Junior high school, family situation is not very good but grades are better, can the college entrance exam really change your fate?

Hello, questioner! I see your question and I'm happy to help. I'll answer your question from the following points.

I totally get why you want to escape your current family situation. But what really determines a person's fate has less to do with academic performance and more to do with the beliefs your family has instilled in you. I remember taking my kids to see the movie "Boonie Bears: Reversing Time" during the Chinese New Year holiday. Guang Tou Qiang changed his fate from becoming a lumberjack in the forest to becoming a young man with aspirations who worked hard in Shenzhen to buy a house. But he lost the happiness and friends he had. When his original destiny was about to disappear, he finally found what he really wanted.

After watching the movie, I started thinking about that question: What do you really want out of life? We all have wants, but it can be so hard to find what we really want. Without the drive of passion, it can feel like we're just spinning around at the mercy of the wind.

I truly believe that grades don't matter. What's important is how much you love what you do, regardless of your grades. Otherwise, trying to maintain your current grades is a bit pointless. There will always be people who are better than you at something, but that's okay!

Second, academic qualifications have always been a great way to open doors. As time goes on, though, they're becoming less and less cost-effective. It's sad to see so many highly educated PhDs just going through the motions. And it's becoming clear that humans can't compete with AI when it comes to knowledge.

The true value of learning is about so much more than just grades. It's about finding your passion, unleashing your creativity, and using your talents to serve others and create your own unique value.

First and foremost, it is imperative to recognize that while family background and social connections may play a role in personal development in certain instances, individual effort and talent are of equal or greater significance. The objective of pursuing admission to a reputable university is not merely to secure a lucrative position, but also to expand one's horizons, enhance one's overall quality and abilities, and establish a robust foundation for future career advancement.

Secondly, admission to a reputable university provides access to superior educators and peers, as well as a wealth of academic resources and opportunities for experiential learning. These factors facilitate a more profound comprehension of one's interests and professional trajectory, while enhancing professional competencies and practical abilities.

Concurrently, the university setting offers the opportunity to cultivate a multitude of qualities. Participation in a variety of clubs, competitions, and practical activities can facilitate the development of leadership, teamwork, and communication skills.

Furthermore, reputable universities frequently collaborate closely with numerous prominent enterprises, institutions, and research institutes, offering a multitude of internship and employment prospects. These prospects not only facilitate the accumulation of practical experience but also facilitate the establishment of a vast network of contacts and resources, thereby enhancing future career prospects.

It is crucial to recognize that each individual's developmental trajectory is unique, and there is no universal model that can be applied to define success. While family background and social connections may influence the development of some individuals, it does not negate the possibility of altering one's destiny through one's own actions.

Provided that one maintains a positive attitude, studies assiduously, and enhances one's abilities and qualities, it is reasonable to posit that one will be able to identify a path to success that is aligned with one's aspirations.

It is therefore important not to be influenced by negative comments on the internet and to have confidence in one's abilities and work ethic. While the college entrance exam is undoubtedly a significant milestone in one's life, it is not the sole determining factor.

Provided that one persists in working assiduously and meets challenges with an optimistic outlook, it is reasonable to conclude that one will succeed in achieving one's aspirations and objectives.

Hello!

If you're preparing for the high school entrance exam, it'll be harder than before. It's good that your grades are good, so you can have more confidence. But now you should also know this saying:

Some say it's better to have a rich father than to get into a good university. Others say that even if you graduate from a top university, you can only end up doing menial work.

These things affect your mood and confidence. I understand. I'll give you a hug.

Next, I'll share my views based on my experience.

My two children are my pride and joy. I was the first in my family to take the college entrance exam. I went from a small village to work in the county seat. My eldest child also passed the exam and went from a small county to work in the capital. My second child is currently in high school and will take the exam next year. We have all improved our lot through the college entrance exam.

My family's eldest child and I have had our lives changed. If we hadn't gone to school, I would still be at home, farming. It's possible that farming is now mechanized, but there's no way we'd be getting a salary. My family's eldest child is able to work in the capital city thanks to his studies.

Parents put a lot of effort into choosing schools for their children. They also give their children extra lessons.

The college entrance exam can change your destiny.

It's not easy to get into a good university. Even if you do, you might still have to do menial tasks for others. We need to see how many people are in this situation. If 1,000 people change their destiny, how many of them rely on their rich fathers? If 1,000 people go to a good university, how many of them do menial tasks for others?

This is the era of big data. You can find out about universities' employment rates and situations on their official websites.

Our family situation is not good. We want to change our fate through the college entrance exam. Fighting for our father is not enough. Even if 985211 is a handyman, it has also changed our fate. My mother wanted us to leave the countryside. I felt hope was slim. We had to pay almost all the tuition fees. This can motivate us for the college entrance exam.

The college entrance exam is important, but we live in an AI world. It's not the only way. Lifelong learning is the current buzzword. Learning is lifelong. We must learn this while we're still students. We must learn to love learning and learn to learn for life. This will change our destiny.

If we learn to learn for life, we can live freely. You can do this through your own efforts. The world and I love you!

The question posed by the original poster is a common concern among young people: whether studying hard and attending a reputable university is a worthwhile investment for the future. My personal opinion is that it is a beneficial decision.

From an objective standpoint, one can gain a more comprehensive understanding of knowledge. In addition to the commonly taught subjects of Chinese, mathematics, physics, chemistry, astronomy, geography, biology, electronics, and economics, there is also a wealth of knowledge in various fields. A reputable university offers students access to learning resources that are not available at other institutions.

It is acknowledged that there are numerous individuals who have obtained college or postgraduate qualifications yet are unable to secure employment. This is an accurate observation; however, it does not negate the advantages of acquiring a substantial body of knowledge.

Secondly, knowledge does not inherently serve people's lives. Rather, individuals must fully comprehend the knowledge they have acquired and then adapt it flexibly to generate additional value and facilitate assistance and influence in their own and others' professional endeavors. In the absence of sufficient knowledge, it becomes challenging to innovate and create new concepts.

A sufficient knowledge base is a prerequisite for self-sufficiency and the capacity to effect change in one's circumstances. Even in the absence of entrepreneurial endeavors, a robust foundation of knowledge and exceptional capabilities in the pursuit of employment positions the individual as a highly competitive candidate. Contemporary hiring practices prioritize academic credentials, followed by personal attributes and character traits. In the absence of a comprehensive understanding and exceptional abilities, it becomes challenging to secure an interview and ultimately, a suitable position.

In the event that one is unable to secure gainful employment, it will not only be challenging to maintain a livelihood, but it will also become increasingly difficult to survive.

The questioner then stated that his family circumstances are not optimal, yet he has achieved satisfactory academic results. It is this author's opinion that the questioner possesses the aptitude and capacity to learn and that he should therefore seize the opportunity to study assiduously and expand his knowledge base, thereby establishing a robust foundation for his future life and potentially transforming the trajectory of his own life and that of his family. Should he abandon his studies due to his family's challenging circumstances, it would be regrettable and unproductive. After all, it is relatively simple to give up, but much more difficult to regain one's academic momentum at a later stage.

The nature of knowledge is such that it is in a state of constant change. There is a natural law that governs the acquisition of knowledge at different stages of life. Those who fail to grasp this law must work many times harder to compensate for lost opportunities. I have benefited greatly from the acquisition of knowledge. It has not only enabled me to pursue a career that aligns with my interests, but it has also imbued me with a profound sense of self-worth.

It has not only provided the conditions for my survival and helped me, but also enriched my inner spirit. My perspective on myself and the world has also undergone significant changes. It can be said that I have gained a great deal. The above are personal opinions and are for the questioner's reference only.

Hello, I am Xintan coach Fei Yun. Life is a beautiful journey. Appreciate it, embrace it, and bloom.

A wealthy father can undoubtedly give you a head start. Take Wang Cong, for instance. He set a modest goal of "making 100 million yuan first," which many sons would be unable to achieve.

But is the idea that "it's better to have a rich father than to get into a good university" necessarily right? If so, why do they say that "all roads lead to Rome" and "talent comes in all shapes and sizes"?

1. You are your own most powerful support.

We absolutely believe that having a good father can help us "add wings to a tiger." There are countless successful cases in China of sons following in their fathers' footsteps. When the son is successful, the father can finally relax and enjoy life, having worked hard for many years.

If your son is a spendthrift, the father will have to work for him and pay off his debts. Nothing is absolute. To borrow arrows from a straw boat, you need a boat; to borrow a chicken to lay eggs, you need to be able to borrow a chicken.

If you want to have a good father, you have to work hard yourself. Otherwise, you will become lazy and idle. We are not against the rich, but we just see things differently.

Zeng Guofan was right: if your children and grandchildren are like you, there's no point in saving money. If they're not, there's no point in saving money either. This kind of educational thinking will break the curse of "wealth not lasting for three generations."

?2. Let's examine the true purpose of learning.

Learning broadens one's horizons, expands one's vision, and enhances one's thinking.

Similarly, when faced with the choice between a fishing rod and a bucket of fish, the wise person chooses the fishing rod. Why? Because he knows that the bucket of fish will be eaten sooner or later. He wants to have the tools to get more fish.

He will have the ability to seize opportunities, make rational use of resources, and integrate resources. If he doesn't study, where will such thinking come from?

Studying cultivates one's sentiment and purifies one's thoughts. Zhou Enlai, when he was a student, was determined to "study for the rise of China." He achieved great feats and realized the value of his life because of this ambition.

If you don't study, who will guide you in life? Wisdom comes from continuous accumulation, not simple repetition.

You must understand this as well: when you go to university and interact with your secondary school friends again, you will realize that people are different. Because of the different circles, studying can help you optimize your circle.

3. You need to understand why you feel anxious and worried.

At your age, you are still exploring who you are and how you differ from others. You are also defining what kind of person you want to become.

Young people in the new era have fewer dreams. This is a direct result of the social environment, family atmosphere, and parents' educational philosophies. Children simply study for the sake of studying in order to get into a key high school and go to a good university.

Parents must help their children establish lofty ambitions and set their own life goals through reading, watching movies, traveling, etc. At this time, if they look at learning again, they will see that learning is a tool (path) for achieving their life goals. There is no reason for them to worry about whether they will achieve their goals or not.

Finally, I want to share a passage from Lung Ying-tai to her son: "My dear child, I want you to study hard. Don't compare your grades with others. Do it so you can choose a meaningful and time-effective job. Don't let others force you to earn a living. Do work you find meaningful. You'll feel accomplished.

When your work gives you time and doesn't take away your life, you have dignity. There's no question about it. A sense of achievement and dignity give you happiness.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you, and I love you.

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Dear questioner, I can sense your confusion and anxiety. The days of your junior year are full of challenges, and the difficulties at home and the conflicting messages online have led you to question the purpose of the high school entrance exam. However, I encourage you to believe that no matter how chaotic the outside world may seem, your inner strength and dreams remain constant.

I would like to take a moment to share my thoughts on the high school entrance exam. I believe it is important to view this exam not just as a test, but also as an opportunity to showcase your abilities and prove your potential to a wider audience.

Your excellent grades demonstrate that you possess excellent learning abilities and perseverance, which are highly valuable assets.

In response to the comments on the Internet that suggest "getting into a good university is not as important as having a rich father," I believe it's essential to recognize that everyone's experiences and backgrounds are unique. While family background may play a role in our growth, it's not the sole determining factor in our future.

I believe that your hard work and talent are equally important, if not more so.

I would like to share a story with you that illustrates the potential benefits of attending a good university. Once upon a time, there was an ordinary child who, through his hard work and talent, got into a prestigious university.

He was fortunate to have the opportunity to be exposed to cutting-edge knowledge, to make friends from all over the world, and to have a platform to realize his dreams. After graduating from university, he was able to successfully found his own company and realize his dream with these valuable experiences and resources.

I understand your concerns. It's natural to feel anxious about the future, even if you do get into a good university.

I would like to suggest that every effort will not be in vain. You may wish to consider making a detailed study plan and arranging your time reasonably, with a view to ensuring that you can study efficiently.

You might also consider participating in more extracurricular activities or social practices, which could help to enrich your experience and knowledge.

In addition to your studies, I would like to suggest that you also prioritize your physical and mental health. Try to get enough sleep and exercise regularly to keep yourself in good shape.

If you ever feel stressed or anxious, you might find it helpful to try some relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, or talking to a friend.

It is also important to remember your dreams and pursuits. You may encounter difficulties and challenges in the future, but you can believe in your ability to overcome them.

I am confident that your efforts and perseverance will eventually pay off.

In short, the college entrance exams are just one stage in your life's journey. They will undoubtedly bring you valuable experiences and opportunities. However, it is important to remember that true success comes from inner strength and dreams.

I encourage you to believe in yourself and to pursue your goals with determination. While the road ahead may be challenging, with dedication and resilience, it will undoubtedly be rewarding.

Hello there.

You're in the third year of junior high, so you've got the high school entrance exam in June in three months. It's a pretty important exam.

You've got good grades and it seems like you're a pretty diligent student. You're quite studious and you should be quite prominent in terms of academic performance at your school.

I imagine you'll have no trouble getting into high school. You don't feel much pressure to study.

You may have seen some comments online recently that said it's better to rely on one's father than to get into a good university. They also said that some people who graduated from 985 or 211 universities still have to work as general laborers. We don't deny that this is true. People who graduated from 985 universities have to start from the bottom when they enter society, and what they rely on is their own abilities.

It's undeniable that some college students have secured a place for themselves in society through their own hard work. They've either started their own businesses or become executives in international companies. They didn't achieve this by relying on family connections; they did it through their own abilities.

So, nepotism is just one aspect, as is doing odd jobs. Everyone has their own experiences and history of struggle, which can't be replicated, and the final results are different for everyone.

These comments about competing with one's father are bound to make both students and parents a little anxious. It's natural to wonder whether one's future life will be limited by one's current social class. It's a tough call, but it's probably safe to say that no matter how hard one tries, one will never be able to become that kind of outstanding talent.

All that hard work will be for nothing? It's not as good as having a rich father.

This is a bit of a downer, isn't it?

It's easy to feel like you're falling behind when you compare yourself to other students from different backgrounds. What matters most is to look at your own progress over time.

As long as you work hard, keep improving yourself, and actively seek progress, you should compare your current self with your past self. If you have made progress through your own efforts, you should encourage and praise yourself. This can motivate you to continue moving forward.

You are the only person who gets to decide what your life is going to be like. Don't rely on your parents to create your future for you. Fight for what you want and live your life to the fullest.

We can't just copy the life paths of other people.

Life is full of surprises. We can only work hard to improve our situation.

Picking a father is something that requires your father to work hard. It's not something you can get by working hard. What you can get by working hard is to first pass the entrance exam and achieve your due level.

If you stop at junior high, you'll have even fewer options in the future. The middle school entrance exam is just one step in life. It can lead you to continue moving towards higher steps.

Getting into a good university is the next step, allowing us to move up to a higher class. It's always like this: step by step, climbing the steps, overcoming one difficulty after another, leveling up in the process.

What kind of resources and horizons will it bring you? By leaving our hometown and the small world we see, just like a frog leaving the bottom of its well, we can see a world different from the present one and meet better people.

Of course, this will expand your horizons and enhance your resources. How far you'll go depends on your personal experiences.

The world is full of possibilities. Some require opportunities, some require hard work, and some require facing challenges head-on.

I hope you'll be able to take each step in life, choose your own path, work hard to overcome each obstacle, and finally reach your own personal success.

I love you, and I think the world would agree. But most of all, you have to love yourself.

I would like to reassure you that your feelings of anxiety are very common, especially when facing important exams and life decisions. The college entrance exam is indeed an important turning point in the Chinese education system, providing many students with the opportunity to change their destiny.

It is worth noting that, despite the various opinions in society, education continues to be regarded as one of the most valuable investments in a person's future.

We would like to present some resources and perspectives on the importance of high school and college education and how they may affect your future.

1. Education as a pathway to advancement: In China, the college entrance exam remains a significant avenue for many children to pursue a better future. Attaining admission to a reputable high school and university can offer access to superior educational resources, including highly qualified instructors, extensive library collections, and cutting-edge laboratory facilities.

2. The value of a university education extends beyond the acquisition of specialist knowledge and skills. It also provides an environment that exposes students to a wide range of cultures and ideas, which in turn helps to develop critical thinking, creativity, and a sense of social responsibility.

3. **Contacts and networks:** Universities offer a unique opportunity to expand one's horizons and connect with individuals from diverse backgrounds. These interactions can prove invaluable in one's professional growth and development.

4. **Career opportunities:** Graduates from well-known universities may sometimes find themselves in a position of advantage in the job market, as they usually have more interview opportunities and a better starting salary.

5. Lifelong learning: A university education offers the valuable opportunity to learn how to learn, which can be beneficial for the rest of your life. Regardless of your future endeavors, the ability to continue learning and adapt to new knowledge is likely to be a valuable asset.

6. **Broadening horizons:** Universities offer a variety of opportunities and activities that can help you expand your understanding of different cultures and worldviews, which can be beneficial for personal growth.

It is important to remember that there are many paths to success, and that a university education is not the only way to achieve personal fulfillment and success. Many people have found happiness and success through other means.

It is important to find a path that suits you and to work hard for it. In addition, regardless of one's educational background, honesty, diligence, innovation, and perseverance are key factors in achieving success.

It is also important to remember that negative comments online should not affect your confidence. Believe in your abilities, persevere, and you will discover that high school entrance exams and college education can bring you far more than you can imagine.

I wish you the best of luck in your exams and hope that your future will be full of possibilities.

Hello, I'm Jia Peng, a student. Let's start with a quick hello and a chat.

It's important to remember that grades aren't the be-all and end-all. Life is a long journey, and if you do well in school, you'll have plenty of good options for the entrance exam.

Now, let's imagine that your grades aren't so great. How would you plan your future path? But no matter if your grades are good or bad, we'll all have our own lives.

It's just that different choices lead to different experiences. If you choose to prepare for the high school entrance exam, you may go to high school, university, and meet many people after that. Some will like you, some won't. How to deal with this is something we all have to think about in life.

Once you get to high school or junior high, your teachers will always tell you that the college entrance exam or the high school entrance exam will change your destiny. But the most important thing is that we shouldn't limit our view of the end of our life path to just these exams. They're just one part of the picture.

Like me, I'm currently studying at a college or university, and I don't think the college entrance exam has changed my destiny. It just shows that I didn't do so well in those subjects.

What resources you can get by entering a good university depends on you. If you don't explore it yourself at university, you'll probably find it's even more boring than high school. The curriculum is pretty similar at every school, except for the classes taught by famous professors or teachers.

You can work hard to improve yourself, expand your knowledge, and develop a hobby of your own. Reading, sports, computers, and so on are great examples.

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It's true that there are some people who believe that it's better to have a rich father than to get into a good university. There are also some who think that graduates from Project 985 and Project 211 universities can only do menial work. However, if you look into the matter, you will find that these situations are rare, or that the anxiety caused by such incidents has been magnified to an extreme degree.

You might want to try focusing your attention on other positive things to help reduce your inner anxiety. I'd also suggest reading "Mindfulness, the present is a flower."

We get to decide which path to take in life, and we just need to take the one we think is best. I hope my suggestions are helpful, and best wishes!

Good morning, Thank you for your question.

It is possible to gain a full understanding of the anxiety caused by online comments such as "it's better to have a rich father than to go to a good university".

In this regard, I would like to share some thoughts for your reference.

It must be acknowledged that the phenomenon of "picking a father" is a reality in social life. This phenomenon, whereby individuals gain unfair advantages or privileges in employment, education, or other areas by leveraging family background or kinship, does result in some unfair and undesirable consequences. It is understandable that this can cause concern.

However, from a moral and justice perspective, such unfair phenomena are generally criticized and restricted by society and public opinion, and even supervised and sanctioned by laws and regulatory agencies.

The phenomenon of "picking a father" also reflects some deficiencies in the social system, such as the lack of transparency in the job market and the unequal distribution of educational resources.

It should be noted that deficiencies in the system can only be addressed through continuous social reform and progress, which will reduce the likelihood of "spoiled parents" and promote social fairness and development.

However, you should not allow negative emotions caused by these unfair and unreasonable phenomena to limit your perspective.

As you have rightly observed, the college entrance exam can have a significant impact on an individual's future. For many, gaining admission to a reputable university is a crucial step in achieving their aspirations.

Securing admission to a reputable university provides the opportunity to pursue an enhanced educational experience.

Given the current limitations in educational resources, a good university, such as one of the "Project 985, 211" universities, will provide a wider range of learning resources, advanced teaching methods, and qualified professors, which will be conducive to your academic and career development.

Securing admission to a reputable university and successfully completing one's studies represents a significant challenge and accomplishment, largely due to the institution's robust academic environment and competitive culture.

Furthermore, this not only enhances one's self-confidence but also develops problem-solving, critical thinking, and independent learning skills, which are invaluable in both life and a career.

Securing admission to a reputable university is an indicator of promising career advancement prospects.

It is an irrefutable fact that a reputable university typically has more robust industry connections and a higher employment rate.

A strong university background can provide graduates with a competitive advantage in the job market, offering a wider range of career opportunities, higher salaries, and the potential for career advancement.

Furthermore, a good university provides students with the chance to form connections with classmates from diverse backgrounds and with a range of professional skills.

These connections will prove invaluable in your future career, potentially leading to opportunities for collaboration, entrepreneurship, or other avenues.

Furthermore, a good university background can also lead to social recognition and respect.

This may lead to more opportunities and advantages, but it is also accompanied by higher expectations and pressure.

In summary, gaining admission to a reputable university represents a significant opportunity for personal growth and development. It also serves as a crucial stepping stone towards a more expansive future and the attainment of career and life objectives.

It is important to note, however, that the individual phenomenon of "985.211 graduates still only being able to do menial work" should not be understood in a one-sided manner.

Given that university is only one stage of a longer journey, any relationship between school and part-time work is often not a problem with the school itself, but rather a question of personal effort, attitude, and choice.

I hope you find this information useful.

Hello, classmate. I can see you're confused, and I'm here to help!

Your sentence: Can the college entrance exam really change your destiny? I think it's more relevant to ancient times.

Because people's living conditions might not have been so good back then.

Not many families come from a scholarly background.

So they really hope that one of their kids will be the top scorer.

As long as the child gets the top score, they'll be able to go to university.

If the child goes to university, it'll bring financial income to the family.

So, the whole family's fate will change.

That's my take on it.

We're in a different era now, though.

Because nowadays, almost every child has the same chance of going to school.

So you might be wondering: why do we still need the middle school entrance exam and the college entrance exam, and why are these two exams so important?

The high school entrance exam results determine which high school you can enter.

Your college entrance exam score determines which university you can enter.

Now that we've graduated from university and are looking for a job, many companies are looking for candidates with the right qualifications.

If you have a diploma from a good or well-known university, you'll be hired by a larger and more reputable company.

It's also possible that some large multinational companies or groups may be able to get you opportunities for further study or internships abroad, which would be a great way to broaden your horizons.

I really hope you can find a good solution to the problem you're having soon.

I hope my answers have been helpful and inspiring.

I hope my answers are helpful and inspiring. I'm here to help in any way I can. Stay focused and keep up the hard work.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world. Take care!

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Hello, thank you for your thoughtful question. I am ZQ, a heart exploration coach from the Yixinli platform. You are still in the third year of junior high school, which is a great age to start thinking about your future. Many people believe that the college entrance examination can have a significant impact on one's destiny.

It is possible that the high school entrance exam and college entrance exam can influence our future. Attending a high school with better teaching resources could allow you to enter a better university on a more advantageous platform. Additionally, a university degree can be a valuable asset on your resume. If your resume is well-rounded and impressive, it can speak to more than just your academic qualifications.

It might also be helpful to mention your internship experience and other personal abilities. If you combine all your personal qualities, you may find that you are outstanding and extraordinary, and that you can find a better job.

For instance, one might consider the experiences of individuals who have secured employment with one of the world's top 500 companies. Alternatively, one might reflect on the paths of those who have gained employment with a foreign company or passed the civil service exam and secured a position in a relatively well-regarded state-owned enterprise or institution. In such cases, it is not uncommon for the remainder of one's life to unfold with relative ease and enjoyment.

It is also possible that we can provide our families with financial support, which may help them to cope better with the challenges they face. At the same time, it is important to recognise the significant and long-lasting impact that our original family can have on us, even if we are not fully aware of it.

For instance, an individual from a financially disadvantaged background may experience a sense of deprivation and may be hesitant to take risks or pursue their aspirations. This is a common phenomenon that is often unavoidable.

It could be said that different families create different mindsets.

As Dashan insightfully observed, children from rural areas often exhibit a distinct mindset compared to their urban counterparts, who often have more access to resources and opportunities. This is not a reflection of any inherent deficiency in children, but rather a natural consequence of the different upbringings and environments they experience. Every child has the potential to shape their own destiny, and it's important to recognize that they also bear a responsibility for their actions and choices.

It is important to recognize that not everything can be attributed to the problems of the original family. Often, as we grow and develop as adults, we become more aware of these issues. We can gradually break through some boundaries through reading and personal growth, transcend our social class, seize opportunities, and ultimately shape our own destiny.

It is often said that it is better to marry into a wealthy family than to get into a good university. While this may be true to some extent, it is also important to consider the other side of the coin. Hard work does pay off, and even if some people from 985.211 universities end up doing menial jobs like delivering take-away food, it may be their own choice or a temporary way to experience society. It cannot be ruled out that a prestigious university will give you more choices and more opportunities to enter world-famous companies.

It is often said that you can get a better job, so it might be a good idea to choose it when you have a better job. Some people believe that individuals should also try to break through themselves, as they may feel that they are worthy of better job opportunities to give themselves more room for development. It is also thought that studying is not just about getting a better job, but also about a better development platform.

It's more about your own horizons. Someone who has studied and someone who hasn't, someone who has been to a famous university and someone who hasn't, their inner horizons and outlooks are also different, and there are also vast differences. Through knowledge, through exchanges with people, and through exchanges with college students around the world, you will also discover that many things are full of various perspectives to analyze.

As you gain more inspiration, you may find that there are many ways to solve problems. This could be of great help to your future growth, allowing you to better cope with unexpected problems in life and better overcome your own limitations. It may therefore be beneficial to do well in the high school entrance exam and strive to enter a first-class school. Good luck!

Could I perhaps inquire as to what ZQ might signify?

The college entrance exam and the high school entrance exam can give you so much freedom, all thanks to that piece of paper!

It's so true that knowledge is one of the best ways to stay safe. A diploma can always stir up a whole range of emotions in those without one, from admiration to envy.

It's amazing what a little emotion can do! It can help you connect with others in a way that makes them feel like you're on the same team, which can help them relax around you.

If you've only got a primary school education and you're working as a cleaner or in another low-paid job, people around you in the same position might resent you. We all want to make money, but because of their low ability, they don't have much mobility.

Even if there is some flexibility in the positions available, it's still a very competitive environment, especially in factories where jobs are not very free and everyone's positions are relatively close.

Your question touches on some really interesting areas, like cognitive, social, and even criminal psychology.

It's so interesting how different people are! For example, 985 and 211 students who work odd jobs are different from ordinary people who work odd jobs. And ordinary people who work odd jobs are different from people who have been released from prison.

The 985 and 211 students who work odd jobs are different from ordinary people who work odd jobs. And ordinary people who work odd jobs are different from ex-convicts.

It's so interesting how different experiences can lead to different choices! Students haven't had the same experiences as other people in society, and because they have more friends at school, they have a higher chance of receiving help than people who live scattered and independent lives. They've also received more gifts and help than others, and they're more willing to help others from a giving perspective.

We all have to make choices in our lives.

Some folks have fewer resources, weaker abilities, and trouble getting what they want through proper channels. They may also have poor interpersonal skills and a limited ability to see their own value. When they feel like there's no hope, they often take a predatory position in relationships. When getting along with others, they're more likely to fight with others for things and are seen as rude and unreasonable by others. It's not that they're bad people, but their lack of perception has led to their tragedy.

If someone from the 985 or 211 universities is in the same position as them, doing the same work, then the 985 or 211 person will often not perceive the tragedy.

Their habits are already great at helping them to avoid any kind of cognitive tragedy. Even when they're facing more difficult conditions and with fewer resources, they can still complete tasks without taking anything from anyone else.

They can do a better job than ordinary people at the menial work.

Take running processes, for instance. We all need to eat every day, but some of us go jogging or play basketball after dinner, while others only have three fixed points in their day: eating, sleeping, and going to the bathroom. It's the same person in the same position, but some of us can do more things, while others can do less.

We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Some people are great at simple tasks, while others excel at complicated ones.

We all have different strengths and abilities, and that's perfectly okay! From a safety perspective, in the same position, the probability of 985 and 211 graduates being injured is much lower than that of people with no qualifications.

So, our job is to create value. If someone can safely create value for you, and someone else can only do so with great danger and pain, who would you choose? When a 985211 graduate can safely complete a task in a position with less time and effort,

A person who needs to suffer and be emotionally agitated to complete menial tasks, or a 985 graduate who can easily complete menial tasks, who can most easily complete the work, will be able to gain more time in the same position.

Sometimes, being conscientious is simply a matter of not knowing how to allocate energy. It's okay! We all have different strengths and ways of working. Some people can easily complete their work because they know how to allocate their energy. They can decide early on not to invest energy in a certain project or task, and they don't feel inferior when they haven't done something well.

Sometimes it's nice to be able to complete a task safely. It's not always true that hard work adds value to the work itself.

It's so important to remember that people who work very hard to get the job done don't necessarily add value to the job itself. They might just be increasing the apparent threshold for doing the job. It can sometimes feel like only by working very hard can the job be completed, and that others are discouraged from doing the job.

We all admire competence!

If there's a menial job in front of you, a 985 graduate can easily complete it without stress. But we all know some folks have a menial job that pays only 2,000 to 3,000 yuan a month, and they're very busy doing it.

We all know that hurting others is hurting ourselves.

For other people, such as the disabled, seeing him so busy and tired, he doesn't even dare to challenge a job that pays two or three thousand a month. In fact, hardworking people can often make it harder for newcomers to feel confident in the workplace, which is a shame because it's so important to have a helping hand when you're struggling.

The company is looking for helpers, not folks who might need a little extra support to get the job done.

Who has a better chance of improving their own work ability and development? Of course it is not half the effort or in vain!

The company will of course choose someone who can get twice the result with half the effort as their workplace helper.

We all get to decide what kind of work we want to do. Some work is safer than others, and it's up to us to decide which is best for us. The more knowledge and brains we have, the better we can decide what's right for us.

There's no such thing as a high or low job, really. It's even been said that the existence of 985 and 211 universities has made clerical work or certain high-end jobs easier, less stressful, and safer. It's the 985 graduates who have made work easier, less stressful, and safer.

And because they're not aware, some folks in certain roles can make that role a bit dangerous.

Everything of value in this world is created and obtained by people, and that's a wonderful thing!

Some folks get used to being lazy, and all they think about doing is relaxing. With a narrow mindset and only thinking about being lazy, they might miss out on some great opportunities. Their ability to understand is not as strong as it could be, and in the same environment, they might not be aware of the rules and cannot learn as much as they could. Others are making progress faster than they are, which can be a bit discouraging.

Some folks are used to stealing things and think about stealing when doing many things. It can be tough, and they might end up with nothing.

And there's no real goal to stealing. It's just something people do for the sake of it. The stolen goods can't even be stored in one room!

They can't be used to improve his life, and that's a shame. They're just a bunch of random things like wood or laundry detergent that won't run out. They're worthless, and it's a hassle to sell them.

It's okay to give in to the temptation of consumption.

We all have to face three steps: the first is to face a lot of information, analyze it, and then make a choice. Some folks have a narrow range of knowledge and can only see limited benefits, so they can only do those things.

For instance, if he only sees the potential for stealing in a situation, then he'll only think about stealing. Some folks feel tired doing everything, so it's no surprise they don't want to do anything.

It's so sad when people dislike others like this. It can really harm the interests of the company.

If you don't have the knowledge to create value, you might feel like you're just a drain on the company. It's easy to see how companies might only see the shortcomings of these people and not their strengths.

Reading can help you create something, and people who can create profits for the company are often overlooked for their shortcomings. It's not that people with degrees are perfect, but their value often overshadows their shortcomings.

It's so sad when people who haven't studied have to face these challenges. It's true that they don't bring as much benefit to the company as others, and they can sometimes cause a bit of damage. It's also true that they sometimes lack common sense. If there's something they're asked to do at the window, but they don't know about it, they won't know about it, and they'll waste a lot of other people's time explaining it to them. They don't take the initiative to get things done, which consumes energy in communication and increases communication costs.

You'll probably notice these behaviors after interacting with the person.

Good day. I am pleased to have this opportunity to respond to your inquiry. I hope that my suggestions will prove helpful.

From your description, I can sense your anxiety and confusion. In many cases, there is no definitive answer to this question because there is no consensus on it. This is because we are all different.

There are two possible routes in this situation. One leads to Rome via all possible avenues.

Another possibility is that some individuals are born into advantageous circumstances.

The majority of people are of the first type, while only a small minority are of the second type.

For most people, the most straightforward and equitable route is the college entrance exam.

It is important to remember that there are many paths to success, and that failing the college entrance exam does not necessarily mean that one has failed in life. There are still many opportunities for success and personal growth.

As adults and members of society, we cannot guarantee success in the college entrance exams. Many individuals who graduate from 985 or 211 universities or pursue graduate studies still require employment.

It is equally impossible to guarantee success in the face of failure. Many individuals who have not attended prestigious educational institutions have gone on to lead successful lives, despite lacking such qualifications.

There is no guaranteed path to success, and similarly, there is no guaranteed path to failure.

Rather, each of us can identify a path that aligns with our individual goals, whether it's financial success or realizing personal aspirations. Everyone has their own ultimate objective.

In our current situation, we can identify our objectives and then work backwards from these to set out the steps required to achieve them. This allows us to make progress towards our larger goals in a structured and controlled manner.

The college entrance exam and the university entrance exam are milestones in the process of advancing to the next stage of our careers. As we approach our goal, we gain access to a wider range of options.

If both candidates are equally qualified, the school may have to consider other factors when making a hiring decision.

While a diploma does not necessarily guarantee success in obtaining a position, it serves as a qualification that allows one to compete with other candidates who also aspire to become teachers. This competition ultimately determines who is the most qualified. For instance, a junior high school diploma does not qualify one for a teaching position.

Obtaining higher education or a diploma through the college entrance exam or the gaokao provides two key foundations.

The first benefit is the opportunity to expand one's knowledge and skill set. When the need arises to learn new or more complex skills in the future, this foundation provides a solid foundation to build upon.

The second benefit is the right to make our own choices.

For example, if I have a junior high school diploma and I want to be a teacher, I am not eligible for that position. However, if I have a bachelor's or a doctorate degree now, and I want to choose to be a teacher, I have the qualifications to apply and, if selected, to perform the duties of the role.

It is a common aspiration among parents and members of society for their children to perform well in college entrance exams, with the hope that they will have a wider range of future options. It is not necessary to set the bar as high as becoming the top student. At some point in the future, being able to compete on an equal footing with others will be seen as a valuable opportunity.

It is my hope that through self-reflection or appropriate assistance from a mental health teacher, we can better identify the optimal direction in life for ourselves, enhance our comprehension of the three perspectives, and regulate our emotional state.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my gratitude to the world and to you, my dear colleagues.

Hello, my child. I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

Some of your anxiety may come from worrying about the future, and some of it may also come from the exam itself. I also grew up in a poor family. I worked hard and studied, and I was admitted to university. I went on to graduate school, and I met my husband there. We're still learning and growing, and we're constantly creating and exploring. We believe that our destiny is in our own hands, not in our father's.

My advice to you is this:

Anxiety is about the future, and the future is out of our hands. What we can control is the present. Focusing on what we can do in each moment can create a better future, which is to change our own destiny.

The future is out of our hands, and the things we worry about haven't actually happened yet. Some people say that if you get a 985.211 degree, you'll still only be able to do menial work. This doesn't mean that you will be like that, and it doesn't mean that they will always be doing this kind of work. Many jobs start with menial work at the beginning, and you start to accumulate experience from the basics. However, a person with abilities and who is constantly trying to improve will also continue to advance in their work. They can provide more and more value, so the work content that matches them will also be different. Therefore, these worries of ours don't make sense. They will cause a lot of depletion instead.

The only thing we can control is the present. It's as simple as that.

When you start worrying about the future again, remind yourself to come back, focus on the present, relax with some deep breaths, and then just get back to what you were doing. Pay attention in class, read the book, because this is something you can control. When you focus on what you can do in the present, you're actually creating a better future, which is changing your destiny. And when you spend your already precious time worrying about things that haven't happened yet, that's actually a waste, isn't it?

2. When it comes to test anxiety, there are ways to adapt.

It's normal to feel a bit nervous when exams are coming up. There are ways we can manage our anxiety.

It's important to understand what anxiety is and how it works. It's like a paper tiger: the more you fear it, the more anxious you become. When you know what it is, you're not afraid of it anymore, but you feel fine and it goes away.

When anxiety strikes, don't panic. Just keep doing what you were doing and be yourself. That'll help the anxiety subside. But if you fear it, it'll affect you more.

You can practice mindfulness by focusing on the little things you do. For example, don't think about studying while you're eating, walking, or taking a bath. When you're engaged in life, you'll forget your anxiety, and that will lessen it.

As the exam date gets closer, you should shift your daily focus to absorbing and mastering the knowledge points. Don't set overly ambitious goals. Instead, just focus on living each day well and feeling like you've gained something every day.

Also, challenge negative thoughts and identify some of the irrational beliefs you have. Once you've identified these beliefs as irrational, remind yourself that there's no need to worry about them excessively.

When you start to feel anxious, take a deep breath, hold it for a second or two, and then exhale slowly. Repeat a few times, and you'll feel relaxed. Then, you can go and do whatever else you need to do. You can practice this whenever you have a moment to spare, and it'll help you calm down quickly when anxiety strikes.

When you start to feel anxious, take a deep breath, hold it for a second or two, and then exhale slowly. Repeat a few times, and you'll feel relaxed. After that, you can get on with whatever you need to do. You can practice this whenever you have a moment to spare, and it can help you calm down quickly when anxiety strikes.

It's also a good idea to reduce stress through aerobic exercise. Exercise is a great way to adjust your mood and release stress. Try to exercise about twice a week, for example by running, playing basketball, playing badminton, playing table tennis, or walking.

Just be careful not to overdo it and avoid injury. Each session should last about half an hour to an hour.

3. Going to university is a great goal to have because it can provide you with a lot of resources and help you to learn more about yourself and the world around you.

There's no doubt that university can provide you with resources and broaden your horizons. It's something to aspire to. It not only allows us to complete our studies and learn knowledge, but also gives us various opportunities to exercise our abilities, develop ourselves and grow. You'll make a lot of interesting friends and explore various fields that interest you. There are many clubs and societies in university, so you can participate according to your interests and do the things you like. These things may well be related to the work you'll do in the future.

For instance, when I was at university, I made sure I learned my professional knowledge well, but I also joined the student newspaper because writing and interviewing were things I particularly liked to do. That's how I met my husband. We got to know each other, became friends, and then fell in love. Now we're a happy family of three living together. It might seem like a coincidence, but it was actually an inevitable encounter on our journey to becoming who we are. And the work I do now is also related to my past experiences in the student newspaper. In fact, my past experiences in the student newspaper have given me a lot of experience, whether it is in terms of interpersonal relationships, teamwork, or summarizing, editing, and creative writing. They have all laid a foundation.

So, university is a great place to explore your options, whether it's your major, your interests, your relationships, or your personal growth. There are lots of resources to help you expand your horizons and prepare for the workforce. From my experience, how much you develop depends more on whether you're willing to keep learning and growing, rather than on which university you go to. In many good universities, there are students who play games and sleep all day, missing out on the good resources at school. In some average schools, there are also students who have read a lot of books, gained practical experience, and expanded their knowledge, becoming outstanding figures.

So, focus on the present, do what you can, and take control of your destiny. You can definitely create a bright future and tomorrow. Go for it, young man!

Hello, question asker! I'm Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who can make images speak.

The big day is just around the corner! In a few short weeks, you'll be taking the anxiety/after-failing-the-junior-high-school-entrance-exam-i-lost-hope-in-myself-how-do-i-move-on-12425.html" target="_blank">high school entrance exam. You're doing great in school and have nothing to worry about. But, you came across an online comment that said, "If you want to get into a good university, don't rely on your father." It got you thinking. You're wondering if there's more to it than meets the eye. Well, wonder no more! Let me shed some light on the origin and meaning of anxiety from a psychological perspective.

The midterm exam is a great opportunity to show what you're made of! It's natural to feel a bit nervous, but try not to let it get in the way. Instead, channel that energy into something productive. This sentence is a great way to turn your anxiety into something positive. Let it inspire you to do your best! If you don't have a good father, it's still possible to succeed in the exam. Failure is just another stepping stone to success. Embrace the challenge and see it as a chance to grow.

Revision time! It's time to conquer your studies and conquer your anxiety. Anxiety is a natural part of the learning process. In fact, research shows that the right amount of anxiety can actually help you learn more effectively. So, embrace it and use it to your advantage!

Let's dive into the thought-provoking question, "If you get into a good university, you don't need to fight for a good father." The questioner is curious about the possibility of having to do menial work if you get into a good university. It's a valid concern that your fate might seem limited. So, what kind of fate would you love to see as the ideal state?

With the knowledge you have now, you can see the "destinies" of the people around you. The internet can broaden your horizons! But don't limit yourself. Life is a long journey, and by going out into the world, you will have the opportunity to see more possibilities. Learn, improve your knowledge, and broaden your tolerance. You'll have the chance to take the stage!

And that's not all! Completing high school and college entrance exams and getting into a good university does not mean that your fate has changed. How to complete your university life is another important "test." As ordinary people, most of us can only do what we can grasp at the moment and take each step forward, being down-to-earth in every step and striving for improvement.

A good father is still helpless in the face of his unaccomplished son—but that just means there's room for improvement!

Focus on preparing for the exam and make the most of this moment!