My parents don't understand me, always putting me down. I feel so useless, am I a bad child?

Good evening, dear questioner! After reading your description, I could really feel your feelings of being unappreciated and unseen by your parents, as well as your loneliness, frustration, and helplessness.

If you feel like your feelings are being ignored or misunderstood, it can make you feel left out or alone. It can even make you doubt your own value and the meaning of your existence.

I'd love to hear from you! Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.

It's okay, it's not your fault.

In this case, you've done nothing wrong. We all have our own way of thinking and acting. Sometimes parents may not understand us because of differences in age, experience, values, etc. This doesn't mean we're not good enough or not worthy of being understood and respected.

It's so important to communicate with your parents in a sincere way.

It's so important to try to initiate sincere communication with your parents and express your thoughts and feelings. At the same time, you can also find other ways to seek understanding and support.

It's so important to remember that this kind of emotion shouldn't affect our confidence and self-esteem. We should always believe in our own value and abilities, and in our own path. And we should never stop pursuing our dreams!

You can find something you are interested in, do it, cultivate your interests and expertise, and improve your self-confidence. We are all unique waves, with our own value and meaning. Don't deny yourself because of other people's opinions. You've got this!

I'm a counselor, and I just want to say that I love you all! Have a great day!

Hello, question asker!

From what you've told me, I can say with confidence that this isn't the case. It seems like your parents have a negative perception of your academic performance and tend to put you down, which has understandably hurt your self-esteem and made you feel very sad. It's even starting to affect your sense of self-worth, making you doubt whether you're a good child.

Your academic performance isn't a measure of your goodness or badness. It's just that at your age, your parents are too concerned about your grades and ignore your inner feelings. You don't really want to be seen as a child with poor grades by your parents, and you also want to make them proud, but you just can't do it.

However, the knowledge you gain at school is only about those few subjects, and they just aren't the right fit for you. You must know that you are born to be useful, and you are not obliged to study these subjects.

When your parents criticize you, you need to be confident in yourself. You're not a child who excels in these subjects, but you can explore other options. For instance, you can learn subjects you enjoy, like Chinese. Mastering more characters could be one of your greatest achievements in Chinese.

There's no need to worry about being like your peers.

Of course, you're also worried about the future. You can think about the work you want to do, which might help you pursue further studies and learn a trade or skill, which could also help you get a job. As for academic qualifications, you might want to think about taking an adult education exam. You have a long life ahead of you, and there are actually many ways to achieve your goals, despite your current doubts.

I hope this is helpful. Best regards!

Good day, colleague. I can see you are experiencing some confusion. Please accept my support and encouragement.

Please explain why you believe you are a bad child because you do not perform well in school.

Some children are simply not suited to the academic environment.

Despite their best efforts, their academic performance remains unsatisfactory.

Please describe the reasons behind your parents' decision to suppress you.

This may be related to their own upbringing and family background.

During their upbringing, their parents employed a style of parenting that was overly controlling.

As a result, they are subject to what is known as "intergenerational transmission" from their parents.

They are unaware that this approach to child rearing is ineffective.

There is a well-known psychological principle that states, "What we lack, we cannot bestow upon others."

If you find your parents' approach to be unduly restrictive, I recommend initiating a dialogue with them.

When communicating with them, it is advisable to avoid using an accusatory tone of voice. Instead, use more "I" language and start sentences with "I" rather than "you" when expressing yourself.

Additionally, the methods outlined in the book, Nonviolent Communication, may be useful.

I hope you are able to find a solution to the problem you are facing as soon as possible.

I hope this message is helpful to you.

I hope that my above response has been helpful and inspiring to you, my fellow student. I am available to answer any further questions you may have.

Best regards, Yixinli

Thank you for your attention.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am honored to answer your question and hope that my input will be of assistance to you. Best regards, [Name]

[Regarding parents' expectations and one's own needs]

"I understand my parents' concerns about my future."

Firstly, it is important to distinguish between the various issues at hand. The issue of worrying is one that is typically associated with parents, and therefore, it is not necessary for us to take on this parental issue.

The questioner is seeking to take responsibility for themselves, complete their current tasks, identify their life direction through learning, and master certain skills.

It is possible that parents may have beliefs such as "poor grades indicate a lack of success in life." However, grades are only one factor and may not reflect a person's full range of abilities, including social skills or athletic ability.

It is important to take grades objectively. The world benefits from a diverse range of roles. While respecting your parents, you should also prioritize meeting your own needs and excelling in your chosen subjects.

[Skills and methods behind good grades]

What methods and skills are required to achieve good grades? The following are some suggestions for the questioner to consider.

Form a relationship with students who demonstrate academic success. Engage in dialogue with them about their study habits, integrate their insights with your own methods, and continue to refine your approach until you identify the most effective strategy for your needs.

Remain composed when faced with the opinions of others, whether it be your parents or other individuals. Affirm to yourself that their opinions are merely that – opinions – and that the most accurate approach is to seek out resources and enhance your capabilities in alignment with your personal expectations.

Do not be afraid to make mistakes. Learning is a process of continuous practice, trial and error, and summary. By reducing self-blame and increasing action, you can achieve breakthroughs. Believe in yourself and your abilities.

The optimal solution is within your control.

I am confident that I will be able to find a use for my talents while also improving my academic performance.

The process of determining how to use your life and find your calling is one of exploration. As long as you begin, you are moving in the right direction.

In the future, what will your role be, where will you be based, and what will you be doing? As long as it is something that is beneficial to yourself, others, and society, then work hard to achieve it. Perhaps this is how we use our lives.

It is my sincere hope that you will strive for a life that makes you happy. I am confident that a wonderful life awaits you.

That is all the information I wish to share at this time. Best regards, The World

I'll start with a hug!

First of all, I want to say that you are not a bad child. Everyone has their own strengths and challenges, and learning difficulties do not make you a bad person.

Parents may be well-meaning, but their approach isn't always the most effective. In this case, there are a few suggestions that can help you cope with this dilemma:

Recognize your own value. Don't undervalue yourself because of your academic difficulties. You have unique talents and value that aren't just measured by academic performance.

It's important to recognize your strengths and abilities in other areas and focus on them.

2. Communication: It's important to communicate openly with your parents and express your feelings and thoughts. Let them know you're frustrated about your learning difficulties, but also that you want support and understanding.

By sharing your feelings with them, you can improve mutual understanding and communication.

3. Get help: If you're struggling with your studies, don't be afraid to ask for assistance. This could be a teacher, a classmate, a family member, or a professional counselor, for example.

Seeking professional support and guidance can help you overcome learning obstacles and improve your learning efficiency.

4. Set goals and make a plan: Set clear learning goals and make a plan to achieve them. Breaking down big goals into small steps and completing them gradually makes learning more manageable and feasible.

5. Accept yourself: Learn to accept yourself, including your shortcomings and deficiencies. We all have our own weaknesses, and that's okay.

Learning to accept yourself and face challenges with a positive attitude can help you build stronger self-confidence and self-esteem.

Remember, you're not alone. There are plenty of people who can support you. Seek help and persevere, and you'll be able to overcome your difficulties and find your own path to success.