Is he a fleeting moment of brilliance, or is he truly the right person? Is this over-exaggeration of imagination?

Hello,

From what you've said, it seems like you have mixed feelings about this blind date. On the one hand, you feel like he might not be the right person for you because you have some difficulty communicating with each other and you feel like he might not meet some of your expectations. On the other hand, you've become emotionally attached to him and have even acted in a childish manner.

This is pretty common. Lots of people have gone through similar issues and struggles in relationships. For you, the first thing you need to do is figure out your attitude and expectations towards relationships, as well as your true feelings towards this blind date.

If you feel he's not the right person for you, you need to be brave and face your feelings. If you feel he has the potential to be the right person for you, you need to communicate with him more actively, understand each other's thoughts and feelings, and develop the relationship better.

It's also important to think about your attitude towards relationships and emotional dependence. Are you looking for a perfect or idealised love?

Are you looking for more personal space and independence? Do you need to focus more on your inner world and growth?

These are the things you need to think about before you find the right person for you.

In the end, whether you decide to stay single or keep looking for the right person, you need to respect your own feelings and choices. Don't let outside pressures or expectations influence your decisions, and don't force yourself to make the wrong choices.

Have faith in your abilities and instincts, and trust that the future will be bright. This will help you move towards your own happiness.

Good day. I am Counselor House, and I appreciate you sharing your narrative with me.

The question primarily concerns your perspectives on love and your romantic partner. You seek to ascertain whether your sentiments for your blind date are genuine love or merely a fantasy, and whether you encounter any issues or require modifications.

The following sections will present an analysis and suggestions on the aforementioned topics, with the aim of providing inspiration.

View of Love: An individual's perspective on love is shaped by a multitude of factors, including upbringing, family education, and social culture. It is not uncommon for individuals to view love and marriage as an inevitable and significant aspect of life. They may also have expectations and standards for themselves and their partners, as well as fantasies and ideals about love and marriage.

It is important to note that these experiences are not uncommon. However, it is also essential to recognize that love and marriage are not the sole determining factors in life. Individuals should not feel compelled to alter their personalities or values in pursuit of love and marriage. It is not necessary to disregard one's feelings and desires in order to align with the expectations and standards of others. It is not advisable to ignore the reality and differences of a partner in order to fulfill one's personal aspirations. It is possible to acquire fundamental principles and skills related to love, such as respect, trust, communication, tolerance, and compromise.

The presence of a romantic interest may be influenced by a number of factors, including initial impressions, physical appearance, personality traits, and occupation. It is not uncommon to experience a range of emotions, including positive or negative feelings, as well as form judgments or evaluations about the individual in question.

It is important to note that these feelings are normal, but it is also essential to recognize that one's romantic partner is not a mere object or instrument. They are an individual with their own thoughts and feelings. It is not necessary to choose or exclude them in order to fulfill one's own needs or desires. There is no obligation to change or adapt to them in order to align with one's own standards or ideals. It is not necessary to use or sacrifice them in order to achieve one's fantasies or goals.

One may also learn judgment criteria and methods for love, such as common ground, differences, mutual feelings, mutual actions, and so forth.

Self-worth and self-esteem: One's self-worth and self-esteem may be affected by factors such as one's self-assessment, the assessment of others, and social assessment. One may possess some knowledge or misconceptions about oneself, may have some affirmation or negation of oneself, and may be somewhat satisfied or dissatisfied with oneself.

It is important to note that self-worth and self-esteem are not determined by external factors, such as the opinions of others or societal expectations. One's sense of self-worth and self-esteem should not be contingent on gaining external approval or conforming to societal demands. It is not necessary to suppress one's authentic self or unique needs in order to achieve external validation or success.

One may learn various methods of self-knowledge and self-affirmation, including self-reflection, self-expression, self-praise, and self-reward.

In conclusion, the individual in question is a valuable and charming person with dreams. Their love life and marriage are their choices and their rights. It is important not to allow others or the outside world to influence them, and similarly, they should not allow their own fantasies or ideals to bind them. Believing in oneself and in love is crucial, as is respecting oneself and the other person. Enjoying one's love life and taking responsibility for it is also essential. It is my hope that the individual will be able to find their true love and also find self-love.

Should you have any further inquiries, please do not hesitate to contact me. I am always available to provide support and encouragement.

Hello, question asker! I'm Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu, your Heart Detective coach.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're looking for something more meaningful in a relationship than just a quick hookup. It's great that you're not rushing into anything! Marriage isn't a necessity, but it can be a wonderful step to take when the time is right.

I used to have a colleague who was always a bit of a mystery to us at our age. But after a few years, I saw her posting photos of her children in her circle of friends, and it was so lovely to see her happiness. I think age should perhaps not be a source of anxiety about marriage. It is more important to try to determine what you want for yourself.

Guessing what someone else wants can be tricky. In "The Little Thing Called First Love," the male and female main characters didn't realize they were in love because they were too caught up in their own thoughts and misunderstandings. They eventually grew apart. But after some time and many adventures, they finally told each other how they felt. This shows us that sometimes, we just need to speak up!

It's so important to know what you want in a partner. If you're not sure, take some time to think about what you're looking for. Once you know what you want, you can start looking for it! If you meet your own criteria for a partner, why not give it a go? It's always worth giving someone a chance to get to know each other better.

It's so interesting how our needs and standards change over time. If the other person can still connect with you after all this time, it might really be some kind of fate! Someone once said, "It takes 500 previous lives to exchange glances with someone before you pass each other in this life." The questioner not only passed the other person, but also did so twice! The connection was even stronger than a passing glance. Maybe you could consider trying to understand?

It's always a good idea to try to improve your understanding of each other. Then, you can ask the other person about their impression of you. This might help you indirectly probe the other person's attitude. Not trying might turn out to be a regret, but trying and then confirming might bring both surprises and regrets. But perhaps after trying, you will feel more certain, and you can avoid the regret of the uncertainty of my guess. It can be seen that the questioner is not necessarily obsessed with the result, so it might not matter if you ask.

Love is an intimate relationship between two independent people who get close to each other (not raising children, nor looking for a boss). One party spoils the other, and there may also be boundaries and a need to be cared for. The questioner may try to understand each other's love personalities and adjust to a more suitable mode of getting along. "How to Hug a Hedgehog" may be able to give the questioner some inspiration.

As a woman, I would gently suggest that the questioner take a look at the lowest point of human nature. When a person doesn't go beyond the line even at the lowest point, and that person also meets your own standards for a spouse, it might be worth considering.

Everyone is special and unique. If the questioner looks at the other person as a substitute for another person, this relationship might not work out. Even if the other person doesn't know anything, they might sense something from the questioner's emotions or from the questioner's friends.

From what you've told me, it seems like you might be a little unsure about relationships. Maybe you've had a bad experience in the past that has made you a bit nervous about getting close to someone. But if you don't give it a try, you'll never know what could happen. Why not give it a go? You've got nothing to lose!

There's a saying that I think you'll find really helpful: "You should strategically defy and tactically value." It basically means that you can't force the result, but you can try to make the process without regrets. So, you just need to avoid behaviors like "I thought," "avoiding," and so on, because they fail to understand the true intentions.

I hope this is helpful for you! Best wishes!

Hello, my name is Zeyu.

"Is he just a fleeting presence, or is he the one? Is this merely wishful thinking?" The answer depends on how we perceive him and what he means to us. It's about our personal beliefs, our individual perspective, and even our life experience.

Perhaps we could try to identify some potential causes for this issue based on the description provided. What are some possible solutions in the real world? The questioner seems to be of a age where marriage may not be a realistic option. This could be seen as an objective fact, but it could also be interpreted as a subjective opinion. If we consider that marriage is not limited by age and that it should not be a determining factor in pursuing happiness, then there is no such thing as exceeding or not exceeding the marriageable age.

Reality: The host believes that he is well past the age at which marriage is typically considered. This suggests that we may no longer have the freedom to make our own decisions about marriage and love.

Could I ask you to consider what has changed between the time when something is not acceptable and the time when it feels acceptable? I wonder if it is perhaps the case that reality has made us change our minds because time is running out, or whether it is more accurate to say that we have really changed.

In this regard, it might be helpful to consider what has caused our attitude to change. This could help us understand what kind of mentality we are making decisions with and whether the decision itself comes from the heart. This could be a reason to justify ourselves.

The experiences of a blind date, online dating, and unrequited love, as mentioned by the questioner, are all experiences that many of us have had. The meaning we give to these experiences depends on our own perspective and approach to things. If we can find experience and value in them, the experience itself can bring us growth. If we can't see the light in them, it's only temporary. All we can do is avoid making the same mistakes.

It is impossible to know with certainty who we will be with in life or how many relationships we will experience. It is similarly impossible to make an accurate prediction. However, we have the power to decide these things for ourselves and the right to make choices. As for the outcome of our choices, it can only be left to the future. All we can do is try not to have any regrets in the present.

Ultimately, only you can decide whether a pair of shoes fits well or not, and only you can decide whether you like someone or not. If the questioner is willing to talk, then they might as well give themselves a chance and give the other person a chance. If the questioner is hesitant, then they should try to ask themselves what their heart is telling them and listen to the voice within.

Good day. How are you doing?

You experience an emotional surge when your "blind date" reappears, and you desire to establish a closer connection with them, yet you are also apprehensive.

Your objective is to enjoy the feeling of being noticed (for example, by being greeted with a "good morning" and "good night") and to be happy.

You are concerned about the potential for disappointment and letdown, given the proximity of your relationship and the sudden cessation of contact from your partner. You are uncertain about the suitability of your investment in a relationship with someone who may not be the optimal partner.

You are experiencing internal conflict and have reservations about his commitment to marriage. It seems that there may be an obstacle preventing you from fully understanding his intentions. Let's examine together what you truly desire.

Please describe the content of your fantasy.

"I may feel that I have a future with him, so I am willing to take a more relaxed approach. That image is, after all, a fantasy, and it is in front of him that I reveal my childish side instead"... "Once this male classmate I liked also made me feel like a child, but not to the same extent.

He does not indulge my requests for attention, even when they are relatively minor. For example, when he eats sausage and coffee, I will ask for some, but he ignores me.

From these two descriptions, it is evident that in the presence of individuals of the opposite sex, you exhibit childlike behavior and a desire for indulgence. You fantasize about being in a relationship with them, but in reality, it is merely one-sided infatuation, and the relationship has not been validated.

[Your emotional pattern]

It is likely that your emotional pattern involves a tendency to pursue romantic interests in a passive manner. Rather than actively seeking to confirm the relationship, you may find yourself imagining that you are already together. This can manifest as a tendency to act in a self-indulgent manner in front of your romantic interest, which provides a sense of emotional fulfilment without the pain of rejection or the dissolution of the relationship.

What is your objective?

It is important to ensure that the individual you are entering into a relationship with is suitable for the long term. However, there is a paradox in this: if you have not yet experienced true love, it is difficult to ascertain whether the person you are with is the right one for you.

I would like to remind you that there is a possibility of being hurt, rejected, or not being the ideal candidate for this role. However, I encourage you to be courageous and take the initiative to demonstrate your affection, express your emotions, and confirm the relationship. As you mentioned at the conclusion, even if the outcome is that he is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you, I advise you to continue your search. There is no harm in doing so.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

I am your neighbor, Potato Maling, who has grown up with you. Thank you for your attention.

Hello! I'm June Lai Feng.

You are anxious after reading your narrative.

Your narrative is emotional, but we can keep it simple.

There are two issues to resolve.

I like feeling like a child around guys. Is there a problem with that?

This may be a way of protecting yourself or a way of affirming yourself. When you act like a child in front of boys, you may feel safer and more comfortable because you feel you won't be rejected or criticized.

It may also be a way of affirming yourself because you feel cute and interesting and are able to attract boys' attention.

If you lacked attention and love as a child, you may try to get it by acting like a child in front of boys.

Your character and personality may also play a role. If you're cheerful, lively, and lovable, you may act like a child in front of boys, which can make you feel happy and accepted.

Women are often caregivers. Acting like a child in front of boys may be a way to explore femininity. Showing your vulnerable, needy side may help you explore different aspects of yourself as a woman.

Acting like a child may make the boy pay attention to you. This may make you feel good about yourself.

It's normal. If you think acting like a child is a way to protect yourself or affirm yourself, accept it and find other ways to feel secure.

Is he just a fling, or is he the one?

This is up to you.

"Ephemeral" means something beautiful that lasts a short time. If someone only appears and disappears quickly, they may not be right for you.

If you're not sure if he's just a fling or the one, think about two things.

Questions about him:

Observe his behavior, sincerity, and respect for your feelings.

Understand his past and if he has had similar experiences and stable relationships.

Talk to him to see if you have things in common.

See if your relationship can develop.

Questions about yourself:

What's your relationship like? Do you share interests, values, and goals?

Do you communicate well and support each other?

Do you trust him? Do you find him attractive?

Do you feel comfortable with him? Are you willing to devote time to him?

What are your goals? Do you want a long-term relationship?

Do you want someone who grows with you?

Ultimately, you need to decide based on your feelings and circumstances. If you feel he's right for you and your relationship is healthy, you can choose to stay with him.

If you think this is just another short-lived relationship or if there are problems, you may need to think again. Don't rush into a decision. Think carefully about what you want and make an informed choice.

I love you and wish you happiness!

Hello, I'm Jokerev, and I'm thrilled to hear about your emotional journey! It sounds like you're experiencing a rich inner drama, full of nostalgia for the past, choices about the present, and exploration of the uncertainty of the future.

First of all, I want to say that everyone has their own unique way of expressing emotions and emotional needs, and that's a wonderful thing! It is perfectly normal to want to show your childlike side in front of a particular person. We all have an inner child who needs a safe space to release that innocence and dependence, and it's great to give them that opportunity!

From a philosophical perspective, it's amazing how different people can influence our emotional world in their own way. That classmate who once made you feel like a child may be part of your youthful memories and represent a certain emotional support during that period.

A blind date reappearance is like a brand new page in your life! It's a chance to re-examine and accept new possibilities.

Facing this person you have reconnected with, you have become more open-minded and feel a sense of closeness, which shows that your heart is opening up to new possibilities! However, you have also expressed a rational side, knowing that you cannot pin all your hopes on him, but rather remain vigilant and see if you are really a good match and have a shared vision of life and future plans.

Meanwhile, the phenomenon you mentioned, the "curse" of always unconsciously comparing others to the classmate in your heart, is also a common psychological phenomenon, the so-called "first love effect." But here's the good news: you can break free from this trap! Past emotional experiences are imprints of growth, but they should not be the only measure of current or future relationships.

So, in the process, give yourself more time and space, allow yourself to feel the beauty of the moment, and at the same time, bravely face possible regrets and losses. You might as well try to communicate honestly with your blind date to understand his true thoughts and express your expectations and concerns. It'll be so worth it!

If he really is the one who can walk side by side with you, time will tell! If not, no problem! Keep looking for your own piece of sky, and you will always meet better scenery!

Life is an amazing journey of self-discovery and growth! No matter what the final result is, it's so important to cherish every experience, learn from it, and grow from it.

I wish you all the best on your journey of love! I hope you find true happiness along the way.

Hello. I'm happy to answer your question. I hope my suggestions help.

You seem calm and self-possessed. You have a new perspective on emotions and life. You are different from who you were a few years ago.

This is a good state, brought about by growth and ideas about the future.

People have stereotypes about marriageable age. For girls, it's said that before the age of 25 is the best age to find a match. For boys, there is also a marriageable age, but it's more flexible. However, there are still some restrictions.

However, these limitations require both men and women to understand themselves. Age is just a number. Love and marriage can be found at any age. We can find the right relationship at any age.

We now know that there is no single path to happiness in love and marriage. We can sort out our views on love and marriage, especially when choosing a spouse. We can screen and communicate according to our own criteria, get to know the person we are dating, and try to meet someone suitable.

It's also a way to be happy. We can plan our careers and lives better. We can enjoy our hobbies too.

I hope you can find a lifestyle that suits you at different stages of your life.

I love you, world!