't forget to celebrate the little wins along the way!

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