My parents divorced when I was two years old. Sometimes I wonder if I'm being childish and sentimental.

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from a distance to you first.

The trauma caused by one's parents' marital problems when one is very young can be experienced physically and mentally. Feelings of being unloved and abandoned are common.

Due to a lack of adequate emotional support from one's parents during childhood, this aspect of one's self may be particularly underdeveloped and deprived. When such needs are not met, they can become internalized as trauma. In instances where one lacks the capacity or resources to provide this aspect of self, there may be a tendency to seek external sources for its fulfillment, which is often not possible.

Fortunately, you have already become somewhat aware of this part of the trauma caused by your parents' divorce. This awareness allows you the opportunity to heal yourself by actively learning and growing under the guidance of this self-awareness. Additionally, you can re-parent yourself in a manner that aligns with your ideal parental figures, thereby compensating for the love you believe you have been owed from your parents.

Despite the lack of emotional support from Dad and Grandma, it is possible to express one's true feelings and needs when their words or actions cause discomfort. This entails articulating one's desired treatment and simultaneously striving to respect and accept the manner in which they treat you, recognizing that they may be striving to treat you in the best way they can.

The emotional trauma caused by one's parents' divorce can be seen, expressed, and released by attempting to compose a written account to one's former parents. This account should express the harm caused to the writer's body and mind by the marital troubles of the parents in question, as well as the writer's deep love and resentment towards them.

I am Lily, the youngest member of the Q&A Museum. I extend my love and best wishes to you all.

Hello, I'm here to help you find peace of mind.

My dear, please let me give you a warm hug.

Let's tackle this first.

Her parents divorced when she was two, and she lives with her father and grandparents. Her father is at work, her grandfather is often out, and she spends most of her time with her grandmother, who she's closest to.

Your grandmother speaks loudly and often says discouraging things, which makes you feel distracted, sad, and even angry. Even though you're closest to your grandmother, it seems like you don't feel cared for, loved, or encouraged, but rather disliked.

Is it possible that what you really want is your grandmother's love?

Please let me know if I've misunderstood.

In the description, I see other people's children yelling to their parents to complain whenever something happens. It seems pretty pretentious to me, but deep down, I actually long for the chance to be pretentious too.

You see other kids being able to pout and be difficult with their parents, and when they're wronged, they're comforted by their parents. When they're sad, they're given warm, loving hugs.

You envy them and wish you could be like them, especially when you want to feel cared for, protected, and loved. Does that sound about right?

I just want to say that this isn't childish. It's a normal emotional need that every child has. There's no shame in it. You deserve it.

In the text, it says that Dad often goes to work. What does he do? Does he work away from home, or does he often work overtime and not have time to take care of you?

Can you tell me a bit about your relationship with your father since you were a child? Do you get a chance to sit down and chat with him?

Does he take the initiative to check in on you and see how you're doing?

Are you open to sharing your good news with your father and talking to him about your concerns? If so, how did he respond?

In your description, you said you felt terrible after your final exam results came out and you slipped to sixth place. In my opinion, sixth place is still a great result.

What's behind this depressed mood?

What was your previous ranking? Was sixth place okay with you and your family, or were you disappointed?

In the description, you said you're sometimes happy and sometimes depressed. Can you tell us more about when you feel happy and when you feel depressed?

"Often lose my temper." What's the reason for losing your cool? Is it because of your ranking?

Or is it an inner longing that no one gets, and that can only be expressed in anger?

I realize I've only asked questions and not provided the answers you're looking for.

Everyone has their own issues to deal with. You're only 13, but you're already showing real courage in coming to the platform to seek help. It's great to see a child with such a strong sense of self-awareness and self-growth.

With this awareness, you have the motivation and potential to improve and become an even better version of yourself.

Next, you might want to try taking a deep breath and putting your inner unrest, frustration, and grievances on the back burner for a while. Be brave and honest with your innermost thoughts, feelings, and desires.

Once you've got a handle on all this, you might need to muster up even more courage, effort, and patience to take the initiative and talk to your father or grandmother about your feelings and desires.

I also want to tell you that you have to believe that your dad, grandma, and grandpa all love you. They may be limited by time or their limited understanding, and they don't know what kind of expression of love is acceptable to you.

If you can communicate with your father and grandmother with a heart of gratitude, tolerance, understanding, acceptance, and love, they will definitely be able to feel it. I believe that you will also be able to feel the deep and sincere love from them at that time.

This isn't something you can achieve overnight. You need to be fearless, have unwavering willpower, work hard, and most importantly, be patient and give yourself time.

Take it slow and don't push yourself too hard. You'll see that growth comes from small, almost invisible changes that add up over time.

"No accumulation of small steps can lead to thousands of miles, no accumulation of small streams can form a river." You really need to understand the profound meaning of this, right?

There's no need to rush. Take it slow and steady, and you'll get there in the end.

I wish you the best of luck, my dear.