Should I distance myself from a friend who always takes advantage without enough reciprocation?

Hello, question asker! I'm so happy to meet you here.

Let's go over what you've said together, shall we?

I think there's room for improvement in the character of your friend.

And you have a lovely, kind side, too!

& Your friend didn't contribute much during the course of your joint business venture, but you still gave her hundreds of thousands of dollars.

Oh, and she has a pretty serious credit card overdraft, too.

I can see you're really struggling with this. It's a tough one, isn't it? I'm here to help. Your question is whether you should continue to associate with such a friend.

& How much money do you have to help a friend?

Questioner, you've already helped her so much! It seems like she's never satisfied, though. I'd love to know how much financial support you have to offer her.

Do you think this person will be grateful for your help one day?

And if you need help, don't hesitate to go for counseling.

You say that you have a pleasing side, and we all do! Sometimes we have to put on a show, but if all your friends behave this way, you can continue to associate with them without a problem. When it comes to money, though, you need to set some boundaries.

So, if you want to keep your friendship going strong, you might want to think about going for counseling. It can be really helpful to have a space where you can freely express your thoughts and feelings, set healthy boundaries, and learn how to say no to people who might not be good for you.

And about the situation with friends...

You know that your friend just wants to take the easy way out to get ahead, but the reality is harsh. This time she came to you to ask for the 2,000 yuan, and you want to know how she is actually living.

Have you encountered any major changes? etc. There's absolutely nothing wrong with these thoughts of yours! They just show that you're such a caring friend. But as the saying goes, it's always better to help someone in need than to help someone in poverty.

You can always find out from other sources if you're not sure. If your friend really needs the money and you promised to help, then it's probably best to give it to them. But if it's not that bad, then you might want to think twice.

And character is the first thing to think about when you're making friends.

The first thing to think about is whether you want to make friends with someone. It's totally up to you! You have the right to decide and choose whether to continue the relationship.

It's so important to choose your friends wisely. If you make a mistake, you might have to face some challenges. It's worth thinking carefully about who you want to be friends with.

Hello! I'm so happy you asked. I really hope my answer helps you see things a little differently and that it's useful to you in some way.

The crux of the matter is that the conflict within you and the boundaries of her person are unclear. If you continue to interact, the balance will be constantly disrupted, and in the end, one person will have to compromise in order to continue to reach a new balance. As the adage goes, the situation will remain unresolved.

Let us now turn our attention to solutions.

It is not possible to control the boundary issues of other people. Those who are experiencing serious financial difficulties demonstrate that their boundaries in dealing with others are particularly vague. The explosion of debt represents a significant life challenge for her.

However, this is also a test of her own life, and thus has no bearing on your situation.

Therefore, the only recourse is to attempt to establish one's own boundaries.

Partners and friends are two distinct concepts. If one can be friends with another, it is likely that there are numerous similarities between them.

It is not necessarily the case that friends are suitable as partners.

Partnership is a period during which the tacit understanding between two individuals is tested, and at times, it can be more challenging than a romantic relationship. It is essential to communicate effectively in real-time, as keeping one's dissatisfaction to oneself can result in a negative perception of the other person. This can lead to a sense of disengagement and a tendency to view the other person's actions as problematic.

Once an opinion is formed about another individual, it is inevitable that conflict will ensue and the relationship will be irreparably damaged. It is therefore preferable to discuss issues as they arise, even if this results in the deterioration of the relationship, as it allows for the resolution of previous emotional issues.

This necessitates a constant awareness of one's own emotions and the development of effective communication skills. Even if it results in discomfort on both sides, there is still an opportunity for discourse.

Furthermore, individuals with a pleasing personality type can express their desired goodwill at the appropriate time. Interpersonal relationships are about achieving a balance between individuals, not about achieving inner balance. Even if an individual is not recognized by another, they will be able to discern the distance between them.

Furthermore, when making a commitment, it is advisable to take a moment to reflect before speaking, in order to avoid providing a rationale for the other party to hold a grudge and become a source of discord in the relationship.

Once a complete expression of one's thoughts and feelings has been made, emotional equilibrium is restored.

With regard to the question of whether you wish to remain friends with her, the decision to terminate the relationship is at your discretion.

I can tell you're angry, resentful, unwilling, and confused.

Three years ago, you and a friend started a company. When she left two years later, you gave her 100,000 yuan. You promised to pay her 2,000 yuan for her services, but you never did.

Today she came to collect it, and you feel annoyed. You feel you've been kind to her, but she doesn't deserve it. You feel she may be in trouble, and you want to be kind to her. You still want to be friends with her, so you don't know what to do.

I understand. I don't trust her, but I'm embarrassed to break up with her. I don't want to lose her and the money.

What bothers you?

You have resentment towards your friend, but you don't care about the 2,000 yuan. Why don't you let your friend take the money and go? What do you care about?

You feel treated unfairly, but your friend doesn't know. You want her to understand your frustration. For example, you feel your friend is inconsiderate, but you've been kind to her.

Knowing she owed 200,000 yuan in unpaid bills, I felt softhearted. I wanted to be kind and find out what happened to her, but I stopped myself.

You didn't care what happened to her.

Are you disappointed in the relationship and don't want to invest more in it?

Or are you worried that losing your friend will also mean losing a relationship and a potential resource?

Why do you want to stay friends with her?

Money, resources, relationships... Know what you want and you'll know what to do.

You need to keep your word.

You need to be credible in business and in your personal life.

A gentleman keeps his word, no matter what. Follow through on your promises.

Don't judge others without reason.

You've thought she's lazy and good for nothing. You think she only sleeps with people to ingratiate herself and take the easy way out.

If you think your thoughts are not unfounded, are your judgments of your friends based on guesses and hearsay?

What really happened to your friend? Is that true?

Do you not know?

Things aren't complicated. You just want too much.

Best wishes!

Good morning.

It could be said that between true friends, understanding is the foundation, empathy is the bridge, and sharing pain and loneliness is affection. It might also be suggested that there is no such thing as a "best friend" for no reason, but only an emotional connection that shares both happiness and sorrow.

I wonder if the "friends" who co-founded a business still consider themselves friends.

We started a business together three years ago. Regardless of the emotional foundation before that, we can see from the fact that we chose to start a business together that when we decided to start a business three years ago, we had a certain level of trust in each other. However, due to a series of subsequent changes, that trust began to be diluted. The friend left for personal reasons. Could you please tell me more about why they left? Did they inform you of their decision to leave? Did they consider the other person (the partner) when they made the decision to leave? These reasons can all affect the judgment of the friend's true personality.

In the question, the author did not specify the circumstances of the friend's departure, so it is impossible to know the friend's true state of mind at the time. It seems that the friend left only because they were unable to fulfill their obligations to the company during the year of their departure. However, the friend was able to receive a profit of more than 100,000 yuan after leaving, while the author received only 30,000 yuan. It seems that the friend's investment accounted for a higher proportion of the partnership, and therefore they received a larger share of the profits. However, at the same time, they did not create any profits for the company, which obviously became a point of disagreement between the two. However, considering the friendship, the author made concessions out of politeness. But although the surface conflict had passed, the conflict in the author's heart had never really subsided. This is also the reason why the author's inner anger could no longer be suppressed when the friend casually mentioned the promise of wages that the author had left behind in the hope of not damaging the friendship.

In conclusion, the friend's behavior, which could be perceived as "capricious" and "irresponsible," has unfortunately led to a decline in the questioner's trust in the friend. During the period of no contact (or rather, when information about the friend became vague and interrupted), the intervention of external influences related to "collecting debts" further confirmed the internal judgment of the changed value of the friend, and therefore there was an internal imbalance.

How would you describe your relationship with your friends?

It would seem that role-playing should ideally match the demands of the role required in order to balance the relationship. Therefore, when people take on multiple roles, it might be helpful for them to consider matching the corresponding role capabilities, so that they can truly be competent in their role positions and bring the value of their roles into play.

Could you please clarify what is meant by this?

In simpler terms, it could be described as the "one person, one position" effect. Friendships have evolved from a straightforward bond to a more complex "partnership" dynamic. In this context, friends are essentially assuming the responsibilities of two roles, namely "friend" and "partner." However, it seems that both friends and the questioner are experiencing some confusion and blurring of the boundaries between these roles.

It would seem that the friend has not fulfilled either role, i.e., leaving without a care, leaving a blank year without any qualms, and freely parting with more than 100,000 yuan. It is perhaps understandable that one would be reluctant to do this. It is natural to feel embarrassed about receiving something for nothing. At the very least, it is necessary to solemnly explain to the partner why one left at the time. It does not need to be too specific, but there should be a plausible explanation, and one should sincerely appreciate the friend for not blaming one too much and still sharing the profits with one. In this way, the protagonist will have peace of mind and be able to let go. One will be able to understand the friend's true thoughts and intentions, and will be able to understand that the friendship outweighs the loss of some benefits, and it is reasonable. Then, the friend will never be able to bring up the 2,000 yuan in so-called service fees later, and there will be no more problems. The two can still be friends, but whether they can continue to be partners remains to be seen.

It is therefore important to remember that everyone has their own place. This means that it is crucial to ensure you are not taking up space unnecessarily without adding value. However, if you truly want to add value, it is essential to have a calm and rational mind, as well as the ability to handle things maturely (sensibly).

After analyzing the problem, it may become apparent that the issue has been present in both individuals, rather than solely in the friend. It is possible that the questioner has some awareness of this, otherwise they may not have considered the possibility of ending the friendship. The future of the friendship is dependent on both parties.

Perhaps it would be helpful to find a time to sit down face-to-face and have a real conversation.

It might be helpful to consider that trust in a friend often begins with the friend's departure. This could mean that the changes in the friend's current situation are related to their experiences during the time of their departure. It could be beneficial to create an environment for harmonious communication. Talking to your friend about what happened during this time might be a good way to find out what they really think. It might also be helpful to express your true thoughts about your friend's departure. This could help you to truly express your own feelings and have the right to say "no" to defend your own position and interests.

It's important to recognize that impulsive expressions without subsequent reflection may not be the most mature approach. It could indicate a lack of emotional maturity and a tendency to simplify matters. The initial intention may have been to handle things without any burden, but in reality, it might lead to repression. A more constructive approach would be to embrace the idea that relationships are built on the foundation of genuine self-expression. Otherwise, it might not be as strong as it could be.

It may be helpful to accept yourself and your friend's ideas and to make a choice from the heart.

After some communication, the questioner may gain a more accurate understanding of their friend's current outlook on life. If the friend has simply made a mistake and lost their way, but has the desire to turn over a new leaf, and the questioner also wants to remain friends with them, then they can once again communicate with each other sincerely, develop their friendship, help each other, and care for each other.

However, if after listening to all of your friend's thoughts, you find that you are unable or do not want to continue, for example if your world views are not aligned, there is no need to force yourself. Continuing the relationship may not be the best option in this case, as it may not be beneficial for either party. It may be more constructive to move on from the relationship, as it may be difficult to maintain a connection between the questioner and the friend's worlds. Additionally, the questioner may have also experienced emotional distress, which requires time to heal. In such a scenario, it is important to respect the decision of the friend and accept the changes in the relationship. The friend may wish to end the relationship, and this should be respected. It is also important to maintain amicable terms and remain open to the possibility of future interactions.

A good relationship is one that is mutually fulfilling, though it may not be something that is actively sought.

Given that we have always grown up in a world where there is a clear distinction between right and wrong, it is perhaps understandable that we are used to dealing with problems without seeking help. Without a reasonable reference standard, we may unconsciously believe that there is something wrong with ourselves. What I am referring to is not the issue mentioned earlier, where the individual in question is unclear about the division of responsibilities between the characters. Rather, in relationships, we may encounter people who also need to grow in the process of growing up. If the relationship does not currently have the ideal "mutual achievement," it is important not to blame yourself. This can have a detrimental effect on your self-esteem. The reality is that neither of you is capable of leading the other, so there is no need to blame yourself. What is essential is that each of you grows up well, takes responsibility well, and enjoys life well. Over time, you will gain a deeper understanding of what kind of life you want and what kind of friends can complement each other, allowing you to fully appreciate the beauty of life together.

I wish you the best!

Hello, I'm Xintan Coach Fly.

Thank you for sharing. I can see you're angry at your friend for taking advantage of you. You're unsure how to set boundaries with her.

Let's start with a hug. There are more than three solutions to everything. Let's look at what's bothering you.

First, give you a hug. There are always more than three solutions to everything. Let's look at what's bothering you.

People get along in patterns.

The book "What Others Do to You Is What You Teach Them" is about how we interact with others.

Everyone has their own patterns, and they bring these into all kinds of relationships. For example, you mentioned your own "appeasement" and the other person's love of taking advantage.

Think about how you interact with people every day. Is this a pattern? Do you give people a chance to take advantage of you?

You promised to pay her 2,000 yuan. You think she's lazy.

We usually judge people and events based on our own values. This is the judgment you have formed of each other.

Once you judge someone, you form an impression.

You feel uncomfortable, angry, and taken advantage of. Ask yourself, what psychological needs has her behavior violated?

Anger and dissatisfaction are often caused by unmet needs. These can be for fairness, respect, equality, or to be seen and affirmed for good qualities.

People need to maintain boundaries in close relationships.

To maintain personal boundaries, express yourself directly. This helps you learn to respect yourself and others.

?2. Build self-worth:

?2. Build your self-worth.

People who try to please others worry that if they refuse, the other person will not like them. They feel unworthy.

Self-worth is how you see yourself. It has nothing to do with other people. When we were young, we often got negative comments from our parents. We started to think these were true about us.

People have value too. We don't know what it is, so we trust others to tell us.

If we don't know our own value, we care a lot about what others say. Even a glance or a small action can cause self-doubt.

The easiest way to boost your self-worth is to give yourself positive feedback, affirm, praise, and accept yourself.

Self-confidence is having faith in yourself and being confident about the future.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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From your message, it seems like you and your friend started a business together. You said you'd pay her 2,000 yuan for her services, but it seems like you're the one who decides whether or not to pay. The other person came to you unprompted, which is upsetting.

Think back to how you and the other person used to get along. On the one hand, you feel softhearted, and on the other hand, you feel like you don't want to be taken advantage of again for no reason. It's totally understandable to feel torn between the two!

I really hope this sharing helps you deal with this difficult situation!

First, it would be really helpful to define interpersonal boundaries with the other person and get along with each other in the appropriate social roles.

The message shows that your interpersonal roles with the other person were quite complex. You were both friends and partners. When these dual roles become a bit mixed up, your kind and gentle side might sometimes blur the boundaries between the two roles.

So, it's really important to be true to yourself at this stage.

As partners, it's really important to have a fair split of rights and responsibilities.

From the timeline, it looks like your partnership with the other person ended about a year ago. That means that when it ended, you both had different ideas about what you wanted from each other.

Your offer of 2,000 yuan for labor services is more like treating the other person as a friend. At this point in time, giving is a sign of affection, while withholding is just doing your duty.

It's totally understandable that you're annoyed by the other person's active solicitation of your attention. It's natural to feel a bit uncomfortable when our friends treat us like partners. It can be a bit of a role reversal, and it's easy to feel at a loss in these situations.

So, start with yourself and make sure you're on the same page about the relationship, especially about the boundaries and roles of both parties. When you're working together as partners, it's easy to know what's expected of you and what you can expect from each other. When you're working together as friends, it's totally normal for interests to take second place to friendship.

When it comes to the trade-offs, it's really up to you. Just decide from your heart.

2. Have a good chat with the other person to let them know what you're looking for and what you're not willing to accept.

If the two of you can become friends, there must be something that attracts or cares for each other that allows you to connect. So, in this part, you can try to explore and communicate with the other person in depth. This can help you to understand each other better and to see whether they just want to take advantage of you or if they are really encountering some difficulties.

At the same time, you can also talk about your expectations for the relationship. Once you've shared your thoughts, you'll have a better understanding of the other person's approach to relationships.

I'm not trying to pry into your personal life, but as someone who cares about your well-being. I'm sending you all my best wishes!

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post, I could feel the anxiety of the poster. But I also noticed something amazing! The poster bravely expressed his distress and actively sought help on the platform. This will undoubtedly help the poster to better understand himself and his friends. And that's not all! It will also help him adjust himself.

Next, I'm thrilled to share my observations and thoughts in the post, which I'm sure will help the original poster gain a deeper understanding of the current situation.

On the one hand, we want to take care of our own feelings, but on the other hand, we remind ourselves to be kind. How do we choose?

After reading the original poster's post, I was blown away! It's so true that friends like this are really common in life. Sometimes when we meet, we don't want to say much if it's the truth.

I totally get it! These actions of our friends also woke us up and made us think about whether our own feelings are the most important or our friends' feelings are the most important.

This is an amazing topic for discussion!

Now, let's dive in and explore the amazing benefits we can enjoy when we put our friends' needs first. We get to make sacrifices for others and watch them smile!

Others will think we are kind and good, which is a wonderful feeling! Our culture and education teach us the same. But our hearts will be in torment.

If we satisfy ourselves and take care of ourselves, we might even become the 'bad guy' in other people's eyes! The advantage is that we feel good inside, and we don't have such annoying emotions.

So how do we choose between the two? I think we have the exciting opportunity to take responsibility for our own emotions and our own interests!

[Of course, what I think here is only for reference] because I believe that respect is mutual. If the other party constantly disrespects you and exploits you like a "vampire," then what position does she put you in? And does she respect us?

The good news is that the landlord has already made some promises, so now it's time to hold him to them!

2. Express your feelings and establish your own boundaries!

Relationships are the result of interactions, and it is what we have done or not done that has led to the situation we are in. The important thing is that what we have not done is also done, and we can choose to do something different next time!

So, when we face someone's "invasion," we have the power to choose how we react! We can either put up with it or express our feelings. How will the other person interpret our actions? Will they think they can treat us like this? Or will we show them that we deserve better?

Are you ready to do it?

So, express your feelings and let the other person know what you can accept, what you like, what you cannot accept, what you do not like, and where your bottom line is.

Once you've set your boundaries, the other person will know exactly how to treat you! Without clear boundaries, the other person won't know how to treat you, so it's really important to set them.

Therefore, in our daily interactions, we absolutely have to express our feelings and establish our own psychological boundaries!

3. Express your feelings, and have fun trying new ways of communicating!

From the post, I can see that the poster mentioned his/her agreeable personality, which is great! People like this are often very used to suppressing their thoughts and feelings, so it can seem a bit difficult to express their feelings. But with a little practice, they can do it!

But this is just a lack of practice in the past. The good news is that the host can do more exercises in expressing their feelings in their daily lives! For example, the more we write, the more we can express ourselves.

The more we write, the more we can understand and know ourselves – it's as simple as that!

This is a great way to capture our feelings! And if you're looking for tips on how to express them, I highly recommend checking out the communication model in "Nonviolent Communication."

The communication template in this book of observation, description, feelings, and request is absolutely amazing and super popular! Refusing others may be tough for people who are naturally pleasing, but I'm excited to express my feelings. I know I can be gentle but firm!

I believe in you! And you must believe in yourself too!

4. Accept the real you!

From the post, I can see that the poster mentioned that he/she is a pleaser. I bet the poster has also thought about why he/she is a pleaser, right?

I'm excited to share some of my thoughts on pleasing others! We often please others because we feel inadequate, we cannot accept our less-than-perfect selves, and our sense of self-worth is low.

This is why we lack confidence in interpersonal relationships.

The essence of human relationships is the exchange of value. So, what happens when we feel that our sense of value is not enough? We get to try to please others!

Of course, the sense of worthiness mentioned here is not necessarily an objective fact, but rather our subjective perception. In my opinion, the owner of this post is self-employed and is also very considerate of others. These are already very good qualities!

Embrace your strengths! Accept your shortcomings and focus your energy on the amazing things you do well. You've got this!

And that's okay! In this way, we can become more and more accepting of our true selves.

And guess what? Our sense of self-worth will also improve!

I really hope these words will be helpful and inspiring for the poster! My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a certified psychosynthesis coach.

It's worrying that your friend owes 200,000 yuan. She may need the money now, but her character determines how far she can go. She seems to be taking advantage of you.

The other person hasn't helped you much recently. They look for shortcuts and avoid hard work. They haven't created any wealth or profits. You've already given her a lot of money. The last two thousand may just be a feeling.

Do you want to give her the last two thousand labor fees? Even if she asked you today, you'd be annoyed. Even if you said she could be late with her credit card payments, you're different.

You don't need to dwell on this. Perhaps after this, you will know who to make friends with and who not to. You should also plan.

The other person always takes advantage of you. In the future, you'll see who they really are. Money reveals people's true colors. It seems that such friends have not played their role well in the business world. Whether you want to continue to associate with them depends on your attitude. Best wishes.

ZQ?

Good day!

I believe I understand your inner struggles and conflicts very well.

Perhaps we have different ideas about what a friend is. I believe that friends are different from business partners. Friendships are closer to general social relationships, providing emotional value to each other, sharing happiness, sharing loneliness, and achieving mutual success.

While friends may have differing opinions, they typically have a basic level of agreement. If two people simply look down on each other, it can make it challenging for them to develop a genuine friendship.

It's important to set boundaries in relationships and in business. It can be challenging to find a partner in business, especially when you're already close with them. It's essential to distinguish between your personal and professional relationships. When doing business with a friend, it's crucial to clarify how you'll share profits and bear risks, create a comprehensive written agreement, and avoid any future misunderstandings.

From your description, it seems that you and your friend are doing business together, which may be causing some confusion between the two relationships. The reason you were friends before may be that you had some mutual recognition. It's possible that your feelings towards him have changed somewhat. It might be helpful to reflect on some of the things that make you feel uncomfortable during the business process, as they may be influencing your overall evaluation of him.

In this process, I sense that you may have a tendency to view interpersonal relationships in a somewhat binary manner.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the psychology behind your actions. It seems that you promised the other person money but didn't give it, and when they asked you for it, you felt uncomfortable. Could this be a reflection of your interactions with this friend?

It's not that there's anything wrong with what your friend did. However, it's important to remember that interpersonal relationships are a two-way street. While we can't control how others act, we can always adjust our own perceptions and behaviors. Perhaps it would be helpful to reflect more on yourself from this perspective.

While one's background is often unchangeable, one's circle of friends can be chosen. To avoid any potential distress, it's advisable to choose friends thoughtfully, communicate openly from the outset, and nurture the bond once a friendship is formed.

I'm optimistic that the response from Red Rain will prove helpful. I'm grateful for your inquiry.

Hello, question asker. It's like meeting someone in person when you read their words. Should you avoid this friend?

From what I can tell, she didn't contribute much to the business she started with her friend. It's understandable that the questioner is relieved by her departure. It shows that the friend is not very reliable.

The friend hasn't made much profit for the company, but I don't know if the company's just-started capital is indispensable to the friend's capital. Of course, how to allocate and use money is something I can't really reflect on in words.

From what I can see, the questioner has been really kind and generous with his friend. But it seems like the friend has brought up the 2,000 yuan that was mentioned before without realising. I think there are two ways to look at this. One is that the questioner has already mentioned it, so he has to keep his word.

Another thing to consider is that the questioner feels like he's done enough and doesn't need to give the 2,000 yuan. From another perspective, the friend owed the money and really had no choice but to come and get the 2,000 yuan, which isn't a lot of money and might not solve anything.

I'm not sure if your friend has asked you for or borrowed more money.

Has the OP thought about giving her friend a bit of a talking to? If there's nothing you can do, just give her friend some time to learn and grow.

Maybe in the future, she'll learn to avoid getting into trouble and look for opportunities.

She tends to be influenced by others. The questioner is a very kind person. This may not be the most appealing personality type, but it's clear they're kind, tolerant, and strive for a positive relationship.

I still think you should steer clear of people who keep making the same mistakes and refusing to improve.

Everyone makes mistakes, but it's not the mistakes themselves that are scary. It's the inability to admit them or the refusal to change. Some people keep making the same mistakes over and over again, but you keep forgiving and accepting them because you think you should always give people a chance to turn over a new leaf. You're nostalgic, so you find a reason to stay anyway, but the other person just keeps repeating the same mistakes and causing harm. You may be able to justify it to yourself all the time, but the fact that you're unhappy is undeniable.

It's important to understand each other, but there are limits to everything. Some people keep making the same mistakes over and over again, and they don't want to improve. When dealing with such people, you have to set a stop-loss point and be determined to leave when the time comes.

I wish the original poster all the best in his personal and professional life.

Hello. I'm glad I could help.

I understand the conflict and struggle you're facing because I've been in the same situation. I had a friend who tried to take advantage of me. I refused, but I felt like I was betraying our friendship. If I didn't refuse, her greedy nature made me feel bad. I was stuck, unable to do anything well. But my friend didn't know I was in this state, so I changed the situation.

First of all, I want to be clear that it is essential to respect your own feelings, regardless of the relationship you are in. If the other person's behavior has already damaged your interests and made you feel uncomfortable, you have to speak up. The more you ignore it, the more it will exacerbate the conflict between you and him. You need to express your feelings. You can communicate with him well, express your thoughts and feelings, and let him know that although you are friends, no one's money comes from thin air. You can consider for him, but also hope that he can consider for you.

If he can understand you, it means he still considers you a friend. If he can't understand you, then I don't think it's worth continuing the relationship with a friend who gives so much but doesn't get anything in return.

Second, you must have your own bottom line and principles, and know where to draw the line. This will stop them taking advantage of you again and again. When they take advantage of you the first time, refuse. They need to know this has offended you and they will not do it again. If you don't refuse, they won't know they have done something wrong. This is why you say they take advantage of you again and again. Set your own sense of boundaries in interpersonal relationships.

Finally, I want to be clear that mutual understanding is crucial, regardless of whether you choose to continue getting along with him. You may dislike his behavior, but you can learn to understand him because nobody is perfect and everyone has shortcomings. Just do your best.

Love yourself before you love others! I hope this helps.