It all boils down to my ugly appearance, what if I tell you I'm scared?

Hello, question asker. I can see the confusion you are facing right now. Let me be clear: you will get through this. Hugs to you!

You are experiencing behavioral problems. I give you a warm hug again.

I understand your reluctance to be looked down upon.

You thought that because you didn't look good, other people would look down on you.

This is a common phenomenon in the current "going with the flow."

Your current situation is, as you said, suicidal, which is very scary. You can get through this.

You were looked down upon before you went to university because you weren't good-looking. This caused you to have a period of depression.

But you got through it.

Think back. How did you get out of that depressed stage?

Or what you did to get yourself out of it.

You should go to the hospital for a detailed examination if you feel that these negative thoughts have been going on for a while.

You have had a previous experience of depression, and you are at risk of relapse.

If depression does recur, it can manifest in different ways.

If it is mild, you can regulate and heal it yourself.

If it is moderate to severe, you must take medication and go to psychological counseling at a fixed frequency, such as once a week.

You need to go to the hospital right away because your family thinks you're sick.

You should go to a specialist department in a professional tertiary hospital, such as a psychiatric outpatient department, for further examination.

I am confident that the problem you are facing will be resolved soon.

I can think of these now.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful and inspiring to you. I am the answerer who studies hard every day.

At Yixinli, we love you—the world and I. Best wishes!

Hi, I'm Xiaolan. I hope I can help!

Many girls worry about their appearance. Some are naturally pretty but lack confidence, while others are plain but confident.

A person's appearance can change for many reasons. Sometimes it's because of how they feel. If you're happy, you look better. If you frown all the time, you look less good. As you get older, you become more beautiful. You're young now, so you'll miss the time when you looked good. What you call ugly is not really about how ugly you are. It's about your beliefs.

Your appearance anxiety may be related to family, personal experiences, and social environment. You may have done some self-exploration, but it has not helped. It is recommended that you seek help from a professional counselor to relieve your emotions, sort out your personal growth experience, and better understand and develop yourself.

Your appearance can change. You can become ugly or beautiful. Appearance is partly genetic, which cannot be changed, and partly up to you, which you can change.

Your appearance is partly due to your parents and partly due to you.

Your family members aren't good-looking, and you blame their appearance. You also blame your parents. What can you do to look better? Get fit, read, learn about makeup, and dress better.

Start with the one thing you find easiest to do! Change a little bit every day.

Hello, dear questioner!

You're already in college! I'm so excited for you. I'm curious, what year are you in and how many years of college have you been in so far? From what you've said, I can tell that

It's okay, we all get stuck sometimes. It's just that you've been a little unsure of yourself and maybe you've been holding back a little. But don't worry, you'll get there!

I think you should have had a crush on someone, but you missed it because you considered yourself a huge baby. Then a series of subsequent actions caused by this incident led to your current bad mood. Don't worry, it'll pass!

I thought, "It's not because you've missed the right person, sweetheart. It's probably because you're thinking about relationships." You're already in college, and every adolescent boy and girl wants a good relationship.

It's a natural part of life that we all go through, and it's perfectly normal. Otherwise, we wouldn't be able to keep the human race going!

You know, when I read what you said:

After I went to university, I began to doubt the days when I used to look good.

I thought, "You used to look very good, so you must be a beautiful person." Could it be that you had a little problem because of skin allergies during puberty? But don't worry, it's just a little thing, and your base color is also very beautiful.

We all know that nobody's perfect, and there aren't many perfect people in the world. If you look around, are they all ugly for the rest of their lives?

I wonder what people who have never enjoyed a good day will do?

I don't know if you've thought about them, but I'm sure you have! Think about your classmates, or friends and family!

You're also going through adolescence, right? Are you feeling under the weather? It seems like you're having some trouble with your leg and you're feeling down about your appearance. I just want to say that I don't think you're the ugliest person in the world. I get the feeling that you're being a bit too hard on yourself, and I just wanted to say that you're doing great!

If I'm right, I feel like we don't really deserve it. You see, before you went to university, you were feeling down because of your appearance anxiety. When you found a way to deal with it, by studying hard, it sent you to university. It's clear you're very capable. Relying on your own abilities, studying hard on your own, you are about to get your own results. You're doing great in your studies, and there was a time when you looked good, but now you've encountered a little bit of a difference in your appearance. How did you make one wrong step after another and get here?

And then, when you've had a moment to reflect on the opportunity that was missed, you can get back up here again. How?

I think we should give studying hard another try! Let's use the same determination you had when you were preparing for the university entrance exam to study at university. Then, we can become outstanding university students and show off our potential!

We first exist as ourselves, that is to say, we are a person with integrity. We do not exist for a particular person, as we have said. We cannot let this life of ours just be wasted. If we do not have the drive to learn on our own, there is nothing we can do. We did have it once, so how can we just admit defeat? We must live out ourselves. They are people, and so are we. We used to defy everyone, and that's okay!

I think you're a pretty kind and filial college student. I can see how worried your family is about you, and I can feel their fear. We all want to make our parents happy by living a good life, and this is definitely the thing we want most in our hearts.

From now on, you might as well get up from bed, wash your face, go out for a five-minute walk, come back, take out a pen and paper, write down your thoughts at the moment, and then go back to bed. But you still have to repeat this process the next day. In other words, you have to keep doing this for a few days.

After five or six days, I really hope you can post what you wrote on this platform again. This is a great place to share updates and stories. You can write about your feelings here. It doesn't have to be a reward. We know that as long as you say it out loud and write it down, it will be very helpful to you, because you have let out your emotions and not held them inside. This way, we can feel a little bit more relaxed and won't feel so much pressure.

I really hope this approach helps you, even though I'm just a regular person.

In any case, I just want you to know that the world and I love you!

Good day. I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance, and I hope that my input will provide you with the support and help you require.

Attributing issues to one's appearance is often a manifestation of internal inferiority, lack of self-confidence, and an inability to accept oneself. It can be viewed as a form of unconscious self-defense and self-protection.

Using one's appearance as a reason to avoid facing one's true self can lead to a sense of powerlessness and frustration in many ways. We would value your thoughts on this matter.

As long as this attribution does not have a significant impact on your studies or life in general, there is no cause for concern.

However, your description indicates that your internal stable attribution model has affected your normal study and life. For example, you are reluctant to engage in intimate relationships, preferring to immerse yourself in the plots of film and television dramas. This avoidance of real-life interactions is a clear indication of your internal model. Furthermore, your tendency to satisfy your physical and mental needs through daydreaming suggests that you are not fully engaged in the present moment. This avoidance of the present moment is also a consequence of your internal model.

While this approach may meet certain needs to a certain extent for a certain period of time, the sense of pleasure it brings is only temporary and does not nourish the body and mind in a sustainable way. In fact, the more you rely on it, the more empty and anxious you will feel. Constantly avoiding nourishment through entering into real relationships will make a person even more inferior, less confident, self-negating, self-critical, and self-withdrawn.

Consequently, when you have a comprehensive understanding of your own behavioural patterns, you can leverage self-awareness to inform your pursuit of more effective change strategies.

It is important to note that the foundation of change is acceptance. This entails recognizing the benefits that the self-attributed pattern has brought to oneself, such as avoiding being disliked and rejected and being hurt. Concurrently, it is essential to acknowledge the challenges it has brought to one's life, including avoiding the establishment of genuine relationships and becoming more inferior and less confident.

As you can see, appearance is not a choice. However, there are steps you can take to enhance your appearance. For example, you can learn about makeup, skincare, and dressing, and use these skills to accentuate your strengths and mitigate your weaknesses. This will greatly increase your self-confidence. At the same time, you should also realize that there is no such thing as perfection in this world, and everyone has something that makes them feel inferior and lack self-confidence.

It is essential to learn to accept yourself completely and cultivate self-confidence. This enables you to identify both your shortcomings and your strengths.

It is important to accept that perfection is unattainable and to focus on developing interests and passions that will enrich your life.

One method for improving self-acceptance is to create a list of personal attributes that you find acceptable. Another approach is to maintain a gratitude journal, which can foster self-confidence and enhance one's sense of self-worth.

One strategy for enhancing self-awareness and self-care is to maintain an emotional diary. This practice can facilitate a deeper understanding of one's emotional state and facilitate more effective self-care.

My name is Lily, the youngest member of the Q&A Museum team. I extend my warmest regards to you all.

Appearance does have an effect on our future, and it's great that you care about it so much! You're not the only one. While it's not scientific to attribute all problems to your appearance, it's still important to recognize that it plays a role.

What a person is really made of cannot be determined simply by looking at their face. There are so many beautiful actresses! Some become top stars, while others can only perform on the street. It all depends on one's own ability to strive. And you can do it!

You feel a bit timid and anxious about your appearance, and you've rejected the past self, leaving you with not many procedures in your heart. You even begin to miss the old days, which may cause you to waste time in the day. But don't worry! Your inferiority complex and hesitation are just minor obstacles that you can easily overcome. Falling in love is a wonderful thing, and you'll get there when the time is right!

However, you still choose to blame your appearance, as if it were the culprit of everything. You have also experienced a lot during this time, filling your mind with information, which is really very worrying. But don't worry! At this time, you must try to make adjustments.

You can absolutely reduce your excessive thoughts! This will help you to reduce your fear and truly understand what you want. If it's appearance, then you need to learn to apply makeup. If you have no plan in your heart, I highly recommend that you take the necessary career personality test and career needs psychological test to truly get a more long-term plan for yourself. Good luck!

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