My son is in the second year of junior high school. What preparations are needed for a divorce in the middle of life? Especially the psychological aspects.

Dear, thanks for the invite. Looking at your experience, it's like seeing myself a few years ago, going through the pain and struggle, sadness and helplessness in marriage. Only those who have been through it can truly understand. First, I want to say that people who don't divorce may not be happy, but those who do are definitely pursuing happiness. It takes courage to leave a marriage, so first of all, I want to commend you for your bravery.

I think it's important to say that people who don't get divorced may not be happy, but people who do get divorced are definitely pursuing happiness. It takes courage to leave a marriage, and I admire anyone who does it.

The issue is whether you should get a divorce. I want to say that you may regret your decision to get a divorce or not.

But if you think about it, you'll see that as long as you choose from the heart, it's all good.

Marriage is a two-person thing, but you haven't said anything about what your husband wants. Do you talk to him about it?

Is he willing to make some changes in this marriage?

Has he explained the conflict between you?

Your thoughts are now focused on one thing: in your eyes, your husband is worthless and simply doesn't deserve to live with you anymore. Deep down, you're inclined to divorce, thinking that if you leave him, you'll leave the source of your pain behind and your life will get back on track, and maybe you'll even find your own happiness. But the thought of your child forcing you to die makes you hesitate.

Let's set aside the child's opinion for a moment and imagine a scenario in which you divorce. From your description, it seems like you're very dissatisfied with your husband's approach to raising the child. In that case, it's likely that the child will end up with you. Imagine a woman with a boy in the second year of junior high school. You have to work, take care of the child's studies, and manage the many household chores. Who will do the heavy lifting around the house? What if something happens at work and you can't take care of the child?

As the teacher upstairs said, when your husband was around, you felt like he was air. But without such a person, you have to work harder. In the past, you could more or less rely on someone to lend a hand and give a little help, but now you have to face it all on your own. And you have no reason to complain anymore, because this is your choice. Are you ready for this?

You might say you'd rather be tired than go through that kind of mental torture in your marriage. Well, you can do that if you want.

And I have another question for you. Was the pain you experienced in your marriage caused by your husband or by factors within yourself? As you yourself said, you fled your family of origin and hastily married your husband.

If not, is your conflict with your husband related to this?

So, your husband is just one of the reasons you're suffering. It all comes down to that unresolved issue in your heart. Maybe you felt unloved in your own family and turned to your marriage to get it, only to find it wasn't enough?

If so, it might be helpful to focus on developing a stronger sense of self. When you truly learn to love yourself, other people's love will be just one more thing to enjoy, rather than the kind of help that comes just at the right time. If you expect other people to come to your rescue, you'll need to have the resilience to handle whatever comes your way.

Sometimes we complain about the suffering we have endured in our marriage. Of course, I don't deny that women contribute much more than men in a marriage. But is the reason for our suffering really just that we have met a scumbag? Even if he really is a scumbag, will it have such a big impact on us?

It's important to pay attention to your inner feelings. When you have a conflict with him and feel pain, do you think of similar situations in the past? Because everyone's marriage patterns and ways of dealing with things are influenced by their own family of origin, and these can be noticed and changed. If you can't find a reason, even if you get divorced, you will still have problems entering a new marriage.

I believe that when you are aware of your own feelings and have the strength to cope, you can make the choice to divorce or not. I suggest you seek professional counseling.

Let's talk about the child again. Have you ever thought about why the child is against your divorce? Is it just because of his pride?

Or is it because your husband has some good qualities, and the child doesn't want to see such a complete family destroyed? The child is already in the second year of junior high school, so don't treat it like a baby. Although marriage is your own business, divorce does involve the child, and you can't just abandon him. So first talk to the child and try to gain his understanding.

What are his concerns? Can you resolve them?

I also think it's important to pay attention to your child's psychological state. A child living in a marriage where the parents are unhappy will also have a deficiency within. This can't be fixed by maintaining the appearance of a complete marriage. So, whether you divorce or not is just a formal change. The key is not to neglect the care of your child, not only materially, but also psychologically. This could affect your child's whole life.

Finally, I want to say that no one's life is easy. On the other hand, marital discord can also make us more aware of ourselves and help us improve. You might even meet a better version of yourself along the way.

I know I've gone on a bit of a tangent there, but it's just some of my own experiences. I hope it'll be of some inspiration to you. I wish you'll soon come out of the gloom and live your own wonderful life!

Hello, young lady. I can see you're feeling confused, and I'm here to give you a warm hug!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's a marriage problem, and it's totally normal. Please, let me give you another warm hug.

If you've already made the decision to get a divorce, it's a great idea to chat with a lawyer who knows all about family law.

There are so many things to think about when it comes to divorce. It's important to understand what is considered your and your husband's joint property, as well as what is yours as an individual.

I'm so sorry to hear that your son is also in the second year of junior high and is opposed to your divorce.

I can understand why he might be worried about who will pay for his tuition after the divorce. You said that you are the one with the stronger financial resources, so you can reassure him that after you divorce your husband, you can afford his tuition.

And what is his relationship like with his father?

I think it would be really helpful for you to sit down and have a chat with your son. Even though you've gone through a divorce, it doesn't change the fact that you're still his mum. You'll always love and care for him, just as you always have.

I'm sure you'll be happy to know that, in most cases, the court will say that your husband will also have visitation rights.

You can tell your child that even during the long school holidays, he can go and live with his father for a while, and then come back to live with you when school starts again.

I know it's a tough decision, but I think it's important to ask yourself: in recent years, when you were with him, was your life always happy?

If it's not all that fun and mostly just painful, there's really no need to force yourself to stay with him.

I know it's not an easy decision, but I really believe that divorce is not something you should take lightly, especially as a mother.

I truly believe that you've thought about all the pros and cons before making this decision.

I truly believe that when your son grows up, he'll see that you made the best decision for you and your family.

I really hope the problem you're facing gets sorted out soon.

I'm so sorry, but I can think of nothing more to say.

I really hope my answer helps and inspires you, sweet girl. I'm here for you, and I'm studying hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too! Wishing you all the best!

Good morning, Thank you for your question.

Let's examine the confusion together.

From your description, it seems that there are a number of issues in your marriage. You entered into the marriage out of love, but the marriage is not going well. There are frequent arguments and even physical violence. Additionally, you believe that your husband is not a good husband or father.

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As a result, you have reached the conclusion that your feelings are not worth investing in.

It is a challenging situation.

You have your own expectations for marriage, which he is unable to meet.

There are two possible courses of action: modify your expectations or modify your husband.

I believe you have attempted to communicate with him and have had some discussions. Have you considered other methods of conveying your thoughts to him?

If he does not alter his behavior, the marriage may fail. Does he have a clear understanding of the situation and the ability to make changes that would benefit the family?

It may be possible to lower some of your expectations in the marriage and make a pact with him. For example, you could agree that although there are arguments, there will be no physical violence. You could also agree that although the two of you have gone from love to affection, as a father, you will provide the child with more love and care.

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If this change can begin, then we might as well start with the little things and gradually improve the functioning of the marriage.

Undoubtedly, you have invested a great deal of time and effort over an extended period.

Furthermore, you have indicated that the primary source of income in the family is derived from your income. I believe that the next priority should be to focus on the child.

The child is not amenable to the divorce and has even threatened to take his own life.

This should be handled with a firm attitude.

In the event that you have reached the conclusion that the marriage is untenable, how might you go about ensuring that your child is able to accept this and to minimise the harm that this situation might cause them?

A child in the second year of junior high school is undergoing puberty and adapting to their own growth and changes.

If the family is also undergoing changes at this time, it will undoubtedly have a significant impact on him.

The lack of a sense of security and worries about the future life depend on you to help him build confidence through love, communication, and companionship.

I trust you are in a better position than I am to determine the best course of action for him.

Naturally, each individual is solely responsible for navigating their own life experiences.

It is my hope that the above discussion will provide you with some ideas and perspectives.

As previously discussed,

I am assisting you in responding to the letter.

I extend my warmest regards to you and your loved ones.

Dear questioner, From the title, I can sense that you have made significant sacrifices for this marriage and for your children. However, it seems that you are not experiencing the happiness and joy that should naturally arise from these sacrifices. Instead, you are feeling disappointment and pain. I send you a warm embrace and hope that my answer can offer you a little warmth and support.

1. How might I best evaluate my marriage? Should I consider the possibility of divorce?

Ultimately, the decision to leave a marriage is a personal one, and it's important to consider a number of factors. These can include upbringing, financial situation, and the need for intimacy. There are three main aspects to consider when evaluating the suitability of a marriage.

It would be beneficial to consider whether the marriage is nourished.

A good marriage can nourish us emotionally. It is often said that family is a haven for the soul. When we encounter difficulties, setbacks, or injustices outside, we can receive emotional support in family life, which helps us heal quickly.

It would be beneficial to consider whether you feel fulfilled in your marriage.

It is also important to feel fulfilled in a marriage. By fulfilled, I mean that even if your partner does not agree with what you do, he can tolerate your choices because you like them, and when you need help, he can provide reasonable support to help you achieve your goals.

Similarly, it may be helpful to treat people and things that you disagree with your partner in the same way.

It would be helpful to consider whether you feel respected and understood.

It would be beneficial to feel respected and understood by your partner, which would mean that they can see the effort you put into the family and respect that.

For instance, if you are the primary source of income for the family, you may find yourself working overtime or attending social functions due to your work. It is important to consider whether your partner will appreciate your efforts and take on household chores and child-rearing responsibilities. Alternatively, they may be inclined to relax while expressing concerns about your role as a wife and mother and your involvement in family matters. The former approach can foster a sense of respect and understanding.

2. What preparations, if any, might be helpful to make if you are considering getting a divorce? Especially in terms of your emotional and psychological readiness.

If you are considering divorce, it may be helpful to prepare for the following options:

It may be helpful to review the current marriage and identify the main problems.

It may be helpful to conduct a thorough review of your marriage before pursuing divorce. This could involve identifying the primary issues, exploring their origins, and considering how they have evolved over time.

It might also be helpful to consider whether divorce could potentially address these issues. If you were to start over, how might you avoid similar challenges in the future?

It would be beneficial to consider how to handle property and children.

If you were to get divorced, it would be helpful to understand what would happen to your assets and children. Based on the information provided, it seems that if you were to initiate the divorce, the assets would most likely be divided equally. As the main source of income in the family, it would be valuable to consider whether this distribution plan aligns with your expectations.

In addition, it would be wise to consider whether you would prefer to retain custody of the children or to allow the other parent to have them.

It would be beneficial to consider ways to minimise the impact of divorce on children.

It is important to remember that divorce can be a difficult experience for children, regardless of whether they live with their mother or their father. For children, the family structure they have always known may suddenly change, which can be a challenging adjustment. Even though your child is already in junior high school, it seems from the title that they are still grappling with the impact of your divorce.

In this case, it would be beneficial to consider ways of minimising the impact of divorce on children.

It would be beneficial to consider how to deal with the changes brought about by divorce.

Some studies have indicated that interpersonal relationships may face challenges in the initial stages following a divorce. Given the duration of your marriage, it is understandable that your interpersonal relationships have become deeply integrated. If you were to divorce, it would be important to consider the potential impact on these relationships.

☞ Life planning after divorce

How might you envision your life after the divorce? Do you anticipate living alone or do you have thoughts about remarrying?

If you are going to live alone, it would be wise to consider whether you are prepared both mentally and financially. As a teacher and the main breadwinner in your family, you appear to have a secure financial position. However, it is important to assess whether you can accept being on your own and deal with the potential social challenges that may arise. While the divorce rate is high nowadays, it is understandable that society as a whole is not yet particularly friendly towards divorcees, especially women.

If you plan to remarry, it would be advisable to consider that, according to your current situation, you should already be in your early 40s. If you do remarry, it will most likely be a remarriage with children, so it would be helpful to think about whether you want children after remarriage, how to handle the relationship with your stepchildren, and other issues.

I hope that, whether or not you get divorced, you will try to make yourself happy. I share my thoughts with you in the hope that they will be helpful to you.

Hello! Your marriage to your husband has always been bad, and you constantly think about divorcing him. However, your children strongly oppose it, which makes it difficult for you to make a decision for the time being.

You want to know what to do about the problems in your marriage, and I understand how you feel!

Tell me what you want to solve.

Your marriage was never well-founded. You say you wanted to leave your husband right after you got married, and you even felt the pain during your courtship. You only accepted this marriage because you wanted to escape your original family.

Your marriage has been low-quality for years. You've had verbal and even physical conflicts, and these have affected your parents and children.

There is little marital intimacy, and it is clear that you are emotionally estranged.

Your husband's image in your mind is also very low, and it's clear you're dissatisfied with him in terms of his income, ability to raise children, and so on. It's really not easy to struggle in a marriage for so many years with so much dissatisfaction!

But all of the above are still just symptoms. I need to know what the problem in your marriage is. Or what problem do you want to solve by getting a divorce?

Let me be clear: it is not always okay to try a new batch of fish.

It's likely that the fish are sick, the water is contaminated, or they're being kept in the wrong conditions.

I don't know what the problem is, but I'm going to solve it by getting a divorce. It's hard to know whether or not to get a divorce in this situation, isn't it?

Take control of your marriage.

Your children don't want a divorce and have even threatened to die. Your husband has failed to educate them, but the children still cherish your family and have deep feelings for their father.

Your child's attitude must have caused you a great deal of distress. I'd like to know the reason behind your child's strong defense of your family.

Take a different perspective and examine your marriage.

There are three main reasons for marital problems: infidelity, domestic violence, crime, gambling, and other major faults in matters of principle; major differences in the personalities and worldviews of the two people; and conflicts that have accumulated over time because the two parties are not good at managing their marriage.

Your account indicates that the issues in your marriage are the result of a growing conflict between you and your husband. Identifying the specific causes is essential to resolve them. Just as a fever is not always caused by a cold, understanding the root causes allows you to take the appropriate action.

You said that you once accepted your current marriage because you wanted to escape your original family. I need to know if the pain brought to you by your original family affects your marital relationship.

You said that your husband quarrels with your parents and has hit you and the children. I need to know what the circumstances are. Are these occasional or are they a regular part of your life?

When conflicts arise, you must resolve them.

It is not easy to persevere in a painful marriage for more than ten years, but you must find the root of the pain. You may not have met the right person, you may not have learned to manage the marital relationship, or you may not have grown up with the wounds of your original family.

It is unwise to make a rash decision before you have thought it through. The conflict within you may be due to your children's attitude or your own inner confusion.

Psychological preparation is essential.

You don't need to make a decision right away if you haven't thought it through. However, I will answer your question about psychological preparation.

You must understand that divorce may not make your life easier or happier than you think. If your marriage failed because you are not good at managing relationships or you lack self-growth, you should know that divorce will not solve these problems.

Divorce also requires facing financial and mental independence. Let's be real: the other half is like air. We don't even feel their presence when they're there. But when we really lose them, we realize how difficult it is to support ourselves alone.

It is a simple fact that divorce hurts children. It doesn't matter how old they are, children need a complete family. This means that parents must find ways to reduce the trauma caused to children's hearts and cope with the problems caused by this trauma.

Divorce also means facing the pressure of the environment. Women who are divorced are often looked at, discussed, and judged with prejudice. Without the protection of a family, they are also likely to face more offense and provocation.

Despite the growing acceptance of divorce, women must still exercise caution.

I am Teng Ying, a psychological counselor, and I am confident this will be helpful.

Hello, questioner.

From your description, it is clear that the question of whether to divorce or not is troubling you. It has plunged you into a deep state of anxiety and confusion.

You don't know how to choose, do you?

You are a woman with a strong sense of introspection and awareness. You know very well that the emotional foundation of your relationship with your husband is not very stable.

You initially got together with him to escape your family of origin, and then you endured years of marriage for the sake of your children.

Now facing a midlife crossroads, you have begun to consider where your path to happiness lies, and you are feeling a bit lost.

I'd like to know if you've discussed your confusion with your husband right away and what his opinion is.

Tell me, what is his understanding of the current situation of your marriage?

First, you need to assess whether you want a divorce.

First, you need to assess whether you want a divorce.

This is a difficult and abstract question, and one that involves limited knowledge of your situation. However, I can confidently offer some explanations based on my own experience.

You have provided some information that allows me to offer a little explanation.

You need to consider what you stand to gain from continuing the marriage. Apart from the worry about your children,

What other factors influenced your choice? If you could break away from your family of origin,

You should have left your unhappy marriage at the first opportunity.

I'd like to understand what you mean by "all the bad things that shouldn't have happened over the years." Were these issues resolved initially?

In a negotiated manner?

Secondly, you need to repair your relationship with your husband. It is possible to improve your relationship through repair.

I want to know if you think the marriage can become more harmonious.

You said there was a cold war with your husband that got worse over time. Think about it:

I want to know what factors are in your character.

Tell me what you say that angers him and causes him to hurt you.

You need to communicate openly with your husband about

You must understand each other's feelings and needs in the marriage.

Finally, you must have learned from this failed marriage and understood what the stumbling blocks are that affect marriage.

We must consider the compatibility of worldviews and differences in personality.

Or communication styles, etc.?

You are two circles. Each circle contains the other's family background and upbringing.

Cognitive level, personality traits, interests and hobbies, and the compatibility of worldviews, etc. I want to know what the intersecting parts of these two circles are.

This is the objective basis for determining whether you should continue moving forward.

Second, you must prepare yourself psychologically if you want a divorce.

First, you need to figure out what kind of marriage you really want. If you weren't satisfied in your first marriage, you need to consider what factors you want in your second marriage.

You will have to consider many more factors. Furthermore, if you fail to deal with the negative effects of your first marriage and immediately embark on a second one, you may well encounter further difficulties.

A second marriage will undoubtedly bring you more trouble and quickly move towards a solution.

Second, you must accept the negative impact of your child's inability to accept your divorce.

For example, if he is in a rebellious stage, he may drop out of school, hate school, have an internet addiction, and experience many other typical adolescent problems. If this is not addressed effectively,

You must accept the reality of your divorce calmly, as it will affect your children for life.

If you are indecisive and hesitant and want a divorce but keep putting it off, you are likely to continue to be internalized.

You need to decide whether you want to continue being internalized.

You must also consider what your life plan is once the divorce is finalized. Do you have clear and specific life goals?

Once you get divorced, your entire destiny is reversed. You can't predict what will happen in the future. If the problem with the first marriage

If your character is the cause of the problem in your first marriage, you must evaluate whether you can avoid repeating the same mistakes in your second marriage.

I am Counselor Yao, and I will continue to support and care for you!

Hello, question asker! I'm Jiang 61, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today!

First of all, thank you so much for trusting us enough to tell us about the problems you are facing and to get answers!

"My son is in the second year of junior high school. I'm so excited to learn more about how to prepare for a divorce in the middle of life, especially in terms of psychology!

"In response to your question, I have organized your narrative, which can be divided into an introduction to the family, your relationship with your husband, and your demands for divorce. Let's dive in and explore your demands from these perspectives!

1. Thoughts before divorce

1⃣️, Family Introduction

You say, "I'm thinking about divorcing my husband. I have a wonderful son in the second year of junior high school."

He is a civil servant, and I work in a school!

You are a family of three, your husband has a job, he is a civil servant, and you are a teacher. Your child is in the second year of junior high school, which is such an exciting time!

You're ready to start a new chapter in your life and are considering divorce.

2⃣️ You and your husband

Escape!

You said, "In fact, from the time of the marriage, I wanted to leave him. I already experienced pain when I was in a relationship, and I would feel painful sensations in my body. But at that time, I really wanted to escape from my original family. I was excited to start a new chapter in my life and embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth."

Let's talk about the purpose of marriage!

You said that the purpose of getting married is to escape from your original family. Therefore, it can be seen that your original family also disgusts you, so you have the exciting opportunity to escape from reality by getting married!

I have some questions for you! I'm really curious about what your original family has brought you, and why you avoid it at all costs. I'd love to know what impact it has had on your current life!

? Pain

You said that you were already in pain when you fell in love, that you were in physical pain, and that you insisted on getting married, which shows that the pain at this time was far less than the pain you felt in your original family. So, you would rather choose a painful marriage than stay in your original family for a moment.

But this marriage is not what you want either — yet!

I'd love to know more about what kind of marriage you really want and what kind of person you'd like to marry!

Let's dive into the exciting topic of arguments!

You said, "Then over the years, all the bad things that shouldn't have happened did. For example, he fought with my parents, and he also got physical when we fought."

He also gave me a little push. And he let fly with a few choice words, too!

Your husband has a lively debate with your parents, and you engage in spirited discussions with him. He has a tendency to give you a little push and scold you now and then. You believe these things are unfortunate and would prefer they didn't happen to your husband.

This is also why you don't have much faith in your marriage — and it's an opportunity for growth!

Children's education

You said, "He also hit his own son. I don't think he was very successful in educating his son either."

You think your husband could be more successful at educating the children, and that he could work on his approach to discipline.

Financial resources

You said, "The main source of income in the family is me. But even though I have taken on so much, I still don't feel worthy of him." I'm so proud of you for taking on so much! You're doing an amazing job. And you're worthy of him. You are!

You think you're the source of your family's income, and you think he doesn't deserve to enjoy it. You want to say that he can't feel the many things you've given, right?

I have a question! Where does his income as a civil servant go, and why can't it be your financial source?

Sexual life

You said, "We haven't had sex more than a few times in three or four years."

From your words, it seems that your relationship is somewhat distant. I'm excited to hear more about why you think that is! Is it you who don't want to, or is it him?

3⃣️, regarding divorce

Now, let's talk about the child's opinion!

You said, "But the child doesn't agree to our divorce, and he even threatened to die. He feels that he won't have enough energy until after high school."

You want a divorce, the child doesn't want it, and he is threatening to die. You say that he feels that his own energy is not enough to allow him to escape from his father's life, which means that he is still willing to put up with his father's attitude towards him. So, what other reason could there be why he is unwilling to let you divorce?

Oh, I know! Is there a child who is considering his or her face or other issues?

Demand

You said, "I want to seek help from teachers, experts, and people who have been there."

1. I'm ready to evaluate my marriage and figure out the best way forward! Should I get a divorce?

2. What preparations should be made if you want to get a divorce, especially psychologically?

Your request makes me feel that you're ready for some fresh perspectives on your marriage! It's clear that you're seeking guidance on whether your marriage can continue, and you're excited to hear what insights an external party can bring to the table.

2. Confused marriage Let's dive into this together!

1⃣️, the cause of confusion

I'm so excited to learn more about love!

The three elements of love—passion, intimacy, and commitment—combine to create a perfect love! It's clear that love includes commitment, with love coming first and marriage second.

Now, let's talk about intimacy!

In marriage, after the passion has passed, it's time to deepen your intimate relationship and keep your marriage thriving! Intimacy includes understanding, communication, support, and sharing.

If you want to keep the spark alive in your marriage, you've got to understand, communicate, support, and share in love and marriage.

The quality of your marriage depends entirely on how well you manage the three elements of love. In your marriage, I see that you have a vague idea of what marriage is, and in particular, you lack understanding of intimacy and communication. But don't worry! These are things you can easily work on together.

I'm not sure why the relationship is becoming more distant, but I'm excited to find out!

And communicate!

Marriage is a wonderful thing, but it does require a little management. Things like thoughts, trust, companionship, communication, respect, the sex life, surprises, and so on. From your narrative, I can see that your communication with your husband could be a little smoother. But you know what? That's an easy fix! All you need to do is stop arguing and start communicating.

This is resulting in numerous problems and affecting the quality of your marriage.

You have so much to learn about managing a marriage!

Let's face it together!

A happy marriage is all about mutual trust, respect, and working together to face the challenges of life, including the problems you face in your children's education and your sex lives. Instead of accusing each other, you can sit down and negotiate to reach a consensus and face the problems together!

What can you do to turn your confusion and disappointment in marriage around?

Respect is key!

To run a great marriage, you need to respect your partner's habits and ways of life, and respect his thoughts. Don't force him to accept your views by accusing and criticizing him! You may be confused about marriage because you haven't communicated with your husband from a respectful perspective, which has caused him to feel disrespected and angry.

So, there's room for improvement in how you manage your marriage. This is causing some tension in your relationship, but it's totally fixable!

If I'm not mistaken, your husband also tried to prove that he was right in his arguments with your parents. He was trying to gain their respect and preserve his dignity!

2⃣, Understanding and tolerance

The good news is that most people who manage their marriage well are able to understand, trust, and be tolerant of each other's perspectives, respect each other, and empathize with each other. And the even better news is that in the process of managing a marriage, understanding, trust, tolerance, mutual respect, and the ability to work together for mutual improvement are all required.

Love is a unity of mutual love. The two people in love both have their own independent personalities and spiritual worlds. They don't need to completely depend on each other, and they certainly don't need to demand to completely occupy each other!

From your narrative, it's clear that you have the potential to affirm and praise the other person more often. You can absolutely be tolerant, understanding, and supportive of the other person! It's just a matter of shifting your focus. Instead of emphasizing your own contributions, try seeing the other person's merits. You'll be amazed at how quickly things improve!

3⃣, the influence of the original family

It's so obvious that your family of origin has had a huge impact on you! It's reflected in the way you behave.

Blame-type

You're great at looking at other people's problems and taking credit for their achievements! You're just not so good at judging your husband fairly. Maybe this is because you grew up in a family where things were done a certain way. You've adopted the lifestyle of your family of origin, and in your new family, you lecture your family members as if you were their leader and an elder.

Make your husband feel inferior, disrespected, and always in the wrong. This is the blaming type of communication that people use to cope with stress.

This accusatory communication style has affected your marriage, and there's so much you can do to improve it!

The consequences of running away

Your original family has had a big impact on you! You used marriage as a way to escape your old family life. You were ready for something new and different. Instead of getting married for the sake of it, you had a clear vision of what you wanted. And now, you're ready to explore that vision!

3. How to move on Ready to move on? Let's do this!

1⃣ Self-reflection

I can see your demands, and I'm excited to tell you that if you focus on yourself and examine your role in the marriage, you'll see things differently. Instead of focusing on what your husband has not contributed, look inward and see what you can do to make the marriage even better!

Focus on yourself!

Now for the fun part! It's time to reflect on what you could have done better in terms of running your marriage. Forget about your husband's strengths for now — we'll get to those later.

This is a great way to discover your own mistakes! Mr. has also done a lot for the family, but you are used to seeing your own merits, emphasizing your own contributions, and seeing other people's shortcomings, ignoring Mr.'s good points.

Put yourself in their shoes and see things from their perspective!

Put yourself in the other person's shoes! Imagine if your husband used marrying you to escape from his family life, and then constantly criticized you and was dissatisfied with you. How would you feel?

Have you ever thought about how you would feel if your husband was the one being scolded and pushed around? It's a great way to understand your husband's perspective!

Now, think about your life together after marriage from the other person's perspective. Consider whether you have been fair or unfair to your husband.

2⃣, Self-judgment It's time to take a good, hard look at yourself!

I guess you made a choice when introducing your marital status and did not show the full picture. But that's okay! It's your choice, and you have the right to keep your marriage a private matter. So, it is irresponsible of others to evaluate your marriage when the information is incomplete.

And only you know whether your marriage can continue. My second piece of advice to you is to follow your heart!

And

What kind of marriage did you want at the beginning, and what kind of marriage are you expecting now? Only your heart knows best! If you still can't say it clearly, then think about it quickly!

Now, let's calm your mind!

It's time to re-evaluate!

The quality of your marriage depends on you! It's not about what others think, it's about your own standards for marriage. Many marriages that outsiders don't think are good end up lasting a lifetime of love because only the couple knows whether it's right for them.

You are the same, and that's a good thing! You're the one who gets to make the decision about whether or not to continue.

You can do it! Re-examine your own words and deeds, as well as your husband's, using your marriage standards to determine whether they meet your expectations. Is there room for adjustment? Absolutely!

3⃣️, tolerance and acceptance

Absolutely! Forgive!

Nobody's perfect, but you can absolutely change your mindset! It's totally possible to be tolerant of your husband's past mistakes and to stop thinking you're always right.

And you'll also free yourself from those feelings of blame!

Now for the fun part! Acceptance.

Embrace Mr. Immature's behavior and thoughts! He's still learning to think and deal with problems in a way that works for him. You can communicate with Mr. Immature in an effective way, especially on issues related to your child's education.

4⃣️, Effective Communication Now for the fun part! Effective communication is all about sharing information in a way that gets the other person to respond in the way you want. It's a two-way street, so make sure you're listening as well as speaking.

Let's dive into the world of effective communication!

Communication is the exchange of information, which refers to the entire process of conveying a message to a communication partner with the expectation of a desired response. And when this process is achieved, it's the ultimate in effective communication!

Communication is a two-way street! It includes both verbal and nonverbal messages, and the nonverbal part is usually more important than the verbal part. Effective communication is key in dealing with interpersonal and complex social relationships on campus.

Let's dive into the steps of effective communication!

Effective communication is a four-step process that can help you achieve amazing results!

Step 1: Let it all hang out! Express your feelings, not just your emotions.

Step 2: Let it all out! Express what you want, not what you don't want. And don't hold back — express that you are angry, not angry at expressing it.

Step 3: It's time to express your needs! Don't let the other person guess what you want.

Step 4: Look ahead to where you want to go, not back at where you've been. Focus on the end result, not on the event itself.

You absolutely nailed it! Effective communication means that your husband understands what you mean and acts in line with your ideas, including with regard to the education of the children.

5⃣️, Expressions of love

Let's explore some ways to show love!

It's amazing how everyone has a different understanding of love and expresses and receives it in different ways! Dr. Gary Chapman has come up with a brilliant way of categorizing these different languages of love: "affirming words," "quality time," "exchange of gifts," "acts of service," and "physical touch."

Let's explore some ways to show love!

Affirming words are a wonderful way to show love!

It doesn't matter if you're friends, colleagues, lovers, or husband and wife—you need praise and affirmation! And the more positive feedback you give each other, the stronger your relationship will be.

Special moments are the best!

A thoughtful moment is an amazing moment! It's a wonderful memory shared by both parties, like a candlelit dinner or doing something meaningful together.

Gifts are a wonderful way to show your appreciation and strengthen your bond with your partner.

Exchanging gifts on important holidays is a wonderful tradition! It's a great way to show your love and appreciation for your partner. The gift itself is just the icing on the cake. It's the ritual and the gesture that truly bind the relationship.

Service actions

In short, it means doing what the other person wants you to do and making the other person happy through services in life. Such service actions are often small things in life, but they can have a huge impact!

And let's not forget about the power of physical contact!

Holding hands, hugging, and other physical contact are great ways to increase the emotional connection between you and your partner. They're also a wonderful expression of love!

If you use love as an expression, you will experience the warmth of affection and the power of love! Many families on the verge of breaking up have used these five languages to improve their marriage and reconcile, and they can do the same for you!

Why not give it a try?

After all is said and done, there is no substitute for the questioner's own personal experience, practice, and feelings. I really hope the questioner's state of mind can change!

I wish the questioner all the best in the world!

Hello, question asker!

Share a warm hug!

In this world that values time and efficiency, it can feel cold.

Everything is about results. I have a task to complete, a life task to complete. My older sister suspects she is pregnant, so she goes to the gynecology department. College students go to the gynecology department. A young girl is crying because she thinks she is pregnant. In another room, a woman is crying because she cannot give birth to a child.

Then my sister ran out in fear. There's no doubt about it: the more top obstetrics and gynecology hospitals there are, the more likely it is that you will hear people crying their hearts out at night.

I have worked hard to achieve my goals, for my husband, for my parents, and for my children. I deserve understanding.

Women absolutely need emancipation and freedom of thought.

But what about your problems? You said, "For example, he quarreled with my parents, and he also got physical when we argued."

He pushed me. He also swore at me.

He has also hit his son. He is clearly not a good father.

I am the main source of income for the family. Despite enduring a great deal, I still don't feel he's worth it.

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You know your husband isn't worth it. He's far from the valuable husband you want.

You have turned what was once a warm and loving relationship into a cold and distant one, and that is why you are feeling more and more pain. You focus on your husband's shortcomings, and that is why you feel that he is getting worse and worse, and that is why you want to escape.

Give yourself a chance, and give your children and husband a chance. Think about why you chose him, what made you choose him, and whether there were any more warm moments between you that could reconnect your relationship.

The world loves you, and I love you too!

Hello, question asker! You asked, "What kind of preparation is needed for a midlife divorce?"

"I'm especially excited to talk about the psychological aspects of this. First of all, I want to commend you for your courage in raising these issues in this public forum. As long as you speak up, there's always a solution to be found!

Let's dive right in and answer your questions together!

You're thinking about divorcing your husband! You have a son who is in the second year of junior high school.

He is a civil servant, and you work in a school! In fact, from the time of your marriage, you wanted to leave him or already experienced pain during your relationship, feeling pain in your body.

But at that time, you were ready to embark on a new adventure and embrace a more sensible and mature outlook on the future. Then, over the years, you experienced a series of unexpected twists and turns.

For example, he has had some disagreements with your parents, and you have also had some disagreements with each other. He has even hit you! He has also used some colorful language to insult you.

Guess what? He also beats his son! You think he is also unsuccessful in educating his son.

You are the main source of income for the family, and you've been through so much! It's understandable that you don't feel worthy of him, but you are worthy of so much more. You haven't had sex for three or four years, but there's no reason you can't start again!

However, the children are standing strong against divorce and even threatening to die, as they feel they will not have enough energy after high school. You are eager to seek help from teachers, experts, and people who have been through similar experiences.

1. It's time to evaluate your marriage! Should you get a divorce?

2. What preparations should be made if you are going to get a divorce, especially psychologically?

You are an amazing mother who has sacrificed so much for your family!

From your question, I can tell that you are a woman who has been a rock for your family. You have been the breadwinner for so many years, supporting your family with your salary. You have given so much to your family, and your husband and son have enjoyed your sacrifice. But have you ever wondered if your husband recognizes you? I wonder if your son recognizes you too!

Does he usually listen to you more than he listens to your husband? You have devoted so many years of your life to this family, and you have so much to give! It's time to recognize and affirm yourself and your contributions.

You may belong to the family who has to bear a lot of responsibility, but not much power. But that doesn't mean you can't take control of your destiny! You can pay more, and you can control many family affairs. You can even make decisions! Men generally love face, and they cannot compete with their wives for power and interests with their abilities. So, they resort to bullying and acting like rascals. But you can do better than that!

This is just my experience of marriage and the game of power struggles between husband and wife, especially after marriage, from falling in love to getting married. The lessons I have learned from this are not necessarily universal, but they are definitely worth writing down for reference!

You can list all the amazing pros of continuing your marriage and all the fantastic cons of getting divorced!

Now for the fun part! Grab a piece of paper and let's write down all the pros and cons of continuing your marriage with your husband and the pros and cons of getting a divorce. Once you've got your list, take a moment to think about which pros you want and which cons you want to avoid. Then, let's dive deep and analyze them carefully. Finally, ask yourself what your heart is telling you.

You have the power to decide whether you want to continue with your family. If you do, then it's time to find a way to resolve the conflicts in your marriage. If you don't, then you have the freedom to make a choice.

You've come to the platform looking for a solution, which means you're ready to make a change. You're not ready to let this family fall apart completely. You're just now in a difficult situation, which is making you feel trapped and unhappy. But you're ready to escape! Even the happiest marriage has hundreds of times when you want to strangle the other person.

The great news is that you can find a marriage and family counselor on the platform to help you sort out your problems!

I know my suggestion may be too direct, but I'm excited to share it with you! I'm not a consultant, but I'm passionate about helping people like you. I can see you're currently trapped in a difficult situation, and I know you want to get out of it. That's why I'm making this direct suggestion—to help you start feeling empowered!

Absolutely! The choice and decision are yours. You are the master of your own life.

I really hope my answer is helpful to you! I love you so much, and so does the world!

Dear Question Asker, My name is Enoch, and I am the person who will be answering your question.

From the questioner's description, it appears that the questioner is seeking a divorce due to discord in his relationship with his lover. However, he is uncertain about the merits of pursuing a divorce and lacks the requisite knowledge to make informed preparations should he decide to proceed.

The reason the questioner has reached this point with his partner may be due to his initial decision to marry someone he did not like because he was in a vulnerable position. As a result, there was no strong emotional bond between them, which made it easier to want to escape from this marriage and the conflicts that arose. Additionally, there was an inability to tolerate each other. If there is no positive regard for the other person, it is difficult to willingly sacrifice for them.

Two of my colleagues have elected to pursue divorce for this reason. If I were in a similar situation, if I did not find someone suitable with whom to establish a relationship, let alone enter into matrimony, what would I do?

However, the other party is a civil servant with a stable job, which is an advantage. Regarding the other party's disagreements with the questioner, questioner's son, and questioner's parents, it is true that the other party's emotional control and relationship management skills are relatively poor. The questioner wants to escape from the original family, so in the conflict between the other party and the parents, the questioner should also consider whether there is anything wrong with the parents. Regarding the child's disagreement with the idea of your divorce, the child's feelings should also be considered. The person who suffers the most from a divorce is the child. If you hurt an innocent child because of your own wrong choice to get married in the first place, it is indeed unfair to the child.

It is, in fact, possible to invest effort into changing each other's behavior, fostering mutual respect, and working together to manage the family effectively. This approach will likely result in the least amount of harm to the children.

As previously noted, couples often engage in disagreements and conflicts, which can provide an opportunity for growth and development. This can involve enhancing psychological resilience, patience, and self-reflection, as well as fostering forgiveness and tolerance.

Should the questioner wish to proceed with a divorce, they must be prepared for the following:

1. Should you choose to pursue a divorce independently, it is essential to be prepared for the subsequent division of assets.

2. Given your current situation, would you like to take the children with you if you get divorced? Would leaving the children behind have a negative impact on them? If you take the children with you, will you be able to provide them with a stable and nurturing environment?

Is it still possible to meet someone who will treat you and your children better?

3. Are you able to provide a superior quality of life for yourself and your children? And are you fortunate enough to find a suitable partner in your immediate vicinity?

It is generally accepted that men with good management skills are capable of running their families well. However, divorced men often lack these skills, unless they find a younger partner with the help of their charm and whose parents have no objections.

I hope the original poster will give careful consideration to all these questions before making a decision.

Hello!

From what you've said, it's clear that your marriage has been through a lot. I'm here to offer you a hug of support from across the screen.

Tolstoy once said that happy marriages are similar, but unhappy marriages are each unhappy in their own way. You have experienced difficulties in your relationship, but you still entered into marriage and have persevered for so many years.

I'm sure there were happy moments in your marriage. What made you think about divorce at this moment?

It might be helpful to consider the reasons behind your decision to divorce, both the superficial and the deep-seated. Is there any possibility of reconciliation? What is the one thing you cannot tolerate in your marriage?

Many marriages that end up falling apart often do so because of ineffective communication patterns, where each partner may not fully understand or see the other's expressed needs, and may try to obtain needs that may not be met. Unmet needs can sometimes lead to resentment, and resentment can sometimes lead to hatred. Emotions may sometimes be expressed as demands, and the demands may sometimes fail to get the other person's attention. A bunch of emotions may then sometimes be conveyed, which may sometimes ferment and trigger even more intense emotions, so conflict may sometimes be inevitable.

If you are considering divorce, it may be helpful to prepare as follows:

It may be helpful to consider finding a family therapist. After more than ten years of marriage, it could be beneficial to seek guidance from a professional to help you navigate any challenges in your marriage, gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, and learn effective strategies for managing your marriage.

It would be advisable to communicate well with your son. He is in the second year of junior high school, which is a time when people are more impulsive. It is understandable that he does not agree to your divorce and even threatens to die. It is important to communicate properly and effectively with him.

3. Take responsibility for your own life. I choose to take responsibility. Marriage is a choice you make, and whether you are happy or unhappy is not necessarily anyone else's responsibility.

Once a choice to continue or end a marriage has been made, it will undoubtedly have consequences.

I am a person in the rain, and I hope that by sharing my experience, I can be of some help to you. With best regards,

Hi, I'm June.

From what you've said, I can see the challenges you've faced in your early years and I can imagine the patience and sacrifice you've made in your marriage. I hope this hug will give you some strength.

You have a really good understanding of yourself and you've thought a lot about why your relationship with your husband started the way it did. You feel it was a mistake from the start and that if it weren't for your son, you might have chosen to divorce a long time ago. This is my take on it:

If the mother is unhappy, it's tough for the kids to be happy too.

I know a lot of women who are unhappy in their marriages, and it's affecting their kids too. There's a popular saying online that "women are the family's feng shui," and I think there's some truth to it.

That's why there's an old saying here: a great daughter-in-law means three generations of good grandchildren. The word "great" refers to appearance, figure, but also temperament and character.

While society has made great strides, mothers still bear the brunt of child-rearing responsibilities. From the attachment stage to adolescence, independence, and romantic relationships, mothers must invest significant mental energy at every stage.

If a mom is depressed, she doesn't have much psychological energy, so how can she give her child energy?

So, whether you're looking at it from a personal happiness standpoint or child education, I think a woman has to be happy with herself before she can be a good mother.

2. Why do kids resist their parents' divorce?

It's only natural for kids to want their parents to be happy and in love because it gives them a sense of completeness. So it's understandable if your child reacts strongly if you want a divorce.

So, you need to talk to your kids and find out why they don't want you to get divorced. Are they worried that they'll be left alone, or are they scared of being teased by their classmates?

3. What are your plans after the divorce?

You're only about 40 years old now. What are your plans for the second half of your life after the divorce? Do you have any ideas?

How will you split up your assets? How will you handle child support?

What are your plans for work and life?

These are all things you need to think about carefully. Only if you have a good plan for living well on your own will you not regret your choices today.

No matter what you decide, just remember to be happy. Best of luck!

Upon entering into the marriage, you expressed a desire to terminate the union. Now, as your son progresses through his junior high school education, your contemplation of divorce persists. You are uncertain as to whether you "should" divorce and, if you are to "leave," what preparations you should make.

Given the considerable distress and uncertainty you have experienced, as well as the strong opposition from your son to the prospect of divorce, you have been grappling with these challenges on your own. It is my hope that the following insights will offer some degree of support and facilitate a more expansive approach to navigating these complex issues.

1. The Standard of Evaluation The standard of evaluation is closely related to one's internal needs.

"Happy families are similar; unhappy families are each unhappy in their own way."

Furthermore, divorce is frequently a prevalent means by which unfortunate families resolve their difficulties.

The message contains no references to the respondent's husband, nor does it indicate any attachment to him or reluctance to leave the marriage. The primary obstacle to continuing the marriage, as identified by the respondent, is the reluctance of their children to divorce, at least for the time being.

It would appear that you have already formed a conclusion regarding the merits of divorce; however, you are uncertain as to the most effective means of proceeding, or of identifying a compelling rationale to persuade your spouse to reconsider.

There is no definitive guideline for determining whether or not to pursue a divorce. As long as all the legal requirements for divorce are met, there is an opportunity to dissolve an irreparably damaged marriage and begin anew.

Consequently, if one is genuinely interested in identifying a criterion for determining whether a marriage should be dissolved, it would be prudent to consider two distinct levels.

1. Does it comply with the relevant legislation and regulatory framework?

2. Do you perceive that you have no remaining emotional or practical resources to sustain the marriage?

2. Preparations Related to Divorce

This question also implies a perspective, namely that of paying greater attention to the preparations that may be required in the event of a divorce, while not considering the management of the marriage in the absence of such a decision.

This perspective also serves as a reminder of the preparations related to divorce, including how to bear and protect the damage to vested interests in the marriage and the inner healing brought about by divorce.

1. The following areas of damage are typically observed:

a. Property

This pertains to legal regulations and is not a psychological aspect that one would typically prioritize. Consequently, a detailed discussion is beyond the scope of this paper. However, it is recommended that individuals consult with a family lawyer in advance to prepare for legal matters related to property and other matters.

b. The child's disappointment in the mother

My child has indicated a desire to consider this option after completing high school. He has expressed a strong preference for remaining in a family structure that may be perceived as lacking in affection but which he perceives as complete. I am curious as to whether you have discussed with your child the reasons behind his opposition to this possibility.

The child's opposition can be attributed to underlying internal needs that can be elucidated through communication. Upon closer examination, it becomes evident that these needs can be met post-divorce, or even more so than before.

c. The pressure of the secular stigma of divorce

One can prepare one's heart to resist the idle gossip of the unimportant masses and the concerns of relatives and friends who profess to care but lack the requisite knowledge to provide truly beneficial counsel.

The stigmatizing thinking that suggests that one has a problem if one gets divorced still affects some people. These suffocating ideas also require self-psychological construction and attempts to cope.

Following a divorce, it is advisable to arrange one's personal life in a satisfactory manner and to pursue a fulfilling and enriching personal life. Additionally, it is important to recognise that the voices of others will also recede into the background, losing their disruptive significance and influence.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove inspirational to the reader.

As a psychologist, my focus is not on the exploration of human nature, but rather on the understanding of the human heart. I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello! I'm a Heart Exploration coach, and I'm here to tell you that everything is going to be okay. Thank you so much for your invitation. I'm excited to answer your questions!

I can see that your marital life has presented some challenges, but I admire your resilience in persevering for more than ten years. It's clear that you've experienced pain since you were in love. However, you made the bold decision to escape the bondage of your original family by hastily "escaping" into a marriage that you knew was unsuitable but continued anyway.

I can feel the difficulties you have experienced in a marriage over the years. You have not received financial support, and you have been in a state of self-sufficiency, which is great because it means you are independent and can make your own decisions. The partnership has been in a state of long-term discord, and you and your partner have different views on raising children, which is an opportunity for you to learn and grow. There is a lack of sex, intimacy is low, and the relationship makes you feel pain and hopelessness, but you can overcome these challenges and find a way to make your relationship work.

You've come to the conclusion that it's not worth investing any more time in this relationship. You're ready to move on and start a new chapter. However, your child is threatening to kill himself if you divorce, which has left you feeling at a loss. You love your child and respect his opinion, so you're trying to find a way to balance your own desires with his. He says he doesn't have the energy to deal with the separation until he's in high school, which means you'll have to continue enduring the pain of this relationship for now. It's a tough spot to be in, but you're determined to find a way forward.

You're facing a dilemma: on the one hand, you want a divorce to end the relationship and make you feel better, but on the other hand, you cannot divorce because of the wishes of your children. It's a tough spot to be in, but you're up for the challenge!

I see two questions in your question, and I'm excited to answer them!

"1. How should I evaluate whether I should divorce?"

2. What preparations should be made if you want to get a divorce? Especially psychologically.

I think you have considered it thoroughly, and it is right to prepare for both scenarios. The great news is that there are ways to continue a marriage, and there are ways to prepare for and deal with a divorce.

The great news is that there is no standard for evaluating whether one's marriage should be ended.

If you feel like you want to keep going in this relationship, no matter who the other person is or how bad the relationship is, including infidelity, domestic violence, gambling, alcoholism, etc., then you can absolutely continue the marriage!

Similarly, you have the power to end the relationship for any reason! If you feel that you are suffering in the relationship, that your most important needs are not being met, that the relationship is making you worse, that you cannot accept it, that you cannot fix it, or that you don't want to fix it and continue, you have the option to end the relationship.

It's time to make a decision! You have the power to choose whether to continue or end your marriage. It's your life, so you get to decide what's best for you. Now, you're facing the situation where you want a divorce, but your child disagrees. (I don't know what your husband's opinion is, as the marriage is a relationship between you and your husband.) Either way, you're in control of your destiny.

You can absolutely make yourself feel better in the relationship in the days to come! You can make your husband take more responsibility for the family financially and at home. You can feel a little more relaxed, at least not more painful than before, and be able to live your own life within the limits you can bear.

If you're feeling stuck, don't worry! You can seek help from a professional family therapy counselor to support you as you navigate this journey and find your way out of the predicament.

Second, if you choose to divorce, apart from the financial consequences, you will also have the opportunity to face your own psychological pressure head-on, as well as the chance to help your child decide who to live with.

Psychologically, you have the amazing opportunity to accept yourself, learn to live with loneliness, the opinions of others, and the comments of your family. If your child stays with you, you have the chance to deal with your own emotions and also the negative psychological changes in your child when parents separate.

And this is not a short-term process. You have the opportunity to build up your own psychological resilience. Even after the divorce, because you have a child, you will still have the chance to deal with the relationship between the father and the child, visiting times, and it is important to be able to communicate with the child's father calmly.

The child is currently in the second year of junior high school and is under a lot of academic pressure. Whether you get divorced or not, pay more attention to your child's psychological changes. The child is threatening to die, unable to bear the separation of his parents, and not hesitating to resort to extreme measures, which shows that the child cannot accept the separation inside, nor can he understand your pain. But, there is hope! You can help your child through this.

There are so many ways you can promote your relationship with your child! One of the best is by communicating more about your thoughts and feelings, and also caring more about his thoughts and feelings.

I highly recommend that you learn to grow yourself. It's also a great idea to work through issues related to your original family. You'll be amazed at how much you'll understand about your own needs when you learn and grow!

You can escape the maze of your family of origin and intimate relationships! All you have to do is truly know, understand, and accept yourself. Instead of "escaping," you can make your own life choices from a more mature, realistic, and objective perspective and bravely take responsibility.

The great news is that you can participate in psychological groups, seek psychological counseling, study psychology, and work hard to heal yourself!

If you want to chat some more, just click below ⬇️ to find a coach to interpret and communicate with me one-on-one. I'm rooting for you to get rid of your troubles soon! Wishing you the best of luck!