My father never believed me, and even my best uncle spoke his true feelings, leaving me utterly disappointed.

You may not know exactly what's going on, but you can feel a lot of discomfort. You've been wronged many times, and that may also make you feel very uncomfortable. You will be very disappointed in your family, and you'll slowly distance yourself from them because they can't offer you any useful light. But don't worry! You're going to find a new family that will love and support you.

You also have your own reasons and your own righteous position, and you know that not every time will you be listened to and believed. So, you don't want to say anything afterwards. No one cares anyway, as if they will only see the bad side of you, damaging your image.

◆ Your father didn't trust you. Even your best uncle said what was on his mind!

◆You are disappointed that your father treats you like an object and has no hope for you.

Grandma and Grandpa are always saying the wrong things when something happens, but that just means there's room for improvement!

☁️☁️☁️☁️☁️☁️Hope

☁️☁️☁️☁️☁️It's unfair, but it's going to be okay!

You have so many good qualities and positive characteristics! It's a shame that showing them has no benefit and is ignored instead. So, why not grow beautiful and alone?

⚛️⚛️⚛️⚛️Become a dedicated supporter and guardian!

A mountain cannot be climbed alone. But if you rely on others, you can achieve incredible things together!

If you don't get the response you're looking for, don't worry! Just move on and let it go.

There are so many reasons why you came back late after playing with your younger brother for a long time! You went with your grandfather to herd the cattle, which is why you came back so late. But your father, uncle, and grandparents criticized you without asking any questions.

Even if you say you have no future, how can they say such things? This simply isn't true! You are also disappointed, and you didn't expect them to say these things.

Some people always shirk their responsibilities, but you can do it differently! Even if it's not your problem, you can still make a difference. Some parents also don't know how to educate their children at home, but you can help them learn! They haven't received family education themselves, but you can show them how it's done.

But when they see your bad side, they'll be inspired to guide you to tell the truth! And who knows, perhaps your parents' divorce also caused you some trauma. Your father's incompetence and his scolding may also have caused verbal violence.

The age of entering junior high school is approaching, which means you're on the brink of a new and exciting chapter in your life! While this can also mean a period of emotional ups and downs, it's also an opportunity to express all those pent-up feelings and start writing your way to healing. If your family members are willing to listen, what words would you write in your notebook? Good luck!

ZQ?

Dear child, Let's be real. You didn't just feel disrespected; you were also accused and wronged. It was really frustrating and difficult, wasn't it?

Dad has a lot of emotions, and he says harsh things because of them. Your uncle ignores your feelings because he feels sorry for Dad.

Your father is still reeling from the shock of the divorce. He can't stand it when you call him incompetent, even if you didn't say it directly. He already has a low opinion of himself.

You deserve all the love from your mom and dad, no matter what difficulties they have. You sympathize with them and don't confront your dad directly, which shows you're a kind and loving child.

You need to learn that when Dad says harsh things, he's just venting and it's not true. It's not your fault, and he's the one responsible for his emotions.

Take care of your own safety and studies.

Secondly, your father's love for you is genuine, as are his feelings of hurt. However, his resentment towards your mother is not your concern, and you are not responsible for it. It is important to remember the positive things your father has done for you, even if it's just a little, and tell him, "When you are nice to me, I feel very happy/very blessed." This will help strengthen your relationship.

If you can't do it, that's fine. You haven't been treated gently either. I (Teacher Bao) will protect you. You can come and talk to me anytime.

Hello!

Original poster:

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a heart exploration coach. I've read your post, and I can feel the injustice and lack of understanding you feel.

At the same time, it's great to see that the poster has been so brave in expressing their innermost feelings and actively seeking help on the platform. This will undoubtedly help the poster to better understand and recognize themselves and their family, thereby adjusting their views and perceptions and allowing them to live a little better!

I'm really excited to share my observations and thoughts on the post, which I think will help the poster to look at it from a more diverse perspective!

1. Go for it! Try expressing your emotions in a reasonable way.

From your post, I can feel the injustice and the lack of trust and understanding you feel. These emotions make you feel very sad and upset, don't they?

I can especially understand you. I think if it were me, I would also have the same emotions if I encountered these things at your age. So now let's take a look at what you can do for yourself!

I believe that the original poster can try to express their emotions in a reasonable way. When we express our emotions and listen to others, our emotions often disappear.

At this time, our mood will be different. A great way to express your emotions is to write about them! I'll share an example here. Write down your emotions and feelings—anything goes!

As you write, you'll be amazed at how listening to your emotions can help you!

This is a great way to relieve your emotions! And the way you write is also very suitable for you, as you are currently studying.

Just be sure to keep your privacy safe and sound when you write!

Absolutely! You can write in a diary and take a little time every day to express your feelings.

2. Try to look at your family from multiple perspectives — it'll be a game-changer!

It has been observed that your family members do not understand you and say things like "you can't be satisfied." These words may give you a bad feeling, but there's no need to take them personally!

But here's the cool part: from the perspective of an observer, when they say these things, they may not be directing them at you. It is very likely that they have not dealt with their own emotions or trauma, and they are projecting these onto you.

Guess what! It may be because of the emotional turmoil of mom and dad that dad has not been able to express many of his emotions in a reasonable way, and their wounds have not been healed. That's why they said those things!

So don't blame yourself! Sometimes it's not your fault.

I know it can be tough to grasp now, but I'm sure you'll get it as you grow up.

On the other hand, it has been observed that the host mentioned that they always see your shortcomings. This may be due to cultural factors, as traditional cultures believe that criticism makes people progress. Moreover, the elders grew up being criticized, and when they don't realize something, they will treat you in the way they have been taught.

3. Different ways of showing love

The great news is that most parents still love their children! They just don't love them in the way we expect because most people prefer to see things from their own perspective.

Think about what kind of love the other person needs. It's so important to understand what they need! But in fact, very often the elders think not what we think.

This is just human nature!

So what can we do at this time? The answer is simple: let go of your expectations of your parents and see them for who they really are!

On the one hand, we get to learn to express our feelings using the sentence structure "I feel..." when expressing our feelings. Although our elders may not be able to understand what we are saying,

But the great thing is, once we've expressed our feelings, we know exactly what we need. And if our parents can't give us what we need, we can still find ways to make ourselves happy!

We may be young now, but we will grow up slowly and become independent!

4. Learn to love yourself!

Love is a kind of ability. And guess what? There's a saying in psychology that a person cannot give others what they don't have.

So when a person has the ability to love, they can give love to others! And although you are still young, I absolutely believe you can learn to love yourself!

It's time to understand yourself, accept yourself, and support yourself!

Embrace your strengths and learn from your weaknesses. Celebrate the amazing things about yourself and the things you still have room to grow.

And now that we are going to study, we are also ahead of others!

I really hope this helps and inspires you!

Hello, question asker!

From the questioner's description, it's clear there's room for improvement in how he communicates with his family. Many times, after being wronged, the questioner always refrains from defending himself, which gives his family a chance to deepen their understanding of the questioner.

Even your best uncle has a deep misunderstanding of the questioner. The great news is that regardless of your age, background, or experience, you can learn effective communication skills!

With a little self-confidence and some basic communication skills, you can express your views clearly!

It's so important to communicate clearly and effectively with your family members. When you do this, you can build a strong, trusting relationship. But sometimes, even the best of us can struggle to communicate effectively. This can cause misunderstandings and hurt feelings. But don't worry! There are simple ways to improve communication in your family.

It's so important to communicate clearly about the origin of things and to express your own views and emotions. I'm here to give the questioner a little boost by patting him on the shoulder. I hope that if there's any misunderstanding, the questioner will communicate with his family bravely.

The questioner asked a question on the platform, so I'm thrilled to give the questioner a little advice on communication in response to the question!

It's so important to choose the right time to communicate!

The ancients also said that everything is about timing, location, and people. And guess what? The same is true for communication! The "Rules for Being a Good Child" also says that if parents have done something wrong, they should also choose a time when they are in a good mood to give them advice.

Avoid leaving heavy topics and matters for the end of the day or evening. It's best to save the big conversations for when you're feeling fresh and ready to tackle them head-on!

On the other hand, it's a great idea to discuss important topics when people are most alert, free, and able to respond clearly (usually in the morning or afternoon).

Now for the fun part! Choose a place to communicate.

It's also a great idea to think about where you're having your private conversation. If you want to tell someone something personal or something that they may not be comfortable hearing, avoid public places with a lot of people.

Some important things can be communicated in private, and an open dialogue can be maintained to ensure that two-way communication is taking place. When communicating, make sure that your voice is heard! This way, you can be sure that the other person feels respected.

Let's eliminate distractions!

When communicating with others, it's important to minimize distractions. If you want an elderly family member to do some communication, you can make it happen! Just avoid distractions from others and household appliances. For example, you can turn off your cell phone ringtone and turn down the volume on the TV.

External distractions should never be allowed to become a force that distracts you. They will distract you and your audience and effectively kill communication. But don't worry! You can easily avoid this by staying focused on the task at hand.

It's time to get those thoughts organized!

So, what do you want to communicate to your family? What are your ideas? What are the main points you want to convey in these ideas? Before communicating with others, you should effectively organize these points to avoid giving a confusing impression when expressing them.

When you're ready to start narrating, make sure you clearly state what you want to express at the beginning!

A great rule of thumb is to choose three main points and keep your communication focused on them. This way, if the conversation strays off topic, you can easily return to any or all of the three main points without any stress!

It can also be really helpful to write down these points if it's appropriate for you!

Let's focus on the main points!

As mentioned earlier, focus on the three main points you want to make, and make sure each sentence you say adds something to the conversation or argument. If you've thought through the main points and the essence of the ideas you want to explain, you'll probably find some related phrases keep coming to mind!

Use these phrases to really make your points stand out! Many speakers repeat their main points to make a deeper impression on others. As the popular saying on the Internet goes, "Say important things three times!"

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Learn to listen!

Learn to actively listen! Communication is a two-way street. Why did the father and uncle come in and scold the questioner when he came home late?

And there's more! They're also worried that the topic master is in danger when he's alone. They just aren't good at expressing their feelings, so they've found a new way to show their concern: by scolding the topic master!

When you're listening, you can see how well your family understands the message you're sharing and how they're taking it in. If they seem a little confused or have a different idea of you, it's a great idea to ask them to share what you said in their own words.

If the host is right in many things, the host only needs to explain his position and what he has done, and the conclusion can be left to the elders to judge. If there is no desire to express yourself, the host should watch more examples of speeches by great orators. It's a great way to learn!

The best part is you can find many role models immediately via online videos. Use them as your personal communication coaches!

Effective communication at home can make a world of difference for the questioner! It's possible that the family's actions are meant to encourage the questioner to express themselves more freely. So, don't hold back! Speak your mind and share your thoughts with confidence.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Hello, my child!

I've read your description and I just want to give you a big hug! It's clear from your words that you're carrying a lot of pressure and feeling misunderstood at such a young age, and that you're keeping all your frustrations to yourself.

Once again, I'm sending you a big hug!

First of all, I think your family elders love you, but maybe not in the way you'd like. They might not know how to show it. They grew up in a different era, when family education wasn't as common, so they don't always know how to express themselves. The way they communicate with you now is probably influenced by their own upbringing and the way their parents educated them.

Maybe this is where your differences lie.

Secondly, from what you've written, you'll be starting junior high school soon. The move from primary to junior high will mean more work and more pressure to learn.

So, are you ready? From what you've written, I can tell you're a motivated child with your own values and judgments.

When your elders complain to you, you don't have the courage to speak up because you don't feel you have enough information to convince them. It's also possible that you feel intimidated by the authority of your elders.

I suggest you try recording your feelings and thoughts in writing to track your progress and give your emotions an outlet, which may help relieve your anxiety.

Then the junior high entrance exam is coming up soon, so focus on your studies. It's not your fault that your family doesn't understand you; they just don't understand the school system!

I'm sorry, my child! Maybe what you can do now is focus on learning to build up your resilience. When the time comes that you feel ready to say "no" to something, just say it!

Finally, read more books, especially those outside of your regular coursework. At your age, your academic performance is the best way to prove yourself.

Maybe this is why your father is so focused on your grades. The world of adults can be tough, and you don't have to figure it all out now. If you miss your mother, give her a call.

You could even write down your thoughts about your mother in words, and you might even be able to publish a book with these notes in the future!

I'm sure your father will be impressed with you in the future, given your intelligence and talent.