Met a boy on a social software, feeling dependent and depressed after confiding in him, what should I do?

You mentioned that after your breakup, you met a guy on a dating app. He seemed to have a lot of experience chatting with girls and was very good at making them happy. You stayed up late chatting with him. You told him you were no longer sad about your breakup, and he seemed very sad, saying that you were leaving him. If you were reluctant to do so, you continued to spend time with him when he wanted you to.

In your conversations with others, he tends to assert his ownership and imply that you won't fall in love with other people. It seems that you're experiencing some confusion about your relationship with him. You're aware that he's just a person online, but it appears that you're struggling to move on. When he doesn't contact you, it can be difficult to handle.

You find yourself in a somewhat challenging situation. It is difficult to initiate a conversation with him, yet equally difficult to refrain from doing so.

It may be the case that you are feeling lonely and in need of company. He seems to have similar needs and the time to spare, so it seems that you both get what you want from each other, keep each other company, and stay up late chatting.

It seems that he hasn't yet defined his relationship with you. You want to leave, and he'll show his reluctance and sadness. You chat with other people, and he'll declare his sovereignty. But you're not sure if your relationship is that of boyfriend and girlfriend or just an ambiguous relationship. You want a definite answer, but it seems you can't get it, so you feel miserable.

It's possible that constant chatting might lead to emotional dependence and a sense of being used to his presence. When he doesn't chat with you and provide emotional value, it's understandable that you might doubt yourself and feel attacked by your own doubts about whether you are good enough and worthy. This could contribute to feelings of depression.

So, my dear, it might be helpful to give yourself a hug, try to understand yourself more, and just need companionship, someone to talk to, someone to see yourself and be there for you. The fact that you chose to vent your emotions online shows that in real life, you might feel like there's a lack of people to talk to, so when someone offers you comfort, you feel especially warm.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to allow yourself to properly complete the mourning process for your ex-boyfriend, which will allow your emotions to be expressed, flow, and find an outlet.

It would be helpful to learn to be content with yourself and see reality. It's possible that he is not who you think he is.

It would be helpful for you to learn to be content with yourself. This will enable you to provide emotional value to yourself, or you could try your best to find someone in life who is safe, reliable, and stable.

If you feel that you are having difficulty coping, you may wish to consider seeking help from a counselor.

I wish you the best of luck!

Hello! I'm Good Will Hunting, a national second-level psychological counselor.

I just wanted to say that I read your account very carefully.

I can tell you're going through a rough patch. You met a guy on social media and got too close, which led to feelings of dependency and depression. What should you do?

Let's dive into your story together!

1. Social media has this great group chat called Party where you can publicly vent online. I shared my story of a broken heart in a Party on this app before, and some people I didn't understand asked the people above for answers. After that, a really sweet guy messaged me privately, connected the microphone with me, gave me answers, and said he wanted to keep me company and make me happy.

2. I'm not used to staying up late, but he has to work late into the night, so I stay up late with him, chatting. Afterwards, I told him that I was no longer sad about the breakup, but he acted very sad and said that I was going to leave him. I didn't want to, so I continued to stay with him when he asked me to (because I have online classes, I have a lot of free time).

3. One day, I was chatting with someone at a blind date-themed party when he came in on his trumpet, as if to declare his sovereignty, and said that I would not fall in love with anyone else. It was such a sweet moment!

4. After that, I was really confused about my relationship with him. I know that he is just a person on the Internet, but it seems that I can't live without him. I feel blocked every day when he doesn't contact me. I'm now in a bit of a pickle. It's hard to talk to him, and it's hard not to talk to him.

I'm so curious to know: through the above analysis, did you find that as you become more and more involved in this relationship, you are getting used to spending time with him? I know you said he's just a person online, but I've seen how committed you are to the relationship, and I can tell you have strong feelings for him.

Oh, I know! The only thing is, this person is someone from the internet, which can make you feel a bit unreal.

It can be tough to chat with him, and it can also be tough not to chat with him!

I'd love to know if you feel the same way!

It's totally normal to have mixed feelings! Talking to him is difficult because you're still getting used to the idea of talking to someone you met online. Not talking to him is difficult, perhaps because you're not used to it.

I'd love to know what you're feeling!

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Hello, my dear friend. I can see you're feeling a bit confused, lost, and unsure of what to do. I also sense a hint of annoyance, and I know you're craving companionship and to be seen.

Sending you lots of love ?. It's so easy to get caught up in the online world, isn't it? It's great that you're asking for help because you're definitely not alone. Lots of other people are going through the same thing.

You have a good impression of this guy, don't you? I'd love to know what you think of his attitude towards you!

I'm just wondering, do you find his actions, which are like a declaration of sovereignty, sweet or annoying?

If you have a good feeling about someone, do you want to develop the relationship further or get to know them better? Or do you know very clearly that even if you have a good feeling about someone, it will remain at that and the relationship will not develop further?

Just imagine for a moment that this person wasn't just an online friend, but a friend you knew better in real life. Would you feel less confused and uncertain?

Just follow your heart, sweetheart, as long as you can protect yourself.

You know, maybe taking one more step or continuing to chat for a little while longer will help you figure out if this person is a good friend for you.

Even if it turns out that there is no further development of the relationship, it's still a great option to be able to chat with each other as ordinary Internet friends. What do you think?

Of course, if some of the things the other person says or does make you feel uncomfortable or tired, and this kind of limbo state is draining your energy, and the other person always asks you to stay up late with them, regardless of your health or thoughts, I think it's also a good choice to reduce or stop contact with such a draining online friendship.

Also, if you have good friends or family around you, you can talk to them about what's going on and how you're feeling. Just imagine that your best friend is right there with you. Do you think you'd feel less alone? ?

When you feel like you're depending on him in a way that's out of the ordinary, take a moment to think about why. Chances are, you'll see that it's because you're also seeing yourself in that situation.

When you're feeling a little blue, try to distract yourself with something you used to enjoy that always puts a smile on your face. It might just do the trick!

If you're feeling down and out and think your depression might be getting the better of you, don't be afraid to ask for help. You can always turn to your loved ones for support, or you can seek professional help if you feel that's what you need.

I really hope my answer can help you out a little and give you some inspiration!

Today is the 525th day, and I just wanted to say that I love you both so much and hope you love yourselves a little more ??

Hello!

You met a man on a social networking app. You two got along and spent time together when you were heartbroken. You both became dependent on each other, but you're still not sure. You're confused about the relationship and don't know what to do.

You can't live without him. He needs to see you every day. You're stuck. Talking makes you wonder about the future. Not talking makes you feel worse.

Should you stay away or try to be together?

1. This issue should be viewed comprehensively. You have only chatted with him online and have not met him in real life. These confused feelings are normal. You can try to observe him for a while. If you feel that it is right and you are compatible, you might as well create opportunities to connect with him more in real life. Of course, you should do so safely.

2. If you really like him, take a closer look at whether he is caring, responsible, and motivated. What has he accomplished? If a man likes someone, he will work hard for it. He will find the right time to confess his love to you.

3. His care and possessiveness don't mean much now. You still need to see what he does for you. Even if you're just chatting online and he's hesitant, you'll be confused. Not having a confirmed relationship will make you feel insecure.

4. Find a good time to ask him how he feels. If he doesn't want to be with you, don't worry about it. Even if you want to make it official, you still need to know more about him. You can't just get together with someone you met online.

5. Learn more, observe more, seek more proof, and you will find the answer. If you really don't know what to do, talk to your friends. You have to let yourself jump out and take a look. Being heartbroken means relying on this person, being afraid of being alone, or really liking this person. You must be clear about this.

I hope this helps. Love,