My younger brother is very rebellious, never liked studying since childhood, and every time I come home, the atmosphere feels strange?

Hello! It seems like you and your mother care a lot about your younger brother's studies. You might have neglected him in other areas because you focus so much on his studies.

You don't realize this.

Your brother doesn't seem bothered by his studies. He probably doesn't think they're bad for him. The key to changing is realizing your current behavior affects you. Otherwise, change is hard.

If we feel uncomfortable with someone's behavior, we should ask ourselves if there's something in ourselves causing it. Then we can work on it.

If we want others to change, we have to make them feel accepted, understood, affirmed, and supported. Only when someone feels good about themselves do they want to improve themselves. What do you think?

I'm Lily from Q&A Pavilion. I love you.

Good day, question asker.

From your question, it is evident that you are a perceptive and mature child. You are attempting to assist your mother in her responsibilities and are contemplating the most effective approach to educate your brother.

1. First, let us consider your younger brother. He is currently in the second year of junior high school, which indicates that he has likely reached puberty. Puberty is a unique period of maturation, and many adolescents will exhibit behaviors commonly referred to as "rebellion" during this time.

Some behaviors are more radical than others, and some are more gentle. As they feel they have reached adulthood, they seek to break through restrictions and gain freedom. Conversely, prolonged suppression or excessive attention can incite rebellion, with the individual asserting their autonomy and independence.

This is a consequence of the inherent tensions of life, which are challenging to circumvent. As the questioner observed, his younger brother never exhibited an affinity for study during his formative years, and thus was compelled to engage with written materials. This experience, coupled with the aforementioned factors, led to a sense of distress, prompting a rebellious response and a desire for autonomy.

2. It would be beneficial for the questioner to consider what the ideal state for this family would be. As previously mentioned, the description indicates that there is never any peace for the four members of the family. Therefore, it would be valuable to ascertain whether "peace" in the home is a priority for the questioner.

The question thus arises as to how this state can be achieved. It would appear that as long as the brother in question refrains from swearing, the house will remain quiet.

Has the questioner observed when his younger brother does not use profanity?

It would be beneficial to ascertain what he was doing at that time and his emotional state.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether this can be achieved with greater regularity.

3. As a result of these familial issues, the questioner is experiencing a considerable degree of fatigue. This is an accurate assessment. All individuals aspire to reside in an environment characterised by tranquillity and harmony.

If one engages in frequent conflict, it can be distressing. It is evident that a considerable amount of effort has been invested in this endeavour.

Additionally, you are a few years older than your younger brother, which makes the situation particularly challenging. We can interact with your younger brother on an equal footing and engage in conversation with him as friends to gain a deeper understanding of his perspective.

It would be beneficial to gain a deeper understanding of his perspective and to accept him unconditionally. It is possible that he is experiencing some degree of discomfort or dissatisfaction.

I wish you the best of success in your endeavors.