Long-distance relationship, she resolutely broke up with me. I really love her, is there any way to win her back?
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
I dated her for three years, and we were in a long-distance relationship, always communicating via QQ. It was just that sometimes when we had a fight, I would get really angry and ignore her until she apologized. She would ask me to comfort her, but I didn't (not all the time, I didn't always refuse to comfort her). Sometimes I was just too angry, and I don't know why I didn't do a good job of comforting her in QQ as I did in real life. After three years, there were just too many times when this happened, and she gradually became stronger. She stopped crying when we had a fight, and slowly stopped depending on me and didn't need me to comfort her. Then, during our last fight, she insisted on breaking up with me. I realized that I was really stupid. How could I not understand this simple truth? I hurt her deeply, but if we were in real life, I would definitely comfort her, I would hug her, but after all, we were on the phone, and I just couldn't do it. I didn't know how to comfort her, and as a result, she became stronger and stronger, and didn't need me. I just argued with her out of anger. I know I'm immature, but I really love her. Is there any way I can win her back?
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Comments
I can see how much you regret not being there for her emotionally. It's tough because in a longdistance relationship, the little things mean so much more. I think it's important to acknowledge your mistakes and show her that you've grown. Maybe reach out and tell her how you feel, but also be prepared for whatever response she might have.
It sounds like you're really hurting over this. Longdistance relationships are already challenging, and it seems like you both grew apart in different ways. If you want to try to reconnect, honesty is key. Tell her about your realization and growth, but understand that she may need space or time to heal from the past.
Reflecting on what happened, it seems like communication was the main issue. Ignoring her during fights probably made her feel unimportant. Now, if you want to win her back, you'll need to prove that you've changed. Actions speak louder than words, so maybe start by showing empathy and understanding in all your relationships and hope she sees the difference.
Your situation is heartbreaking. It's clear you care deeply for her, but sometimes people grow in different directions. Rebuilding trust after ignoring her and not providing support could be difficult. If you decide to contact her, focus on expressing genuine remorse and your willingness to change. But also be ready to accept that she might not feel the same way anymore.
You must be feeling a lot of regret right now. It's commendable that you recognize your immaturity and want to do better. If you choose to pursue reconciliation, it's crucial to approach it with patience and understanding. Show her through actions, not just words, that you've learned from your mistakes. However, also be prepared for the possibility that she might have moved on.