Lacking a close friend nearby and not getting along well with my roommates, what should I do?

It is important to acknowledge the conflicting feelings of loneliness and lack of support.

First and foremost, it is important not to place undue blame on yourself for your need for love, attention, and affection. Having a strong support system in place, including good friends and a positive roommate relationship, is essential for maintaining a healthy and harmonious social life.

You have chosen to pursue a romantic relationship. The pursuit of love and intimacy can provide temporary satisfaction. This is a choice that meets your normal emotional needs, so there is no need to be overly critical of yourself.

Secondly, it is advisable to exercise caution with regard to your boyfriend and the nature of the relationship. Despite the recent commencement of the relationship, it is prudent to conduct a thorough assessment of your feelings towards him, your comprehension of his character, and the expectations and future plans you have for the relationship. It is crucial to avoid simply going with the flow. In the event that you do not like him or have no expectations, it would be advisable to terminate the relationship promptly. Otherwise, it may lead to significant difficulties if you prolong the situation.

Naturally, if your intention is merely to have fun, then...

As a side note, it is likely that you will experience more regret because you are a woman.

Third, it is indeed challenging when you are in an unfavorable relationship. You can attempt to alter the relationship with your roommate, identify shared interests to enhance or mitigate the situation. Women, after expressing positive sentiments, will consistently feel more connected after shopping and conversing.

It would be beneficial to take a step back and focus on other aspects of your life. Planning your studies, engaging in sports, or pursuing other hobbies can help you feel more fulfilled. Additionally, it is important to consider what kind of relationship you want with a romantic partner. It is essential to choose someone who is committed to the relationship and who you are also committed to.

It is possible to deceive oneself for a limited period of time, but the consequences will be severe.

I encourage you to persevere. Please be advised that Pretentious Young People (ID: qingnianJIA2020) is awaiting further communication.

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Hello! I'll give you a hug.

You feel alone and want to be loved.

Let yourself feel these emotions. This will help you understand your need for company, even if you don't know this person well. There is no good or bad in needs. All needs must be met, especially those that are lacking.

Think about what you need from him. Do you need to be with him? Do you need to feel cared for? Then, can you try to meet these needs yourself?

You are the only one who has to respond to and satisfy your needs. When you don't like someone, but you don't have the courage to leave, it is time to grow. You need to try to respond to and satisfy your own inner needs.

When you care for yourself and give yourself what you want, your heart is full. You are not controlled by your needs.

I'm Lily, the Q&A Museum's little ear. The world and I love you.

Dear question asker,

Hello! I just wanted to say that I've read your story and I can really relate to your sadness. I understand your feelings so much!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're doing a great job of self-analysis. It's also clear to me that your behavior is totally normal. You didn't have any close friends in college, you didn't get along with your roommates, you felt lonely, and you were influenced by the romance of novels and the shock of 520. So, you confessed your feelings to a guy you'd only met once who had a crush on you. At the end of the day, you just need company, which is a normal emotional need.

After spending a few days with your boyfriend, you realize that you don't like him at all, and that even the intimate words and actions between lovers make you feel embarrassed and disgusted. Have you ever thought about whether you really want to confess your feelings to the other person? It can be really tough to know what to do in these situations!

It's okay, we've all been there! You didn't like him at first, but you gave in on a whim. When you really thought about it, you felt reluctant and resistant.

It's totally normal to feel this way! When you understand that you don't like the other person, but you are worried that if you break up with them, you will hurt them, so there is conflict within you and you don't know what to do? Perhaps you can calm down first, clear your thoughts, and think about the following questions:

1. What's the most important thing in a relationship? Is it ever okay to cheat just because you're lonely?

2. If you clearly didn't like him at first, can you break through your own heart and continue to date him? I know it's tough, but I'm here to support you. Your suffering should be the best answer.

3. What do you think is better for everyone, stopping in time or continuing the relationship?

4. How do you love yourself? How do you show others respect?

5. If you want to break up, how can you say it in a way that doesn't hurt the other person so much?

If you don't like being alone, forcing yourself to do so is also hurting the other person. It's so important to respect relationships! I think from this incident you also felt the consequences of your impulsive behavior. Of course, things may not be perfect, but your experience is the most valuable, and you have definitely grown from this experience, right?

It's so sad when someone gets something they don't want. It doesn't make them happy, it can even be a burden.

When you're feeling lonely, it's important to remember that you're not alone. There are so many ways to combat loneliness, like reading a book, listening to music, chatting with friends on the phone, going for a workout, or even joining a club you like. Getting more involved in social activities is a great way to meet new people and make friends.

I really hope you can work things out with your roommate. It would be so nice to have a good friend in the dorm! You can read "Nonviolent Communication" to help you communicate better.

I really hope my response has given you some food for thought. I really do. And I really hope you'll be able to face your inner self honestly and find a solution to the problem. Best regards!

Thank you so much!

Dear questioner,

You're lonely in college and need someone to keep you company.

You're good at seeing your emotional needs clearly. But this guy didn't satisfy them.

Your needs are fine.

Second, I believe in being honest with yourself and others. This means being responsible and not hurting others.

Third, everyone who enters into an intimate relationship is brave. Mistakes will be made, but there will also be growth.

Since we've chosen an intimate relationship, we should accept the growing pains.

Talk to your partner. Tell him how you feel and what you want.

Also, say you're sorry that you haven't felt loved and hope he respects your feelings. You can suggest becoming friends again and being friends. This might be better for you both.

This is your life, and his too. Your youth is precious, so don't let a superficial problem get in the way.

I hope this helps. See you here!