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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Dear question asker, I am the individual who has provided the response, Enoch.
The questioner has provided a summary of their parents' performance and is seeking to understand their parents' psychology.
In point of fact, irrespective of age or status, individuals espouse disparate values. Many aspire to excel, assume responsibility for their own actions, lead fulfilling lives, instruct their children in the importance of personal accountability, and pave the way for a brighter future, thereby enhancing their own quality of life.
However, attaining this objective necessitates considerable sacrifices. It requires meticulous planning and a comprehensive investment of time, resources, and energy to gain a deeper understanding of life. During this process, individuals must learn to control their desires, establish a clear objective, and demonstrate unwavering commitment to pursue a course of action they believe in.
Nevertheless, a considerable number of individuals possess laudable intentions but ultimately lack the tenacity to see them through. This shortcoming is a significant contributing factor to the disparities observed between socioeconomic groups and between individuals within these groups. The existence of objective and subjective reasons for this phenomenon is well documented. While the former is largely beyond our control, the latter is within the realm of individual agency.
From the description provided by the questioner, it appears that their parents may have relatively low expectations of them and a lack of personal responsibility. Despite this, they aspire to a life of financial stability and security, which they hope to achieve through their children. However, their actions have not set an exemplary standard for their children, nor have they instilled in them the values of personal responsibility and familial obligation. Consequently, it is plausible that their children have not attained the life they envisioned, and they are currently at a level where they can only meet their basic necessities, let alone provide for their parents.
It is therefore unsurprising that they also perceive their parents' expectations as unreasonable and beyond their capacity to fulfil.
It is therefore recommended that the questioner become independent of the influence of their original family, learn from those who are more successful, pursue higher life goals, and not be influenced by their parents. This will enable them to improve themselves, be able to better solve their own problems, and also have the ability to take care of their parents.
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I understand where you're coming from. It's tough when there's a disconnect between what parents expect and what we can realistically provide. It seems like your parents might be seeking validation through those TV dramas, finding comfort in the idea of children being devoted to their parents.
It's heartbreaking that you feel this way. Sometimes parents get caught up in societal expectations without realizing the pressure it puts on their kids. It sounds like your parents might be projecting their own desires onto the characters they watch, wishing for a similar dynamic but not fully grasping the struggles you face.
The gap between your parents' expectations and reality is palpable. They may watch those shows as a form of escapism, imagining an idealized version of family life. But it's important for them to recognize the effort you all are making despite the hardships.
Feeling undervalued by your parents must be really challenging. Perhaps their fascination with those storylines comes from a place of longing for recognition and respect. It would be beneficial if they could have an open conversation about their feelings and also acknowledge the efforts and limitations of their children.