In the service industry, I actually learned to bargain. Why did I make such a change?

Well done to the questioner, you've learned to bargain!

I'm also curious about how the person who asked the question handled the bargaining process.

After reading the original poster's article, I think I've found some answers. The original poster said that this change is due to the credit of studying psychology in recent years. Using knowledge of psychology to strengthen the perception and action of self-needs allows us to better perceive and understand ourselves, and to know that bargaining with others is normal and nothing to be ashamed of. But this is only when we realize that we can do so. To actually put it into action, it takes courage. The original poster can recall when they first bargained.

What were your thoughts at the time? Did you have any preconceptions?

Was the result what you were expecting?

As we become more and more skilled at bargaining, we may realize that it's not really bargaining at all, but rather a great model of interaction. In a market environment, money isn't the only thing flowing. Our emotional values are flowing too. When we interact well emotionally, we learn to be accommodating and to care about each other's feelings. This allows both sides to get what they need, achieve mutual benefit, and realize a win-win situation.

Studying psychology has helped us understand love better, and we've learned how to love and communicate. This could be the answer!

You see your potential in growth and are happy to embrace life! The experience of growth has always been one of being denied, suppressed, belittled, and controlled. The only demand is to manage your relationship with others by pleasing them. No one has the strength to refuse. If family can hurt, it is better to say that the dysfunction of the original family model comes from a lack of self-awareness. You feel the value of the relationship when you have a good relationship with someone. The good and bad here are passive, relying on others and unable to be confident. Perhaps your counselor and your rising awareness in the midst of pain dares to go through a period of time that ordinary people may not understand. You see others and yourself in relationships. You are no longer afraid of offending people and pleasing others because you will know that everyone is equal and an independent individual. You will no longer use pleasing and the shyness of fear to deal with the demands of relationships. You dare to express your own needs in relationships.

You've learned to accept your flaws and choose ideas that suit you. You've grown up and are no longer timid.

Hello, I'm Jane. I'm grateful to have met you!

I am pleased to hear that you have made such great progress!

When someone starts learning to "bargain," what does that mean?

Negotiating is a way of asserting oneself! It is a psychological feeling of self-empowerment, an ideology of bravely facing conflict, and a feeling of increased initiative.

We should have bargained before!

Let's be clear: bargaining is not recognized in our perception. We equate it with being petty and greedy.

We have been taught to be generous, calm, and well-mannered, but bargaining does not fit that image.

On the other hand, bargaining is related to conflict. As someone who cares about other people's opinions and is used to pleasing others, bargaining is undoubtedly difficult.

We must overcome our fear of conflict and contradiction. We must learn to be unafraid of disagreeing with others and to stand our ground.

Let me tell you how to understand bargaining.

In today's consumer society, we as consumers are always in a passive position in the market. We must stop doubting our own perception and start defending our interests. Even if we feel that the price of the things we want to buy does not match the price, we have the right to say so.

However, as consumers, we must defend our own initiative and fight for our own interests within a reasonable range. There is absolutely no reason to be ashamed of this!

Bargaining is simply a way of defending your position in the consumer relationship. It shows that you are not passive but rather in control of the situation.

This is something to be proud of.

Furthermore, today's social structure is unfriendly to passive people. As the saying goes, life is a psychological battle!

It's simple. The seller talks up their product, targeting people's psychological demands and outputting a lot, making you feel like you're losing out if you don't consume. Even if you don't feel like spending that much money on it, you'll still choose to consume in the end.

It is imperative that you value your own feelings and defend your own interests, whether you are a consumer or a worker.

There are no free lunches in this world. You have to fight for everything yourself. And you should be proud of your ability to think for yourself!

I know you can do it! I'm rooting for you! (ง ̀_ ́)ง

Dear questioner, I am so excited to see your transformation! You have grown from someone who may have been a little shy and not very confident in expressing their needs to a confident woman who knows how to fight for her rights.

This growth is a beautiful transformation in itself, and you should be so proud of yourself!

As for bargaining, which you mentioned, it is actually a very practical life skill. You have learned to achieve your goals through clever communication, which is in itself a kind of wisdom—and it's a fantastic skill to have!

Moreover, you have not become strong or aggressive as a result. Instead, you have learned to express your needs in a calm and respectful manner, which is a rare and impressive accomplishment!

So, why did you change? Well, there are so many factors at play!

First, you mentioned that you have studied psychology on your own, which is fantastic! It has undoubtedly opened a window for you to understand yourself and others. Psychology helps you realize that everyone has their own needs and rights, and that there is nothing to be ashamed of in expressing these needs and rights.

It's a sign of self-respect and self-fulfillment!

Second, you've also learned how to get along with others and communicate. You've come to understand that human interaction is not a zero-sum game. It's a win-win situation that can be achieved through mutual understanding and compromise!

This understanding gives you so much more composure and confidence in negotiations!

I'd also like to share a wonderful story I heard. There was once a lady who was afraid to fight for herself.

But then she gradually became more confident through learning and practice. Once, she saw a piece of clothing in a store that she liked, but the price was a bit high.

She mustered the courage to bargain with the shop assistant and successfully lowered the price. Since then, she has become more assertive in expressing her needs and has gained so much happiness and satisfaction!

This story is a great reminder that we all have the power to change ourselves and become the best version of ourselves. Your transformation is a fantastic example of this!

Finally, I would like to give you some advice. First, keep up the great work! Continue to maintain this confident and composed attitude, and believe in your own abilities and value.

Second, you can achieve amazing results in communication by learning to maintain balance and respect in negotiations. Focus on your own needs, and don't forget to respect the other person's position and feelings.

In short, dear questioner, your transformation is a kind of growth and progress that has made you more confident and stronger. I believe that in the days to come, you will continue to realize your potential and become an even more graceful, composed, and confident woman—and I can't wait to see it!

Best of luck!

Your transformation is truly incredible! It's a huge leap from never daring to bargain to being able to confidently express your needs and successfully achieve your goals. There are so many reasons behind this amazing transformation:

First, your self-study of psychology has given you a deeper understanding of human behavior and the nature of communication. By studying psychology, you may have learned how to express your needs more effectively, understand the reactions of others, and use language and techniques to influence others' decisions.

These skills are absolutely essential for success in the bargaining process!

Second, your self-confidence has also improved! You may have been afraid to make your demands in the past because of low self-esteem or fear of rejection, but now you are more confident, daring to face challenges and sticking to your position.

This increased self-confidence has made you more comfortable and at ease in social interactions—and it's showing!

And finally, your attitude towards bargaining has also changed for the better! Previously, you may have thought that bargaining was bad, but now you realize that it is a normal business practice and a way to protect your rights.

This change in attitude makes you more willing to try and enjoy the bargaining process—and you're going to love it!

Overall, your transformation is the result of multiple factors, and it's been amazing to watch! You have improved your communication skills and self-confidence through learning and practice, and also changed your attitude towards bargaining.

These changes have made you stronger, more confident, and more relaxed—and they've made you more successful in life!

Hello. You have noticed a change in yourself. You used to be afraid to bargain with service personnel, but now you can make demands and feel a sense of joy and satisfaction with yourself. You did it!

From Maslow's perspective, you are exceptionally happy because you know you are constantly surpassing your old self and becoming a better, more desirable version of yourself. This is a very high level of satisfaction because it is not about solving a specific lack. It is about a growth process that moves from stability and comfort to breakthrough, and allows you to gain energy from caring for yourself.

You have studied psychology for many years, which shows that you are actively exploring yourself. When you pay attention to yourself, listen to your inner needs, and interact with others differently in your daily life, your autonomy will increase and your sense of self-efficacy will improve.

You enter a positive state of mind: "I see my needs – I am willing to believe that my needs are reasonable – I go out and try to meet those needs – I feel progress – I know I am capable of facing new challenges."

From the perspective of the cognitive triangle of CBT, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are mutually activated and reinforced. Your actions will lead to positive emotional experiences, and positive emotions will strengthen your positive perception of yourself and the outside world. This perception will once again motivate you to learn and explore.

Your change comes from within, just as you nurture your own growth. In this process, you develop a sense of self-will: I am the master of my own life.

With this conviction, you will take the initiative in your interactions with the outside world and face challenges head-on, without letting fear of failure hold you back.

It is often the case that human growth and change is a comprehensive process involving multiple factors. Your experience seems to demonstrate a psychological and behavioral transformation in a person, which may be the result of the combined effects of multiple factors.

Perhaps we could analyze the possible reasons together?

It is worth considering the potential influence of self-study of psychology. By studying psychology, you may gain a deeper understanding of the principles behind human behavior and emotions, which could help you better understand the motives and behaviors of yourself and others.

With this understanding, you may find that your confidence and determination are boosted, giving you the courage and ability to try bargaining and other behaviors.

Over time, people often experience self-growth and increased self-confidence. It is possible that you may have gained more experience and skills in life and work, which could enable you to face various situations with more confidence.

This may also encourage you to embrace new experiences with greater enthusiasm and courage.

Through your interactions and experiences with the service industry, you may have gained insight into the behavioral patterns and psychology of service providers. You may have come to view bargaining as a normal business practice, rather than something to be feared.

Through persistent practice, you may have developed a repertoire of bargaining skills and strategies, which could enhance your confidence and skillset.

You mentioned that you have clear goals and needs, such as getting more free services or products. Having clear goals can certainly help you better plan and execute actions, while also increasing your determination and motivation.

Once you recognize that bargaining can be an effective way to achieve your goals, you may be more inclined to try it out and practice it.

As you gain in confidence, you may also become more aware of your own value and rights. You may come to realise that as a customer, you have the right to demand better service and treatment.

This perception of your own value can potentially enhance your self-confidence and self-esteem, which in turn may provide you with the courage to advocate for your interests.

It is also possible that your willingness to change may be influenced by a change in your attitudes and beliefs. Over time, you may find yourself viewing yourself and others in a more positive light, and becoming more confident in your right to stand up for your own interests.

This positive belief may encourage you to act more boldly, including trying to bargain.

Additionally, you may have encountered particular incidents or circumstances that have prompted a shift in your perspective on bargaining. It's possible that a fruitful bargaining experience led you to recognize its significance and efficacy, or that a contemplation following a rejection prompted you to persevere.

It is worth noting that both successful and unsuccessful experiences can provide valuable learning opportunities that help us better understand and deal with similar situations.

It is also worth noting that social and cultural influences may play a role in shaping attitudes and behaviors. In some cultures, bargaining may be seen as a normal business practice, while in others it may be viewed as inappropriate or rude.

Your attitude towards and acceptance of bargaining may also be influenced by the social environment and cultural background in which you live.

Finally, personal experiences and character traits may also play a role in shaping one's attitudes and behaviors. Some individuals may naturally possess a more adventurous spirit and a willingness to embrace new experiences, including bargaining. Others may be more cautious and less inclined to take risks.

Your personal experiences and character traits may play a role in your attitude towards and acceptance of bargaining, which could in turn affect your willingness to try it.

In summary, it is possible that your positive change may be influenced by a variety of factors, including changes in attitudes and beliefs, the influence of specific events or situations, the influence of the social and cultural context, as well as personal experiences and character traits. These factors may work together to promote your positive attitude and actions towards bargaining.

By continuously learning and practicing, you can further enhance your skills and abilities, more effectively seize opportunities, and achieve your ideals and goals.