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My life is empty. How can I reasonably fulfill my chaotic and diverse needs?

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My life is empty. How can I reasonably fulfill my chaotic and diverse needs? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

At 21, I need independence, personal accumulation and development, and intimate relationships. But I feel like I really want to stay in the previous stage, and I have largely stayed in the stage of middle school.

I often think that if I were in the environment of high school or university, and if I had the same feelings as I do now, I would be able to open myself up a little more and experience life.

I need a job now, and I need to improve my personal interactions with others, both internally and externally, and become more stable internally. But I have nothing.

I feel very small.

I don't know how to train myself. When I'm conscious, I will make myself actively absorb some things in a positive way, but most of the time, I just do whatever I want and mess around. Not to mention that I'm lazy, take advantage of loopholes, have no goals, don't know what to do at each stage, and don't believe that I can get what I want.

I feel that almost all the time in my life is empty. I hate the way my parents live their lives so desperately, and I don't have my own style or characteristics like the people I think are good.

I don't know what to do every day. How do I discipline myself and let myself run my own life?

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Hailey May Learning is a journey that allows us to break free from the shackles of prejudice and ignorance.

It sounds like you're going through a tough time, feeling stuck between where you've been and where you want to go. It's okay to feel uncertain; everyone experiences this at some point. Maybe it's time to take baby steps towards the independence you crave. Start with small goals that feel manageable, like learning a new skill or joining a club that interests you.

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Ursula Jackson The key to growth is to view every moment as an opportunity for self - expansion.

The transition from adolescence to adulthood can be overwhelming. You mentioned wanting to stay in the past, but try seeing this as an opportunity for growth. Imagine how you'd handle situations differently now compared to middle school. Embrace these changes and let them guide you toward becoming more selfassured.

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Antonia Miller The erudite are those who have sailed through the vast ocean of knowledge and mapped its many regions.

I get the sense that you're hard on yourself, which shows you have high standards. Instead of focusing on what you lack, celebrate the strengths you already possess. Everyone grows at their own pace. Trust that your unique journey will lead you to personal development and meaningful relationships.

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Zechariah Davis You can't achieve success without the courage to face failure.

It seems like you're yearning for a sense of purpose. Consider volunteering or finding a parttime job related to your interests. This could provide structure and help you meet people who inspire you. Building a routine around activities you enjoy can also make daily life feel less empty.

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Clive Jackson Life is a river of opportunities, paddle your way through.

You expressed dissatisfaction with your parents' lifestyle, which is valid. However, this is your chance to carve out a different path. Look up to those admirable individuals and figure out what qualities you admire most about them. Try adopting some of these traits into your own life, crafting a style that reflects who you aspire to be.

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