Pandemic, unemployment, and not knowing what you can do, what should you do?

Hello!

The good news is that unemployment is not about not having an income. So, there is no need to be anxious!

So, let's dive right in and figure out how we can increase our income!

The good news is that there are actually quite a lot of things you can do!

If you're looking for a way to make some extra cash in a hurry, why not try a part-time job? It's a great way to tide you over if you're short on savings. There are all kinds of gigs you can do, like delivering food, using the "rider" app, or apps like "Gaode Taojin" that help you take pictures and get a commission. You might not make a fortune, but every little bit helps!

In short, find a part-time job that you can do to get through this period!

Second, it's time to level up your abilities!

Professional competence: If you want to avoid being laid off in the future, you need to be irreplaceable—and you can be!

Once you've improved your financial management skills and professional abilities, you'll find there's no limit to what you can achieve! Learning low-level financial management will help you face the future with confidence, spending wisely and saving money. You'll also gain an understanding of low-risk investments, which will be invaluable in the event of layoffs or similar periods of no income. And if you want to take it to the next level, learning advanced financial management, making money with money and achieving financial freedom will free you from the worry of money!

(Just a heads-up: High returns come with high risks. But don't let that stop you! Invest with caution. And don't invest in anything you don't understand.)

Third: Send your resume, look for a job, and see if there is one you are satisfied with. You never know what amazing opportunity might be waiting for you!

Fourth: Self-Health Management. It's so easy to get caught up in relaxing at home, but don't forget to make time for exercise!

And remember, whether you find a job or not, you can still stay active and engaged at home! If you have the time and inclination, you can cultivate your hobbies.

I really believe that these four points are going to help you in so many ways! I hope they can really help you.

Hello, question asker. I see you're confused. Hugs!

You have career problems. Let me give you a hug.

You feel guilty for not improving yourself while working.

But you can change yourself.

Recognizing a problem is the first step to healing. You can get out of your current situation.

How do you want to change?

You could look for part-time work.

For example, a delivery person or takeout worker.

You can also take online courses in your free time.

Take some computer courses.

Many jobs have been automated by computers. If you know about this, it can help you find a new job.

I hope you find a solution soon.

I can only think of these things.

I hope my answer helps and inspires you. I am the answer, and I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!

I embrace the questioner and acknowledge the depth of their emotional state. I perceive that your psychological disposition mirrors the prevalent condition of a significant proportion of the population: unemployed, confined to the domestic sphere, and afflicted by anxiety and depression. Undoubtedly, this is a challenging period.

Your query indicates a keen interest in effecting a change in the status quo. Let us now examine the cards you have been dealt.

At the age of 33, one might perceive oneself as no longer belonging to the younger demographic, particularly in comparison to individuals who have recently completed their education. This perception could lead to feelings of inadequacy. However, it is important to recognize that this is not an insurmountable challenge.

At the age of 33, one can begin to make up lost time. Ten years later, at the age of 43, one can become an expert in a certain field. Regardless of one's industry, there are always individuals who earn high incomes. The longer one accumulates experience, the higher one's income will be.

Henceforth, it is advisable to pursue a chosen field of study, maintain consistency in one's academic trajectory, and adhere to it for a minimum of ten years.

Currently, one can rely on parental income, which is advantageous. This allows one to confidently select a desired field of study without undue concern about financial constraints in the initial stages. It is crucial to have the backing of one's family.

It is possible that one's parents may be able to provide assistance during the initial period of unemployment. This period presents a unique opportunity for individuals to accumulate energy, enhance their abilities, and facilitate personal growth and development.

Unemployment is indeed a crisis, and it is imperative to identify potential opportunities amidst this challenging situation. This presents an invaluable chance to engage in forward-thinking and structured planning for one's future.

One might posit that had there been no layoffs, the individual would still be in the same state, anticipating work and enjoying coffee after work. This state of affairs could have persisted for years, until the gradual effects of the situation caused a loss of sharpness.

By that time, you will have a family to support, which will make it more challenging to catch up at the age of 40 or 50 than it is now.

It is evident that individuals above the age of 40, 50, and even 70, who are active in various fields, are still seeking opportunities to connect with the world and contribute their social value. It can be argued that one's life commences at the age of 33, particularly when one is unemployed.

In ten years' time, you may well be grateful for the introspection you are currently undergoing. From this perspective, unemployment is both a disadvantage and an opportunity.

Such an experience prompts a shift in perspective, prompting individuals to approach life with a renewed outlook. It is therefore advisable to carefully consider one's position, re-open a skill and cultivate it deeply.

It is of no consequence whether one lacks a particular skill; one can always endeavor to cultivate it. One should commence by focusing on what inspires one and what piques one's interest.

It is important to identify the areas in which one has a particular affinity and aptitude. Once these have been discerned, it is then possible to select from them those which are both personally satisfying and capable of providing value to others.

In other words, one should identify the area of interest that aligns with one's personal preferences, abilities, and intrinsic value. This is the field in which one should invest the majority of one's efforts, developing one's skills in that area.

It is recommended that change begin with minor alterations. Attempting to accomplish a great deal in a short period of time is likely to result in setbacks. In addition to failing to achieve the desired outcome, this approach may also lead to discouragement. It is inherent to human nature to desire rapid results. However, in order to counteract this tendency, it is essential to refrain from demanding speed or quantity.

It is analogous to the advancement of a single pawn day by day. It is essential to maintain composure, adopt a gradual approach, and cultivate relationships with individuals who share similar values.

It is advisable to seek employment with a growing company in the field one wishes to work in, even if one is not initially seeking a salary. Seizing the opportunity to work, even if one is not paid, is a prudent decision. Having the right attitude and a willingness to invest oneself fully in the work at hand will lead to growth.

I wish you the utmost success!

Hello, You've been brave enough to admit that you're currently "positioned" and "laid off, suffering from insomnia, dependent on your parents, and a loser." You've made me feel your helplessness and unwillingness to be what you've been called: "laid off, suffering from insomnia..."

This is the internal drive, the desire to get better and better. If you want it, the world will get better and better.

First, tackle your own survival problems. This is the basic guarantee of life. Ask yourself what you want to do and what you can do. Start by going out and doing it. Don't worry too much about material aspects such as salary. Just do what you want to do and can do. By moving forward, you'll gradually get closer to your future goals.

Second, set yourself a short- to medium-term life goal that shows what you want to become in the next five years. What do you want to become in a year? The gap between your current and future selves is where we need to work hard to improve ourselves. Set your goals from the heart, and you'll be unwavering in your pursuit of them. You'll also see the hardships along the way as steps towards success. As the saying goes, "Heaven will bestow great responsibilities on a person, and first it will afflict their mind and body."

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Third, 33 is the prime of your life. You've got more energy and strength than ever before. Make the most of it! Use your original opportunities for improvement and current goals and ideas to gradually improve in an orderly manner. When should you start? If you start now, you'll succeed in a year or three years. If you start three years later, success may come in the fourth or sixth year.

Finally, the eagle will use its beak to pull its claws out of its own mouth in the later stages of its life, and it will smash its beak against rocks until new claws and a beak grow back. It's a good thing to face the current layoffs at the age of 33, as it may give you a sense of crisis, so that you will no longer waste your young years, but instead work hard. In the future, you will definitely thank this layoff and the present you. Let's do this!

Hello, question asker. My name is Evan.

The questioner needs to be given a hug. They need to gain some strength. They have little self-confidence. They are suffering. They are in a difficult situation. They are nervous and anxious. They are at a loss. They are in pain.

The questioner needs to be aware that unemployment is not an isolated case. How many people have lost their jobs due to the pandemic in China?

The questioner is more concerned with not having a correct understanding of themselves and not having a good plan for their future. They are just thinking about pursuing their inner feelings and going with the flow, and when their inner feelings are in a state of flux, they feel overwhelmed. It would be interesting to know how the questioner's family members view the questioner's current situation.

Tell me, have they given you any advice? From the question, I can't see any description of your family, as if they are outside of your world.

The questioner needs to face their parents and stop feeling like they'll never find a job again.

From the narrative, it's clear the questioner is seeking security and stability. However, the pursuit has not brought positive feelings but rather negative emotions. These emotions are hindering the questioner's ability to face the situation. It's crucial to learn how to identify and eliminate negative emotions and replace them with a positive mindset.

What cannot defeat the questioner will surely give the questioner more courage to face difficulties in the future.

Since the question was asked on a platform, we cannot communicate in detail about the question. However, I can give you some advice on how to deal with the negative emotions that arise:

1. Identify the source of anxiety.

What is causing the questioner anxiety? Is it concerns about work, the disapproval of others, or a sense of confusion about one's whole life?

The questioner must search for and identify the root cause of their anxiety and record it on paper.

Identify the root cause of the anxiety. For example, the questioner feels that their education background is not very helpful when looking for a job, or that the questioner is unable to find a satisfactory job during the pandemic.

The questioner stated, "Why do I rely on my parents?" Unemployment is a significant challenge during the pandemic, yet the questioner seems to be accepting this situation passively. Who is defining the questioner's current reality? Is it the questioner himself or the concept instilled in the questioner by his family?

If there is no higher pursuit in life, if you can't find a job, and you're just muddling through, you need to take control of your life. This casual attitude is causing you serious anxiety.

The questioner wants to pursue higher goals but can't find a path, is afraid of failure, and is at a loss. To develop a response strategy, the questioner must first figure out the root cause of their true anxiety.

2. Focus on the problem you want to solve the most.

Unemployment, a lack of security, no plans for the future—these issues overwhelm the questioner. The solution is simple: Write down the things on your mind on a piece of paper and identify your top problems to solve.

Then, rank the importance of the things according to your feelings and identify the most pressing problem you need to solve.

Next, identify the most pressing issue and determine whether you can resolve it independently. If not, seek assistance. Finally, assess the resources available to you in addressing this challenge.

Discuss the matter with your family to see if there's a way to help the person in question solve the problem. Don't dwell on or talk about anxiety. Instead, say something positive. You'll get used to it and your state of mind will change.

There are always more ways than there are difficulties.

3. List the worst possible outcomes.

List the worst possible outcomes of the situation. Then, list the outcomes that the questioner is unable to accept. Consider your coping strategies and identify where you need to make changes.

Don't worry about what-if scenarios. Instead, list the worst possible outcomes and come up with strategies to deal with them. For example, what will happen if you pursue a good job? When it really happens, you will be able to deal with it according to the strategy. This will reduce the questioner's anxiety.

Know this: there are always more ways than there are difficulties. Strive for self-improvement. Get a good result by facing the real you and pursuing the better you.

4. Pay attention to your own verbal habits.

When we face a situation that is not very good, we often have certain verbal habits. For example, we might say, "I'm so annoyed," or "I messed up again today." These negative words reflect an exaggerated and emotional response to things. They make us think more negatively.

The poster must avoid using these kinds of words. To help you turn negative emotions into a positive side, replace these negative words with positive thoughts and praise. For example, "awful" must be replaced with "unfavorable" or "there is room for improvement," and "disaster" must be replaced with "challenge" or "inconvenience."

5. Look for the positive.

Nobody's perfect, and nobody should be expected to be. Don't demand perfection from yourself, and don't beat yourself up when you have a bad day at work. When you start dwelling on negative thoughts, stop and think of something positive instead.

For example, losing a game. This is unpleasant in itself, but you can use this as an opportunity to learn new ways to play so that you don't make the same mistakes in future games.

6. Get help from someone outside of your immediate circle.

If the above methods don't work for you, get help from a professional psychologist or counselor. Tell them how you feel. You can be honest because these sessions are confidential.

Describe how these anxiety attacks make you feel, explain how they usually start, and tell them how you respond to them. If you need to, keep in touch with them until these attacks no longer affect you.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

Greetings,

The circumstances of the pandemic, unemployment, and being laid off at the age of 33 are understandable causes of distress.

The act of swiping through one's mobile device and thereby foregoing potential opportunities for self-improvement may be perceived as a relatively painless method of self-preservation.

The phenomenon of "indecision" and "self-imposed limitations" can be attributed to one's self-evaluation. Despite the presence of external assistance, which may entail the recommendation to refrain from self-evaluation in a particular manner, individuals may still find themselves constrained by these self-evaluations, exhibiting a lack of ability to extricate themselves from this state for an extended period. This phenomenon bears resemblance to the concept of "self-PUA."

It is only when an individual is motivated to disengage from these self-evaluations that they will naturally become determined to effect change.

Embarking on a process of change may present one with additional challenges, and it is not uncommon for individuals to be reluctant to confront these challenges due to a fear of creating further difficulties. Many people have not had the opportunity to learn effective problem-solving strategies from their parents, nor have they had the chance to benefit from guidance from a mentor in their professional life.

Therefore, the individual's protective shell becomes increasingly reinforced, and the desire to relinquish it is temporarily obscured.

Regret can be understood as an emotional release. Conversely, action can facilitate change.

It is not necessarily the case that sending one's resume online and applying to numerous job fairs is the optimal strategy. Prolonged aimless wandering may inadvertently result in setbacks.

It would be beneficial to organize your previous work experience and identify your desired career path. While the remuneration may not be considerable, it is possible to earn a livelihood while pursuing online courses to enhance your skills.

It is important to conduct a reasonable assessment of fees and a rational assessment of course recommendations, and to avoid blindly following them. This is because there are many courses on the internet that sell anxiety and make money. At this time, it is necessary to invoke the self-protection switch.

Psychological counseling can also facilitate breakthroughs and facilitate reinvention of the self. Counseling goals can be discussed with the counselor. It is this author's opinion that the greatest benefits will be gained by pursuing counseling with the intention of professional development, rather than self-growth and exploration.

Hello, question asker!

I saw your question on the platform. You lost your job during the epidemic and are in a state of confusion. You are sleepless and depressed every day, and you don't know what to do except for playing on your phone. From your description, I understand your confusion and anxiety. You want to know what to do next?

I will help you analyze and sort things out.

1. We have all suffered and experienced a lot because of the epidemic. Many people have been laid off and suddenly found themselves without work and income. It is even more difficult to find a suitable job. I'm sure you feel the same way! You can't eat well or sleep well every day, and you have nothing to do every day. Apart from staying at home and brushing your phone, I don't know what else to do. You are very confused and anxious. You are even regretting that you didn't seize the opportunity to improve yourself in the past, resulting in not having a skill now and missing many job opportunities.

2. In this situation, you must stay active. When you are almost adjusted, find some part-time work to do. Don't worry about the money; just keep yourself busy. Don't stay at home all the time. Go out and find something to do, even if it's just going to a continuing education class. Make every day more fulfilling. Take this opportunity to learn something new. Adjust your mentality to the best state. Don't be too pessimistic about temporary difficulties. Believe that anything can be solved. Don't keep thinking about what projects can make you rich. This is not realistic. Be down-to-earth.

3. Accept your emotions honestly, allow yourself to have temporary slumps and negativity, but be sure to find a way to cheer yourself up. Don't let temporary difficulties defeat you. Seize the moment and work hard to improve yourself. Overcoming your negative emotions will make everything you do in the future go more smoothly.

4. Actively distract yourself by working, studying, and living well. Make friends, go for a walk, do things you like but haven't had the chance to do. Before you know it, you won't be in that negative mood anymore. Your overall mental state will improve, and good sleep will eventually return.

5. Life is full of disappointments. Nine times out of ten, our lives are not always smooth sailing. You will get through it. Have faith in yourself. The sun always shines after the rain. Once you get through it, you will reap many rewards. The difficulties you are facing now are nothing. You will find your life's direction soon. Everything will be fine.

I hope my answer helps. The world and I love you.

Hello, question asker?

I said, "I'd like to be an intern."

We've all had a rough time over the past three years of the pandemic, and this year has been especially tough. Layoffs are a tough decision for companies to make, and for you, the person who has been laid off, it's a sudden and unexpected change that can leave you feeling helpless and unsure of what to do next.

So, what can we do during the pandemic if we've been laid off?

Our anxiety

The pandemic and layoffs have caused most people to experience severe anxiety at the beginning. However, if we stay in that state for too long, we may start to attack ourselves, which can lead to psychosomatic disorders.

Dr. Dara Mojtahedi of Huddersfield University has a research team that conducted a study during the pandemic on the relationship between psychological resilience and self-reported levels of depression, anxiety, and psychological stress.

Research shows that anxiety, stress, and depression can affect anyone, but people who are more resilient tend to cope better. Conversely, those who are more sensitive may become overwhelmed by stressful situations.

People with strong psychological resilience can adapt more quickly, while sensitive people may become more anxious. Most of this anxiety actually comes from fear of the unknown future.

What can you do to help yourself?

It's important to accept your emotions.

The first thing we need to do is accept our current emotions. It's okay to feel panic, anxiety, suspicion, anger, self-blame, or even negative and aggressive emotions. These are all normal emotional reactions in the present.

At the same time, it's important to remember that the challenges you're facing right now are shared by many others affected by the epidemic.

The more you check your phone, the more anxious you get.

It might seem relaxing, but there's a lot of complicated and hard-to-differentiate information and rumors flying around the internet during the pandemic. Not only is this information unhelpful, but the tension created by the large amount of information also constantly drains our energy.

We can avoid these negative messages, focus less on things that make us anxious, and not get caught up in a whirlpool of negative emotions.

Let's change our perception.

I'd like to introduce the "emotion ABC theory," which was proposed by psychologist Ellis. In a nutshell, the activating event A is only indirectly responsible for triggering the emotional and behavioral consequence C. The direct cause of C is actually people's perception and evaluation of A, which leads to the belief B.

[Activating event A: the epidemic + layoffs

The behavioral consequence C is regret, insomnia, and being a burden on one's parents.

What if we try a different belief B? For example, what if we said: "Am I really a loser? Do I really think I am a loser?" Or: "I have missed many opportunities to improve myself because of work, so now I can seize the time to learn."

What if we try a different belief B?

For example, do I really think I'm a loser?

For example, I've missed out on a lot of chances to improve myself because of work, so now I can use this time to learn.

For example, I can use this rare moment of free time to get a good rest and recharge my batteries so that I can think more clearly and face the future.

What would be the result of our actions if we were to act with this belief?

In the past, we may have been working non-stop. The pandemic has put a pause button on our lives, but that doesn't have to be the end. It could be the start of something new.