Married for six years now, often arguing, unsure if I should end it?

"I've filed for divorce twice in the past six years, and both times I chose to stay for the sake of our son. I always feel that I shouldn't make my child bear the consequences of my bad choice of marriage. After all, he is not at fault, and I only blame myself for trusting him too much, which has led to my helplessness and confusion...

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It can seem like other people are trying hard to show you happiness in a marriage, but there may be a lot of sadness behind the scenes. For the sake of their children, couples can pretend to be happy and spend time with their kids.

But when you go home, you just get on with your own thing, like roommates with no love left.

1. Arguments are meant to be a way to regulate a marriage and strengthen the bond between two people. If you stop arguing, it means you've let go.

You either learn to live with it and stick together for the sake of the kids, or you get so tired of the constant fighting that you just want to end it all and feel like you're visiting a grave every day.

2. If you argue with your partner, your child will pick up on it. This is how emotional trauma is created, and the conflict between the elders has already affected your child in an invisible way.

Kids are innocent, but they feel the effects of their parents' problems. So, it's better to go through a short pain than a long one. Divorce or separation is a solution to the problem.

3. If you've reached the point of separation or divorce, first figure out if you can live on your own and if you can support yourself and your kids financially.

Dear Landlord, From your description, I can gain insight into the atmosphere in your home and understand your perspective. However, I hope you will also consider this information in your discussions with your partner. As the saying goes, "Harmony in the family brings success in all endeavors." Best regards, [Your Name]

Despite being married for six years, your description indicates that you engage in daily arguments. It is unreasonable to expect that anyone would be willing to live in such an environment.

Furthermore, the article indicates that your husband's parents engage in daily arguments. This suggests that his upbringing may have contributed to his current behavior.

What is the core essence of marriage?

A marriage requires warmth, which is contingent upon the flow and connection of emotions.

The emotional flow and connection I am referring to is not limited to the routine daily interactions between you and me. It also encompasses the more profound exchanges of ideas, mutual enlightenment, and emotional connection that facilitate a deeper understanding of each other's perspectives and emotions.

It is regrettable that your description does not include any reference to this aspect of your relationship. It appears that your interactions are limited to arguments, with no other forms of communication.

There is a lack of communication between you. You also stated in the article that if it weren't for the children, you wouldn't be able to continue living together. As a result, you have turned your relationship into a game between roles and turned everyday life into routine task management. This kind of relationship is actually the worst. It is also a kind of hidden cold violence that will make people suffer even more, because those who are hurt by them have no leverage to complain.

In this kind of relationship, even if the two people live together, they are unable to provide each other with the emotional support and warmth that they need, which can lead to feelings of disappointment and loneliness.

It is therefore irresponsible in a marriage and in a relationship to demonstrate a lack of warmth and disregard for the other person's feelings.

It is often said that people are reluctant to leave a situation that makes them comfortable and that they are more inclined to seek a resolution to a problem than to change their circumstances.

The ability to solve problems without communication depends on the willingness to communicate. When problems arise, communicate effectively, consider each other's perspectives, and express your thoughts honestly. Exchange opinions with each other.

If you want to change the status quo, it requires the efforts of both parties. As the saying goes, "A couple working together can cut through metal." It is only when both parties exert their strength in the same direction that the problem will be solved. If both sides exert their strength at the same time in opposite directions, the problem will not only remain unsolved, but will also cause both people to become very tired.

Lack of communication is a primary cause of unresolved issues. When both parties are willing to consider the other's perspective, problems can be effectively addressed. This requires a collaborative approach and mutual understanding.

A good marriage requires nurturing, and the most effective way to do this is for

Both parties should demonstrate a high level of responsibility. We are accountable not only for each other, but also for the quality of our own emotions. We not only provide assistance to each other, but also take care of each other's emotions and feelings in a serious and responsible manner.

If you can implement this approach, your relationship will revert to its previous state.

It can be said that a happy marriage is based on a deeper emotional connection and emotional flow between the hearts of the couple, which goes beyond the nominal bond between husband and wife. This type of marriage helps to maintain trust and expectations of each other, and it allows the couple to feel more complete.

Furthermore, I hope you can adopt a more empathetic approach and consider the other person's perspective, as this could yield unexpected results.

I recommend that you schedule a meeting to discuss the previous relationship and communicate effectively.

It is also essential to exchange views and adopt an empathetic approach to understand each other's perspectives.

It is essential to communicate effectively with each other and consider each other's perspectives. A change in one individual is not sufficient; a change in two individuals working together is what fosters a harmonious and prosperous family environment.

I hope you find these thoughts helpful.

Hello, host!

You seem troubled and powerless.

If you have been married for six years and have fought a lot, and you have filed for divorce twice, it is safe to say that it has been very unpleasant.

But since you've asked, it means you still have expectations for this marriage. You just need to learn how to manage it.

Let's sort it out.

You need to figure out what the real problem is.

You say you don't get along with your partner, but the fact is, no two people get along perfectly because of their personalities.

Different personalities often bring charm to oneself before marriage. If you can't appreciate it at all after marriage, it will make you very miserable.

"Disagreement is not a problem. The key is how to communicate and promote problem solving."

It is common for a husband and wife to have different opinions. The key is to solve the problem, not focus on the disagreement itself.

If you don't want to stay in his house, you must have mentioned moving out with the three of you.

Tell me how you came up with the moving plan. And tell me how you solved the difficulties that arose.

If we don't improve our problem-solving skills, we'll expect the man to solve everything for us.

If the man isn't powerful enough for you, you'll be disappointed.

[It's not the other person's fault. I trusted him, and that was a mistake.]

"After all, he's not at fault. It's just that I trusted him too much." How do you interpret this sentence?

When you say he's done nothing wrong, do you mean he hasn't done anything majorly wrong in the marriage?

When you married him, you expected him to love his wife as his life and give you a good life, didn't you?

We must acknowledge that we are sometimes powerless and that we have a lot of idealized things about men.

Let's be real, most men have low emotional intelligence and are powerless when it comes to household issues.

Don't underestimate yourself and don't overestimate others.

Take control of your life and realize your potential. Don't leave your destiny in the hands of others.

If the other person has not done anything wrong, replacing them is not the solution.

Once you have the strength, you can handle the pressure from others.

First, you need to be financially independent and give yourself the ability to survive independently.

You must be spiritually independent and able to be happy independently.

[See clearly what you want.]

You want to give your son a happy childhood.

You have to be happy first. If you're not happy, you can't make your child happy.

[Learn to communicate and develop a close relationship]

Learning to communicate is essential for building strong, healthy relationships, both intimate and parent-child.

Read books about intimacy and learn how to love.

I'm Amy, and I wish you well.