My girlfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. Will it work out if we continue like this?

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

The questioner and his girlfriend are in different places, and they have less time to spend together. The questioner is confident that he can weather the storm of their long-distance relationship, despite the failures he has witnessed in other long-distance relationships.

The questioner's girlfriend quit her job due to a bad relationship with her colleagues. She didn't find a new job right away, so it became that only the questioner earned money, and the salary was spent by the two of them. The questioner gave his girlfriend money, and she accepted it.

When they don't meet in person and speak on the phone, the questioner's girlfriend is rather perfunctory every time and is basically always out somewhere. She makes it clear that if the questioner has something to say, he should say it quickly, and if not, he should leave her alone.

It's time to adjust your relationship.

From what you've said, it's clear you're going through a period of relationship adjustment. You're looking for ways to get along with each other. In this relationship, you're the one who pays more. If you love each other, it doesn't matter if you pay a little more. It won't affect the relationship between you.

The questioner's girlfriend will not deal with interpersonal relationships. When she encounters problems that she cannot handle, she will choose to avoid them. This behavior will become a habit, making it difficult for her to learn to handle every relationship, including the relationship between you.

As a boyfriend and girlfriend, willingly spending money for each other is definitely possible. Has the question asker's girlfriend mentioned this situation? When the question asker gave her money, did she express anything?

Giving is mutual. The questioner is thinking of his girlfriend and would rather be financially strained himself than cause her any inconvenience. If the questioner's girlfriend understands the questioner, she will plan and arrange according to the questioner's financial situation, and will also choose whether to accept the money from the questioner.

From her actions, it's clear the questioner's girlfriend views you as a man and woman in a relationship. It's only natural for the man to spend money on the woman. She values the sense of ritual between you more than the questioner's situation or future circumstances.

The questioner should try a different way of getting along. Instead of giving money to his girlfriend, he should buy things according to his own financial situation and see if his girlfriend has any comments.

Manage your intimate relationship.

Let me be clear: nobody is born loving. We only learn to love when we meet a partner and gradually build a relationship. Our different personalities, worldviews and standards mean that our intimate relationships are all different.

The questioner said that he is not good at communicating with people, and coupled with his girlfriend's personality problems, the lack of communication between you has made the questioner start to worry about whether this relationship can last. All relationships require both parties to work hard to manage.

The questioner should seize the opportunity to have a good chat with his girlfriend and find out how she plans and views the relationship. Now that she is unemployed, she needs to think about resolving the situation of you living in different places. For example, she should come to where the questioner lives and works, and the two of you should work together for the future.

Two people who spend a lot of time together will face the outcome of separation because of the wrong mode of getting along with each other and unresolved problems. There is no way to know how your relationship will be, because it is the two of you getting along. If you are united in love and can plan for the future together through discussion, you can still have the happiness you want.

Seek out more chances to communicate, understand each other's intentions, and learn from books like "Managing Intimate Relationships." Be open about the issues in the relationship, how to tackle them, and show each other more patience. Everyone benefits from love.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.