Last year I earned a fortune, named my child, why does my wife think it has to be subtle?

Hello, I'm Gu Yi, Xu Huairuo. I'm pleased to say that I'm as consistent as ever.

You inquired as to why your wife feels the need to be euphemistic when naming the child.

From what you've shared, it seems like you're feeling uncertain and concerned about the potential challenges. It's understandable to want to keep things simple.

First of all, I would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations on the birth of your daughter. I sincerely hope that you and your wife can find a name that will complement the name of your son and create a beautiful combination.

It is understandable that parents invest a great deal of hope and aspiration into the names they choose for their children. Many parents devote a great deal of attention to the naming process.

So, how should you name your child? It's understandable that most people have different understandings, just like you and your wife have certain differences.

For your consideration, we offer a summary of people's views on naming.

1. When naming a child, people often consider the prevailing social context. For instance, during the early years of the People's Republic of China, many parents chose names like Jianguo or Xianghong. They may have hoped to instill their expectations for life in their children, with the belief that their wishes would come true.

2. Many people tend to choose beautiful characters when naming their children. This is evident in the character "萱," which your wife has chosen. This character is relatively common in the current group of children. People often select this character because it has a positive meaning and also because it has a more sophisticated appearance, which may be advantageous in the future.

However, this has unfortunately led to a high number of namesakes in a class, which can be quite challenging for teachers.

3. In ancient Chinese customs for naming children, it is considered best practice to avoid using rare characters, characters with negative connotations, or characters from the names of elders.

4. In fact, when it comes to naming a child, as long as the parents agree, it doesn't have to be complicated. Many people hope to name their children after famous people because they believe that their children will become successful. Secondly, they also hope to express the cultural accomplishment of their parents through their children's names. However, in terms of traditional Chinese rural sayings, "Dalits are easy to raise."

However, there is not much scientific evidence to support this argument. It is simply a reflection of the limited cultural level of the time, which also shaped the rules that were followed.

The name is a reflection of the parents' love and hope for their child, but it is ultimately just a code. As long as the child grows up healthy, that is the most important thing. When it comes to the name, there are many possibilities. It is even possible that the child might change their name when they grow up.

I wish you the best.

After reading your question, I really understand your confusion. Let me give you a warm hug first.

We were blessed with a baby girl at the end of last year, so we named her Yingdi. We had a lot of trouble deciding on a name for her because we had hoped for a boy. As soon as she was born, we gave her the nickname Yingdi'er, which means "little brother," in the hope that we would have a boy.

However, there was a big conflict with his wife when it came to choosing a grand name. First, she wanted to call him "Ruxuan" (because the Chinese name for the plant hearthwort is also Yinancao, which is a euphemism for "Yingdi"). Then she wanted to replace the character for "brother" with the character for "sister" or the character for "first" with the character for "bamboo." I don't think there's any point in being so euphemistic. "Ruxuan" is a nice name, but doesn't it mean you want a boy?

Also, you don't use your full name at home, so why make a fuss? Plus, everyone knows what Yingdi means, and changing it to a homophone just means a few more strokes, right?

Ultimately, he managed to persuade his wife. This experience also made me think that nowadays, many people choose more intricate and indirect names for their children. They tend to use allusions and metaphors to convey straightforward meanings. Why is that?

The question you came across was:

The wife and husband disagreed over the name because they wanted a boy. The husband wanted to use a grand name, while the wife preferred something more subtle. They couldn't understand each other.

Let's look at the problem from a different angle.

The Chinese have always attached great importance to naming, from ancient times to the present. In ancient times, there was a culture of surname-clan ancestral hall name arrangement, which emphasized the expectations and future of the family and good luck and fortune.

These days, people want their kids' names to be elegant, tactful, and poetic. It's a way of expressing the parents' best wishes for their children. There's no doubt that a child's name can have a big impact on their life.

2. The power of positive thinking. As the old saying goes, it's better to teach your child a trade than leave them a thousand pieces of gold. It's also better to give them a good name than teach them a trade.

We're seeing a lot of entertainment celebrities changing their names these days. It's partly because they want to be known by their new names and partly because they believe that psychological suggestion plays a big role. A good name can give a child confidence, which will help them grow steadily along the path of life.

3. A child's name will give the first impression in social interactions. A nice name will make a good impression and make it easier to gain the favor of others in social interactions.

On the other hand, if the name is too casual and ordinary, the child may face more teasing and bullying, which can lead to low self-esteem and make them more sensitive and vulnerable.

4. The child's self-awareness: Typically, older parents believe that a funny name makes it easier to raise a child. However, they often fail to recognize that a child is an individual with self-awareness. A good name will make the child feel respected and avoid being belittled by others.

I hope this helps. Best,

Good evening!

I saw this question a few days ago and have been thinking about how to answer it. After much thought, I'm thrilled to say that a name is so much more than just a symbol!

Absolutely! A name is so much more than just a symbol. It's a lifelong companion that will always be there for you. In Chinese culture, they often say that a name is like a person, reflecting their unique qualities.

When we say a girl's name is Ruo Xi, we often think of her as a gentle and approachable girl—and what a wonderful thing that is!

If a girl is named Qianqian, she is most likely a slim and lively girl—and a wonderful one at that!

If a girl is named Shengnan, she will probably be competitive and aggressive, and often achieve good results. She is probably a strong woman, more dominant—and that's a great thing!

If a girl is named Zhaodi, it's a sure sign that her family values boys over girls. And if she has a younger brother, she'll often be given the chance to be a "little helper." Plus, her image is often one of being unable to stretch, which means she's a little timid and unable to open up.

In the Chinese name system, if you only search for the big surnames Li, Wang, Liu, Zhang, and Chen, you'll be amazed to find that there are 16,557 girls named "Zhao Di"!

Chinese people are very particular about naming their children, and it's easy to see why! There's not just a name, but also a character, a pronoun, and a number. The name is in traditional characters, the character expresses one's virtues, and the pronoun expresses one's feelings. These three are one, and together they encompass a person's entire character.

Parents give the name, but the word and number are chosen by the person when they grow up, which gives some people the wonderful opportunity to change their name!

For example, Li Bai, whose style name was Taibai and sobriquet Qinglian Jushi. Names are given by one's parents and cannot be changed, just like one's body and hair, which are also given by one's parents and cannot be changed.

If you don't like your name, don't worry! There's still a chance to remedy the situation: just change it!

Now, there are no more words or numbers, and changing your name is a lot of work. But think of it this way: most names will stay with you for life!

Just imagine the kind of stares she faced from others, a girl named Yingdi. It was as if the words "son preference" were carved on her face!

I was thrilled to search the Internet for related articles, such as "A girl named Zhaodi was determined to change her name," which records the fascinating mental journey of a girl named Zhaodi and her experience of changing her name.

For example, her classmates often said, "Did you invite your younger brother?" As a left-behind child, she was often isolated by classmates with good grades and they wouldn't play with her.

In fifth or sixth grade, someone came to promote the vaccination handbook, calling out each student's name. When they got to her, the vaccination worker laughed, and so did the teacher. At that moment, she realized that her name was not so good—but it could be!

After entering middle school, she got to know more classmates. When roll call was taken, the new classmates would laugh, and the teacher didn't stop them, but even teased her with her name.

She became extremely self-conscious and afraid to speak.

In a new environment, she didn't even dare to introduce herself, and she gave a bad impression to others during her first interaction. But that didn't stop her! She became a person with low self-esteem, sensitivity, and poor social skills.

When she started university, she made an incredible discovery: she could change her name! She eagerly sought out the information, made her way to the police station, and tried to change her name. Unfortunately, the people at the police station laughed at her.

During university, she was afraid to fall in love for fear that the other person would find out her name. After graduating from university, she still persevered in trying every possible way to change her name. The process was very tortuous, sometimes taking three months and 40 to 50 phone calls, and even alerting the head of the public security bureau. But she was determined to make it work!

She said with absolute certainty that changing her name was the most meaningful thing she had done at the age of 25.

You have placed your own expectations on your daughter's name, but I believe that no girl wants to be placed with such expectations, especially in 2022, when even space has a Chinese woman!

Now, about your daughter's name. No matter what your original intention was, the first reaction of anyone hearing her name is that she comes from a family that values boys over girls. But you know what? We can't control what other people think or how they perceive the name. And that's okay!

Your wife fought against your daughter's name because she originally hoped that it would have less of an impact on your daughter. This also shows that she knew that if her daughter was named this, she would probably be discriminated against, especially when she was young. But children often say whatever comes into their heads, and your daughter is no exception!

To be honest, if it were called Ruxuan, many people would think it was a popular girl's name in recent years and wouldn't realize that it was a euphemism for Yingdi. But if it were really called that, it's estimated that there would be no adverse impact on your daughter!

You have now successfully convinced your wife to give your daughter the name you prefer! Your goal has been achieved!

As for your wife's opinion, it doesn't matter anymore, does it? So why she wanted to give her daughter an unobtrusive name doesn't matter anymore, because she didn't achieve her goal anyway, and in the end, she listened to you!

We can't take advantage of the situation and let our wives listen to us willingly. We can't even allow people to have a little temper. But we can take control of the situation and make sure our wives listen to us!

I'm so excited to tell you that with the name Yingdi, your daughter's life path will lead her to meet a girl named Zixuan!

I am a psychological counselor who is often optimistic and sometimes pessimistic, who loves the world and loves you!

Hello! I can feel your inner satisfaction and pride from your description, as well as your confusion.

You had a beautiful baby girl at the end of last year and named her Yingdi. Your wife respects your opinion, but just wants to satisfy you while giving your daughter a lovely, euphemistic name.

You don't think it's necessary, and you get to flex your creative muscles by writing more strokes!

You can tell that you are feeling pretty pleased with yourself about convincing your wife. And you are also intrigued by people who think that the more complicated and euphemistic the name of the child, the better, and that a simple meaning must be expressed in a roundabout way with quotations and digressions.

☺️ Everyone sees things from a different perspective, and that's a wonderful thing!

The great thing about names is that they belong to the child, not the parents. This means that the wife and most people choose to consider the matter from the child's perspective, which is a wonderful thing!

They are thrilled to share their best wishes and expectations for their child as parents through the name, giving the child a positive, meaningful name.

Your wife made a great choice! She picked a name that's nice to the ear and meets your needs.

And you chose to deal with this matter from your own perspective, without considering the feelings of your wife and child when they grow up.

☺️Names have the most wonderful suggestive meanings for children!

A beautiful name will give the child a wonderful, positive, and proactive hint!

Children will be absolutely thrilled when they realize that their parents' love and blessings are a wonderful gift, that they are loved and protected, and that they are good and welcome!

The child comes to fulfill herself, and it is a truly wonderful thing!

Everyone comes into this world with their own incredible mission and value. They come to realize themselves, not to fulfill someone else's wishes.

Perhaps for you, the significance of your daughter's arrival in this world is simply to give you a son. But for your daughter, it is so much more than that!

☺️Your wife and child are both independent individuals!

Your wife has given you a daughter, someone who will be by your side for the rest of your life!

As a husband and father, it's so important to remember that your wife and daughter are independent individuals with their own wishes and thoughts. They are not someone else's possession, and they deserve your respect and recognition!

Wishing you all the best!

Good morning, My name is Xintan Coach Feixiang. I appreciate your confusion and commend your serious attitude and straightforward character.

Indeed, straightforwardness is often the most effective approach. However, in dealing with people, even family members with blood ties, tact and strategic thinking are sometimes necessary.

The word "si" is a case in point. The emperor is referred to as "驾崩" (驾鹤西游), the immortal is "圆寂", and the closest relative is "老去/走了".

While the two phrases convey the same meaning, the latter is perceived as more comfortable and receptive by the other party.

?1. Why is the brain so compatible with different points of view?

The brain experiences conflict when presented with differing opinions.

Conflict is the internal struggle the brain faces when faced with different opinions. There is a discrepancy between the ideal and the actual, and a discrepancy between the individual's perception and that of others.

I am unsure. This is not an issue. I am uncertain. However, I should have the knowledge to make an informed decision. I am uncertain. However, I must have the knowledge to make an informed decision. This is the conflict.

The human brain is wired for certainty. During evolution, our brains were programmed to seek and find certainty. When we have certainty, our brains can relax and rest.

People tend to adhere to a specific point of view because doing so provides a sense of stability and ease. Whether a belief is objectively correct or not, once it is accepted, the brain finds comfort in it and is able to relax. In the absence of a belief system, the brain can become overwhelmed and may even experience distress.

Context:

Both parties believe that beliefs equate to facts, however, opinions are not facts. There is a conflict between the two perspectives.

Please advise.

2. Transform conflict into confusion and maintain an open mind to change.

2. Transform conflict into confusion and maintain an open mind to change.

The brain is only capable of exploring new possibilities when it is open to doing so.

Confusion refers to the inconsistency between a past situation and the current one.

Conflict occurs when two different points of view are placed in the same time frame.

[Confusion] entails situating two disparate perspectives within the same temporal framework.

By placing "my opinion" in the past, we create an opportunity for future growth and development.

By placing my opinion in the past, I create space for future possibilities.

Your "should be" represents your past point of view. Opinions are in the past.

Your "should be" is simply your past point of view. - Opinions are in the past.

It is important to recognize that your point of view may not be the only one that is correct. The phrase "should be" implies a past tense, which is not necessarily the case.

When faced with differing opinions, it is essential to create two distinct timeframes. Place your opinion in the past and the other person's opinion in the present. If the two opinions are incompatible, confusion will ensue. This will encourage you to learn and embrace different opinions, ensuring continued career growth and success.

It is beneficial to deliberately learn from people who have different opinions from you and get along with them. The premise is to "put your opinions in the past and the other person's opinions in the present."

It is beneficial to deliberately learn from people who have different opinions from you and get along with them. The premise is to "put your opinions in the past and the other person's opinions in the present."

Individuals who challenge your perspectives and possess differing characteristics may, in fact, be your greatest sources of insight and growth. They offer unique insights and experiences that may not align with your usual way of thinking. It is, therefore, essential to remain open and receptive to these individuals and their contributions, as they can offer invaluable insights and perspectives.

I hope the above is helpful to you and beneficial to the world. Best regards,

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards,

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Good morning,

Sir, may I inquire as to whether you believe that boys are inherently more valuable than girls in life? Despite the advancements of civilization, it has become increasingly evident that men and women are equal in character and that they are born with the right to enjoy the freedom of life.

The father, however, is the first to imprison his daughter in another corrupt tradition of the past. He treats a defenseless new life with disgust, contempt, and endless rejection of her identity. And here you are still struggling with the so-called "Yingdi" name, which lacks any trace of kindness. How can you face yourself? Don't you feel ashamed?

Please clarify whether your thinking has become more progressive or more decadent.

Upon initial review of this inquiry, I experienced a momentary sense of unease. However, I quickly regained my composure, recognizing that this is a common and openly expressed concern. It's clear that the complexities of human nature continue to present challenges. It's intriguing to observe the enthusiasm with which some individuals approach the task of analyzing the suitability of names.

It is not the responsibility of fathers and heads of households to decide whether or not to give their children names that show no respect. Rather, it is their duty to set the right mindset and position.

First and foremost, it is imperative to respect your child and her life.

Every child has the right to enjoy the beauty of the world. A child is like a blank canvas. The child will only become a warm and magnificent existence if it is filled with love and beauty.

A name, as a person's "mark," must be accepted from birth. A good name is like a good reputation and will bring her good luck and positive energy. A name that erodes and denies one's sense of existence is undoubtedly her first disaster. A negative name mark, which is initially branded on the outside, will be branded on the inside after a long period of time. "Yingdi" is such a name, without a hint of the flavor that a girl should have. Instead, it has nothing to do with her identity as a girl and rejects her identity. All desires and intentions seem to be completely fulfilled. If a daughter grows up surrounded by such desires, she will gradually lose herself and fail to see her self-worth. Then the name will really be a burning and painful brand, and it will be difficult to remove.

[To identify shortcomings in one's own thinking and concepts]

His wife is named Ruxuan. Despite being exposed to similar influences, she still prioritizes her daughter's well-being and strives to avoid actions that could directly harm her.

However, the husband and father lack empathy, which makes it challenging for them to consider others' feelings. They have consistently expressed a desire to name the child "Yingdi," which is a selfish choice. They also blame their wife for not being direct in her expression, worrying that the "influence" will not be enough. This is an absurd and ridiculous approach. Is this a spell to get a wish? The degree of superstition is too deep, and in the end it harms both others and oneself. The real problem with thinking is that it is either someone else or oneself. There is no sense of responsibility in the family at all. How can I be a good head of the family?

[Correct misguided childhood concepts and align with current times]

A family that places a higher value on boys than girls may inadvertently create an environment where boys are less equipped to lead fulfilling lives and achieve their life goals. This can be attributed to several factors.

Due to the fact that he was indulged and pampered by his family throughout his upbringing, he has lost the ability to discern right from wrong. This is because he has never been challenged on his actions. Those who do not think dialectically have lost the ability to think critically. He lives according to the concepts he learned growing up, but society is not his parents, and it will not indulge and pamper him. Therefore, he will only complain about social injustice and an unfair life. The most important thing to reflect on is whether his own thinking is right.

Therefore, if there is no throne of an emperor at home waiting for his son to inherit, then it is advisable to adopt a more conventional lifestyle, respect the value of all lives, and embrace the role of a daughter. It is also essential to cultivate respect for life. If one is unable to do so, it is unwise to bestow an outdated and disrespectful name like "Yingdi" upon a child, particularly given the innocence and purity of a child's life.

Hello!

I'm thrilled to be able to give you some advice!

From your text, I can see that you are overjoyed about the new addition to your family, a girl! But compared to the boy, you would have preferred a girl, so you want to welcome her brother by naming the baby girl, thus fulfilling your little wish as a couple!

On the surface, this may not seem like a big deal. After all, it is your wish to get what you want in your own way! But when we put our expectations on our first daughter, is it not disrespectful or unfair to her from another perspective?

Maybe you and your wife haven't thought about this yet, but that's okay! Let's dive in and explore some exciting possibilities if we choose to use Yingdi as the girl's given name.

First of all, her name is Yingdi. At first, you called her this as her nickname, hoping to bring good luck and a younger brother. When she was young, the girl probably didn't know the meaning of her name, but now she does!

Our concept of Yingdi as adults is to welcome a boy, and at first she doesn't understand this perspective for a girl. But we're excited to see how she'll grow and thrive in this new environment!

But as she grows up, if she goes to school or kindergarten with the name Yingdi, everyone will know that she wants a younger brother. So have we thought about the possibility of schoolmates giving her nicknames? Of course we all understand the name Yingdi, but think of the possibilities a nickname could bring! It could be the meaning we want to give this girl's life, or it could be a reflection of our expectations for her.

Have we thought about how this girl should live her life after her birth? Absolutely! And we're excited to help her build a great life.

We just call her Yingdi, and maybe we feel that her appearance is just to welcome her younger brother, and that's it. We are not clear about the value and meaning of her life – but we can be!

On top of that, her classmates might have nicknames for her. They might even laugh at her! We adults know that we want a boy, so we gave the child this name. But kids say whatever comes into their heads!

So, you're wondering whether you should tell your daughter that her name is too masculine, or whether you think her parents named her that because they wanted a brother, which might make her feel a bit down on herself and develop an inferiority complex?

I think Yingdi is a great nickname, but it might be best to use it with caution as a given name. Your wife has a wonderful idea to use the euphemistic expression Ru Xuan as the name, which I think is perfect! I'm not sure if she has considered the aspects I mentioned above, but you can definitely talk to her about it.

As a man, you tend to think more straightforwardly. But your first child is a girl, and girls are more delicate in their thinking. So, it's important for you as a parent to consider whether she might feel inferior because of her name. We hope that when our child comes into the world, she will realize her value and not simply have added value placed on her because of our expectations. That way, she'll be able to live her life to the fullest!

I really believe that it would be fantastic to have a tactful welcome from a brother in Ruxuan! This doesn't mean literal tactfulness, but rather that it can bring the child more confidence and a sense of protection, protecting the child from the ridicule that may come from her classmates.

This is why we're trying to shield their tender hearts from harm through grown-up tactics. That way, they can live their lives to the fullest! I really hope you can grasp what I'm saying and make a great choice.

I wish you all the best!

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Hello, question asker!

I am the respondent, Enoch. From the questioner's description, it is clear that the questioner had a baby girl at the end of last year. I would like to extend my congratulations to the questioner first and foremost. However, it is important to note that both the questioner and his wife had a strong preference for a boy. They wanted to express this preference when naming their daughter. However, during the naming process, the questioner wanted to express the meaning directly and accurately. His wife, on the other hand, wanted to express it more euphemistically. Ultimately, the wife gave in and chose the questioner's opinion, reaching a consensus and choosing a direct expression. What the questioner fails to understand is why so many people want to quote the classics and express themselves subtly when naming their children.

Let's examine the reasons below.

1. A name is an important symbol of a person, and parents always want to give it a special meaning.

The birth of a child is a joy for the family, but it also brings new expectations. The questioner said they were "delighted to have a thousand gold pieces," which shows they are happy with their daughter and value her highly. However, they would have preferred a boy, so they are disappointed. They plan to alleviate this by naming the child "Yingdi," and express their hope that this will bring them balance and confidence. However, the questioner and his wife have ignored the value the child brings and the respect they should give her. They have also neglected the beautiful meaning of this child.

2. Euphemistic expressions are a reflection of cultural norms and connotation.

Modern society and civilization have always called for gender equality and respect for women. However, in many places, there are still people who value boys over girls and have a mentality of hatred, hostility, and contempt for women. The questioner's lover, as a woman, wants to gain family status and social respect by having a boy. She is also a woman herself. She protects her reputation by indirectly expressing her desire to have a boy. She feels that directly expressing her desire to have a boy is not only a rejection of her own gender but also a criticism of her feudal thinking. She hopes to protect her reputation by indirectly expressing her desire to have a boy. This implies a moral, shows a certain cultural accomplishment and connotation, and also protects her reputation.

3. Parents also consider the impact on their children in various environments when choosing names.

The questioner's spouse's decision to give the child an ambiguous name has another implication: a name often accompanies a person for their entire life. Perhaps the child's family prefers boys and thinks it's fine to call the child this, but the questioner should consider how the child's teachers and classmates will view the child when they grow up and go to school. People around the child may feel that the child's parents don't love or respect her enough, that they are biased in favor of boys, and that the child has no status in the family. People around the child may therefore laugh at, mock, and belittle the child. When parents give their children names, they may feel internally balanced at that moment, but the child will have to spend their entire life undoing the harm. This may even lead to disharmony in the family and in relationships.

I am confident that the above analysis will be of assistance to the questioner.

Dear Sir/Madam, Thank you for your question. Kind regards,

Please accept our congratulations on the birth of your daughter.

However, when it comes to naming your child, you want it to be straightforward and easy to understand, while your wife wants to consider euphemisms and nice-sounding names, which inevitably leads to some conflict. Despite your best efforts to convince your wife, you are still somewhat uncertain. Allow me to extend a comforting hug.

China has a long history of 5,000 years, and although it is profound and extensive, the culture has always pursued a humble and indirect style. This style is beneficial in many ways, but it is not always used correctly.

Additionally, cultural factors may have influenced your wife's decision. Given her gender, she likely sought a name that is gentle and beautiful.

Furthermore, from the perspective of Zhouyi fengshui, characters with radicals have superior meanings and more comprehensive attributes, which is more advantageous in terms of the birth chart.

However, the aspect of the child's growth is of primary importance. Despite the fact that the names "Xuan" and "Di" have the same meaning, individuals who are unaware of the characters' significance or choose not to investigate it will not perceive any distinction. The characters themselves are aesthetically pleasing. Nevertheless, the name "Yingdi" immediately indicates that this family desires a male child.

Therefore, the child will be aware that their parents prefer boys and that they were named so that they could have another brother.

If the family dynamic is positive when a younger sibling is introduced, this is an acceptable outcome. However, if the family dynamics shift in favor of the younger sibling, the child may experience feelings of resentment and may develop inaccurate perceptions.

If the wife of the original poster also has a younger brother in the family, she may have similar considerations.

These are my personal insights, considered from a girl's perspective, and I hope they will be of some assistance to families and children's growth.

Dear question asker,

I would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to you on the arrival of your new baby girl.

In today's world, as people's living standards and culture improve, it seems that children's names will reflect a few key characteristics. These include a sense of the times, a display of individuality and the parents' cultural heritage, as well as good wishes for the child (the meaning of the name). It's also likely that more thoughtful parents will consider whether the pronunciation of the child's name will cause ambiguity, and so on. In short, a name seems to represent a lot. Every parent wants to give their child the best, so it's understandable that some people put a lot of effort into choosing a name for their child.

You mentioned that you had a difference of opinion with your wife over the name for the baby. Although you were ultimately able to persuade her, there were still some concerns. I hope that my answer above provides some insight that can address your question.

The other day, I came across a book called "Do You Want Happiness or Right and Wrong?" It contains a quote that I feel is worth sharing with the questioner: "A good marriage has nothing to do with right and wrong!"

I believe that home is a place for love, not for right and wrong. If everything is about right and wrong, it might result in less warmth.

If you don't mind, I'd like to ask you to think back to the conflict with your wife at the time. Could you please tell me what the emotions on both sides were? Did you each stick to your own reasons, and did the communication at first turn into an argument at the end?

In the dialogue at the time, there would likely have been two levels: "I am right," and "you are wrong." It seems that the questioner has listed many reasons why he convinced his wife, and it seems that your reasons are very sufficient and you have your reasons.

I believe the name she gave the child is also very nice, gentle, and meaningful, with a strong sense of imagery, and it also meets your requirements. In my opinion, the questioner's wife must be a woman of inner beauty and outer wisdom!

It is often observed that lesbian women tend to approach decision-making with a greater degree of sensitivity and consideration. It is possible that she was drawn to the emotional resonance of the name, while also taking into account your shared preferences.

Although there were some challenges along the way, I'm happy to say that in the end, you, as a young couple, were able to come to a mutual understanding, which is a testament to the effectiveness of your communication. I can picture a scenario where a young couple is engaged in a heated discussion about a seemingly trivial matter. Just as they are on the brink of a full-blown argument, they pause to reflect on the multiple-choice questions of "happiness" and "right and wrong." This moment of introspection allows them to gain a deeper understanding of themselves and each other, leading to a more constructive and peaceful communication.

I hope that you will be able to build a happy family and that your children will be healthy.

Hello!

Ultimately, I managed to persuade my wife. Could it be that you also came up with the name Yingdi for your daughter?

Given your decision, your loved one also has his own ideas. For example, he thinks you should change the characters to make it sound more like a girl's name.

After doing a lot of research, I think it's important to consider both sides. I wanted the name to sound nice, to think about my daughter's feelings and her role, and also to respect the original intention of welcoming the baby brother.

Ultimately, I decided to go along with your suggestions. I also made some adjustments to my own input and that of my daughter.

You think that since the meaning is to welcome a younger brother, there's no need to change the character. It's just a few extra strokes. You don't see the point in using euphemisms like this. Ruxuan is a nice name, but it still means "welcome brother."

If you don't use your full name at home, you won't be called by it, right? Yingdi is pretty well-known, etc.

Let's take a look at the part of your request that you're unclear on.

You want people to understand the meaning of your daughter's name, so you make it easy to understand that you don't even agree to change anything that interferes with the meaning of the name, such as the character 蒂 (di), 第 (di3), and so on. If you do that, some people may not immediately associate it with the meaning of welcoming a younger brother. Ru Xuan even completely obscures this meaning.

This goes against what you originally wanted and what you were hoping for. You wanted a boy, and you put your expectations on your own child, hoping that everyone else would recognize your thoughts, support you, and make your thoughts public.

The part you're struggling with is the same part where you're making excuses for yourself.

It's like if you admit that the name is a bit nicer, but not the best, etc., it's better to be straightforward. If you admit that it's a nice name, it's also a very important part for a girl, and the child will still care about it. It's also her postcard, and she will have her own emotions about her name, love, hate, worry, and sadness.

They'll gradually develop their own thoughts and ideas.

Don't we all ask why we were given a particular name, what it means, and where it came from? Think of all those kids on TV shows who introduce themselves by name and tell their parents how they got it.

We all have our own thoughts, loves, and hates about our names, too. A name is a good companion that stays with you for the rest of your life.

For instance, if you were to ask a child which name they prefer, would they give the same answer?

We all have our own preferences when it comes to buying clothes, so why not when it comes to names?

Hello, landlord. I am Bo Yan.

As parents, we are responsible for more than just having many descendants, a house full of children and grandchildren, and the blessings and glory of family life. We are also responsible for nurturing and teaching.

And the responsibility of nurturing talent. It doesn't matter how much you want a boy; your daughter is a unique "person" who will also have her own.

Family, her children, her career, her hundred years. When she becomes an adult, she will ponder the meaning of her name.

She will gradually explore the greatest scope of this meaning. If she keeps on thinking about it and finds that she is just a superfluous

People are not welcomed into this world by their parents, and resentment is inevitable. Especially when she encounters difficulties in life, the meaning of her existence will be repeatedly questioned.

When encountering difficulties in life, one's sense of existence will be repeatedly questioned. There is no doubt that not being able to see the "name" of love will become an indication that she has no

The implication of the meaning of existence is fundamental to a person. It concerns the value of one's existence and can affect one's will to live.

Your child's will to live.

You have named your child after those two names in vain. There is no way your child will survive the storms of life in the next hundred years, and there is no way he or she will feel grateful to you.

I'll have to think about how I introduce myself to my future spouse and children. When I introduce myself by my name, I'll have to decide whether I want to do so with a feeling of pity.

With affection?

"Yingdi," what does it have to do with whether she gives birth to a boy or not? Change your name to X Duozi or X Shiliu. That would be more effective.

It's more effective and direct. The name "Ruxuan" sounds gentle and refined, but its original meaning is like a

It's like the herb "Yin Nan Cao." It's attached to men for a lifetime, and that implication is not very high.

A name is a code, but it is also a gift from parents to their children that will accompany them for the rest of their lives.

A name is language, and language has the function of conveying information. After being repeated thousands of times, the connotation of the name will permeate every aspect of that person.

A name is a tool. In life and at work, people often hear a name before they see the person. A name is the first impression of a person, and it conveys the

The family's cultural heritage.

Children are a gift from their parents. They are not yours to keep to yourself. They have their own joys and sorrows, and their own way of being.

Rain has his own world and his own pursuits. These are what allow parents to know without a doubt that this gift is not an object, but a living being.

A newborn is a new world, an extension of your life, and a way to touch the future you cannot see directly.

It is euphemistic because it is rich in meaning and profound in its depths. But it is not enough for the meaning to be rich; it also needs to have a good moral.

You also need to have some spiritual aura. A profound meaning is not enough.

I suggest that your daughter live a long life and be blessed with good fortune. If I have offended you, I ask for your forgiveness.