Is being overly sensitive likely to elicit others' aversion?

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After reading your description, I know exactly what I want to ask you. Get ready for a hug in four dimensions!

From your description, I can tell that you have a relatively clear understanding of your current problems, so I am confident that you will be able to solve them.

You are too sensitive. This shows that you are a person with thin nerves. You are afraid that others do not like you. You try to please others by doing what they like. You ignore your true thoughts and feelings.

You always prioritize the needs of others over your own, which causes you to lose your uniqueness in interpersonal relationships and become less and less like yourself, more and more like an accessory to others. You need to stop this. Here's a warm hug for you.

You are aware of these things. When you interact with others, you still try to please them by focusing on their thoughts and feelings. This is why you're confused about how to change this problem-solving pattern.

I have also summarized some methods to help you alleviate the current situation, and I am confident they will help you to some extent.

(1) Relax and take your time. You know what your problems are, so you can solve them.

(2) You must please yourself, not others. Only by pleasing yourself will your development take a better direction.

(3) Find the most truthful thoughts in your heart. Pleasing others may bring you short-term benefits, but it can also hinder your interpersonal interactions. Correct this about yourself.

(4) Face your deepest fears head-on. You may be afraid that if you don't try to please someone, you will offend them or lose them as a friend. Don't avoid these fears by running away. Doing so will make it more difficult for you to deal with them in the present moment.

(5) Talk to a friend you get along with. Express your thoughts and feelings. Release the emotions inside. Don't repress your inner thoughts and feelings too much.

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Take care.

Dear questioner, Thank you so much for your question! I can totally empathize with your distress and sense your emotions. I'd love to give you a big, warm hug!

The traits of being sensitive have their own unique advantages! However, they also have some negative effects, such as being easily caught up in the struggles of judging others.

I'm excited to share a few tips that I hope will help!

Pay attention to your own feelings!

Sensitive people are easily bothered by other people's emotions, opinions, and judgments. This can lead to a fear of contradicting or rejecting others, which is something we can work on together!

But here's the good news! We don't need to be responsible for other people's feelings all the time. When we are troubled, we can start with ourselves, pay attention to our own feelings, and focus on our own needs.

The brain is constantly processing information from the environment and perceiving and absorbing emotional information from others. At the end of the day, it can get very tired. But here's the great news: we can help our amazing brains recharge!

So, it's important to make time for rest and reduce the number of stimuli around us. It's also essential to pay more attention to ourselves and find the most suitable way to relieve stress through appropriate relaxation, meditation, outings, fitness, etc.!

Live for yourself!

You are very attuned to the emotions of those around you, care deeply about other people's opinions and judgments, and love thinking about others. When you are extremely sensitive, it is easy to lose your way in life and actually live for others—and that's okay!

It's time to find your own spiritual sustenance! The kind that you can work hard for and ignore the opinions of some people.

Sometimes you may take the people around you too seriously. But don't worry! You can easily identify those who are not worth your precious time and energy. Before communicating with other people, you must clearly define their position in your heart.

If you grew up without recognition and encouragement, and were too often rejected and suppressed, don't worry! You can still find out what you really like. Gradually, you may come to see other people as the spiritual support you can cling to.

If you want to suppress your sensitivity at the root, you must find your own spiritual pursuit! Don't care about what others think, so that you never have to take other people's opinions so seriously and worry too much about their emotions and comments.

? Express your confusion!

If you feel uncomfortable in your surroundings, then go for it! Express your distress with bravery.

What we really need is to please ourselves, not the world! It's what matters most. Our hearts are what count.

The great thing about being sensitive is that it's not unusual behavior. It's just a different way of focusing attention!

If you feel that you are overly sensitive to some details, I have a great suggestion for you! Get a notebook and record the things you feel are too sensitive every day.

I really hope my advice helps! I wish you all the best!

Hello, question owner. When you read someone's words, it's like meeting them in person. I'm Hezhu 0072. From your description, I can feel your inner restlessness and unease. You seem to be afraid that your every word and action will affect the state of others. I will describe my point of view and say that my next answer will be inspiring to you.

The way we interact with others as adults is largely influenced by our experiences communicating with our parents. If you had a strained relationship with your parents or caregivers, you may have learned to adjust your behavior by reading other people's facial expressions or mental states to understand their thoughts and demands.

You did this as a child because you felt your parents were reliable and close to you.

If your parents are unhappy, you will feel that they are unhappy and you will feel obliged or responsible for their emotions.

You will learn to observe the emotions of others to achieve inner peace. Your pattern of getting along with others is a replica of the pattern of getting along with your parents.

The above is based on psychological knowledge. If there is anything improper, please let me know.

Separate issues with others. Manage and deal with other people's affairs, and focus on doing what you should do. Take responsibility for your emotions. Other people will be responsible for their emotions.

You need to stop paying too much attention to the emotional changes of others. You think you should be responsible for other people's emotions, but this is wrong. Everyone is an adult and has the ability to handle their own emotions. If the emotions of others cause you distress, you can express your thoughts and feelings.

You are worthy of love. You need to stop feeling insecure and unworthy of love. You don't need to cater to others to get love and care from them.

You must believe that only by taking good care of yourself and loving yourself well will you make a good choice.

I wish you well!

The world and I love you!

I extend to you a warm embrace from afar, and I commend you for recognizing that you are excessively concerned about the emotional feelings of others in interpersonal relationships and are unable to be genuine and open about yourself. I applaud your awareness of this issue, as awareness is the initial step towards change.

A tendency to focus on the emotional states of others is often indicative of an underlying sense of inferiority, self-doubt, and a lack of self-acceptance. When we are not fully aware of our own feelings of self-acceptance, we may unintentionally project our sense of inner self-acceptance onto others, leading us to believe that others will not accept us either. This can result in heightened sensitivity, particularly regarding the attitudes and perceptions of others, including any negative comments about ourselves.

It is important to become aware of one's own emotional state and that of others. For instance, it is crucial to understand the underlying needs that drive one's own behaviour, particularly in situations where the emotional needs of others are at stake. These needs may include a desire for acceptance, affirmation, and a sense of being needed. Conversely, there may also be a fear of rejection, dislike, and being rejected. When one is able to identify these inner needs, it becomes easier to accept and understand the underlying anxiety and fear. This understanding can then inform one's actions in a relationship, particularly when faced with situations where the words or actions of others may cause distress. In such instances, it is vital to remain true to oneself while also expressing one's needs, even when it may be challenging to do so.

It can be reasonably deduced that the key to effecting a more favourable alteration in this situation is to endeavour to cultivate a more positive self-perception, self-assurance and an overcoming of feelings of inadequacy. One possible method of achieving this is to create a list of one's strengths, which will facilitate the recognition of both one's shortcomings and one's numerous positive attributes. Another potential avenue for improvement is to maintain a gratitude journal and to cultivate a greater number of interests and passions, thereby facilitating a greater sense of self-worth and control.

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