My mother loves to comment online, and she has been cyber-bullied twice. I advised her, was I wrong?

Good day, host. I am pleased to respond to your inquiry. Based on the information presented, it appears that your mother enjoys engaging in online commentary. When her opinions are not endorsed by others, she tends to assert that alternative perspectives are erroneous.

When a significant number of online users express support for her views, the mother becomes increasingly confident and self-assured, to the point of becoming dismissive of opposing perspectives. In the brief video, two comments generated a notable response from other users. The mother demonstrated a lack of concern and even asserted that those who commented were of inferior quality.

Upon observing her mother Yangyang's smug demeanor, I am prompted to reconsider my perception of my own mother. You have proposed that my mother refrain from commenting online in the future.

There is a plethora of differing opinions on the internet. She was aware that her comments would be opposed by many people, so why didn't she simply remain silent? Just because she believes there are numerous unscrupulous individuals online, does that mean she won't act promptly?

What is my objective? I believe my mother's actions may have conveyed a negative impression when she was joking.

Please clarify whether I did something wrong when my mother hung up the phone.

There is a great deal of information here that requires analysis. Communication in the virtual realm is a relatively unfamiliar concept, particularly in the context of interpersonal relationships. In this environment, individuals tend to be more relaxed and willing to shed their masks, which can result in the expression of aggressive sentiments. Language, in and of itself, serves the function of venting negative emotions. Consequently, it is not entirely unexpected to encounter instances of highly aggressive language when the conditions are conducive to such behavior.

It would appear that you have an image of your mother as gentle, kind, and good-natured. However, when his views are supported by most people, he becomes smug. You dislike this behavior, but it is, in fact, closer to your real mother.

His usual demeanor, which is characterized by gentleness, kindness, and a willingness to help others, serves as a defense mechanism against his selfish tendencies and even a hint of malevolence. In the context of complete relaxation, he is able to reveal a more authentic self.

It is inevitable that external circumstances will evoke a range of negative emotions. Allowing the individual to express these emotions through specific online events is beneficial to their physical and mental well-being. It is human nature to protect our self-worth in communication.

It is my hope that my opinions and views will be supported and affirmed by a larger number of people.

In regard to the question of right and wrong, personal opinions are best left to children. The adult world is not black and white, but rather full of shades of gray. The optimal solution is to choose a state that is acceptable to both oneself and one's mother, while avoiding excessive interference and control.

This is the optimal outcome. I am pleased to have an appointment. 1983. The world and I appreciate your consideration.

Good day.

From your inquiry, it is evident that you are experiencing significant distress due to your mother's proclivity for expressing her opinions online, which has resulted in some challenges. I empathize with your situation.

From your correspondence, it appears that your mother is uncertain about the correctness of her perspective. She is attempting to justify her stance by acting in this manner. This indicates that your mother is seeking attention and confirmation of her thoughts. In essence, she does not have her own opinions and thoughts, and these ideas are only considered correct after being asked to formally agree with the thoughts of the majority.

The primary reason for this behavior is that they did not establish their own thoughts at an early age, and their parents did not provide them with timely attention and guidance. When their own ideas and thoughts are praised, they will feel proud and confident, which indicates that their mothers lack confidence. Therefore, with the approval of the online platform, their self-confidence will significantly improve, and over time, they will develop a sense of contempt for others.

It is recommended that:

[1] Engage in a calm and constructive dialogue with your mother. Ask her if she feels satisfied with this approach and whether it aligns with her emotional state. Gain insight into her thoughts and be mindful of her emotional needs.

[2] You can assist your mother in locating psychological support, which can assist her in better understanding her inner self. You can also find a professional counselor to help you identify the needs of your inner child from the counselor's perspective.

[3] Attempt to comprehend your mother's perspective and recognize that her needs align with those of a typical individual. This may also assist in identifying your personal requirements.

Best regards,

It's not your fault, sweetie. Your mum's comments and confident responses to other people's views on the internet can indeed lead to negative consequences, especially when she comments on Kuaishou.

On top of that, when she feels triumphant in dealing with negative feedback, it might affect your relationship.

However, her indifferent attitude towards online violence may indicate that she could benefit from a little more understanding of and respect for the online environment. In this case, you can try to have a conversation to help her understand how to better interact in the online environment.

You could say something like, "Mum, I know your comments online can sometimes be controversial, and that may make you feel confident, but I think we should be more careful. There are a lot of people in the online world who don't understand us, and they may attack us with vicious language."

"What do you think we should do about this situation?"

You could also suggest that she try new ways to express her views and opinions, such as blogging or sharing photos and videos on social media. These methods might be more suitable to her personality and interests, while also reducing her online interactions.

Finally, you can learn together how to interact better in online environments, respect other people's opinions, avoid using offensive language, and learn how to deal with negative feedback. This may take some time and patience, but it could ultimately have a positive impact on your relationship.

Hello, question asker.

My mother always thinks she's right. She thinks people who disagree with her are wrong. When you see her looking smug, you don't agree with her. You think she's wrong. You're also doubting your own thoughts.

Your mother needs to feel recognized, and quick comments help.

It's good she's confident, but she might fall into her own trap and stop listening to advice.

She hates people who disagree with her.

Why does your mother's look make you feel bad?

Have you ever met someone mean?

It hurts when your opinion is ignored, mocked, and others look smug. People who mock you make you feel nasty and angry.

You can understand why you feel this way.

If you don't agree with your mother, you can say so. That's what equality is about.

Mom is defending her unequal status, which makes people uncomfortable.

You can be honest with your mother. She may try to understand you.

Good and bad are relative.

Is the bad guy really bad?

Maybe he has reasons you don't know about. Maybe he has experienced things you haven't, and that makes him think and feel differently from you and your mom.

As we mature, we judge people in different ways. We understand others' struggles.

Stay strong!

Hello. It seems that your mother's behavior has caused you to feel emotional. After you gave her advice, she still insisted on her own opinion and even hung up on you. You're wondering if you were right in this matter.

Perhaps we could start by considering Mom's starting point, which seems to be posting comments on the Internet to gain attention. It seems that this kind of influence has helped her to improve her self-confidence.

Perhaps this approach is acceptable to you. What makes you uncomfortable is perhaps the words "more and more" and "not listening to different opinions." This reminds me of the phrase "blinded by the light." How do you feel about this phrase?

It is possible that the resulting "obstinacy," "selfishness," and "doing things my own way" may have unknown consequences for the person involved. It is natural for children to love their mothers and to believe in protecting them.

It is therefore understandable to feel that she is behaving in a way that is similar to a villain, and to worry that she will become bad in the future and be punished and attacked as a result.

It's possible that the way you expressed yourself may have come across as confrontational, which might have prompted your mother to respond in a similar manner.

It is also possible that our approach may make Mom feel as though she is potentially being cyber-attacked. Alternatively, while Mom feels her boundaries being violated, she may also come to realize that some of her online comments may violate other people's boundaries.

Perhaps it would be helpful to think rationally about this matter. Could it be that our mother has as much influence online as we think? Could her actions really cause unbearable consequences?

Could we perhaps try expressing our views to our mother from a humble perspective, rather than trying to influence her in a didactic way? Would that make it easier for her to accept our point of view without feeling attacked?

Perhaps a reasonable and sincere exchange, free of offensive expressions and respectful of each other's boundaries, could be a good place to start.

A simple analysis may be somewhat subjective and one-sided, with the aim of identifying a minimal amount of nutrition.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to the world and to you.

Hello! I'll give you a 360-degree hug.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're both feeling helpless and aggrieved by your mother's words and actions, and you're also worried about her. However, it seems like your mother doesn't see anything wrong with her words and actions.

You're trying to get your mom to stop commenting online because you think she's too garrulous and could be exposed to online bullying. You're worried about your mom being bullied online, but you also feel like her words and actions are of low quality. It seems like you're ashamed of your mom.

But to her, her words and actions make sense and fit together. She's confident in her actions and can handle negative comments from others.

So, when she hears what you have to say, she thinks you're meddling, worrying needlessly, and even challenging her authority a bit. In her logic, she's right and you're wrong.

It's like you think your mother is wrong and you're right.

You both judge each other using your own logic, and unfortunately, in your own logic, the other person is always wrong.

And your mother isn't going to change her mind. She's convinced that she's right, so she isn't going to change her ways.

She doesn't feel bad even when you express dissatisfaction. She's just like other people expressing dissatisfaction with her online—she doesn't care at all.

Ultimately, it's up to you to make the change. You're the one who feels bad, and the other person isn't willing to adapt to your expectations. So, it's on you to make the shift.

First, it's okay for other people to have different opinions. Just as you don't like to judge, you don't judge.

Your mother likes to judge, so just let her. It's like having different tastes in food.

Second, don't try to change other people. If other people's words and deeds make us feel bad, we need to change ourselves.

It's also worth noting that parents typically have more authority than we do, and even if they're wrong, they often find it challenging to admit their mistakes to their children.

Third, it seems like your mother's words and actions have triggered some automatic thoughts. You feel like your mother is of low quality and a bad person. There might be some underlying dissatisfaction with yourself.

I'm not sure why you have these beliefs. I think you should talk to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who tends to be a bit pessimistic at times, but I'm also optimistic. I love the world and I love you.