People around you enjoy venting their fragile matters to you, and you are very afraid.

Hello, questioner.

I want to understand why friends like to complain to me, exposing their vulnerability and needing my comfort. I don't want this to become the pattern of my interactions with others.

Your friends are willing to show you their vulnerability because they trust you. They know they can be unrestrained in front of you because they consider you a close and good friend.

However, too much negative energy can also make you feel uncomfortable and unable to cope. The questioner must take action to change this situation.

1. Express your needs appropriately. If a friend is complaining to you and you don't want to receive negative energy, say so. You don't have to accept it. Say, "I'm not feeling well either, and I can't accept this negative energy. I'm sorry."

Set boundaries. Let your friends know that you are not an emotional trash can and that you also need to be considerate of other people's feelings.

2. Share happy things with friends more often. Your friends will often say what you want to hear when you communicate with them. If you always tell others negative things, others will unconsciously think of you when they want to confide in someone.

And when you share happy things with your friends, they will share happy things with you.

3. True friendship means sharing both blessings and difficulties. Friends don't always have to tell you happy things. They need your comfort and care, too. You can confide in them when you're down and sad. They'll be there for you. This is how a solid and profound friendship is built.

However, it is essential to base everything on one's own feelings.

You will find the way to make yourself happy.

Hello! I'm Phil, and I'm sending you a big, warm hug!

We're really sorry you've had this problem.

According to your description, you mentioned that recently, whether it's men or women,

And they will talk to you about things that make them feel sad, and then you will get to comfort them!

And you might be a little afraid of this mode of interaction, not quite understanding why they would do so.

In fact, if we encounter something we want to talk about or something that makes us unhappy,

And then, we want to take some action! So, how would we choose?

Or maybe you'll choose to vent, or seek professional help?

The great news is that most of us actually choose to go to our family and friends to vent our grievances.

So, how do you choose?

It must be someone with whom I have an amazing relationship!

Or I trust him, or I know that this person is tight-lipped.

And so on, like being able to tell him it's okay and being able to provide help!

So from this perspective, this is actually a kind of trust in you!

I truly believe you have chosen to treat yourself this way, or this mode of getting along, and I think that's great!

But why do we behave in this way?

On the one hand, because such things are inevitable in interpersonal communication — and it's a good thing!

We absolutely need to deal with our emotions! And there are also some fascinating psychological factors at play.

On the other hand, everyone has their own chosen or suitable way of venting emotions, which is really exciting!

Some people just do it this way, and it can actually strengthen their relationships with friends!

It is everyone's absolute right to choose!

Absolutely! You also need to learn to protect yourself.

Absolutely! Everyone has their own inner boundaries.

If the other person's confessions are acceptable to you, then go for it!

Absolutely! If they can provide help, then it's totally okay to do so.

If you can't handle it yourself, you have to refuse in time — and you can do it!

And don't be embarrassed because we're good friends!

I really hope my answer can help you!

I love you so much! ??

Good day, my name is Strawberry.

From your disclosures and evident distress, it is apparent that the questioner possesses satisfactory social skills. The counsel you typically dispense to friends in need is also well-received. Consequently, both male and female friends are now accustomed to confiding in you when they are depressed, largely due to your aptitude for active listening.

However, this presents a challenge for the questioner, as everyone has a limited capacity to tolerate such interactions. On occasion, when a friend expresses negative emotions, it is still appropriate to act as a listener and provide guidance. The long-term pattern of maintaining a positive and supportive relationship is what concerns the questioner, as they simply desire a relaxed and amicable friendship, not a place where friends express their negative emotions.

This phenomenon also occurs with individuals with whom one has recently become acquainted, who divulge information about their vulnerability. It can be postulated that these individuals have a limited social network and are unable to identify an appropriate listener. They perceive you as a suitable candidate based on your typical interactions, prompting them to initiate communication.

What if the individuals in your immediate vicinity are reluctant to discuss their vulnerabilities?

1. Take a firm stance.

It is evident that friends are willing to treat the questioner as a listener, which demonstrates their capacity to derive empathy and comfort from the interaction. The questioner is not disinclined to serve as a listener between friends. However, when we are in a prolonged state of exposure to negative emotions, empathy can lead us to internalize the negative emotions of others, thereby affecting our own lives and emotions.

This approach may inadvertently cause harm to oneself while attempting to provide assistance to others. The extent of this harm can be significant or minimal, depending on one's ability to mitigate it. The individual in question may be reluctant to engage in this mode of interaction with friends. Therefore, when a friend seeks to confide in you, it is essential to respond in a manner that is appropriate to the situation.

If you are unable to provide advice regarding the other person's issue, you have the option to end the conversation, avoid further discussion, or simply clarify that you are not equipped to assist with such matters. By taking a firm stance, you can help the questioner's colleague understand that it is not necessary to share every challenge with others and that there are times when individuals prefer to manage their own emotions.

2. Delegate responsibility in a timely manner.

Friends place a great deal of trust in the questioner and regard them as a reliable listener. It can be said that the questioner is a highly qualified listener who is able to provide comfort and relief in conversations with friends.

It is important to remember that everyone in life will experience different pressures. Therefore, after friends have confided in you, you may have received too many negative emotions. It is essential to relieve yourself of these emotions in order to function effectively. The same applies to counselors. They need empathy in order to build trust with their clients, which is crucial for the success of their relationship.

Sometimes the issues that visitors face are more complex. After a period of counseling, it is also important for counselors to identify ways to manage their own stress. The same is true for questioners. Once they recognize that their emotions have been influenced by their friends, they can find relief through activities such as sports, shopping, singing, traveling, painting, writing, and more.

3. Distinct

It is natural for friends to confide in themselves. The challenge for the questioner may be discerning how to separate these emotions from their own. The questioner should be reassured that other people's emotions and perceptions are theirs alone. Once advice has been sought and given, the questioner should accept that the choice of action is theirs alone. It is important to be resilient in the face of external perceptions. Only the questioner can achieve this, and they should not be unduly troubled by the confidences of others.

I hope this response is helpful to the questioner. Best regards,

From your description, it is evident that you are a benevolent individual who is inclined to accommodate others and absorb their negative energy, attempting to provide solace and support. In the context of the ongoing pandemic, it is understandable that people are seeking avenues for communication.

First and foremost, it is imperative to learn how to establish clear boundaries. If one is exposed to an excessive amount of negative energy, it is crucial to identify a reliable source of support to which one can turn for guidance and understanding. Otherwise, the accumulation of negative energy can lead to feelings of distress and distress.

In the event that an individual seeks to engage in a discussion with you, it is advisable to disengage from the interaction and inquire about their desired outcome and intentions.

What is the optimal response in this situation? The individual disclosing information to you is seeking to be understood and to receive a response.

Secondly, individuals may be reluctant to divulge their vulnerable side to those with whom they are intimately acquainted. Consequently, they may opt to converse with strangers, who, due to the nature of their relationship with the individual, may be perceived as more credible.

Subsequently, it is advisable to alter the subject matter. In the event that one is disinclined to engage with a considerable amount of negative sentiment, it is recommended to redirect the discourse towards more positive or neutral topics.

For example, one might inquire as to whether the individual has experienced any positive occurrences recently, or remark upon their own observation that the individual appears to be in a state of well-being.

Ultimately, it is important to recognize that your role is not that of a listening teacher, a psychological counselor, or a home education teacher. It is therefore crucial to avoid offering opinions in order to prevent potential future issues. In the event that you are genuinely uninterested in listening, it may be advisable for the other party to seek guidance from a professional teacher on this platform.

Should my advice prove useful to you, you are encouraged to contact me for further assistance.