Should I change, as I find it difficult to accept some traditional Chinese thoughts?

How do we use the best of it?

The first step is to identify the essence of traditional culture. The Analects of Confucius and the Works of Mencius are the essence, as they have been selected for us by our predecessors.

During the May Fourth Movement and the Cultural Revolution, Confucius was blamed for traditional culture. He became known as the second son of Confucius. There is even a work called "The Sinful Life of the Second Son of Confucius." Fortunately, this has now been proven wrong.

There are many free online courses on Chinese studies. Search for "Chinese university MOOC" to find them.

You can play it in the background while you cook or listen to it before bed. I'm reading "A Guide to the Zuo Zhuan" by Professor Yue-pei Chao of Shandong University.

I listen to it as a story. The stories in Zuo Zhuan are written with concise, vivid techniques. For example, the scene in which Song Huafu Du saw Kongfu's wife on the road and turned back to say, "Beautiful and charming."

It's good. I like reading it.

Don't worship traditional culture like our ancestors did.

We must think critically about traditional culture and use it in our daily lives. Otherwise, it will just be a pretty decoration.

Your question is related to ideas from a prenatal education course on traditional culture. You are skeptical.

You described it briefly, but I feel similar.

Some online courses on female virtues may have this problem. It's not the traditional culture's fault.

Teachers often instill ideas through coercion.

There's a bit of authority and an attitude that he's always right.

Your fear of being brainwashed may come from this part. This approach is contrary to Confucius's philosophy.

Yan Hui said, "The Master is persuasive, broadens my horizons, and guides me in propriety. I want to keep learning. It's enjoyable."

Look again at what Confucius said: "I am one with the point." What kind of state of mind is that?

A good teacher influences others through their personality, not through brainwashing. I feel the same way about being brainwashed.

I don't agree.

When learning about traditional culture, we should be open-minded. We shouldn't worship things we don't understand.

Think for yourself. Let's talk about the three kneelings and nine kowtows.

You feel religious. I agree.

Prostrating oneself is not wrong. There is a Chinese saying: "To fall to one's knees in all five positions."

Prostrations cultivate piety and remove arrogance.

You're here to listen, not practice. Even if you're practicing, do it step by step.

It's wrong to ask someone to bow three times and kowtow nine times. I don't think Confucius would like his head to be touched.

It can be heartbreaking. His teacher would not have acted this way.

He was equal to his students. When Confucius met a man, Zilu was not happy because Nanzi had a bad attitude. Zilu felt that the Master had no self-control and bad intentions. Confucius then said, "What I do not do, Heaven detests!"

The teacher-student relationship is equal. Piety must be cultivated, and false narcissism must be broken. But it is not necessary to bow three times and nine times. The important thing is to guide a person to see the vastness of the world.

The teacher's ideas are flawed. Many of them are wrong. I won't refute them all here.

You should be careful when learning about traditional culture. This part is not easy.

The calm you feel may be because of the study group. Everyone is more respectful and serious.

It's probably because of respect for the teacher and the learning materials. Traditional culture can help you grow, but only if you start.

The Great Learning is about improving your moral character and bringing it into harmony with your family.

It's hard to achieve this by just listening to lectures. Start by cultivating an interest.

If you want to meditate because of prenatal education, the easiest way is to do something you like with someone you like.

This is the best way to do it. If you want to achieve a deeper state of calm, you can join a group or start your own analysis.

These are practical ways to go about it. If you persevere, you will reap the rewards. You can learn a little about traditional culture on your own.

It's not recommended for calming down. Traditional culture is part of self-cultivation.

But most people don't know much about traditional culture. Old books aren't very helpful.

It can be hard to take in all these influences. Start with how modern society works.

For example, going to art shows and listening to music. Some sports and entertainment are easy to access.

If you want to understand yourself better, I suggest analysis. It's hard to understand yourself and find your way out on your own.

If it were just about prenatal education, I wouldn't be interested in Confucius. It's early summer now, and this year's solar terms are like late spring.

It's a great time to go to the river or mountains with friends.

If you don't advance through science and technology, you can turn to religion or superstition. We can think about what is based on science and what isn't. Are there some unfavorable aspects to some of the current training content?

If you find some older ideas hard to accept, you can turn them into a "blessing" or a kind of "psychological suggestion" of the collective unconscious. The herd effect makes people more willing to self-suggest.

Or self-hypnosis to help you understand the importance of prenatal and postnatal education and to help you value pregnancy and life. This can help you understand how to move on from heartbreak.

You can learn from your enemies to overcome them. The Guanyin has touched on a religious meaning, which affects people psychologically. If you are not pious, others may judge you.

Do good and accumulate virtue. A gentleman loves wealth and takes it in a way that is right. See that some of their ideas may not be so stable. It is more important to accumulate your own strength than to be pious and reform and accumulate virtue. Seek what you can use from some of the external operations to stabilize your emotions and cheer up.

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Hello!

First of all, you need to recognize and accept the importance of approaching this matter with seriousness and adherence to scientific principles.

The Economist magazine published a book review last year of a book called "The Economics of Cradles." The author is a professor of economics (and also a mother). The book talks a lot about how important it is to pay attention to cutting-edge scientific research and not just follow what other people say.

From this perspective, I think you're already ahead of most parents.

When it comes to how to handle this in the future, I think it's helpful to consider these three points.

[1. Attitude]

Keep up the good work! You've nailed how to take the essence.

For instance, you mentioned that if you want to get rich, you have to be pious, but the key is to improve yourself and learn new skills. What this really means is that we should focus on what's really important, not just on the surface.

Mindfulness meditation, which is pretty popular these days, is a great example of taking the essence. Mindfulness meditation actually originated in religion, but the religious content itself isn't really what makes it work. The key is in regulating the nerves by breathing and adjusting perception patterns through meditation.

Getting rid of the packaging and getting to the essence.

[2. Methodologically]

You can also keep doing what you're doing now. Don't let other people's opinions sway you, and stick to critical thinking while being careful to seek evidence.

The point of science is to separate fact from fiction, especially when it comes to something as important as pregnancy.

[3. In principle]

Be mindful of your own needs and feelings, and then use them to your advantage.

As you're pregnant, you're the best person to decide what's right for you. If some traditional ideas don't sit well with you, you don't understand them, or you don't agree with them, then you don't have to compromise yourself.

If there are things that can help you feel calm and regulate your emotions, then there's no problem using them to help yourself.

The key is to choose what's right for you.

I hope you find these ideas helpful and inspiring.

Hello! I saw your question about feeling it difficult to accept some traditional Chinese thinking and whether you should change it!

It all depends on your own inner mind! It's totally normal for some people not to want to accept it, and it's also totally normal for some people to believe in something sincerely.

As for recommendations from friends, he may mean well, but if you can't accept it in your heart, you can express your own views and tell him. It's so important to be true to yourself!

I'm thrilled to see your question! I have the same reaction as you about other people's beliefs in Buddhist scriptures, Buddhism, and things related to Guanyin. I have some inner resistance to these things and I can't quite accept them, but I'm excited to learn more! In the past, when I was at home, some of my relatives also believed in some religious beliefs. Every time they told me about it, I was very annoyed, but I'm happy to have the chance to learn more about why they believe what they do. For people of faith, they themselves feel that they benefit from it and that it is very beneficial, and I'm excited to learn more about that!

For those who we cannot convince, it is also a kind of suffering for us. But there's no need to fret! We don't have to agree with their beliefs and change our own views. And there's no need to change their views either.

I love the scientific point of view as much as you do, and I'm a huge fan of scientifically proven theories! Some religions are related to a small group of people who believe in them, and we can't interfere with them. But we can absolutely maintain our own views and attitudes, and there's no need for us to change ourselves to cater to their views and assimilate ourselves to them!

There's a great saying that I love: if you interact with each other frequently but cannot change each other, just maintain the attitude of coexisting in harmony but with differences!

I really hope that helps!

Hello! I can see that you are a person who loves to learn, a mother who loves her children, and a person who loves to think.

I'd love to answer your question! When it comes to traditional thinking, our approach is to focus on the core ideas and leave the rest behind.

From what you wrote, I can see that there are some elements of this training that actually make sense. But like a bowl of chicken soup, if you're only given the soup and not the process, it might feel a bit useless and vague.

I used to think Chicken Soup for the Soul was all fake, but then I realized that if I found it fake, it might be because I wasn't approaching it in the right way, or I wasn't at that level myself. And that's okay! We all have different levels of experience and understanding.

For instance, these direct manifestations may be the result of going through a lot of hardships. They're the result of goodness and good things. If this is the only result, we might feel that it's a bit vague without seeing the process. The content itself seems to be more of a kind of idealism.

There's a saying that psychology is the study of religion. But because religion isn't like psychology, which provides lots of explanations and insights into why things are the way they are, religion simply tells us what we should do and doesn't explain why. This makes it seem very spiritual!

I really believe that you should take what you said to heart and pray sincerely. There are certain psychological principles behind it, too. For example, if you are very pious about something, if you really want it, if you really want it badly, if you are willing to make a lot of effort for it, and if you have made a lot of practical efforts yourself for it,

Then, in theory, you do have a better outcome.

Absolutely! If your body is healthy, there's no reason you can't have children. If you're sincere in your efforts, for instance, by making adjustments to your diet and lifestyle, and maintaining a positive outlook, there are ways to improve your chances of getting pregnant.

But worshipping the Goddess of Childbirth may not actually make you pregnant. But she gives you something to look forward to, and acts as a kind of monitor, which also makes it more likely that you will regulate your behavior.

We're not saying you have to accept everything, and that's okay! If you feel like you can't accept something and it goes against what you currently believe, then don't accept it.

In situations like this, I usually pretend to accept it. I know it might make you feel a little hypocritical, but I promise you, this approach can save you a lot of trouble!

Take the village's New Year's Eve celebration, for instance. It's a beautiful tradition where everyone gathers at the temple to burn incense and worship the gods. I must admit, though, that I don't fully agree with all of it. I see these practices as more like rituals and forms.

But usually, when my mom asks me to do something, I do it right away because I know she's happy, I don't stand out from the crowd, and I have nothing to lose.

Just as some friends say about me, I speak to people as they deserve and to ghosts as they are. I think this is a pretty mature way of dealing with things!

I'm really curious to know more about your view on this. You said that you have to believe in something if you want to have scientific evidence for it, and that there are many papers or experts to support it. Do you think this is also the case in life?

I'd love to hear from you about what kind of things you need scientific evidence to believe, and what kind you don't. Please take your time to think about it and write about it. I'm really interested to know which ones are more common.

In fact, there are so many shades of gray in our daily lives. Even scientific theories, which are supported by a lot of evidence, may be disproved. So, to put it simply, there are no absolutes in this world.

It's totally okay to be close. You'll find that for the absolute majority of things, it doesn't need to be right.

I think what you said about feeling training being able to regulate emotions is really interesting. Have you ever thought about learning what you think can regulate these emotions, and then just letting the rest go?

It's just a training, so don't worry about it too much, okay?

I'm a Buddhist and a pessimist, but I try to be positive and motivated as a counselor. And I love the world!

Good morning, Thank you for your question.

I believe you have posed an excellent question.

How should we approach something unfamiliar, something or someone we don't understand?

Another key consideration is how to extract the essence without being influenced by certain elements or effects that may not align with our preferences.

I would be pleased to discuss this further with you.

1. Maintain a critical mindset.

Critical thinking is the evaluation of ideas through a set of defined criteria, with the objective of identifying areas for improvement. It is a rational and reflective process that can be considered both a skill and a tendency.

If you adhere to this mindset, you can be considered a critical thinker.

The objective of critical thinking is not to find fault with others, but rather to develop an independent mindset and gain insight into one's own views and beliefs.

Regarding the prenatal training you are attending, apart from learning to regulate your emotions, you have expressed reservations about the content, stating that it feels like a religion. It is important to respect your own feelings and not doubt yourself so easily.

There is no obligation to follow these instructions without question.

There are numerous methods for regulating emotions during pregnancy. The key is to identify the approach that best aligns with your needs and preferences.

2. A more open understanding of traditional Chinese thought is required.

The reason traditional Chinese culture has endured is that it encapsulates the core values of goodness.

Furthermore, it has always exerted an influence on us.

However, we may need to consider whether some institutions or individuals have an overly narrow interpretation or a fundamental misunderstanding of traditional culture.

One perspective is to identify and leverage resources that align with one's objectives.

In essence, if it is beneficial to me, I can utilize it as you suggested.

If something is not beneficial or poses a risk to me, I will refrain from doing it.

Naturally, in practice, there are challenges in fully understanding how to implement this approach.

3. Should we implement a change?

There is a substantial body of literature and theoretical work on the topic of change.

I would like to take this opportunity to share some of what I have learned with you.

As an illustration, we can maintain an open mind regarding traditional concepts.

Our beliefs and behaviors are the result of learning over time.

It is not always straightforward to identify the correct course of action in a given situation.

It is advisable to assess whether it is a suitable fit for your needs.

Faith provides spiritual sustenance and strength.

This allows you to ascertain your beliefs.

Ms. Li Songwei stated that modifying one's thoughts is akin to warm water, resulting in a minimal impact.

Behavioral changes are straightforward and yield tangible outcomes.

At this juncture, it is prudent to consider how we might foster a sense of happiness and calmness, which can positively influence fetal development during pregnancy.

In lieu of dwelling on current issues, it would be prudent to consider how we might achieve a state of happiness and calm, which would be beneficial for fetal development.

Heed your inner voice and trust that everything is unfolding as it should.

We must continue to develop ourselves, becoming individuals with resilient and dependable hearts. We must also learn to face challenges with positivity and optimism. In my opinion, this is the most effective form of prenatal education.

Please disseminate these materials as appropriate.

Should you be interested, you may wish to read the book Living a Life of Blossoming.

Please accept my sincerest condolences.

Hello.

Your narrative shows you have your own thoughts and powers of reflection.

This course has made you feel bad.

"Knowledge pays" is a concept that has become popular in the past two years. A concept may bring business opportunities, and people with different mindsets and initial intentions will operate different business models.

I appreciate models like Fan Deng Reading. It's an introduction that gets people who've gained from listening to books excited about reading more books of their own choosing.

The selection of categories is undoubtedly becoming more extensive and not closed off.

The model mentioned by the original poster is undoubtedly monotonous, with the perspective of one family dominating and then being disseminated.

You analyze the transmission of others. Traditional culture is also colored by personal experiences.

The classic Analects are passed down from generation to generation as cultural heritage, and different experts have made different annotations. There are stacks of annotations alone on the book market.

You are absolutely right: there is a constant stream of the best of traditional culture.

You must be attentive and patient to find and absorb it.

Your child will be smart and happy in the future if you make sure they learn actively during pregnancy.

Nurture your child's soul with an optimistic heart, unconditional positive attention, and all-encompassing love.

Adults must make the right choices for children's hearts, even if it means making the wrong choices in the short term.

He will become a trustworthy, courageous adult without anxiety when he grows up.

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From your message, I can tell that the arrival of this child was a really tough time for you. It's clear that you love this child very much.

So I went to a training course that was supposedly related to prenatal education, as a friend recommended.

However, the training content is more about explaining prenatal education knowledge from ancient classics. This kind of thing is incompatible with the scientific evidence that the questioner has always believed in when adopting and using information.

It's only natural to feel uncomfortable when we encounter information that differs from our long-held beliefs. This is something we all experience, and it's not a problem specific to the questioner.

So, how can we take the essence of it while hoping to maintain its ability to regulate our emotions?

I hope this sharing is helpful for you! It's just something I wanted to share for reference, to help you think in new ways.

I hope this sharing helps you think in new ways!

1. Take a moment to think about the ways you currently regulate your emotions.

Before taking this training course, the questioner probably had some practices that helped them adjust themselves, even if they didn't realize it at the time. I'm wondering if there are any of these methods that have similar or even better results than the training?

If so, what is it about this training that the questioner is interested in trying?

By thinking this way, you can figure out if you're just curious or if you're struggling to find a better way and need to rely on this training or other things that seem to conflict with your values. This will help you understand what you're hoping to achieve and why.

2. Give yourself some extra time to really think about whether the pros of this training outweigh the cons, or vice versa.

I can see that the part of the question that the author is hesitant about is that some of the content is hard to believe. I totally get it! At the same time, I feel the benefits of regulating emotions, too. If you are new to this training course, you might as well give yourself a limited period of time to explore and feel whether the benefits of regulating emotions outweigh the ideas being promoted.

If you always feel like you can't handle that part of the information, you might want to think about replacing it with other methods of regulating emotions that make you feel more comfortable. If you can handle it, then in this adaptation, you've already taken the essence!

3. I really think you should try mindfulness and meditation. They're secular methods for regulating emotions that are worth trying!

It's true! Modern science has already shown that mindfulness, like observing your breathing and paying attention to your body, can really help you regulate your emotions. It's a scientific method that's not tied to any religion.

If you're interested, you can learn more about it. One Psychology also has a meditation planet that can help you regulate your breathing and stabilize your emotions.

I'm not a psychologist who explores human nature, but I am a therapist who cares about the human heart. I wish you all the best!

You mentioned you attended a prenatal training. They're all very devout and believe in something. You don't agree with what they say, and you're worried that if you go in, you won't be able to get out. But it can calm your emotions. The question is: how do you take the essence?

It's normal to worry. When people are part of a devout, believing community, they want to feel like they belong to the group. They may be influenced by the group's beliefs and ideas. It can be challenging to maintain a clear, objective mindset when everyone else is influenced by the group's beliefs.

It's also important to trust your own feelings. If you feel uncomfortable, controlled, or disagree with some of their statements, just acknowledge that you're uncomfortable and that you can choose not to listen. This will help your subconscious mind to filter out their ideas and focus on your own thoughts.

Respect your own feelings. Don't doubt yourself just because of external evaluation, or because you are different from others. It can be tough to trust others, and you can only trust with scientific evidence and support from many experts. This is a way for you to protect yourself, and you can trust your own usual way.

If you want to change, it's got to be the way you usually do things that makes you feel inadequate and causes you pain. Then you need to learn other skills. These skills must also be based on facing reality and relying on your own efforts to achieve them, rather than through fantasy and the vain hope that the pie will fall from the sky.

Take the key ideas and discard the rest. Trust your own subconscious for the wisdom.

Best of luck!