In the face of benefits, people's hearts are unreliable. To fight or to tolerate, which is better?

Good morning! I extend a warm greeting from afar.

I am grateful for the opportunity to assist you. I hope that my input will provide you with the support and guidance you need. I can sense the frustration, anger, helplessness, and powerlessness you feel when facing unfair treatment.

When faced with unfair treatment, it is important to allow and accept yourself. However, this can be challenging when you feel excluded, rejected, and denied. This can lead to feelings of rejection and a sense of wasted effort, as though your hard work has not been adequately rewarded.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this matter.

In the event of unfair treatment, you may wish to discuss your feelings with your superiors and colleagues. It is important to avoid judging their behaviour. Instead, express your feelings and needs honestly and from the heart. This will help them understand how their actions have affected you.

While this aspect of your personality is unchangeable, the way you respond to being hurt is crucial. When you are hurt, you should be assertive and honest in your communication. This is about setting boundaries to protect yourself in relationships and letting others know that this kind of treatment is unacceptable. What are your thoughts on this matter?

From your description, I can discern a sense of inner inferiority, lack of confidence, and a lack of self-acceptance. It is evident that you are not fully aware of this aspect of yourself, which hinders your ability to express your genuine inner feelings and needs when faced with hurtful situations. Instead, you tend to remain silent and unresponsive, even attributing such treatment to mere misfortune.

It is important to note that this aspect of self-perception, which may include feelings of inferiority and lack of confidence, can also influence how we interpret and attribute the words and actions of others. In other words, we may unconsciously perceive the actions of those around us who are more successful or accomplished as intentional attempts to harm, target, or humiliate us. This is more likely to be due to our own internal inferiority and lack of confidence, as well as our envy and jealousy of others who are more successful. Consequently, this part of ourselves that is not aware of our own inferiority and lack of confidence can prevent us from objectively and fairly understanding and evaluating the actions of others.

Therefore, our relationships with others are a reflection of our internal state. When we feel excluded, rejected, or unwanted,

It is essential to be able to accept, affirm, and appreciate yourself fully in order to avoid being rejected. If you cannot do this for yourself, it is unlikely that others will treat you in this way.

I suggest you read "Embrace Your Imperfect Self" and "How Others Treat You Is What You Teach Them."

My name is Lily, and I am the youngest member of the Q&A Museum team. I extend my personal regards to you and the world at large.