Is a chubby girl doomed to have no future, no love, and no happiness at all?

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm modest and humble.

Hello, chubby girl. I think it's better for girls to be a little chubby.

Obesity has many causes. Some children are obese because their families are overweight. Some eat too much sugar. Some are under pressure. Some were treated with hormone drugs after falling ill.

She has been fat since childhood. If we are healthy and happy, there is no need to limit ourselves. The world is big, and differences help us see more sides of life and appreciate our uniqueness.

2. Don't be too sensitive.

People are overly sensitive to their perceived shortcomings. From childhood to adulthood, you have heard too many comments about your disadvantages, and this has made you sensitive to them. Once any topic touches your heart, it will start to ripple, and even a very pleasant mood will instantly fade. Lu Xun said: "A true warrior dares to face the dismal life."

Don't focus on your problems. Look at people around you and make life colorful. Don't laugh at others for being too skinny. Change your mindset!

3. If you bloom, butterflies will come.

Jia Ling is a Chinese actress who has been in the industry since 2008. She has been refreshingly different since her debut because of her weight. She has paved her own path with her own strength. Unlike other actresses, she doesn't have to worry about maintaining her figure. She has more time to hone her acting skills and can play some roles very well because of her physical advantages. You have your own beauty and uniqueness. The most important thing is to accept and recognize yourself.

Make yourself shine.

Best,

Hello friend, From what you have told me, I can sense that you are struggling with some deep-seated feelings of inferiority, frustration, anger, and a little despair, as well as a lack of confidence in your future.

It's understandable that you feel this way. Being teased and ridiculed by others because of your weight can have a serious impact on self-esteem and future outlook.

I hope I can reassure you that there is no need to worry. I believe that you will find love and happiness, and that your future can be very bright.

I'd like to share my own experience with you. When I was in high school, I gained weight quite rapidly, from around 90 pounds to 120 pounds. I found it increasingly difficult to wear many of my clothes, and I often walked around the school campus in clothes that didn't fit. I remember feeling quite inferior when I saw those petite girls with nice clothes.

However, I must admit that high school was quite stressful, to the extent that I didn't have much time to devote to my physical appearance. I was too preoccupied with my studies.

Once I started university, I found myself with more time to devote to my appearance. I came to realise that I was carrying a few extra pounds and noticed that people around me were sometimes a little unkind in their comments. At the same time, I had a crush on someone.

I came to understand that I needed to make some changes. I was very determined to lose weight and I put together a plan that I felt would help me achieve my goal. By the time I was a sophomore, I had lost weight and was back down to about 95 pounds.

My classmates were quite surprised to see the changes in me, and my self-confidence has also grown considerably. I apologize for not mentioning earlier that in the end, I ended up with the boy I had a crush on. We are now living happily together.

I will now analyze your question as objectively as I can. It might be helpful for you to know that the secretion of hormones in the body of a girl during puberty can change, and if the diet is not reasonable and there is a lack of exercise, it can be very easy to gain weight.

It's quite common for girls to gain weight during puberty, so you're not alone in this experience.

It might also be helpful to accept that as we get older, our bodies will change. If you set a clear goal and work towards it, you will probably get the results you want.

It is important to remember that achieving your goals will take time. It may take months or even years, so it is helpful to view it as an important but not urgent problem to solve.

If I might make a suggestion, I believe that your current state of mind is very important and urgent. If you could find a way to overcome these negative emotions, I have a few ideas that might help.

1. It is important to accept that nobody is perfect, and that everyone has imperfections.

Perhaps it would be helpful to remind yourself that nobody is perfect, and that it's okay to have flaws and shortcomings. I try to care for this imperfect self of mine.

2. It might be helpful to try not to worry too much about what other people think. It's probably not a good idea to pay too much attention to negative comments.

It's important to remember that a situation itself won't hurt you, but rather your reaction to it might. It might help to try to make your heart a little stronger and a little less vulnerable and sensitive.

3. It might be helpful to focus on your strengths. Rather than dwelling on your figure, you could try discovering your strengths, such as being good at studying, having many talents, and having a good personality. Appreciating yourself more could also help you find more self-confidence.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

I've been overweight since childhood, and it's gotten worse since I started junior high. I've had low self-esteem since childhood, and I've been insulted and mocked by all kinds of people, so I've become very sensitive. As soon as someone mentions fat, I feel like I'm on a roller coaster. I often wonder if being fat determines everything—my personality, my daily outfits, my words, my future... Society is becoming more inclusive, and even people like my father's generation have come to accept homosexuality and so on. So why can't people show more understanding towards fat girls? I often get pointed at and teased by others when I walk on the street, and my family members make fun of me every day.

I've gotten used to it, but it still makes me feel sad. I'm not perfect, but I never speak ill of others. I don't understand why there are still so many people who like to laugh at others.

Hello, question asker!

Hi, I'm Enoch, the answerer. From what you've said, it seems like you've been teased by your family because you're a little overweight, and sometimes by others too. This has made you pretty self-conscious since childhood. You also wonder why so many people like to tease others. But after a good cry, you feel much more relaxed and think it's no big deal.

Let's take a look at the reasons why you're facing this situation.

1. People tend to pay more attention to appearance during certain periods of time.

The famous developmental psychologist Erik Erikson said that people pay more attention to their appearance and the appearance of others during adolescence. It's common to judge people by their appearance, so the questioner may have been teased about his weight since childhood. When he entered junior high school, his classmates paid more attention to his figure, which made the questioner feel sad. At the same time, adolescents are in a period of rapid development in terms of psychology, height, weight, intelligence, and other aspects. This also affects how the questioner evaluates others.

2. People have different standards for evaluating others.

Adults tend to have a more mature view and evaluation of others. They care more about the practical value of interacting with that person, so they don't pay too much attention to the appearance of others, but pay more attention to the character and personality of the other person and the practical value they can bring. Children often focus more on appearance and academic performance when evaluating others, but they may not be able to make a rational assessment of the attitude and psychology of others. This can make it difficult for them to understand why others behave in a certain way.

3. People have different expectations of themselves than they do.

The questioner feels that being a little overweight is fine according to his standards and has many other advantages. This may be why he has never been determined to change his figure since childhood. However, others have different expectations. They use their friendship norms and standards to deal with others, but their standards are not always reasonable. For example, they make fun of others, but we cannot change others. Therefore, the questioner has also formed a way to comfort himself, which is to vent his emotions by crying a lot to regulate his emotions.

Here's a suggestion:

1. Accept yourself in more and better ways.

Once the questioner has had a good cry, they'll feel much better. It's a great way to adjust their mentality. At the same time, they can also relax by running, listening to music, watching movies, etc. In particular, running can help with weight loss while regulating emotions, which is a win-win.

2. Make the right changes based on the situation.

As a junior high school student, I believe that the questioner also has some ability to learn on their own. They can spend some time and energy to enrich their interests and hobbies and improve themselves in general. This will help them to grow as a person and be seen in a new light by those around them. If they want to make a more fundamental change, they can also change their figure and image by doing more sports. This will help them to adapt better to the environment.

I'm a fat auntie who has been fat since childhood, and I'm hugging you.

I have also studied the Tang Dynasty in particular. It is a fact that in that era, fat was considered beautiful. Why then do modern people all pursue thinness?

My research revealed that the goal is to improve everyone's health.

As times change, we have more and more food to choose from, and the categories are becoming more and more abundant. It is clear that the diseases of today are caused by eating too much, and the era that encourages thinness as beauty is also to blame for many people getting sick. When you get fat, your cholesterol, blood pressure, and blood sugar all become higher, your body's ability to prevent disease decreases, and the probability of getting sick greatly increases. This is the reality of our society, and it's time to face it.

So, what should people like us, who are physically fit, do?

First, accept your own fatness. You can be confident and beautiful.

The social climate is already changing. Jia Ling, Yoko Lam, Li Xueqin, and Yang Tianzhen—who has done plus-size women's wear—have all invited tall and big models. Fu Seoul, the most eloquent hot mom, is also plump and round.

A talented person shines from the inside out.

Girls, improve your inner self or learn a skill you love and are interested in. You can live a carefree and natural life.

Second, read more, learn more, and find your life's calling.

The world is complicated. When we are always paying attention to the outside world, we will hear abuse and ridicule from all kinds of people and feel the pointing fingers of others. We can change our perspective and listen to the voice within.

Everyone comes to this world for a reason.

You must explore your life's mission. You need to understand why you are here in the world. You also need to identify the things that make you happy, even exhilarating, and feel meaningful.

Adler's "Inferiority and Transcendence" will show you that our obese bodies give us a strong heart.

One day, you will be free of all the voices that have tempered you. You will embrace strength and overcome your inferiority.

Use your calling to help others wholeheartedly and achieve yourself.

As you get older, you will increasingly find that the body is just a way of presenting ourselves, and that our inner soul and spirit are our invaluable and inexhaustible wealth.

The questioner is kind and has high standards for herself. She makes it clear that although she may not have extremely high moral character, she would never speak ill of others.

It's not about being fat or thin. It's about a person's upbringing and character.

You are soft-spoken, but you must also be amiable and willing to communicate with others. There should be no shortage of people willing to do so.

A friend of mine once commented on the friends around him: "I'd rather make friends with fat people, because they are generally easy-going and sociable. As the saying goes, 'the heart is wide and the body is fat'. Those skinny friends are always calculating, that's why they are so thin."

This is nonsense. You will also find that thin people are ridiculed by others. It's just a matter of perspective. Some people are ridiculed because of their personality. Others are ridiculed because of other problems in their lives. When you live, you laugh at others and are laughed at by others.

Live for yourself. You can care about what others say, or you can cry your heart out. Either way, you'll come to terms with yourself. Shift your focus to what you want and live for your mission and value.

You are self-sufficient, so there's no reason to be afraid of a few jokes. Be confident. You are beautiful too!

Greetings.

The host:

After reading the original poster's narrative, it became evident that the individual in question was experiencing a profound sense of sadness. Concurrently, it was observed that the original poster had the courage to confront their inner self and proactively seek assistance on the platform. This undoubtedly facilitated a more comprehensive understanding of the individual's self and a greater capacity to accept their inherent qualities, thereby enabling them to fully actualize their potential.

The observations and thoughts presented in this post may assist the original poster in viewing themselves from a distinct perspective.

1. The source of distress is the perception of events and circumstances.

In the original poster's account, she states that she has been overweight since childhood and that her weight has increased since entering junior high school. She reports that she has experienced low self-esteem since childhood, having been subjected to verbal abuse and ridicule by various individuals. Consequently, she describes her personality as being particularly vulnerable and sensitive, and she indicates that her emotional state is significantly affected by others' perceptions of her weight.

It is therefore recommended that the original poster should give herself a comforting hug and embrace the hard-working self that has persisted over the years.

Moreover, it is noteworthy that an individual who has endured significant challenges over an extended period of time continues to seek assistance in order to identify potential avenues for personal growth and development. This underscores the importance of providing a supportive and constructive environment where individuals can engage in collaborative exploration of strategies for addressing the adverse effects of external influences.

First and foremost, it is imperative to recognize that being overweight is merely a body type. Individuals such as Fu Seoul from Qixia and Jia Ling from the cast serve as prime examples of this.

It is evident that individuals who are overweight are not universally disliked. There are numerous examples of individuals who are overweight yet are well-liked by others.

Such individuals also experience a rich tapestry of positive emotions and experiences. They frequently utilize their own body type to bring joy to others.

Therefore, it can be posited that the utilisation of corpulence is contingent upon the degree of seriousness with which one regards their own physical form. Those who do not take their corpulence seriously tend to accept themselves as they are.

When they do not take their own corpulence seriously, it is irrelevant whether or not others laugh and ridicule them. They may even observe others laughing and ridiculing them in silence.

One cannot control the thoughts or opinions of others; however, one can control one's own thoughts and actions. One can construct a personal defense mechanism to protect oneself from external influences.

2. Those who engage in derisive laughter at the expense of others are, in fact, the subject of such behavior themselves.

The inclination to laugh at the perceived shortcomings of others is often driven by an underlying intolerance of these perceived flaws.

One might also consider the inverse: if an individual is unable to accept the imperfections of others, is he or she capable of accepting his or her own? It seems reasonable to posit that if an individual is able to embrace all aspects of his or herself, he or she is less likely to engage in mockery of others.

In conclusion, it can be posited that those who laugh at others are, in fact, laughing at themselves.

Such individuals may be unaware of their own shortcomings.

Such individuals are characterized by a lack of self-awareness. Consequently, they engage in the act of derisive laughter directed towards others.

Indeed, he is also the subject of ridicule from others.

It is possible that these individuals are aware of their own deficiencies, yet they are reluctant to acknowledge them. Do they possess the courage to confront their shortcomings and the criticism directed at them by others?

3. Accept the authentic self

Once an individual has accepted their own shortcomings, they are better positioned to effect positive change. This process often begins with an acknowledgement that a particular trait, such as being overweight, is simply a part of one's identity. This realization, coupled with the development of a robust defense mechanism, can pave the way for more constructive coping strategies and a shift towards a more positive self-perception.

The individual in question may attempt to accept their genuine self. This brings to mind a narrative.

A male child sought counseling due to his introverted nature. Rather than requesting a change in personality, the counselor facilitated the child's acceptance of himself.

As the counseling progressed, the counselor discovered the boy's talent for mental arithmetic. He inquired as to the source of this ability, and the boy explained that he was able to concentrate fully when doing mental arithmetic, while extroverts' attention was easily attracted by the outside world. At this juncture, the counselor posed the question of whether the boy still wished to alter his personality.

Should one elect to alter their personality, there is a possibility that this talent may be lost. He has chosen to accept himself.

Additionally, the host's composure in the face of ridicule is noteworthy. Despite having experienced similar treatment, he does not engage in similar behavior toward others. This quality is commendable and not commonly observed.

Furthermore, the poster displays remarkable tolerance towards his friends' shortcomings. Additionally, the post indicates a notable degree of optimism on the part of the poster.

In reflection, it can be seen that the experience of being overweight has also been a contributing factor in the formation of one's identity.

It is therefore recommended that the individual accept their true self, accept that which cannot be changed, and adjust that which can be changed. It is possible to develop a more positive sense of self.

It is important to note that self-acceptance is not an instantaneous process. It is my hope that the individual in question will continue to engage in learning and self-reflection in order to enhance their perception. Furthermore, it is my sincere hope that the insights and suggestions presented in this discourse will prove beneficial to the individual in question.

My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a practicing psychological counselor.

Good afternoon! I give you a 360-degree hug!

The truth is, there's absolutely no reason why fat girls can't have a future, love, and joy in everything! It's just that girls who take being fat seriously might have a harder time achieving these things.

I came across a fascinating saying recently: when I have no morals, no one can morally blackmail me. It's a bold and intriguing concept, isn't it? If you think about it, the kind of person who can be morally blackmailed is probably someone who cares deeply about what others think.

In your case, you are fat, and other people's comments about your weight hurt you. You care about what other people think, and you probably care about your weight.

This is totally normal! We all live in all kinds of interpersonal relationships, and it's only natural that we want to be recognized by others. And guess what? Being recognized by others is often really helpful in our lives and work!

They're all so helpful!

Absolutely! We definitely need to abide by certain social morals, customs, and social aesthetic standards. In other words, if you try to conform to these standards, it will reduce a lot of costs. You don't need to worry about what other people think of you, because you are the majority!

And the best part is, you can say that you conform to the current aesthetic of being pale, young, and thin, and you'll get more convenience!

So I think there is definitely a gap between the worldly standards and the standards of your true self. But here's the good news: you can bridge that gap! All you have to do is stop struggling with it and start embracing your true self. You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel!

The good news is that we can make the external standards and our true selves compatible!

Simply put, I embrace the current aesthetic standard of beauty as thin. I also gladly accept other people's opinions about my figure. This is the freedom of society, and it is the freedom of others.

But do I want to conform to the aesthetic standard of beauty being defined by thinness? Absolutely not! I am the one to decide.

I can let myself conform to the aesthetic standards of the masses in order to gain more convenience. I can also accept my body wholeheartedly and decide not to change it.

I'm at peace with myself either way!

I'm actually a bit overweight, but I'm working on it! I don't care about myself, but many people will say something about me.

I recently decided to lose weight because I think I may have many opportunities to go abroad or give lectures in the future, and at this time I feel that an appearance that is more in line with mainstream aesthetics will bring me more opportunities. It's not like I'm going to rent a tuxedo—I can rent it!

So my view is not to fight against the mainstream aesthetic. What we need to do with the mainstream aesthetic is to recognize it and then remain true to ourselves!

In other words, I can go with the trend or against it, but no matter what, I accept myself as I am and don't care about what others say!

In fact, our relationship with our body shape is more about our relationship with ourselves and an evaluation of our self—and it's a great one!

It's true that in today's society, being young, thin, and fair-skinned is more in line with the mainstream aesthetic. But that doesn't mean that fat people are worthless!

If being fat makes us feel worthless, then it is actually our own self-negation. But there is a way to change this!

It's amazing how our perception of things can be so different from reality!

Isn't it fascinating how the same person can look totally different when we look at them with different eyes? That's why when you're in love, you're in love; when you get divorced, you hate each other and want to tear each other's mouths off and scratch each other's faces. It's not strange at all. The person is still the same, but the person looking at them has changed their mindset.

For you, it is an amazing opportunity to rebuild this self-identification and acceptance of being different and unique!

From your writing, it's clear that you probably lacked affirmation and security as a child. This could be a great opportunity for you to explore new ways of self-care and affirmation! Being fat may be a kind of defense mechanism for you. From a psychoanalytic perspective, making yourself fat is a form of disaffirmation.

In today's world, where thinness is often seen as the ideal, being fat can make you feel like you're outside of mainstream society. But there's no need to worry! You're still as popular as ever, and you're living your best life, exactly as you should be.

But being fat seems to have affected your life nowadays, so my opinion is that you should absolutely lose weight to conform to the current aesthetic! Or, you should continue to follow your own path and ignore the words of others. The most important thing is that you are at peace with yourself. As I said before, whether you agree with the mainstream aesthetic or not, whether you cater to it or not, it all comes from your own free will!

I am often both Buddhist and depressed, an occasionally positive and motivated psychological counselor, and I love the world and all of you in it!

Hello, question asker!

Given that you've had issues with your weight since childhood, that you've been teased about it, and that your mood often fluctuates because of the word "fat," I feel sorry for you. Let me give you a warm hug first.

I get that in today's society, where thinness is considered beautiful, both men and women worry about their figures, and being fat is seen as a problem. However, I want to talk about a friend of mine who is not only fat, but also tall, dark-skinned, and has very firm flesh, giving her the appearance of being "big-boned and wide-waisted."

But among us women who seem to be "well-proportioned," she is the happiest one. While we are complaining about our husbands' irresponsibility, cold violence, and bad temper, her husband takes care of the baby, cooks, and treats her with the utmost care, loving her like a daughter.

I don't think it's fair to say that this friend is better off than us in terms of external conditions.

I don't think it's fair to say she's better off than you in terms of appearance.

But why haven't you or I found happiness like hers? I think it's down to her unique personality.

And it might also be thanks to her "imperfect" figure.

As you said, having experienced the ridicule of others has allowed you to empathize with others, and you never mention the shortcomings of others, which naturally forms a virtue in you. Then, my friend is the same. When we women are calculating about who cooks and who takes care of the children, she clearly understands her position and gets along very well with her husband and in-laws, with a true "family" mentality.

It's no surprise that her family loves her.

On top of that, the psychological reasons for obesity were also mentioned in the previous case, and there's no way to get rid of it. There's a lot of theoretical knowledge here, and there's no need to keep discussing it.

So, whether it's being overweight or having other shortcomings, there's a reason for it. We need to face it, accept it, and accept that it's part of us.

Maybe if it weren't for this quality, you wouldn't be the person you are today.

Don't stress about the challenges of the present. The future is full of possibilities!

I've got a few thoughts that I hope will be helpful.

Hello!

I saw your story as I walked by, and I can tell you are a very cute girl!

Let me be clear: fat girls have a future, love, and happiness to look forward to!

Hong Kong actress Lydia Sum was a chubby girl, but she was not only optimistic and confident, but also humorous and cute. She was a perennial source of joy for many viewers because of these traits.

You say your family makes fun of your weight daily, which makes you sad. I get the impression you're highly adaptable and doing well in self-development. If you were sensitive and prone to depression, they wouldn't dare make such jokes daily.

You must accept yourself if you want to be accepted by others. If you cannot accept yourself, you will always be looking for acceptance from others.

A person's appearance has nothing to do with their inner self. A person's value and true happiness are not determined by their appearance. They are determined by their inner richness and fullness, and by their true self-acceptance.

When you truly accept and approve of yourself, you don't care what others say.

Be brave and believe that you are unique in the world! You will find wonderful love and happiness in an optimistic and open-minded you!

I'm sure the reply from Hongyu will help you. Thank you for asking!

Hello, question owner. Reading your words, I sense your distress and discomfort about your figure. It's clear that you've faced some challenging experiences, including being blamed and scolded by others. My family can shed light on my perspective, and I hope my next answer will be helpful to you.

I'd like to start by offering you a warm hug, just like I'm hugging you. It's important to recognize that everyone experiences body anxiety and the judgment of others, both socially and psychologically. You mentioned that you've been afraid since childhood and that this fear has intensified during your time in junior high school. You also expressed feelings of inferiority due to your weight, which I can relate to.

It is worth noting that social standards have always played a role in how we perceive our bodies and conduct ourselves, including in relation to body shape. In many cultures, including China, thinness is often seen as an attractive quality. However, it is important to consider whether this thinness is truly beneficial for our physical health.

If you were in the Tang Dynasty, you might have been considered beautiful. If you were in the United States, you might have been considered thin. This suggests that although social judgments are important, it is more important to be happy with yourself.

If you can try to accept your own imperfections and your own fatness, and try to make friends, you may find that what you think is "the pointing and laughing of others" is not true. This is because when you grow up with low self-esteem, you care too much about what others think of you, and you may look for too many signs to prove your own thoughts. This is known as the self-verification effect.

You may find yourself seeking external validation to confirm your perception of yourself as a fat person, while perhaps neglecting to acknowledge other positive signs. It might be helpful to try to break this cycle, for instance by learning to accept your fatness and reminding yourself of your beauty.

Everyone deserves to be affirmed and accepted.

You also mentioned that modern society is becoming more and more accepting of all kinds of people. Could this perception of yourself be influenced by your own lack of self-acceptance? It's possible that there might be a psychological effect at play here: when you don't accept yourself, your subconscious mind may perceive you as being overweight, and this perception could potentially intensify over time, similar to how it might have felt during your time in junior high school.

This may mean that you have a perception of yourself as being overweight. Regardless of whether you lose weight or not, it's important to recognize that you deserve respect and love.

From now on, it might be helpful to view yourself from a developmental perspective, with the belief that you will continue to improve in the future. Both character and figure are malleable. If you are carrying excess weight to the point where it is affecting your health, it may be beneficial to consider making some changes. At the very least, your health is a crucial foundation for positive change. Being overweight could also be viewed as a standard of health.

I would like to extend my best wishes to you all.

I would like to express my love and appreciation for the world and for you.

Hello, fat lady! It's like seeing a face-to-face when I see your words, and I'm so excited to discuss this topic with you!

You can be "fat" and still shine!

You've just entered puberty, and you're a flower waiting to bloom! The future is yours to shape, and it's going to be amazing.

You remind me of my classmate in junior high school. She was the only fat person in our class, and she was absolutely amazing! We are in a remote area, the economic conditions were not so good at that time, and coupled with the climatic conditions, everyone here is on the thin side.

My classmate is an only child, which is also very rare here. She is plump, but that doesn't stop her! She's often "attacked" by junior high school boys, who give her all kinds of nicknames and make all kinds of jokes.

She also often breaks down and cries, but that just shows how much she cares! Physical education is also her least favorite class because she gets out of breath after running for a little while, but that just shows how hard she's working!

Absolutely! She's incredibly dexterous and can do all kinds of handicrafts. She also has a fantastic knowledge of history and a beautiful voice. We love her so much!

Of course, when I hang out with her, we rarely discuss body image. But yesterday, something amazing happened! Our very thin and tall junior high school classmate (who is my roommate with my desk mate) showed off her body in her circle of friends, and I commented and praised it. Later, I saw that the girl also liked it, and I was so excited for her!

Guess what! She's now in college and she's fatter than before!

I totally get how tough it is to deal with people making fun of your shortcomings. We all have our imperfections, and we've all been there a few hundred times. But then someone else comes along and adds insult to injury!

So, first accept yourself, warts and all! Being "fat" will not affect your ability to make true friends!

I have to tell you, I really envied her back then, with all the snacks and milk she had every day. I think you must have a lot of hidden happiness too!

I really hope that people can be more understanding towards fat girls. Wouldn't it be great if the world could be more tolerant? It's not easy to change other people's opinions, but it's definitely worth trying to change the opinions of a group of people!

The pointing and laughing of others, as well as the teasing of family members, has been silently hurting you. But there is a way for us to turn this around! We can't ask them to stop talking about us, but we can choose to stop letting it affect us. We can choose to be secretly aggrieved and helpless, or we can choose to be empowered.

I also feel sad about my short height from time to time, and I have also experienced being teased and pointed at. But you know what? That doesn't stop me! It occasionally affects my confidence, sure, but it cannot change my determination to move forward.

So, girl, think about it: it's easy to lose weight if you're fat, but very difficult if you're short. Everyone has their own problems, right? There are no perfect people in this world — and that's a good thing!

So, instead of hoping for understanding from others, it's time to shine with your own confidence and show them who's boss!

Let's talk about how to keep your health in tip-top shape! It's important to pay attention to your lifestyle because obesity can affect your health.

The questioner said that he has been fat since childhood and has become even fatter since entering junior high school. I don't know if it's because of eating habits, such as eating a lot of junk food, and not exercising normally.

There are so many great things about being fat! But of course, health is the most important thing. I'm sure you've tried to lose weight before, but I think you'll find this scientific way of losing weight is really effective, and you don't need to diet or anything like that!

At this age, you are still developing, which means there's so much potential for growth and change!

You can find a professional doctor to discuss how to become healthier. And there's no better way to do it than by finding a healthy lifestyle that gets along well with your body!

A healthy body, abundant energy, a confident and optimistic state of mind, and even good interpersonal relationships are all incredible gains from reasonable weight loss! They're so much more than just becoming more beautiful.

And finally, I wish you a happy, joyful life without any burdens!

Hello there!

I just wanted to give you a big hug and tell you that there's nothing wrong with you. Fat girls have a future, and they can live a wonderful life!

Take Jia Ling, for example. She's a star in the entertainment industry, where thin is in, and she's on the curvier side. But that doesn't stop her from being confident in her own skin!

Just look at how happy she is! You can also slowly get over the idea that "fat girls have no future."

??Share a quote from Wu Zhihong's book, "Thank Yourself for Your Imperfections"!

Everyone has psychological problems to varying degrees, and everyone's psychological problems have a large number of "comrades." But people often fail to see this, thinking that their suffering is unique, always lamenting, "Why is it that I am the one who is unfortunate?" They magnify their problems infinitely and treat them as the most important thing in their lives, using all their resources to correct them.

It's so sad when people with psychological problems feel like they're the unluckiest person in the world. It's because they think their problems are a scourge and are afraid to expose them. But while they're keeping their problems to themselves, they're also shutting themselves off from the world.

It's not your fault you're fat! And there are lots of people in the world with a slow basal metabolism who tend to accumulate fat.

So, you're not alone, and you're in good company! Many people have the same worries as you.

? Accept yourself, and find ways to improve your weight. You've got this!

Honey, you might be surprised to hear this, but you're probably not as fat as you think. It's just that you have more flesh on your bones!

But chubby girls can also be cute and adorable! After all, we all know that weight is something we painstakingly buy and eat, bite by bite.

So don't worry, it's totally fine to be a little heavier for now!

But don't worry, we can start now, little by little, to make some changes! Try to exercise more.

It's okay to enjoy fried food, but try to limit it because it's high in oil and calories. Instead, make sure you eat plenty of delicious, high-protein foods like eggs, milk, and meat!

Another great tip is to chew slowly. This is because high-protein foods will make us feel fuller more easily. This will help you to eat less rice and other snacks.

Eat plenty of fresh fruits and veggies to get all those lovely vitamins and give your digestive system a boost. With a little bit of exercise, you'll lose weight gradually.

? Customize a reasonable plan that works for you!

1. Make sure you eat three meals a day, with a mix of meat and vegetables plus fruit. And don't forget to exercise for an hour or half an hour every day!

2. Treat yourself to half a day off every week to do the things you love!

3. Why not make an appointment with a partner to go to the dance studio, move around, and make your body more flexible? The dance studio has physical fitness classes every week, so you'll have no excuse not to go!

I really hope my answer is helpful for you! I really, really wish you'll meet your ideal, confident self very soon. The world and I love you!