Misjudgment of self-awareness, yet unable to move forward, what are your thoughts on this?

Good day, host.

Although you did not provide a detailed account, it is evident that the school violence you experienced may have had a profound impact on you, perhaps more than you initially disclosed. Fortunately, you have successfully moved beyond that challenging period in your life. Such experiences can be likened to a summer night thunderstorm, where the lightning and thunder eventually subside, and the sun emerges once more, even if the last drop of rain has evaporated. This exemplifies the necessity of letting go of the past, as it is a crucial step in personal growth and healing.

What was particularly noteworthy was your capacity for self-analysis. Not everyone is able to engage in such a process and reveal their hidden desires. You demonstrated a commendable ability to do so. However, it is not advisable to suppress one's original desires. Many so-called desires are merely a product of nature, and therefore, they do not necessitate excessive suppression.

It is essential to achieve a harmonious balance between the ego and the superego. While it is important to exercise restraint when it comes to one's desires, it is equally crucial to ensure that one's moral sensibilities are not unduly suppressed.

This suppression and restraint of desires may be related to your original family. You are afraid that others will know your true nature, that they will leave you, that they will hate you... However, it is unlikely that people are born afraid of these things. These feelings of fear are a manifestation of a lack of security. It is not cost-effective to suppress yourself in exchange for recognition and a sense of security. Therefore, there is actually no need to suppress your original desires. There is nothing wrong with releasing them, and it is possible that the people around you will even think that you are more genuine.

It is imperative that you seek professional medical attention for your depression or split personality disorder. It is crucial to adhere to your doctor's recommendations, take your medication as prescribed, and schedule regular check-ups. It is my hope that these words will provide you with some solace and encourage you to embrace your inner self, allowing your true desires to emerge.

Hello. I can sense your fear, anger, depression, and struggle from your description. It seems you have been taking medication.

Due to the unfortunate experience of school violence in high school, you developed a mental illness that unfortunately did not improve during college but rather worsened. This led to a subsequent diagnosis of depression by a medical professional.

After a long period of introspection, you may have come to perceive that your subconscious holds the belief that some aspects of your human nature are undesirable and in need of elimination.

So, when interacting with others, you try to suppress this part of you, but you find that the more you suppress it, the faster it will erupt. You're unsure of the best course of action. Is this correct?

I wonder if I might suggest that the reverse formation of consciousness might be a helpful way of looking at this.

Freud suggested that the more something is forbidden, the more likely it is to be needed. When we consciously suppress something, it may be the opposite.

I believe that the school violence you experienced in high school may have caused you to feel a great deal of anger, frustration, and humiliation. However, due to the fear you may have experienced at the time, you may have been unable to express these emotions.

At that time and now, you find it challenging to address the internal conflict and entanglement, and to process these emotions.

Perhaps you chose to suppress these emotions into the subconscious, identify with the attacker, and choose to attack yourself inwardly.

You may feel that certain aspects of your humanity, such as your sexuality, communication style, and tendency to avoid confrontation, are not entirely positive and could be improved.

This process may result in a sense of division within oneself.

For now, at least, it will help you feel better. So, you will consciously suppress this part of your humanity in your interactions with others.

It is important to understand that repressed emotions do not simply disappear.

It is important to understand that emotions that have been suppressed into the subconscious do not simply disappear. Instead, they often manifest in ways that may be perceived as less than ideal.

For instance, when you interact with others, you might find yourself thinking of a swear word. It's possible that the more you try to suppress it, the more likely it is to come out.

I believe it's important to remember that other people are not school bullies.

It's possible that past experiences have made you a bit fearful of contact with other people. It's understandable to worry that others might treat you the same way the bullies did, which can make you sensitive and suspicious.

It's important to recognize that when you find yourself on guard against everyone around you, and you suddenly find yourself thinking expletives, it's not necessarily a reflection of how you feel about the person in front of you. It's likely that your anger is being directed at the bullies who hurt you in the past and were suppressed into the subconscious.

It would be helpful to remember that other people are not school bullies.

It might be helpful to try to accept your true feelings.

I imagine that at the time, you must have felt very isolated and vulnerable, with no one to turn to for support or understanding. Even if you had come here to share your experiences, you might have felt like you were just rambling on and on.

I imagine you must have experienced a great deal of pain and struggle at the time. It can be so difficult to find someone you can talk to about anger and grievances, especially when you're trying to cope with fear and anxiety alone. I can only imagine how sad you must have felt.

At that time, you did nothing wrong. All your choices were the best at that moment, and there is nothing to be ashamed of. The mistake was made by the people who bullied you at school. You may find it helpful to remember that you don't need to cut off that part of your humanity or suppress your true feelings.

If it is at all possible for you, I would like to suggest that you try to find a professional counselor who may be able to help you to move on from the past and rediscover the real you.

I hope this finds you well. Please accept my best wishes for the future.

Hello, landlord. I am confident that my answer will be of some help to you.

I hug you because I want you to feel some warmth and support. I can feel all kinds of emotions within you, as well as your self-doubt, self-doubt, and aggression. I want to be clear that if you keep denying and repressing yourself, things will not get better. The right direction is to understand and accept yourself, to see the source of your emotions, and then to release them in a suitable way. In this way, you can make your inner world more and more harmonious and consistent, and become more and more able to make the changes you want.

Accept yourself, your imperfections, and your shadow side. Accept all of yourself.

You can achieve self-acceptance by understanding your strengths and weaknesses and accepting your true, holistic self.

When self-acceptance is based on a true understanding of oneself, it brings confidence and self-esteem. Conversely, a lack of self-acceptance leads to arrogance and conceit, and after failure, it causes extreme inferiority and a loss of confidence in life.

I am going to tell you what the self is.

Psychology defines the self as an individual's perception of their state, including their cognitive evaluation of their physical and psychological states, interpersonal relationships, and social roles.

Know yourself well enough to understand what you need, what you care about, what kind of life you want to lead, what your strengths are, and what your weaknesses are. Then you can accept yourself.

You must see an objective, true, comprehensive, and complete version of yourself to have a reasonable understanding of yourself and make positive changes based on accepting yourself.

You must practice self-acceptance.

Our upbringing plays a significant role in determining our ability to accept ourselves. If we were not accepted unconditionally during our upbringing, we may have developed a pattern of rejection and criticism. This can manifest as a voice inside us that rejects and criticizes ourselves when we perceive something as a problem or a shortcoming.

Self-acceptance requires practice. It took me a long time to gradually improve my level of self-acceptance, and it is still very difficult for me to fully accept myself. However, I am confident that the more we accept ourselves, the more confident we will become, the more motivated we will be to change, and our state will continue to improve.

Think of self-acceptance as a skill you practice every day, not an innate trait. You can acquire this skill through constant practice.

Record your strengths.

Here are five ways to cultivate self-acceptance, as revealed by clinical psychologists:

1. Set the goal of self-acceptance within.

"Self-acceptance begins with intention," says psychologist Jeffrey Zimbardo. "It's crucial that we set a goal for ourselves to transform a world of blame, doubt, and shame into one of inclusion, acceptance, and trust." This idea makes it clear that self-loathing is not the path to a satisfying life.

Sambur confidently states, "If I set the goal that a life of self-acceptance is better than a life of self-hatred, I will start a chain reaction within me to adapt to a peaceful life."

Record your strengths.

Record your strengths.

Write down one of your strengths every day, affirm your own value, and see your own strengths. You will discover your advantages. Use your advantages to become more confident than you ever thought possible.

In today's world, society offers ways to compensate for shortcomings through cooperation. Your unique value is reflected in your strengths.

Seek support from interpersonal relationships.

Seek support from interpersonal relationships.

Spend time with people you feel comfortable with, who will give you unconditional acceptance, support, and love. Build a supportive relationship with them so that your heart is more stable, peaceful, and joyful.

4. Talk to your best self.

Imagine interacting with your best self. Your best self, the one deep within, has stepped out of your body and is looking at your current living environment or situation. What would it suggest you do?

This visual separation allows you to rise above the current self or suffering self and use your inner wisdom to facilitate healing.

This visual separation allows you to rise above the current self or suffering self and use your inner wisdom to facilitate healing.

This exercise teaches us how to be the best parents we can be and to show compassion and love for ourselves. You can and should spend a few minutes meditating and doing this exercise when you are in crisis or need some guidance or self-comfort.

This exercise teaches you how to be the best parents you can be and show yourself compassion and love. You can spend a few minutes meditating and doing this exercise when you are in crisis or need guidance or self-comfort.

5. Be who you want to be until you actually become it.

5. Be who you want to be until you actually become it.

If you don't believe you are a valuable person, you need to start giving yourself value and holding onto that belief. You can only forgive your mistakes and give up the need for approval from others when you are unconditionally accepting of yourself.

If you don't believe you are a valuable person, then you must give yourself value and hold onto that belief. Only when we can unconditionally accept ourselves can we finally forgive our mistakes and give up the need for approval from others.

We all make mistakes. It's only natural. What's important is that we don't let our mistakes define us.

If we lack something inside, we look for it outside. If we cannot accept ourselves, we will long for acceptance from others. But we can only gain stable acceptance by turning inward. When we have accepted ourselves, we will not care so much about the approval and evaluation of others, and we can gain true inner freedom.

2. About emotions

Manage your emotions by using the following methods instead of repressing them. This will help you become more stable on the inside.

Identify the root cause of your emotions.

When emotions arise, I take a moment to identify the underlying reason. Am I angry, sad, or depressed? Which of my needs have not been met?

You will find the core reason for your emotions if you are continuously aware and reflect on them. Once you have identified your core problem, you can work hard to solve it and fundamentally improve your emotions.

For example, I used to get angry a lot because other people's behavior did not meet my expectations. I expected my mother-in-law not to control me, my husband to be with me all the time, and my children to be proactive in learning.

When they don't meet my standards, I feel bad. I later realized that my core problem is using my standards to demand others. When they don't meet my standards, I get angry.

I have found that when I let go of my own standards and accept each of them, without forcing them to be the way I want them to be, my emotions become much more stable.

However, the core reason why everyone gets angry is different because everyone's inner needs are different. The fact is, we have emotions because our inner needs have not been met.

Accept all your emotions.

When we get along with our emotions, whether good or bad, we are getting along with ourselves. Emotions are part of who we are, and we must accept them completely.

You don't need to deal with bad emotions deliberately, but you can take them with you to do things. Emotions are neither good nor bad. They're useful. They help us understand ourselves and feel the world.

It is essential to cultivate a positive view of emotions. This means not judging any emotion that arises and not determining whether it is good or bad.

When you judge emotions as good or bad, you will naturally follow and cling to the good emotions, such as happiness and joy, while avoiding and resisting the bad emotions, such as depression and irritability.

Resisting the bad and holding on to the good both use up your energy and trigger more emotional fluctuations and conflicts. This will inevitably lead you into an emotional cycle of fighting.

Maintain a positive attitude and do not put emotions into good or bad categories. Do not divide your emotions into two camps. This reduces inner conflict and struggle.

Treat your emotions with detachment and they will have less influence over you.

You will only then have real control over your emotions.

Use reasonable ways to release emotions.

Emotions are not to be suppressed. Freud said, "Repressed emotions will find a way to erupt in a more violent way at the right time."

Emotions are not released by erupting. Shouting until you are hoarse will not necessarily achieve ultimate calm. We must learn to release emotions in a reasonable way.

Many people cry to release their emotions. Crying is a way to release emotions, but it only has a temporary effect. Use these methods to release emotions instead:

If you need to get rid of pain, express your innermost feelings and thoughts in writing. Don't worry about the neatness of the handwriting or the logic of the content. Just express yourself as much as you like. Find the right person to talk to. Express your inner worries and stress. At the same time, feel the love and support of your friends.

If it's due to self-negation, you need to improve your sense of self-identification, give yourself positive and positive evaluations, and practice self-affirmation. You can also improve your cognition by reading books like "Accept Yourself: Transcend Your Inherent Weaknesses," "Accept Your Imperfections," and "Rebuilding Your Life."

If you are sad because of someone, find the person you want to connect with, have a sincere conversation, and express your needs to them. Only when we express our needs and feelings will our hearts not be so oppressed.

If you need to release anger, you can do so through strenuous exercise, such as boxing, running, kicking, and so on. You can also use stress balls, pillows, sandbags, and paper to release your emotions. Additionally, you can use the empty chair technique to release emotions. Simply place an empty chair in the room, assume that the person you want to talk to is sitting in the chair, and then express your thoughts and feelings (including abuse and anger) to the chair.

Best regards!

Perhaps we could benefit from a more open and dialectical attitude towards human nature itself. Not everyone is able to accept the less positive aspects of human nature. Our society is not entirely made up of kind people, and there are still some people who exhibit antisocial behavior.

If you have a negative perception of yourself, you may find it challenging to set limits and make a breakthrough. You may feel unable to go out and have become immersed in that pain. School violence has caused you a lot of harm.

You have gained weight and are experiencing feelings of depression. You are facing challenges in accepting your sexual desires, and at the same time, you find that you are impolite when communicating with others. You have also observed your own tendency to avoid difficult situations, and through your own observations, you can project this onto other people.

It is possible to be intolerant of others as a result of self-intolerance, which may cause difficulties. Self-intolerance can be a painful experience and may result in a lack of emotional balance. As a human being, it is important to accept oneself.

Sometimes you may feel the need to express your frustration, but if you suppress it, you may find it difficult to find an outlet for your feelings. This can be a challenging situation. I suggest that you consider seeking psychological counseling, if you feel it would be helpful. It can provide a supportive space to work through your emotions. Additionally, talking to a heart exploration coach about your recent experiences could be beneficial. This could help you maintain a neutral and curious perspective on human nature.

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