My parents' belittling has made me feel inferior since childhood, reluctant to interact with others. How can I free myself from this?

Greetings.

If the respondent's parents have been belittling them since they were young, it would be beneficial to ascertain whether they have discussed this with them. If they have done so and the situation has not improved, it may be advisable to disregard the hurtful words they have used.

The following tips are provided for your consideration.

1. Administer the ACE test.

The initial step in addressing childhood trauma is to complete the ACE test.

Dr. Felitti posits that completion of this questionnaire may facilitate the commencement of discourse surrounding childhood trauma. Children frequently regard such experiences as "secrets," and when the perpetrator is a family member, they are even more reluctant to discuss them.

When individuals are amenable to discourse on the subject of childhood trauma and its prevalence, the notion of "secrets" becomes obsolete. By engaging in dialogue, one can initiate the process of healing.

2. Writing

For those who are reluctant to engage in discourse on the subject, the act of composing written material concerning the harms endured during one's childhood can serve as an alternative avenue for self-healing.

James Pennebaker, a professor at the University of Texas at Austin, has developed a form of therapy based on the act of writing, which he refers to as "Writing to Heal." This form of therapy is relatively straightforward. For the next four days, please attempt to spend 20 minutes each day writing (or typing) about the childhood trauma you have experienced. It is recommended that you write about what happened, your emotions, your thoughts, and how you feel these childhood experiences have affected your life now.

To what extent does this affect your relationship with your parents? In what ways does it impact your current intimate relationships?

What impact does this have on one's performance at work?

When engaging in the act of writing, it is important to refrain from concerning oneself with the nuances of writing style or sentence fluency. Instead, it is beneficial to simply write as much as one is inclined to, exploring and discovering one's emotions, experiences, and feelings to the fullest extent possible. This writing exercise can serve as a means of releasing one's pent-up emotions.

"Writing therapy" is an effective method for cathartically expressing repressed emotions that have been stored in the subconscious since childhood. The written material can be discarded once the catharsis has occurred, either by tearing the paper or deleting the file from the computer. For those who are less inclined to write, drawing can be an alternative means of emotional expression.

3. Practice mindfulness.

Mindfulness has been integrated into numerous psychotherapeutic approaches in recent years. Mindfulness can be defined as the awareness of one's present state, encompassing the identification of emotions experienced in the moment.

What are the sensations in your body?

Mindfulness is defined as a willingness to be open and curious about one's current state of mind and surroundings, without judgment of any kind. To illustrate, an individual may recognize that they are experiencing feelings of jealousy and accept that these emotions are a natural part of their emotional landscape, rather than viewing them as inherently negative.

Mindfulness can be practiced in a multitude of situations. For instance, when walking, one can focus on the sensation of the soles of the feet touching the ground, the sounds of the environment, and the smells that are detected.

Observe the colors in the visual field. Describe the sensation of the air entering the nasal passages during inhalation.

What is the sensation of exhalation? When one becomes aware of both emotional states and physical sensations, one can begin to regulate one's emotions in a manner that is not driven by them.

4. Abdominal breathing and physical relaxation

The constant experience of trauma and toxic stress places the body in a state of constant vigilance, or "fight or flight," due to the brain's amygdala continuously detecting potential threats in the surrounding environment. This initiates a physiological response involving the release of stress hormones, such as cortisol, which prepare the body for a critical event.

Prolonged exposure to a traumatic environment results in sustained stress responses within the body. However, engaging in relaxation-promoting activities can facilitate the activation of the parasympathetic nervous system, thereby inducing a state of relaxation.

One method of relaxation is progressive muscle relaxation, which entails gradually relaxing each muscle group from the head to the toes. This is achieved by first tensing the muscles and then releasing them, for instance, by clenching the hand into a fist and then releasing it suddenly.

5. Connecting with People

The majority of the harm caused by childhood adversity can be attributed to the actions of "people," including one's father or mother (or other adults in their lives) who engage in behaviors such as laughing at, hurting, belittling, neglecting, or disregarding their emotional and psychological needs. These actions can also manifest in more severe forms, such as physical and emotional violence, portraying the child as an incorrigible bad boy or girl, instilling feelings of fear and vulnerability, and attributing blame to the child for situations beyond their control.

These abusive relationships have the potential to cause harm, yet human connections can also facilitate healing and growth.

A growing body of evidence suggests that a robust social support system can facilitate recovery from breast cancer. This is because supportive relationships can promote the secretion of oxytocin in the brain, which has been linked to feelings of well-being and a reduction in the body's stress response. Therefore, it is beneficial to prioritize time with individuals who provide love and support. When there is a sense of connection with others, it can empower individuals to confront past hurts.

Should the necessity arise, it is recommended that professional assistance be sought.

Good day. My name is Shuya Qingzheng, and I am here to share my thoughts with you in the hope that they may provide you with a sense of warmth and support.

The experience of being belittled and denied by parents can have a profoundly negative impact on young children, leading to feelings of conflict and energy depletion as they navigate the challenges of adulthood. It is understandable if you feel a strong sense of injustice and anger. Reaffirming your worth through a comforting embrace can be a valuable step in processing these emotions.

The capacity to be self-aware, to perceive and comprehend one's own emotions and necessities, and to utilize psychological insights to pursue personal growth is a noteworthy attribute.

01: A child's behavior is reinforced by parental approval and encouragement. This instills a clear understanding of rules and boundaries, while also fostering a sense of joy and confidence.

Accordingly, the optimal parenting model for parents is one that is characterized by acceptance, equal respect, encouragement, and recognition.

It is self-evident that an individual who has experienced constant belittling and rejection will feel more vulnerable and inferior, and will be reluctant to take action and even more so to challenge the status quo. Furthermore, this can lead to a sense of internalised shame and vulnerability akin to that experienced by a child.

Such a child will invariably seek to protect themselves by retreating into a state of isolation, thereby avoiding the possibility of being belittled or denied by others.

I would like to reiterate my support for you. It is not your fault. It is unreasonable to expect an individual who has experienced trauma to act as a protective figure for another person who is also vulnerable.

It is recommended that you give yourself a gentle embrace at this moment.

Affirm the wounded child within, expressing remorse for the pain inflicted and conveying unwavering love and acceptance. Express gratitude for the self-protective measures taken, acknowledging the child's resilience and strength.

Now that I have reached adulthood, I am learning about psychology. This is enabling me to gain greater nourishment and enrichment, healing and strength. I will protect you, and together we will grow with energy.

02. It is conceivable that with the assistance of a counselor, it would be more feasible to amass the fortitude to become a self-assured individual who is endowed with the fortitude and sagacity to relish life. Nevertheless, one may also elect to pursue self-care and self-growth independently.

In a statement on the nature of human existence, Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology, posited that "the best way to live is to change what you can, and accept what you cannot."

It is therefore possible to learn to allow and accept one's vulnerable and inferior aspects, and to accept that one lacks good interpersonal skills at the present time. It is these imperfections that have made one aware of one's own growth and awakening, and it is also the case that one possesses many strong and courageous aspects.

These disparate elements collectively constitute a genuine and comprehensive self. Each individual possesses a unique combination of self-assurance and self-doubt, rendering them distinctive and singular.

It is imperative to cultivate a state of constant self-awareness, self-care, self-acceptance, and gratitude for one's imperfections. This enables individuals to fortify their resilience in the face of adversity and to enrich their lives with a sense of tranquility and composure.

It is not uncommon for individuals to dedicate their entire lives to striving for self-improvement. It is important to recognize that this process should be approached with patience and understanding.

03. It is possible that the parents' perception is that they are concerned that their encouragement will lead to pride, which in turn may result in a decline in performance. Consequently, they may be reluctant to offer praise.

It is possible that they were influenced by their parents and lacked an understanding of psychology, which would have made them aware that recognition and encouragement are the most effective forms of support and love for children.

Additionally, I was a child who seldom received praise from my parents and was treated harshly. I am currently in my middle years, and I experience a sense of internal conflict. After studying psychology, I came to understand that parents may sometimes exhibit behaviors similar to those of immature children, lacking in energy.

Furthermore, their lack of appreciation and harshness have instilled in me a sense of conscientiousness and pragmatism, which have proven invaluable in my professional endeavors.

It is therefore recommended that you attempt to accept your family of origin, adjust your self-perception, and continue to make progress.

4. With regard to interpersonal issues, as social beings, it is inevitable that we will encounter questions and difficulties in navigating various situations between individuals.

In his seminal work, Alfred Adler, the founder of individual psychology, posited that all human troubles originate from interpersonal relationships.

It is therefore to be expected that interpersonal problems and issues will arise at every stage of life. It is beneficial to be self-aware and to explore these issues.

It is commendable to recognize a problem as an essential first step in its resolution. The process of growth is ongoing, and it is therefore acceptable to allow sufficient time for its completion.

It is recommended that readers engage with a selection of psychology books on personal growth and interpersonal relationships.

The following titles are recommended reading: When You Start Loving Yourself, the World Will Love You Back, Beyond Your Family of Origin, The Courage to Be Disliked, and The Art of Communication.

If one does not love oneself, who will? The question must be asked: if not now, when?

The world and I extend our support and encouragement to you.

Hello, host!

I'm excited to continue answering your questions from yesterday! Today, I'll be sharing some tips on how to put these ideas into action.

[3] What can we do?

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of discussing the difficulties that really make people feel, which actually include two aspects:

The first thing to know is that your physiology and mentality are "frozen" in childhood in terms of getting along with people. This means you'll only use the social skills you acquired as a child. But here's the exciting part: as you grow older and physically mature, you'll develop new physical and psychological parts and new functions in response to new environments and experiences! This includes the ability to perceive, feel, and act in a certain way.

The second thing to remember is that even if you are determined to change, it can be hard to know which direction to go in. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways to find out if a choice is leading to good or bad.

So, what can you do about it? The answer is simple: become aware that you are an adult, that you are no longer that weak and helpless toddler. You already have the physical strength and abilities of an adult! When getting along with others, a lot of the fear of others actually comes from childhood, not real dangers in reality. So, go through new experiences and try to use new knowledge and new coping behaviors to deal with people. For example, you can respect your inner wishes and refuse things that you were afraid to refuse in the past. You can muster the courage to defend what you were afraid to defend in the past. In this way, you can learn to have a more accurate perception and understanding of the current self and reality, develop the ability to cope with multiple options, and explore a new model that suits you!

It's time to break free from the limitations of your old patterns! Good patterns are open, welcoming new things and experiences with open arms. They're a spiral-up cycle of "pattern formation - automatic operation of the familiar - learning about the unfamiliar - focusing on new experiences and new adaptations." With each new experience and ability, you'll find your resilience growing. And with resilience, you'll be able to expand your living space in ways you never thought possible!

However, the bad pattern is closed. In order to avoid painful feelings, it rejects new things that it is unable to cope with and refuses to experience new experiences. It is a "pattern formation - automatic operation of the familiar and the unfamiliar - poor adaptation to the new environment - avoidance of pain and rejection of new experiences - the old pattern of operation is enhanced - more avoidance and maladaptation" closed loop with no upward movement. Therefore, it is a dead loop that constantly makes people compress their living space. But here's the good news! You can break free from this cycle.

The host can try to recall the past and the present. Even if the environment has changed, the people you interact with have changed, but the painful feelings experienced repeatedly in social interactions are still from the past, right? This is a great opportunity to start fresh and interact with others in a new way!

So, the "what to do" part is also about breaking the cycle and experiencing new things! You can become aware of and reflect on the automatic patterns behind your painful feelings, review the events you experienced, and think about different ways to interpret (cognition), experience (feelings), and respond (actions). You can even apply them to future interactions with others! The following text contains some suggestions, which are general in nature because they cannot address specific events and experiences.

First, let's dive into the world of self-awareness!

Pay attention to your feelings in social interactions! Take note of the ups and downs of emotions and feelings, whether they are positive or negative. To truly understand yourself and others, name or label these feelings. For example, positive feelings can be called excitement, anticipation, happiness, joy, delight, etc. Negative feelings can be called frustration, anger, depression, disgust, fear, etc.

It's especially important to embrace those negative feelings. Old patterns try to avoid these feelings, but they're actually holding you back from understanding yourself. Negative feelings also hide many deep-seated needs. Once you recognize these pains, you can start to understand what they mean to you. When you clarify your needs, you can start to respond to your own interactions with others in a more positive way!

Second, experience!

Embrace the chance to try new things! Get out there and experience new events and gain new experiences. Do things you've never done before, even if you're reluctant. Make new friends and deal with people you don't know. The old pattern is closed, but there are so many exciting new possibilities out there! You can become aware of yourself and understand yourself in new ways.

People are a fascinating species! It's only when we experience different things and come into contact with different people that our inner qualities become revealed. The saying "other people are our mirrors" is so true! So, experiencing new experiences is a great way to help us better perceive ourselves, and at the same time break down the closed-mindedness of old patterns.

Now for the fun part! It's time to reflect on the situation.

Afterwards, it's time for some fun! Reflect on your experiences and feelings, and explore what deep and true needs were hidden behind your emotions at the time, and what needs others had of you during the interaction. Recall whether your words and actions at the time were based on fear and a self-belief in your inability to cope, and what other needs you betrayed your truest desires for. What kind of message did these words and actions send to the people you interacted with, and in what way did they affect their attitudes and words and actions towards you?

Now, it's time to get creative! Use different interpretations to understand yourself and others better. Imagine you're in the present moment. What strategies could you use to take care of yourself without betraying your needs or neglecting others? If you had to choose between your needs and the needs of others, how would you make the choice? What possible consequences could you face? Are you willing to bear these consequences?

Fourth, allow yourself!

In this process of self-transformation, you will feel more hurt and powerless, and hear more voices of frustration, depression, and self-doubt. This is because you are still the "frozen child." When a new pattern has not yet been established, you will only have the old pattern, so the old pattern will operate automatically and be difficult to notice. You will repeat many painful feelings, experience frustration, depression, and self-doubt, and undermine your own desire and confidence to change. Whenever you encounter such difficult moments, please be compassionate with yourself. You are doing great!

Embrace your youth! Take your time, rest when you need to, and then get back in the game if you're not feeling social. And most importantly, don't be afraid to stumble, make mistakes, and fail. These are the experiences that help us learn and grow!

You are like a wobbly baby trying to learn to walk. And you're doing great! The process of falling over and getting up again is how you learn what it feels like to gain your balance. The only way to learn how to walk is to have faith: as long as you keep trying, no matter how many times you fall and lose your balance, get up and try again to experience what posture your body needs to gain your balance. And before you know it, you'll be walking with flying colors!

The above. The world and I love you!

Hello, host.

Here's the rest of yesterday's answer.

[2] I want to know exactly what it is about human contact and dealing with people that makes you feel difficult.

As I stated yesterday, infants and children form negative emotional memories of social interactions due to their experiences in infancy and childhood. They believe they are powerless to deal with adverse events and follow a pattern of avoidance. This may include irritability and aggression towards others or other ways of not being accepted by others. It is easy to understand why they are reluctant to interact with people and deal with interpersonal relationships from the time they start school until they enter society. These are the only social skills they can learn from their early experiences.

These skills helped you successfully avoid the unbearable pain of being with your parents and the even greater harm that would have been caused if you had chosen other ways of coping, such as disobedience or even rebellion. You were a young and vulnerable child, and you could not win. This pattern was very effective and successful in helping you survive.

As you grew up, you encountered different people and things. The environment was more expansive than family life, with more people and more complex events. You learned a fixed pattern in the past, but it was no longer sufficient. The old pattern is not completely invalid, but it is no longer completely applicable to the ever-changing environment you face.

You must develop new social skills, including the ability to perceive and understand your own and other people's needs, emotions, and feelings. You also need to have enough judgment to choose resilient and flexible coping strategies to protect yourself from harm to the greatest extent possible when encountering adverse events.

Once these old patterns are formed, they operate automatically. For example, your reaction to ridicule must be to feel malice and pain because that's how your emotional and emotional response model interprets it. You cannot see or feel other possibilities.

In the real world, ridicule can take many forms. You might make a fool of yourself. You might slip and fall in a group game of physical balance, but get up unharmed. In such cases, ridicule is likely to follow. However, ridicule is not malicious or hurtful. If you are tolerant of yourself and laugh at yourself, ridicule can become a way of connecting with others.

Laughter is a powerful tool for dealing with embarrassment. Self-deprecating humor is an effective way to deflect ridicule from others. This approach demonstrates that ridicule is not inherently malicious but can be seen as a bit funny and enjoyable.

Laugh along with others while feeling self-deprecating. The embarrassment will quickly dissipate, and you will feel relaxed and happy, both for yourself and for others.

Yes, a person's emotions can be subtly perceived and influence the way others treat you. When you laugh along with yourself, you are allowing yourself to make mistakes and be embarrassed, and you are also allowing others to take small joy in your missteps. And when you allow yourself and others to do this, others can read it – they will understand that if any of them were to experience the same embarrassment, their embarrassment would be allowed, your ridicule would be without malice, and you could laugh together about the embarrassment. You would both feel that you belong to the same group.

Your body and mind have not developed this option. The automatic mode of operation brings you only one response: the maliciousness and rejection of others, and your own powerlessness and hurt. When we are unaware of this, we instinctively believe that the only way to feel safe and comfortable is to avoid contact with other people, because this way we can avoid being hurt.

You avoid people and don't want to get along with them, just to protect yourself. Those who laugh at you understand and feel laughter very differently from you. They can still feel the relief and pleasure of easing the awkwardness, whether they laugh at you or at themselves.

As a result, you are an outsider. You can't connect with them, you don't belong with them. They feel ill will towards you, and when others feel burdened rather than relaxed, they naturally choose to distance themselves from you (this is known as the psychological law of expectancies).

Let me be clear: not all ridicule is without malice. You can protect yourself by expressing anger or avoiding harm when anger is expressed. I'm using this example to show that things are much more complicated than when we were children. The old model is no longer sufficient for distinguishing between different kinds of ridicule in different people, situations, and contexts. You need new skills to use your perception system to distinguish between them, determine the needs of others and yourself, and choose the response that is more beneficial to you. For example, you need to know whether it is more beneficial to you to interpret ridicule as malice and express anger or to interpret it as a way to connect with others.

You say you "can't handle relationships" because you can't make these complex distinctions when you're with people. You can't identify your own needs and the needs of others. You can't understand what's wrong with your own behavior. This causes you to constantly feel hurt, treated like an outsider, excluded, and mocked behind your back.

Who, in such relationships, still longs to reach out to others? You have the same hours per day, week, month, and year as everyone else, but your painful periods may be much longer than most people's.

You should be able to count how many hours a week you spend with others in a relaxed and pleasant way. You should also be able to remember how many adverse events have occurred each year and how many of them you have successfully found ways to protect yourself.

You now know what the difficulty is. I want to be clear that these new skills you urgently need, outside the old patterns, will not be developed overnight just because you understand the principle. The real difficulty you face is developing these skills. It's like growing again in this area because the changes required involve almost every level: cognitive, emotional, thinking, and also the physical level. Our perception and discrimination depend on the physical basis and the cognitive and emotional thinking that operates on top of it.

Let me explain "growing back" to you. Everyone is shaped by their genes and past experiences. This shaping doesn't just happen on a psychological level, like your unique personality. It also happens on a physical level. I believe that the human body, including the structure of the brain, various glands, the nerve circuits in the body, the skeletal muscles, and their working mechanisms, are all grown to adapt to the requirements of your environment.

Let me be clear: if you did not have the opportunity to experience a wide range of emotional feelings in your childhood, especially positive feelings such as pleasure, and had few opportunities to develop different ways of dealing with different events in different social situations, you cannot believe in your ability to protect yourself or enjoy the social process.

This is different from how you were as a child. You had the chance to experience these emotions, develop these abilities, and believe in your own strength to protect yourself and enjoy social interaction, and grow physically. These differences are not visible to the naked eye. Wanting to change the status quo means difficult thinking and psychological changes, as well as these invisible physical changes. Change is like being born again.

Let me be clear: developing new physiological and psychological structures and modes of behavior is not only difficult at the physiological, psychological, and behavioral levels, but also an exploration into the unknown. There is no known, certain, and comprehensible "right answer" guiding you along the way. There is no one or nothing that can guarantee that what you are trying will not cause harm and make the situation worse.

This is what you feel is difficult. It is really difficult, too difficult, especially when you are isolated and have no one to help you.

I have written at length to explain the difficulty, and I hope this will help you feel better. If you understand why you are the way you are, you will stop blaming yourself for never becoming a sociable person. You will also stop hating yourself for being treated as an outsider, excluded, and ridiculed for so many years. Be willing to accept your misfortune, understand how hard it is for you, feel for yourself the many hurts you have suffered, be grateful that you have not been knocked down, and admire yourself for living tenaciously and wanting to try to make a change.

I want to say one thing: understand how hard it is for you and be kind to yourself. That's what you need to change.

The above is incomplete. Continue tomorrow.

The world and I love you.

Good day, host.

After reading your description, I empathize with your situation. I can fully understand your painful feelings, and I also feel very distressed about your helpless situation of being mocked by others. For anyone who encounters all this, the probability of suffering so much pain that they want to commit suicide is not low. I extend my support to you with compassion.

I am gratified that you did not succumb to the influence of your thoughts, nor allow them to control or impel you to engage in actions that would be detrimental to your well-being. Your willingness to seek assistance at the Psychological Counseling Center is commendable. I discern a profound strength within you that aspires to personal transformation, a quality that evokes a profound sense of admiration. I am prepared to utilize counseling as a means of offering support to your endeavors to alter your behavior, and I will offer encouragement.

However, the question of "what to do" is a rather complex one, as it depends on the individual's current circumstances and the specific changes they wish to implement. To illustrate, it is essential to consider the emotional state experienced when attempting to communicate with a particular person in a specific situation, the underlying meanings attributed to these feelings, the beliefs and opinions that shape them, the appropriate responses and actions, and the subsequent emotional and cognitive outcomes.

If an individual's reluctance to engage with others is a consequence of being belittled by their parents since childhood, it is probable that significant time and effort will be required to effect a change. As time progresses and the individual encounters new people and situations, this process of change and effort will continue throughout their life and work. It is not a matter that can be "solved" by a single action in the short term.

It is therefore recommended that, should the individual have the means to do so, they seek professional help and find a reliable psychological counselor to accompany them. This may result in greater motivation to change, a stronger sense of support, and a greater desire to continue working hard and reduce the probability of returning to a state of feeling like giving up on life due to disappointment in those around them.

Given the limited understanding of your specific situation, this discussion will focus on the most significant challenges you currently face and the underlying reasons for these difficulties from a theoretical and logical perspective, as well as in terms of the universality of human development. Building on this understanding, the subsequent section will explore how actions can facilitate personal transformation.

Due to the extensive vocabulary required, it is not feasible to conclude this discourse at the present moment. I will continue tomorrow. It is my hope that you will take the time to read it.

Why does contact with people elicit such a negative emotional response?

In the absence of specific information from the subject, it is not possible to make a definitive assessment of their social feelings. However, it is clear that the subject experiences a sense of difficulty regardless of their actual feelings.

The rationale is that humans are innately social creatures, and the necessity for social interaction is encoded in our genetics. In contrast to certain other species, humans are not self-sufficient after birth and require the care and nourishment of their caregivers to survive. Consequently, if social interaction is a natural inclination, one will not be apprehensive about engaging with others and will not perceive an inability to interact with people.

Infants smile at a very early age when they see other people, and then gradually recognize people, smiling more only when they see important others who care for them. This can be seen as an expression of the need for social interaction, as it is a way to communicate with people and gain the attention of caregivers. There is a saying in psychology that "no response is hopeless." Those interested in this topic can search online for a famous experiment conducted by Ed Trochnik, a psychology professor at the University of Manchester, called the resting face experiment, which explores this phenomenon.

Therefore, humans are innately predisposed to engage in socialization. In the absence of socialization, it can be inferred that an individual has encountered a significant obstacle that renders socialization an arduous endeavor. This obstacle can be conceptualized in two distinct ways: firstly, socialization often evokes a plethora of complex negative emotions, which can be so overwhelming that an individual may perceive them as unbearable, leading to a reluctance to prioritize their social needs. Secondly, related to the first but distinct, is that when an individual experiences adverse events during socialization, such as ridicule, they may internalize a sense of powerlessness to cope with such challenges.

The earliest social contact for infants is with their caregivers, which for the host family should be their parents. When a child is young, if their parents' social needs are not met or even if they are met in a dismissive manner, the pain experienced is significant.

As a result of the aforementioned factors, it is unlikely that you will develop any powerful methods to deal with these parental responses. Consequently, you are also powerless in this regard. The choices you can make are probably submission and avoidance.

Therefore, the individual in question was socialized in a manner that instilled adverse emotional memories and maladaptive emotional responses to social interactions, coupled with an internalized belief in their own powerlessness and a tendency to either submit or avoid behavior. These learned behaviors became an inherent mode of interacting with others. A mode can be defined as a set of programmed, automatic ways of dealing with the environment, encompassing physiological responses, psychological feelings, and behavioral and choice responses.

The aforementioned analysis is incomplete and will be continued in tomorrow's session.

The world and I love you.

If the quality of life is not satisfactory, it is necessary to invest effort to improve it.

There is a significant discrepancy between conceptualizing and implementing a plan of action. However, this gap is not insurmountable and can be bridged with strategic planning and consistent effort.

Any effort is based on planning with a realistic self in order to achieve it. Each of us has both positive and negative attributes, which are all part of our personal brand. We cannot live well without either part.

Our character is shaped by our upbringing and the way we were raised by our parents. Growing up in an environment that fosters violence can result in a lack of self-confidence, inferiority complexes, and an emotionally unstable character. This can lead to significant challenges in our professional lives. However, our character is not set in stone and can be developed. While the process may be challenging, with the right mindset and determination, we can bridge the gap between intention and action and gradually become the person we want to be.

It is important to recognise that everyone has their own unique views and opinions, and that it is not possible to please everyone. We will encounter a wide range of people in our professional lives, and it is not realistic to expect to please all of them.

Perhaps because of our own inadequacies, we have been the subject of ridicule from others. In order to improve our lives and meet those who will not ridicule us with a better self, we must change ourselves and surpass ourselves. We do all this not because we are afraid of ridicule, but to live a better life and meet those who will not ridicule us with a better self, people who are willing to accept us for better or worse.

It is possible to change one's self-confidence. We can do many things and have many theories about doing what we are good at and encouraging ourselves every day. However, it is more important to focus on oneself, having the courage to overcome challenges and being willing to work hard towards one's goal despite setbacks.

Live your life according to your own values and aspirations.

Your life is your own, and you should pursue your goals without letting external factors deter you.