Let's discuss the topic of egocentrism together with those who are interested.

Good question.

I'm Kelly Shui.

[On self-centeredness, those interested can explore it together.

Thank you for bringing this up. It helps me understand it better.

Ego-centrism is a concept by Swiss psychologist J. Piaget.

Infants are strongly influenced by their own needs and feelings.

It's hard for babies to understand things without feeling. They reason based on feelings and don't pay attention to others' intentions.

Piaget called this self-centeredness.

He also believed that after birth, a baby's self-centeredness fades around 18 months. At this time, a child's body and movements must be referenced to understand their objective relationship.

Let's talk about self-centeredness.

Psychology also talks about life cycles. Different cycles have different development trends. Piaget said that the infant stage is important. Here's an example:

A self-centered baby is like, "I'm hungry, I want to eat," and wants food or his mother. The baby may not understand that his mother is busy or the caregiver doesn't have time.

Mothers who have raised children before will pay attention to their child when they cry. Is this mother's reaction self-centered or infantile?

A mature mother will take care of her child. If she has never been told to care about her child's feelings, is she willing to take care of the baby?

We can assume this mother is self-centered or infantile.

What kind of personality will this baby develop?

Are self-centered people disrespectful?

It depends on the relationship. We saw this a lot when we were students. I had a classmate who was spoiled by his parents. At school, we shared snacks with our classmates.

This student was unwilling.

She was jealous and angry when she met girls who were better than her. She was also a bit narcissistic.

We learn from our environment and education. As a student, I didn't like certain classmates and could have kept my distance.

We can use friends and classmates as mirrors. I understand her, but I don't agree with her.

Her behavior made me reflect on myself. Some classmates were friendly and shared food. They encouraged others. I liked them and discovered their parents were loving.

Environment, family, and parents are important. Some people have selfish parents, but they can learn to think critically. Learning is a lifelong process.

We can see and feel when someone is self-centered.

Friends I met

I also have a schoolmate who is stingy.

Later, I found out her parents favored her brother and she felt insecure. When she was with people, she was calculating and scheming.

I should pay more often during meals so she could feel my love. She told me stories about her childhood.

She's helpful when it's not about money. She'll teach me again and again when I have trouble with my studies.

Later, I also became curious about human nature. As a student, I didn't like people who were jealous and schemed behind others' backs.

I would have less contact with people like my schoolmate. There are still quite a lot of them around me. They are self-centered, but they also have some advantages.

We grow through relationships, observation, and curiosity. Counselors must accept people and learn to see the beauty in them.

Human nature is complex. Everyone has shortcomings and limitations, and can choose what they can accept.

It also helps us think and grow.

I like your observations and thinking.

Recommended books: Growing through Relationships, Personal Development Theory

Hello, I am Zeyu.

Let me be clear: what is self-centeredness and what are the behaviors of a self-centered person?

I'm going to illustrate the problem using an example. If you've been paying attention to the digital circle, you may have heard of the story of "A Little Couple's Night Talk" that came out not long ago. The male protagonist of this story is a typical self-centered person. He thinks, "I think, I think, according to my standards, I think a certain mobile phone is overpriced and under-equipped, and it is not conscience enough, so you can't buy it." In terms of behavior, he wants the other person to purchase goods according to his own wishes. If you choose something that does not conform to his values, he thinks you are irrational and not objective if you buy it. In other aspects, he is excessive and controlling.

If you're interested, you can find this video online.

This kind of self-centered person thinks that others and the environment should revolve around him. He's like he's the center of the universe. Does he not know how to respect others?

It is completely normal for the original poster to feel this way because, for a self-centered person, the only thing that really matters is themselves. There is no one else in the eyes of the other person. This is a clear manifestation of high narcissism. Such people also know how to respect others, but only if the other person thinks you are worthy of their respect. Unfortunately, there are really very few people who can enter the right way.

They value themselves so highly that they are unable to notice how others are in the outside world. Some self-centered people will deny the reality of other people's excellence in various ways and try to distort the facts because their existence does not meet the other person's wishes.

"It's not that they don't respect others. They simply don't understand respect from the bottom of their hearts. Is this a result of a lack of family education?"

A normal family will teach a person how to respect others. If a child is spoiled or obeyed in a family, respect for that person simply does not exist. In such an environment, the child is taught to see themselves as the authority and to disregard the opinions of others. This can manifest as a lack of respect for others, even to the point of seeing everything they say as false.

"Have you ever encountered a self-centered person? Please share your experience." I don't think it's necessary to go into detail on this topic. While we are sharing, we may inadvertently become judges. We may think we are superior because we are trolling, but we are actually the inferior ones. We can discuss the characteristics of self-centered people, but we should not belittle or look down upon them. We may not understand, but we need to show basic respect.

We are not saviors or judges. We have no business interfering in other people's lives or judging their merits and demerits. It will do us no good and will only bring us trouble.

I hope that my response will prove to be of some assistance to you.

Indeed, a crucial phase in the evolution of self-awareness is the period of "self-centeredness." Following birth, an infant exhibits an omnipotent narcissistic disposition, perceiving the world as centered on him and others as revolving around him. However, human growth and maturation entail the dismantling of this omnipotent infantile narcissism.

The term "self-centered" is used to describe children who are over the age of three and under the age of three, and who display a lack of consideration for the perspectives of others, a tendency to prioritize their own needs, and a desire to act on their own behalf without delay.

Given that children's cognitive abilities, analytical abilities, and emotional control are not yet fully developed, they are unable to adopt the perspective of others.

Piaget's "Three Hills Experiment" provides an illustrative example of this phenomenon. The specific content of the experiment is described in detail in one of my articles, "When Your Child is Hit, Here's What a Wise Parent Should Do." Those interested in learning more can refer to this article.

It is important to distinguish between self-centeredness and selfishness. Self-centeredness is merely a transient phase in a child's psychological development. With appropriate guidance, children can transcend this phase and learn to adopt a more socially aware perspective, thereby enhancing their social interaction skills.

Consequently, when children are in the "self-centered" stage, parents should refrain from labeling them with negative terms such as "selfish," "domineering," "unreasonable," and "unwilling to share." Instead, they should recognize that this is a typical developmental phase.

"Self-centeredness" is an inherent quality of children, as they are born with a limited field of vision and thus cannot help but be self-centered, which is a natural expression. At this stage, it is crucial to allow the child to maintain their natural state. When they encounter a conflict with others, they can effectively divert their attention to find a solution.

As the brain develops and cognitive development progresses, the social development of children becomes increasingly important. During this period, it is essential to facilitate the child's ability to consider perspectives other than their own, recognize that they possess their own ideas and that others do as well, and learn to navigate conflicts through negotiation, rather than solely focusing on their own feelings and disregarding those of others.

If a child has not yet progressed beyond the egocentric stage by the age of

If a child is still exhibiting egocentric behavior at the age of 4-5, or even 6-7, this is a cause for concern and requires the attention of the parents. It is important to actively guide the child out of egocentrism, and parents can use some scientific parenting methods to achieve this.

For example, it is not advisable to create a child-centered environment. Instead, parents should guide their child to learn to empathize with others by placing themselves in their shoes. Furthermore, parents should encourage their child to participate in group activities outside the home on a regular basis.

From the perspective of parents, it is important to accept the natural state of children during the "self-centered" stage and allow them to develop normally. It is not advisable to force children to share or think from other people's perspectives, as they are not yet capable of doing so. When children reach the stage of needing to "de-self-center," it is essential to actively guide them to learn to think from other people's perspectives, understand others, avoid forming a "selfish" character, and promote the perfection and development of their personality. This will ensure that they become individuals who can adapt to society.

It can be reasonably deduced that the aforementioned individuals continue to exhibit self-centered tendencies into adulthood due to their incomplete psychological development. Their capacity to engage in reflective thinking and adopt the perspective of others remains at the level of a six- or seven-year-old. In such cases, the typical approach within the domain of psychological counseling entails the provision of supportive interventions.

It can be reasonably deduced that the aforementioned individuals will continue to exhibit self-centered tendencies throughout their adult lives. This is due to the fact that their psychological development remains at the level of a six- or seven-year-old child, preventing them from engaging in the capacity to think and reflect from another's perspective. In the context of psychological counseling, it is common practice to provide supportive treatment to such clients, given their inability to reflect. However, when they are offered sufficient support and acceptance, and when their psychological development reaches the Oedipus period, they will naturally be able to think from another's perspective.

In life, I also encounter many individuals who are self-centered. First of all, I will see that their level of psychological development has not reached a level where they can think from other people's perspectives. Therefore, I will understand some of their behaviors, provide them with some support, and also understand that they are actually very vulnerable. Because they are self-centered, they actually also suffer a great deal in the process of social interaction and will encounter many setbacks. They also want to grow up, but if they themselves do not have the motivation to change and are unwilling to change, it is also difficult for us to change them. Therefore, it is sufficient to give them respect, understanding, and acceptance, and not to force them to change. It is important to maintain your own boundaries in the relationship.

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Hello! When I saw this question, I thought of a former colleague of mine. Everyone used to call her "the queen" behind her back.

This colleague is quite similar to what you described. It seems that she should be the center of attention for others and the environment. Self-centeredness in the psychological sense can be explained by narcissism, or self-centeredness is a personality with "high narcissism."

The most striking thing about highly narcissistic people is their strong and clear desire to get what they want. They don't "have no regard for others," but they do tend to regard others as tools and demand that others cooperate with them without fail.

Moreover, narcissists want to win in every respect. They don't just imagine that they're better than others; they also try to "prove" it in every way possible.

From a psychoanalytic object relations perspective, the narcissist tends to be in a position of demand in a relationship. This can make it difficult for them to experience relationships in a rich and deep way.

It's possible that these folks may have lacked emotional care from their parents during their childhood and upbringing. I once recorded the following quote during my studies, which I feel clearly describes such individuals: "Parents need to provide sufficient emotional care for their children when they are young, and accept all the feelings projected by their children: aggression, fear, closeness, jealousy, tension, relief... When these emotions of the child are contained and responded to, the child's relationship with the object will become more vivid and profound.

When parents are unable to accept their children's feelings, it can make it hard for kids to form connections with others. They might also try to make up for it by seeking external sources when they grow up.

Dealing with highly narcissistic people can be tough, but it's important to remember that you can maintain a healthy distance in your interactions.

Even if you can't maintain a physical or working distance, you can set up mental boundaries and make it clear where you draw the line when faced with their attempts at control, belittling, or demands. Compromise and accommodation won't make a high narcissist change their attitude, so it's important to set boundaries.

I'm really interested to find out why the OP wants to explore this topic, as it is indeed a fascinating area to delve into.

I'm so excited to share what I've learned!

As a post-80s generation, when we were young, the phrase "self-centered" was often a euphemistic expression for "selfish and self-serving," with a negative connotation. But times have changed! Now, it usually refers to doing things without considering the feelings of others, only considering your own feelings.

Let's look at some typical examples! Have you ever parked in the middle of the road, blocking the way? Or eaten all the delicious food at home before anyone else? These are great examples of typical self-centered behavior. And who can forget Pigsy in Journey to the West? He would take a nap whenever he felt sleepy and would start talking about splitting up the family whenever anything happened. He was a classic self-centered character!

This style of doing things is indeed something you can learn and develop! It's related to the education you receive as a child or the family atmosphere. A typical example is the only child, who enjoys all the delicious food in the family all by himself. This kind of subtle behavior has slowly cultivated the relatively self-centered behavior of the generation of only children.

This doesn't have to be about parenting. For parents of only children, it's probably just an instinct to save the best food for their only child. And for only children, it's probably just a matter of course to enjoy the gifts of their parents!

So this behavior pattern has become set in stone with one person willing to fight and the other willing to suffer.

However, with the passage of time and the liberation of thought, people have gradually begun to shift their focus from the external world to the internal world, listening to their own emotions and feelings.

If you exclude the "self-centered" part related to social influence, it seems to be less negative. In fact, many psychological theories nowadays encourage people to return to self-centeredness and focus on their own sense of well-being. From a certain point of view, only people who are relatively rich in the heart can truly be self-centered without paying attention to other people's reactions or trying to please and cater to them.

I truly believe that being self-centered is not a bad thing at all! As long as it doesn't affect others, it's perfectly fine!

We're so excited to share these opinions with you! They're just a few ideas to get the creative juices flowing.

Greetings.

This is an intriguing question that evokes a multitude of associations and personal experiences, which I will elaborate upon here.

The term "self-centered" evokes memories of our infancy, when we exhibited a pronounced self-centeredness. A newborn cries, and the mother responds promptly.

The infant's world is inherently self-centered. If this self-centeredness is fully satisfied and protected during this period, the infant can gain a sufficient sense of security, trust, and existence.

This self-centered stage will eventually give way to a more socially engaged phase of development.

It is also possible that young children may display more "self-centered" characteristics. However, it is important to note that this self-centeredness may be a label that is applied by adults.

For example, when a child is unable to cooperate effectively with the adult's rhythm, meet the adult's demands, or understand the adult's emotions, they are often accused of being "self-centered." It can be argued that this behavior may simply reflect the adult's own "self-centeredness," whereby the adult demands that the child cooperate with the adult according to the adult's rhythm, demands, and state, without considering the child's current state.

This is precisely the phenomenon of self-centeredness as exhibited by adults.

When an individual is in a self-centered state, the feelings of others are typically perceived as oppression and suffocation. The underlying message conveyed by self-centeredness is that one must adhere to the individual's commands, that they are in possession of absolute truth, and that they must be obeyed and comply with their demands.

In such instances, the feelings of the other person are perceived as oppression, control, suffocation, and anger.

One might posit that individuals who are frequently self-centered are less likely to respect others.

Such individuals lack comprehension due to a paucity of experience with respect. It is possible that they were not sufficiently cared for during infancy, or that they were consistently blamed, controlled, and suppressed by adults during their developmental period.

Such individuals often exhibit a sense of oppression and suffocation, stemming from a perceived lack of autonomy and control. As they mature, they may become increasingly self-centered.

Such behavior may be an expression of an inner will that has never been satisfied. For example, a child who is never allowed to freely and fully enjoy a snack may grow up to snack in revenge.

The lack of autonomy in children who are controlled and not allowed to play video games may result in them seeking out such activities as adults without restraint. It is possible that self-centered behavior may reflect a lack of self-centeredness, freedom, and adequate care in their past growth.

Alternatively, individuals may seek to avoid the feelings of oppression and control experienced in childhood relationships by adopting similar behaviors as oppressors and controllers themselves. This process can perpetuate the transmission of these feelings to subsequent generations.

To illustrate, if a child receives a poor grade on an examination and the teacher expresses discontent to the parents, the parents, if they are susceptible to feelings of shame and anger, may, upon returning home, readily accuse the child of being at fault, thereby transferring the shame and anger to the child and causing the child to bear the blame. However, if the parents are able to discern their own feelings of shame and anger, they will recognize that these emotions are not a direct result of the child's academic performance.

If parents address their own emotions and engage in open communication with their children, they can maintain a rational and loving approach, inquire about the specific circumstances of their children's lives, and offer constructive and compassionate assistance. This is a valuable opportunity.

The reality of life is that when parents are in pain, they often direct that pain towards their children, who in turn may pass on that pain to their own children, perpetuating a cycle of distress across generations.

In addition, I consider an intangible form of self-centeredness, which is to be wholly self-absorbed. This entails suppressing one's individual desires and conforming to the expectations of others.

Indeed, by eschewing self-centeredness, one can garner attention and acceptance, and indirectly fulfill the needs associated with self-centeredness. It is only when I am not self-centered that the world will pay attention to me and revolve around me.

This is also a highly unfortunate decision.

Those who are not self-centered may find themselves in proximity to individuals who exhibit pronounced self-centered tendencies. This phenomenon can be likened to an echo within and between individuals, with both parties potentially deriving a certain degree of psychological comfort from it.

The question was posed, and it may be assumed that the issue of self-centeredness is a source of uncertainty. It is possible that the individual has encountered a person who is markedly self-centered and has experienced a sense of frustration, or it is possible that the individual has recognized a tendency towards self-centeredness and is seeking an understanding of their own perspective. In either case, it can be posited that a certain degree of self-centeredness is likely a common experience for most people.

It may be more appropriate to refer to this as "subjectivity."

It is essential for individuals to understand their identity, communicate their desires, and assert their subjectivity. A healthy and appropriate form of self-centeredness is one that is free from oppression and manipulation.

I simply act in accordance with my own principles and do not encroach upon the boundaries of others.

Such self-centeredness may be perceived as a powerful aura, yet it is not oppressive. It is possible to find one's true strength, become oneself, and avoid expressing oneself through self-centeredness. Instead, one should simply be oneself naturally. This state is arguably the most ideal, happiest, and freest for each individual.

It is my hope that I have adequately addressed your queries. As a listening expert, Xu Yanlian, I am available for further discussion.

Best regards,

Hi, I have a question.

I'm happy to talk about self-centeredness with you. This is about how we relate to the world and to each other. It's also an important topic in psychology, which has led to many different ideas. From what you say, I can tell you've had problems with people. You want to understand what it's like to be self-centered. I hope you can identify it so you can avoid problems with this type of person (including yourself).

Let's keep going together.

[Self-centered]

The word is used in a negative way to describe someone who is self-centered and unable to empathize with others. From a psychological perspective, it can be seen as a form of narcissism, which develops due to a lack of care during early childhood.

This is what the psychoanalytic school calls a "unitary relationship." The child is the only one who decides what happens in the relationship. This is how a child learns to control and exploit others.

[What behaviors indicate this, and how to recognize them]

You mentioned "lack of respect for others and poor family upbringing." This is similar to "selfishness" and other behaviors that people can easily spot. People who act this way learn from their mistakes and avoid such people. They will also change their behavior when faced with obstacles.

Self-centered people are still motivated by their own interests. They may seem sincere when they apologize, but they're really just trying to avoid trouble or make sure you still like them. They're not truly apologizing because they believe they've done something wrong and hurt you.

It's hard to tell if someone is truly sorry or just trying to avoid trouble when you just met them. You have to spend time together to understand their true feelings.

[Polarized development]

People change. Their personalities are usually stable, but the social environment can influence them. It can make them more self-loving or more extreme narcissists.

Narcissistic personality disorder

People with NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) are more harmful. They will attract people with kind traits, such as high empathy and excessive optimism. These traits will lead people into dangerous relationships. They will be exploited emotionally and lose themselves.

"Self-development with self-respect and self-love."

"Self-centered" is a negative label. The labeling theory in "Social Pathology" (1951) says that people become self-centered because of how others react to their behavior, not because of the behavior itself. If people or social organizations label someone negatively, it can make them feel like they are that person.

We try to avoid defining people when evaluating others. Instead, we focus on the matter at hand. For example, if someone is too self-centered, this can guide self-improvement.

I hope we can keep talking and make progress together.

I'm Potato Man, and I appreciate your attention.

Egocentrism is when someone is really focused on their own needs and feelings, and maybe a little less aware of what others need and feel. This can happen for lots of different reasons, like how they were brought up, their education, and the society they grew up in.

Self-centered behavior may include:

- Lack of empathy: It can be tough to understand or care about the feelings and needs of others.

- **Expects others to adapt to him/her**: always expects others to act according to his/her wishes, rather than the other way around.

- **Lack of listening**: When chatting with others, they'd rather talk about themselves than listen to what others have to say.

- **Decision-making that only considers personal interests**: When making decisions, it's not always easy to consider the impact on others.

- **Dominance in social interactions:** In social situations, they always try to control the topic and situation to suit their own interests.

To figure out if someone is self-centered, just pay attention to how they act and how they respond to things.

- In team projects, does he or she always want things done his or her way?

- Does he or she often interrupt others in discussions or not listen patiently to other people's points of view?

- In social situations, do you sometimes find yourself focusing on your own needs and maybe not paying as much attention to others?

- And, of course, we can't forget about conflict resolution! Do you always stick to your own position and are unwilling to compromise?

Now, let's talk about how family upbringing can influence our behavior.

It's so true that family upbringing can have a big impact on how we act as grown-ups. If our parents were too indulgent or too attentive, we might end up being a bit self-centered as a result.

On the other hand, if family members can teach children empathy and mutual respect, children are more likely to develop healthy interpersonal skills.

From my own experience, I've found that...

We've all met folks who are a bit self-centered, right? I know I have! In the workplace, there are often people who always want to be the center of attention and don't care much for adapting to others' schedules. And in team projects, there are those who are just not that into hearing other people's opinions.

We all have our moments! Some people may always talk about themselves and be unwilling to understand or care about the lives of others in social situations.

Let's talk about some ways you can cope with these challenges.

- It's so important to set boundaries! Let the other person know how you feel and what you need, and set some reasonable boundaries.

- Communication skills: It's so important to be able to express your feelings in a way that's respectful and doesn't blame anyone else. Try using "I" statements to show how you feel and avoid making the other person defensive.

- **Empathy cultivation**: It's always a good idea to encourage the other person to think from another's perspective and understand their feelings and position.

If you're struggling with self-centered behavior and it's starting to affect your relationships, it might be helpful to chat with a counselor. They can offer guidance and support to help you navigate this challenge.

It's totally normal to sometimes act a little self-centered, but when it starts to affect your relationships and social life, it's time to take a step back and see what you can do to make things better.

Self-centered people focus on themselves too much and ignore others. This can make others feel ignored, unappreciated, or hurt.

A self-centered person usually behaves like this:

They may ignore others' feelings and focus only on themselves. They may force their opinions on others.

They may lack empathy and care about others' pain.

They love to show off. They may flaunt their achievements and abilities to get attention and praise.

They may need approval and praise to feel good about themselves.

They may not want to take responsibility.

To see if someone is self-centered, look for the above behaviors. Everyone is sometimes self-centered, but if it's a habit, they may be self-centered.

Self-centered people may not know how to respect others. They focus on themselves and ignore others' feelings. This doesn't mean they're deliberately disrespectful. It's just that they're self-centered.

This may be related to family upbringing or personal character.

Some people are self-centered at work. They focus on their own tasks and ignore the opinions and needs of other team members. This leads to problems with teamwork.

Some people only care about themselves in relationships, which can cause tension.

Being self-centered is bad for relationships. We should pay attention to others, respect their ideas, and be more respectful of others.

Hello, I'm grateful for the opportunity to answer your question. I hope my suggestions will be helpful to you.

Perhaps we could begin with the second question.

2. Have you ever had the opportunity to interact with someone who could be perceived as self-centered?

In my experience, I have not met a person who is completely self-centered. However, I do tend to gravitate towards such individuals, as well as those who are straightforward. While their external behaviors may appear similar, there are often subtle differences in their core values and motivations.

A self-centered person may be like my father. However, I believe that being self-centered is not necessarily entirely negative. I would be happy to share some of my personal insights on this later if you think it would be helpful.

I'd like to explore this together if you'd like.

1. Could you please clarify what is meant by the term "self-centeredness," as well as describe the behaviors typically exhibited by individuals who may be perceived as self-centered?

Perhaps a simpler way to understand the state of being self-centered is that the person is selfish.

It is also worth noting that there are individuals who may exhibit self-centered tendencies, particularly when pursuing their own interests or goals, which could potentially involve causing harm to others.

There are also people whose perceptions and understanding of the world may differ from our own. We may perceive them as selfish or self-centered when they express an opinion or deal with an issue, but they may believe that their opinion is the truth and the correct one. This can lead to a discrepancy between how they view themselves and how others perceive them. (For example, some people may adhere to patriarchal or male chauvinist beliefs, but this is not a derogatory term for men. It is simply a type of person, and there may also be some among the girls.)

There is, however, another case to consider. This person is aware of their own needs and has a clear understanding of their boundaries. When engaging in any activity or interacting with others, they are not willing to compromise their personal values. They seek to avoid causing harm, damage or discomfort to others while asserting their own rights and needs.

How might one discern if someone is self-centered?

It is possible that we may not be able to fully discern this, as everyone is contradictory. We may know that one aspect of him or one thing he deals with is selfish, but we don't know what is behind his selfishness. It may be that this matter is very important to him, or that he has a stress reaction to this matter, or that he has been hurt in the past in this matter, so he tends to solve it in an excessive and selfish way to protect himself or bring benefits to himself.

I can't help but wonder if the type of person who is self-centered might think that others and the environment should revolve around them, as if they were the center of the universe. Could it be that this type of person might not fully understand how to respect others?

With regard to this part, it could be said that the first half of the description actually describes what a selfish person is like.

It would be fair to say that this state of mind is not particularly respectful. However, it is not for us to judge whether he understands respect for others.

It might be the case that he doesn't know how to respect others, which could explain why he behaves in a selfish or self-centered manner.

It is also possible that he knows exactly how to respect others, but for whatever reason, he is unwilling to do so. It could be that he feels that the person does not deserve his respect, which would explain why he faces the outside world in a self-centered state.

Another type of person who is aware of themselves will not engage in disrespectful behavior towards him.

One of their essential qualities is based on respecting others, not causing trouble or interfering with others, and not harming their own interests to satisfy or protect themselves.

It may be that they don't respect others, but perhaps they just don't know how to do so from the bottom of their hearts. Could this be a result of a lack of family education?

I believe this part is related to one aspect of family education.

The formation of one's character is influenced by a multitude of factors. While family dynamics may play a role in shaping our character and habits, it is important to recognize that our acquired environment, such as the school and social environments, can also have a significant impact.

For instance, we might have a happy family with obedient parents, but one child, say, a boy, has been the victim of bullying at school since childhood. He has endured it all his life, being bullied without knowing how to defend himself. He has suffered a very serious blow and is aware of the consequences if he doesn't defend himself. This has caused a significant stress reaction, or he has experienced a great loss in this area.

It is possible that when he enters society in the future and gets along with others, he may become more self-centered to ensure that he does not suffer the same harm again.

From the perspective of those outside the family, he may be perceived as selfish and self-centered, and his behavior might appear to lack respect for others. However, it's important to recognize that this aspect of his personality may not have been shaped within the family context.

In conclusion, it seems that being self-centered is not inherently negative. It's all about finding a balance.

If it is within a reasonable range, being self-centered can be beneficial. It can help us protect our own interests and prevent us from being hurt.

However, if you find yourself in a situation where your self-centeredness or unreasonable behavior crosses the line into selfishness or self-interest, it might be helpful to pause and reflect. In such instances, it's important to recognize that our actions may be affecting not just ourselves, but also those around us. If we find ourselves in a social situation where our self-centered tendencies are causing discomfort or distress, it might be beneficial to consider how we can adjust our behavior to ensure a more harmonious interaction.

It is my hope that you may find some of my personal views and sharing helpful in gaining a deeper understanding and inspiration.

I would like to extend my love and appreciation to the world and to you.

There are two ways to understand self-centeredness.

Let's be clear: "self-centered" is not just selfish. It's also self-absorbed, doing things one's own way without considering or respecting others. It even demands that others unconditionally agree with and support one's position. This is immature in thought, incomplete in judgment, unsustainable in behavior, and unable to maximize and optimize natural value.

Extreme selfishness is repulsive and disgusting, plain and simple.

Second, let's be clear: everyone is self-centered. Every opinion, judgment, choice, and even behavior is an expression of a person's inner thoughts. Even if they remain silent, they are still giving their approval. And even if they are forced to do something, it is still a choice made after careful consideration.

A person's unselfishness and empathy are not the result of a lack of self-centeredness. They are self-chosen.

Let me be clear: everyone is the center of their own choices. The idea of a "self-centered" person is generally a one-sided and subjective definition and label.

Otherwise, it is impossible to explain the stark contrast between a self-centered person's words and actions in different situations, with different people, and at different times, as well as the unusual upbringing they may display. Similarly, an equal and tolerant person will also have moments when they assert their identity, regardless of what others think.

I wish you happiness.

Self-centered people exhibit the following characteristics in their behavior and attitudes:

1. Self-aggrandizement: These people unconsciously put themselves at the forefront of importance, placing their own feelings and needs above those of others. They are self-centered and ignore the feelings and needs of others.

2. Lack of empathy: Self-centered people are simply incapable of empathizing with the feelings of others. They are utterly indifferent to the situation or emotions of others, focusing only on their own interests and desires.

3. Self-promotion: These people are boastful, bragging and flaunting their achievements and merits in an effort to gain recognition and praise from others.

4. They show no respect for others. They treat others with arrogance and condescension, and they show no respect for their opinions, feelings, or rights.

5. Lack of cooperation: Self-centered people are more likely to act arbitrarily and refuse to cooperate or compromise with others because they believe their opinions and decisions are the most important.

6. Seeking special treatment: They will constantly seek special treatment or preferential rights, believing themselves to be more important or special than others.

You can also tell if someone is self-centered by looking at their words and attitude towards others. If they often put themselves at the center of the conversation, lack respect and understanding for others, or only consider their own interests without regard for others, they are self-centered.

As for the self-centered behavior you mentioned that may be caused by a lack of parenting, I can confidently say that parenting has a profound impact on an individual's development. If a person does not receive proper care, attention, and guidance during their formative years, it will undoubtedly lead to them displaying self-centered traits in their relationships.

However, this does not mean that they will never learn to respect others. Human behavior and perceptions can be changed and shaped.

Everyone has encountered self-centered people. This is an interesting topic, and others should share their insights and experiences.

Hello question asker, I can see you.

I was curious about this topic when I saw it. In today's context, the topic of self-centeredness is worth discussing.

Let me share my thoughts on this topic.

1. What is "self-centered"?

A self-centered person thinks only of themselves. They don't consider other people's perspectives.

(Therefore, "self-centered" is a lack of volition. However, there is no absolute right or wrong, just different choices.

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2. What are the signs of a self-centered person?

You used the word "will," which I feel is slightly absolute. To make this discussion neutral, I chose a different expression: may.

A self-centered person interacts with others in a way that shows their opinions are more important than others.

Some partners are self-centered and don't fit in with groups. This is their personal choice. They may feel it's more efficient to solve problems alone.

This quality may also limit their thinking. They are also prone to anxiety.

No matter what qualities we choose, there are social responsibilities and a voice we all need to face.

Everyone can become who they want to be with effort. Life is fair because everyone has 24 hours a day. Life is free because everyone has endless possibilities. We can achieve these through experience and creativity.

From my point of view, there is no such thing as "right" or "wrong." It depends on whether you can live authentically.

May everyone live authentically and at ease.

This is the end of my sharing on this topic. I hope it resonates with the questioner.

I wish you well. I hope we meet again.

My dear friend, I know it can be really tough when you're dealing with someone who's self-centered. It's only natural to feel like your needs and feelings are being ignored, and it's easy to start questioning your own value. I get it. It can cause a lot of frustration, anger, and even self-doubt.

This type of person may make you feel like their needs and feelings are always prioritized, while ignoring the feelings and needs of others. We all have the right to be respected and heard, as well as the right to express our own needs and feelings.

It's only natural to feel hurt and frustrated when these needs are ignored.

In psychology, self-centeredness refers to an individual's tendency to pay excessive attention to their own feelings, needs, and opinions, while ignoring or underestimating the feelings and needs of others. This behavior may stem from a variety of factors, including but not limited to family upbringing, personal growth background, and social and cultural environment.

These factors may influence how a person sees themselves and others, as well as how they interact with others in social situations. But, there's hope! This pattern of behavior isn't set in stone.

Let's look at some ways a self-centered person might act:

1. They don't always take other people's feelings into account.

2. They tend to put their own needs first and don't always think about what others might want or need.

3. They might interrupt others quite a bit when they're communicating to share their own views.

4. It can be tough for them to accept criticism, but they always have a good reason for their actions.

5. Sometimes folks just don't want to take on fair responsibility in a team.

You can tell if someone is self-centered by how they act in social situations. Do they show care and respect for others? If so, you can try talking to them. Let them know how you feel and what you need.

It's also a good idea to set some boundaries to protect ourselves from negative influences.

But we humans are social creatures, and we need to connect with each other and live together. So, we've got to help folks with self-centered behavior patterns to correct them.

With a little education and communication, we can help these folks realize how their actions affect others. We can guide them to put themselves in others' shoes and cultivate empathy.

The family is the first classroom where children learn social skills and emotional regulation. It's so important to make sure that respect for others and empathy are cultivated in the family environment, as children may otherwise develop self-centered behavior patterns.

The good news is that self-centered behavior patterns are not unchangeable. Through psychological counseling, self-reflection, and active social practice, people can learn to better understand and respect others and develop more balanced social behavior.

We all know that in real life, we may all encounter self-centered people. When this happens, it's important not to just accuse and reject them. Instead, we should try to understand them, help them recognize their shortcomings, and guide them to learn to respect and care for others.

And that's how we can all work together to create a more harmonious social environment!

I'd like to share a story with you. I have a classmate who had a run-in with a colleague who was a bit self-centered at work.

At first, he felt pretty frustrated because he felt like his efforts and contributions weren't being recognized as much as they should be. Later on, he decided to take the initiative and start trying to communicate with this colleague more and understand what was going on with him.

With a little patience and empathy, their relationship improved gradually. That colleague changed his behavior and paid more attention to teamwork.

In a nutshell, self-centeredness is a psychological trait that can really hold us back from growing as individuals and as a society. The good news is that we can help people recognize the impact of their actions on others and guide them to put themselves in others' shoes and cultivate empathy through education and communication.

Together, we can work to build a harmonious and stable society where everyone can grow in mutual respect and understanding. You've already taken an important step on this path by recognizing the need for change within yourself.

Hello, question asker. As the name suggests, self-centered means only considering oneself and not the feelings of others. It's actually pretty easy to tell if someone is self-centered. For example, they always talk about themselves and never consider the feelings of others.

Everyone has their own value. If you only consider your own feelings, it can make you seem selfish.

Family upbringing definitely affects how we understand the concept of respecting others. In fact, there are quite a lot of people like this around.

My best friend's ex was like that. I normally wouldn't try to break up a relationship, no matter who the boyfriend is. But this one really bothered me.

It's not just my best friend's business that he wants to manage, he also wants to manage our business. He lives by the sea, and he even said in a nice way that if you weren't friends with so-and-so, I wouldn't bother with you (like when parents say, "I'm not going to bother with the neighbor's kids").

He talks a lot, more than all of us put together. He goes on and on without getting to the point, just like you said. He thinks he's the center of the universe. Then he tells us to quit our jobs and go with him to their hometown to drink with the clients and drum up business. I really don't know if you're crazy or I'm crazy.

Then we told him we wouldn't resign and started arguing with him.

I think it has something to do with his living environment. His family is in business, and at every business meeting, there are a lot of people who just want to please him. But when he comes to our place, we don't indulge him. I guess he is also very confused, not knowing why we are so high and mighty when we only earn so little money every month.

So we threw a party to celebrate when we broke up.

Dear Questioner, Thank you for your question. Best regards, Liu

My name is Liu, and I am here to listen.

Thank you for posing this question. I am pleased to have this opportunity to discuss and learn with you. It is recognized that opinions may differ, and I am simply offering my own views for your consideration.

Firstly, from a social perspective, our definition and characteristics of self-centeredness are influenced by a number of factors.

In terms of my personal understanding, I have undergone a slight shift in perspective regarding the term "self-centered."

(1) Initially, I was influenced by the opinions of those around me and came to understand that self-centeredness is often associated with negative perceptions.

For example, the question, "Why is this person so selfish and so self-centered?" differs from the teacher's assertion in class that individuals should not be excessively self-centered and should consider the needs of others in addition to their own.

At this juncture, my definition of self-centeredness is a pejorative term that denotes an individual who prioritizes their own interests above those of others. This approach is disadvantageous and can potentially inflict harm on others.

(2) The psychological confusion that arises after de-centering is expressed as a conflict between self-interest and the needs of others. In response to pain, people may adopt an opposing extreme.

Indeed, seeking benefits and avoiding harm, I will feel that since everyone says this is bad, I can't be like this. So whenever my demands conflict with those of others and the collective, I will question whether I am being too self-centered. I will consider the necessity of balancing my own needs with the needs of others.

This can also lead to confusion. Is it not possible for the self and other people's selves to coexist? When I tell myself not to consider only my own needs, I find myself involved in other people's needs, which can result in a sense of deprivation and a narrowing of my own boundaries.

If the education we received from our parents and teachers indicated that this approach was not beneficial, then I believe it is essential to identify our own needs and consider our feelings as much as possible.

At this juncture, my perspective on self-centeredness underwent a transformation. In my view, self-centeredness entails a focus on one's own needs and a willingness to advocate for them.

However, at that time, I was unable to achieve a balance.

I will illustrate this with an example of my own cognitive development, with a view to understanding the changes that occur in our hearts as a result.

It is possible that this may be the case.

This should help to enhance our comprehension of this phrase.

2. From a psychological perspective, how should we define "self-centeredness"?

If my first two stages of conceptual formation were formed through passive acceptance and unchecked growth, then my third stage of conceptual formation was formed through active exploration in the later stages. We will discuss this part in the context of your statement.

In psychology, the processes of "centralization" and "decentralization" are regarded as key stages of psychological development. The objective is to achieve a dynamic balance, which is seen as the ultimate ideal result.

You stated that individuals exhibiting self-centered tendencies perceive their own thoughts as equivalent to those of others, fail to recognize differences in opinions and perspectives, and adhere to a self-centric worldview.

After studying psychology, I learned that the first person to propose a theory related to self-centeredness was the psychologist Piaget. The term "self-centeredness" is used in developmental psychology to describe a stage of cognitive development. This stage, known as the perceptual-motor pre-operational stage, is part of Piaget's cognitive development theory.

The term "self-centeredness" is used to describe a tendency in children to think from their own perspective. This does not imply that children in the pre-operational stage are inherently selfish. Rather, it suggests that they believe others perceive the world in a similar manner to themselves. In other words, we assume that our own thoughts and perceptions align with those of others.

In Piaget's theory, the concept of "egocentricity" is followed by the process of "de-egocentricity." Piaget's research indicates that children will not remain in an egocentric state. Individuals gradually learn to distinguish between the subject and the object, become aware of themselves, and attempt to establish a connection between themselves and the world, as well as between themselves and others.

As will be seen in many subsequent psychological studies, there is a discrepancy between theoretical assumptions and actual outcomes. Our assumption is that individuals will successfully and completely navigate the stages of growth, including experiences of centralization and decentralization, and ultimately achieve a balance and unity of cognition and behavior.

It is not always possible to guarantee this outcome. There is a possibility that

Due to developmental difficulties, some individuals may exhibit disrespect for others, cross boundaries, and disregard the feelings of others. Conversely, some individuals may become so absorbed in the opinions of others that they lose sight of their own needs and disregard their own feelings.

3. Causes of Excessive Self-Centeredness

The causes of excessive self-centeredness are complex and intertwined with familial dynamics.

Both excessive self-centeredness and loss of self can cause psychological conflicts and manifest as contradictions in real-life relationships. It is important to recognize that people grow and develop at different rates, and that everyone has a unique rhythm. Learning to respect oneself and others is a crucial skill in any professional setting.

Our understanding of relationships initially stems from the interaction and attachment patterns in the family. If, as a child, we do not receive proper guidance and are unable to view things from multiple perspectives, it is easy to feel like we are "the center of the world." This is later reinforced during the process of education and reinforcement, making it difficult to develop a sense of boundaries and to understand the relationship between ourselves and the world.

In light of this realization, it is essential to recognize that the other party may have their own psychological challenges. Our objective is to safeguard our psychological boundaries and avoid personal harm.

That concludes my remarks.

Thank you for reading.

I am a listening therapist at Yixinli.

Please do not hesitate to contact me for a discussion.

Self-centeredness is a psychological trait that refers to an individual's excessive focus on their own needs, interests, and feelings, while ignoring the feelings and rights of others. A self-centered person often exhibits the following behavioral characteristics:

To ascertain whether an individual exhibits self-centered tendencies, it is advisable to observe their behavior and the manner in which they interact with others. If an individual frequently displays the aforementioned behavioral characteristics, it is likely that they are self-centered.

Such behavior may be influenced by a variety of factors, including personality, family upbringing, and social environment.

Such individuals appear to prioritize their own needs and interests above all else, assuming a central role in their own universe and expecting others to revolve around them. This behavior often stems from a lack of understanding and respect for others. These individuals may exhibit a lack of regard for the value of others and their needs, placing themselves in an irreplaceable position while disregarding the contributions and requirements of those around them.

Such behavior may result from a lack of respect for the values and morals instilled during one's upbringing, which hinders one's ability to comprehend and interact with others in an appropriate manner.

In the course of our daily lives, we may encounter individuals who exhibit self-centered behavior. For instance, in the workplace, some colleagues may prioritize their own interests over the collective good, neglecting to contribute to a positive team dynamic. In social situations, some friends may prioritize their own feelings over those of others, failing to consider the impact of their words and actions on those around them. In families, some family members may focus on their own needs to the exclusion of others, creating a lack of empathy and understanding within the family unit.

In dealing with such individuals, it is possible to attempt to communicate with them in order to make them aware of the existence and importance of others, and to cultivate their sense of empathy and cooperation. At the same time, it is also necessary to protect one's own rights and interests and bottom lines, and to avoid being hurt by the other person's behavior.

Through patience, understanding, and constructive communication, we can help the other person recognize the importance of respecting others and work together to promote positive and harmonious interpersonal relationships.

When we encounter individuals who are self-centered, we may experience frustration, confusion, or disappointment. Their behavior often causes those around them to feel hurt and neglected, which can lead to tension and conflict in interpersonal relationships. The following is a personal experience of encountering a self-centered person:

In my previous workplace, there was a colleague who displayed clear signs of being self-centered. He was consistently dominant and unwilling to listen to others, prioritizing his own interests and development above the team's needs.

In team settings, he frequently prioritizes his own interests and disregards the input and needs of others. He fails to acknowledge and value the contributions of his colleagues, even when the team achieves a successful outcome, he tends to claim credit for the team's achievements.

The self-centered behavior of this colleague has a negative impact on the entire team. It has made it difficult for the team to work together, suppressed enthusiasm and creativity, and created a tense and unfriendly work atmosphere.

Despite our repeated attempts to communicate with him and remind him of the importance of teamwork, he was unable to change his behavior and continued to prioritize his own needs above those of the team.

In light of the circumstances, it was necessary to take more proactive measures to safeguard the interests of the entire team and the working environment. We collaborated to identify a solution through team meetings and communication with the leadership, and ultimately transferred the colleague to a position that aligned with his personal characteristics, with the aim of preventing his self-centered behavior from impacting the cooperative atmosphere of the entire team.

This experience highlighted the detrimental impact of self-centered behavior on teamwork and interpersonal relationships. When confronted with such a situation, it is essential to maintain composure, identify a solution, and consistently reinforce the value of respecting and caring for others.

Mutual understanding and respect are essential for establishing harmonious and positive interpersonal relationships, which in turn contribute to a productive and supportive work environment.

In social interactions, it is essential to adopt a self-centered attitude. This should be replaced with empathy and inclusiveness, respect for the existence and needs of others, and the ability to get along with others harmoniously. Only in this way can positive and healthy interpersonal relationships be established, and a harmonious and stable society be built.

A philosophical thinker said,

A self-centered person is always looking for ways to make the world go their way and find happiness!

People who are used to being self-centered are destined for a life of independence and freedom! They'll never become the center of others, and that's a good thing.

Self-centered people are usually very focused on their own feelings, needs, and interests. They're often so caught up in themselves that they don't pay much attention to the feelings and needs of others. But there's more to it than that! Self-centered people often exhibit a variety of behaviors that are worth exploring.

Lack of empathy: This is where we can all grow! It means having difficulty understanding or feeling the emotions and opinions of others.

Stubborn: Insists on one's own opinion and is unwilling to accept different points of view.

And finally, we have the wonderful opportunity to learn how to ignore others! This is a great way to ensure that you only consider your own personal interests when making decisions. All you have to do is make sure you don't consider the influence of others. Easy as pie!

Seeking privileges: expecting special treatment and believing that they deserve more attention and resources than others.

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Mr. A told me about two people he'd met who were absolutely amazing! They had extremely "selfish" personalities.

The first one was obviously over-indulged by his family. He was a classmate of Mr. A in high school. When he was in high school, his eldest sister's son had already entered kindergarten, and there were other sisters as well. With this kind of family background, you can see how he became the amazing person he is today!

As for the second one, I suspect that he may have lacked love and care since childhood, which makes him an intriguing case! He also has two sisters, but his parents were busy at work, so they didn't pay enough attention to him when he was young.

He told Mr. A that his parents had a simple and brutal approach to education, and that they would inflict corporal punishment if they disobeyed. It was quite intense! Later, he also expressed his envy of other people's harmonious family lives.

2: There are so many fascinating factors that can contribute to self-centered behavior!

Personality and character: Some people are naturally more concerned about their own needs and feelings, which is a great thing!

Family environment: If a person is excessively spoiled or constantly gets special attention during their upbringing, they may develop self-centered behavior.

In the movie Farewell My Concubine, Cheng Dieyi is an extremely passionate character. He is completely consumed by his love of drama, and while this may sometimes cause him to overlook the feelings of those around him, it is clear that he is a man who is truly dedicated to his craft.

His entanglements and conflicts with Duan Xiaolou stem largely from his self-centeredness, which is a fascinating aspect of his character!

And there's another fascinating aspect to consider: a serious lack of love can also form an excessive focus on oneself in reverse. Let's take Mr. A's friend as an example.

3. Social and cultural influences: Certain social and cultural environments may encourage individualism and self-expression more, which can sometimes lead to self-centered behavior. Just like Gatsby in The Great Gatsby, he was always immersed in his own fantasy world, obsessed with pursuing that unattainable dream.

He always treats others with a confident attitude and never really considers their feelings. He once told Nick, "You know, Nick, I've always believed that if I work hard enough, I can have everything I want."

This self-centered thinking ultimately led to a tragic end—but it also led to some incredible lessons for us all!

In contrast, there is the incredible Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice. At first, he misunderstands and belittles Elizabeth because of his arrogance and prejudice.

However, as he gets to know her better, he gradually realizes his mistakes and begins to respect and care about Elizabeth's feelings. His change is nothing short of amazing! It not only wins Elizabeth's love, but also makes him grow into a more mature and empathetic person.

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Self-centered people may have difficulty establishing deep emotional connections with others and truly understanding and respecting their feelings. But there's no reason why they can't change! They just need to focus on interacting and cooperating with others. When they do, they'll find that they can truly connect with others and gain their trust and support.

On the contrary, those who know how to respect others and care about their feelings are often able to establish amazing interpersonal relationships and gain the trust and support of others. They can understand the needs of others and work together with others to achieve a win-win situation!

So, let's get to work! We can learn to let go of our own egocentrism and pay more attention to the feelings and needs of others. This will help us build a more harmonious and healthy interpersonal network. And guess what? Achieving harmony between the self and others is beneficial to both the self and others!