Not venting is quite dull, am I considered to be a chatterbox, isn't that wrong?

Hello, questioner!

I'm glad you're addressing this issue. It can be awkward to discuss finances with relatives.

It's tough to say no when people say things like "taking care of you" and "because of our relationship..." You feel trapped and go to another relative to vent, but you're afraid she'll tell the other person, who might then avoid you. So now you're torn between what you believe to be right and what you fear will happen if you do it. I can really understand how you feel!

After reading this question, I thought it might be helpful to analyze it from a realistic and psychological perspective for the questioner's reference:

On the practical level:

Before you talk about it, I just want to remind you to be discerning and aware when talking to yourself. It's also important to find the right person to talk to about certain things. For example, in this case, you can talk to friends or colleagues, as these people have nothing to do with the person involved. It's probably best not to talk to people with a vested interest, such as relatives or neighbors!

This is important in family relationships and the workplace, so keep it in mind going forward!

To relatives who ask for more money: I get that you're not comfortable expressing yourself when you find that the products recommended by your relatives are more expensive than the market price and the quality is not satisfactory. It's tough for you, as a junior, to speak up!

But if you let yourself be made uncomfortable again and again, doesn't it make you feel suffocated? We can express our views politely but firmly to our relatives, for example, "Dear **, why does the gas you give me not last long?"

"Or next time, you can choose not to let the other person help, and go to the market on your own to find what you think is suitable, and try to compare it more. There are more options in the market, and you can choose and try them all. You are the master of your own actions!

From a psychological perspective:

3. It's normal to worry that you'll offend your relatives and become even more lonely after your father's death. You can feel your lack of support right now and long for the warmth from your relatives!

The thing is, it's already happened, and there's nothing you can do to change it. Plus, there's no way of knowing whether your cousin told her mother or whether they told the person involved. You can't control that.

The key thing to remember here is that this is a learning opportunity for you!

If you're feeling really anxious, you can ask yourself the following questions:

a. What would the person involved do if they knew about it? What are your thoughts on the matter?

b. What evidence backs up your thoughts?

c. What evidence is there to the contrary?

d. What's the worst that could happen? How would you handle it if it did?

e. If this situation persists, what's the most realistic outcome?

f. If this happened to your best friend or a family member, what would you suggest she do?

g. What would you do to move in a positive direction and take a small step? Is there anything else I can help with?

I hope my reply helps the person who asked the question!

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

From what you've told me, I understand that your father passed away last year. I'm here for you, and I'm sending you a big hug. I know that what you've mentioned are just the surface-level problems. What we need to do is to deal with our inner relationships. First, we need to help you heal from your father's passing. Second, we need to help you release your inner emotions in a timely manner.

It's also important to learn how to deal with any conflicts or contradictions you might have with other people.

It would be really helpful for you to say goodbye to your dad properly and to go for some grief therapy.

It's okay to accept that Dad has gone. It's also okay to feel all the sad emotions inside you. Don't repress them. Say goodbye to Dad. Write a letter to him. Start with "Dear Dad, I want to say to you..." Then, write down all the feelings and thoughts you want to express. Write about whatever you want, like regret, guilt, reluctance, love, sadness, anger. You can write about all of it.

After you've written, you can end it like this: "Dear Dad, I wish you well and ask you to bless us too. I'm going to say goodbye to you now. I will live well with the love and support you have given me. I wish you all the best."

It's totally okay to talk to someone if you need to. It's important to remember that it's not good to keep all your feelings inside. It's better to let them out and then you'll feel better.

2. It's so important to regularly release your emotions.

I can tell you're feeling a lot of different emotions right now. It's okay to feel sad about your dad leaving, but there are other feelings too. It's good to let them out in a way that feels right for you. Here are some ideas:

1. It's so important to socialize with friends who can support you and encourage you. It's also good to make sure you feel comfortable with them.

2. Go for a walk, play some tennis, or do whatever sport you like! And don't forget to relax along the way.

2. Go for a walk, play some sports, and enjoy the relaxation that comes with it.

3. Writing therapy: This is your chance to let it all out! Write down all your feelings and thoughts on paper, without worrying about whether the handwriting is neat and tidy or the content logical. Just express yourself as much as you like.

3. Writing therapy: It's totally okay to just let it all out on paper! Don't worry about whether your handwriting is neat and tidy or if the content makes sense. Just let your feelings and thoughts flow freely.

4. Sometimes, you just need to let out some steam. Why not punch a pillow or a sandbag to release your anger by hitting a soft object?

4. Sometimes, you just need to let out some steam. Why not punch a pillow or a sandbag to release your anger by hitting a soft object?

5. Try the empty chair technique to release your emotions. In a room, place an empty chair, and imagine the person you want to talk to is sitting in it. You can express yourself to the chair—anger, abuse, or anything else you're feeling is fine.

5. Here's another great technique: Use the empty chair technique to release emotions. All you have to do is place an empty chair in a room, sit down in it, and then you can express yourself to the chair (anger, abuse are fine).

3. When you find yourself in a disagreement with someone, try to remember to focus on the specific issue at hand.

To have great relationships with the people you love, including your parents, partners, relatives, and friends, it's important to learn to separate issues. This means understanding the difference between what's going on in your life and what's going on with the people you love. It's also about taking responsibility for your own life and not letting other people's issues affect you.

So, how can you tell the difference?

It's really quite straightforward: the person who has to deal with the direct consequences of an action is the one who is responsible for that action.

It's really quite simple! The person who has to deal with the consequences of an action is the one who bears them.

Let's say, for instance, that a mother lets her child wear short sleeves indoors in the winter. She'll have to face a few things, like her mother-in-law's opinion and a bit of nagging, the chance of the child catching a cold, and the child learning to understand warmth and cold on their own and exercising their independence.

We all know that nothing is perfect, but we have to make our own decisions. Once we've made a decision, we have to live with the consequences, but we can always learn from them.

And the mother-in-law's nagging is her own business. The mother of the child doesn't have to shoulder the responsibility alone. The mother-in-law may nag not only because of this matter, but also because of other things, and not only nag the daughter-in-law, but also others. As daughter-in-laws, we have no control over any of this, so there's no need to dwell on it, because it's the mother-in-law's problem.

So, it's time to think about which responsibilities you're ready to take on and which you'd rather not. You can choose to continue letting this relative deliver gas to your home. If you do, you'll need to be prepared for some of the consequences, like them still taking advantage of you and nagging you.

So, it's time to think about which responsibilities you're ready to take on and which you'd rather not. You can choose to let this relative continue delivering gas to your home. If you do, you'll need to accept that they might still take advantage of you or nag you. You can also choose not to let them deliver gas to your home. If you do, you'll need to accept that they might say bad things about you or complain about you to other relatives.

Ultimately, it's up to you. Just be sure to distinguish between your own concerns and those of others. Take charge of your own issues and don't let others' concerns affect you. You'll feel so much better!

Ultimately, it's up to you. Just be sure to distinguish between your own concerns and those of others. Take pride in taking charge of your own issues and don't let anyone else's concerns weigh you down. You'll feel so much better!

I used to be like you. I liked to talk to people and vent, but I later realized this didn't bring me happiness. It was just a moment of relief, and the next feeling wasn't very good. I even felt a little bit like I didn't like myself and I was denying myself.

But then, as my own perception continued to grow, I changed and found other ways that suited me to deal with some of my emotions.

Let me talk about my process now. Looking back on that period of time, I analyzed some of the reasons for my love of complaining, which were roughly as follows:

At that time, I had no choice but to vent to people and complain about things as a way to deal with emotions and sort things out.

2. I don't trust myself, and I want others to validate my actions and choices so I can prove whether I'm right or wrong.

3. I don't know what approach to use to better deal with the problems at hand, so I seek support by pouring out my heart.

4. I have not yet acquired the ability to analyze, choose, and bear the consequences.

Later, as I continued to learn, grow, and reflect on my life experiences, I found that I could stop feeling like complaining. Some words would appear in my mind.

"I can."

"I know what to do."

"I know what they want."

"I know what I want."

"This is my limit. Respect it."

"I can say no to you."

"I will accept the consequences of my choices."

"No matter what choice I make, I accept myself."

There are many things in life that need to be dealt with, and there are also many emotions that need to be sorted out.

To sort out your emotions, you need to be self-aware and empathetic towards others.

When dealing with things, you need to know what the other person wants and what I want, as well as the boundaries of others.

I need to know the best way to replace "venting."

Keep learning in various ways and explore inwardly.

Be self-aware. Ask yourself: What am I worried about? What do I need?

Express yourself through writing therapy. Use voice input to save time and stay on topic, even if there's no response.

Do something on platforms and media that you are good at, or that is helpful and valuable to others. Get a response, even if it is just a meaningful comment.

Use the psychological technique of the empty chair to express yourself by constantly venting to two characters.

Use sports, personal hobbies, or discovering the beauty in life to fill your mind with things to talk about.

Improve your interpersonal skills and social adaptability.

Know your boundaries. Know what they are and what they are not.

You must learn to analyze before making a choice. Once you have made a choice, you must take responsibility for it and accept the consequences.

If you accept yourself, you won't expect affirmation from others. You can learn to ask for help appropriately.

You will grow. It will happen little by little, but it will happen. Think, learn, and act, and change will come.

Hello! I'm sending you a hug.

You feel depressed, in pain, and longing for support, understanding, listening, and comfort because of your father's departure.

You care about the price because you're short on money or because you usually shop there. You compare prices and find they're always higher and the quality is poor. This hurts you as a consumer.

You choose them because you trust them and want to take care of each other. Especially after your father died, you need emotional support and understanding. But they don't respond to you the way you want.

When your father passed away, you didn't deal with your sadness. You tried to hide it because you had other things to do. But these emotions won't disappear just because you hide them. When you're in emotional distress, you'll feel it more than usual. You might not think about how you express your emotions. You'll just do what you've always done. You'll vent to others, for example. You'll look for someone to listen to you, to comfort you, to understand you, and to support you. When you find that they can't give you what you need, you'll realize that you've chosen the wrong person or method.

Every decision you make is the best you can make at the time. So, accept your emotions and then try to understand what you need.

Keep an emotional diary to record and release your emotions.

We need to understand our emotions before we can respond to them. So, try to understand your emotions and care for yourself. Then, you will meet your needs.

I'm Lily, the Q&A Museum's little ear. The world and I love you.

Hello! I'm so happy I could help! When our rights are violated by others, when we are in trouble and can't help but tell others about it, and when others, especially relatives, encourage us, it can feel really sad. But there's a way to turn this around! It's like drinking cold water and getting a tooth stuck. Why is it that it seems like it's my fault in the end even though it's obviously their fault?

First, let's dive in and figure out what's making us anxious!

First of all, the death of a family member can be a major change for us. In the process, we will feel the uncertainty of life, and may even think about it further. We will always be unable to catch our breath, and be immersed in the grief of losing a loved one.

In the process, we may encounter some less-than-stellar behavior from other relatives, but we can choose to see this as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. It's all about embracing the journey and trusting that life is full of lessons and surprises. The source of all this is the anxiety caused by the inconsistency between our psychological needs and our actual needs. This is something we can work on together!

So, what should we do?

First, we should embrace the natural course of things and take action when a loved one passes away. The death of a loved one is a regret we can never forget, so we don't need to forget it. Instead, we can learn and grow from it by handling the relationship between our life, work, and family while remembering and immersing ourselves in our memories.

Second, it's time to level up your self-differentiation game! This is all about treating the little things in life with a cool, calm, and collected mindset. No more letting emotions get in the way. You've got this! Ready to level up your self-differentiation skills? Try climbing a mountain, making a plan, and seeing it through to the end. You'll be amazed at what you can achieve!

Finally, when dealing with "relatives," reduce financial involvement. In fact, our ancestors and psychology have both pointed out very well that a relationship of family and friendship must be excellent, but never test it with money or benefits.

And guess what? The same applies to us! So, in the future, we should buy our daily necessities normally, not from relatives, not taking advantage of others, and not testing the limits of human relationships. Who knows what unexpected rewards we might get! For our aunt, all we can do is to leave it to time. Time is the best medicine in the world, and it can handle all our worries.

I know you can do it! Pull yourself together and hang in there!