Should the girl continue this relationship in a family with two boys?

The two lovebirds met in the city and have been inseparable ever since! They've spent 11 months getting to know each other and have even had the chance to visit each other's homes.

It's so great that she's willing to go to your home and meet your parents! It shows that she's really happy with you.

The girl is particularly concerned about one thing: your family has two boys, so there are some doubts about the two aspects of: (1) raising children and (2) supporting parents.

First, she's concerned about having no one to take care of the little ones. Then, she's worried about taking on more responsibility for supporting the elderly. She also mentions that the two children must contribute in exactly the same way.

1. The girl's worries are totally understandable!

She may be an only child, and if she is also facing a boy from an only-child family, it's so important to remember that the support of the elderly is something that must be borne 100%. There's no question of whether it is a completely equal contribution.

In a family with two boys, supporting the elderly involves the division of responsibilities and obligations. This is something that will have to be faced at some point, but it's great that this girl is thinking about it now!

I'm sure you'll find another girl who'll give you a clear answer, too!

And it's so great that she's thinking about these things after marriage! It shows she's really thinking seriously about whether or not to marry you.

2. It's hard to say whether the girl is being too calculating. It really depends on how things go with you and whether she's shown other signs of being calculating.

If someone is a bit of a perfectionist, it might show up in the little things, like ordering food, buying things, meeting with friends, or paying for gifts.

You know, you can't really make an accurate judgment based on just those two examples in the description.

You can think about it in more detail if you'd like!

3. Could this girl be someone who likes to worry?

If you're someone who likes to worry, you probably think a lot about the future. And if you don't feel secure enough in yourself, you might worry all the time and look for reassurance from others.

The description mentions a girl, and there is first one worry, and then another.

You can also take a closer look at this aspect if you'd like.

4. Love and marriage are two different things. Love is all about two people, while marriage is a matter of two families.

Next, you can take some time to think about:

I'd love to hear your thoughts and feelings towards the girl during this stage as a couple! Are you happy spending time with her?

Would you like to walk down the aisle with her?

When you know yourself, it's so much easier to make good choices!

I wish you all the very best!

Hello. I can see you're in a difficult situation.

I'm a counselor. I'll share my psychological perspective.

You met the girl on a blind date. She is from the same city, and you have been together for 11 months. You have been to each other's homes once.

The girl is worried about the two boys in my family. I'm worried I won't have anyone to take care of the children in the future.

I said my parents would take care of each other. My younger brother's children are over 2 years old, so there shouldn't be any problems. I'm worried that in the future, a two-child family won't be able to handle supporting the elderly equally. I've studied more than my younger brother. I'm worried that I'll have to pay more.

There have been constant arguments recently. The girl threatened to break up, but then changed her mind. I feel that this is too much to handle. After marriage, there will be all kinds of conflicts over this, and now I'm a little hesitant about whether to continue.

Know yourself. What are your traits?

What's your relationship with your parents like? What are your expectations of intimacy?

You've been with your girlfriend for almost a year. How do you feel? She has doubts about your family and your brothers.

She's anxious. Is she an only child? You and your girlfriend haven't had a good talk. You need to understand her unconscious conflict.

What are your feelings? If you feel depressed and uncomfortable, your values are not the same. Communication is about discussing, not explaining. Let her express her worries, and also express your feelings. You can also seek family counseling to prepare for a partner relationship. Only by getting to know each other well before marriage will you understand and respect each other.

Second, learn to handle conflicts in an intimate relationship. Address your girlfriend's anxiety and projections about marriage and children. Learn to express feelings and communicate in conflicts. If you argue and don't resolve conflicts, you haven't learned to solve problems.

Third, learn to love yourself. A partner relationship is based on respect, understanding, and tolerance.

Intimate relationships are about two people getting to know each other and becoming a good family. This is the most important thing. The parents of both people are the original family. Siblings are the third most important thing.

Your girlfriend needs to know her boundaries. Before getting married, she needs to be a good person and improve herself. You can try to express your views, listen to her feedback, observe, and communicate.

Love yourself. Understand yourself. Accept yourself. Deal with conflicts. Grow strong. Fix the relationship. Good luck!

Hello.

I'm Kelly Shui.

The girl cares that her family is a family of two boys. This relationship needs to continue.

After reading the questioner's question, I encountered some problems during the relationship and I'm seeking clarity.

[About marriage]

You and the girl met and got to know each other. You surely talked about each other's family situation.

You've been together for 11 months. What attracted you to each other during this process?

It is essential to communicate honestly about certain things before marriage. You have visited each other's families once. It is unclear if the girl cares about the two boys in your family or their parents.

Tell me, if your parents are not involved in your marriage, would you get married?

If you have to raise your children on your own, you should have children.

If you get married, you will be the parents and caregivers of your children, and you will have to take on this responsibility at all times—it is the law.

Think about it this way: if you had to take full responsibility for your marriage, would you still choose to be together?

Marriage is different from a love affair. It involves love and responsibility, and it requires parents and children to grow together and face the storms of life.

You need to decide whether you can shoulder all the responsibilities and distinguish between the responsibilities and boundaries of the nuclear family and the original family.

I don't understand why the girl is so confused after spending 11 months with you when she could have found a boy from a single-child family at the beginning.

You should also talk honestly with each other about the challenges of marriage, the courage you need to overcome difficulties together, and whether you are ready to get married.

[About growth]

Everyone who has been through marriage knows this: when we become parents,

You will experience emotional changes. You may even dislike being nursed by your mother-in-law at that time.

You are the parents of the child. The way in which two generations are raised and the physical condition of the elderly will also be different.

Raising children requires love and attentive companionship, and it requires mutual understanding. What you thought about before marriage and the mess after marriage are two completely different things.

It's also challenging for parents to treat their children equally. Your younger brother might envy the fact that you've studied more, but because of your bond as siblings, he may not fully comprehend the dynamics between brothers.

You need to find out if your girlfriend likes your talent, character, and willingness to spend your life together.

Or do you still think that your marriage depends on your birth, or that she is worried that she won't be able to handle it in the future?

Some conflicts are understandable, but you must agree with her and plan together. She may be insecure and worried that she can't handle it well.

Human emotions are complex and changeable. You need to understand the worries and fears behind the emotions.

It is inevitable that the other person will feel emotionally bad, or that you will worry about various conflicts after marriage during such a process. Conflicts are a fact of life in any marriage.

Seek professional counseling if this matter has been bothering you for a long time.

Read these books: Growing in Relationships and Self-Boundaries.

Dear question asker,

From the description, it appears that the girl is contemplating a multitude of factors and is experiencing a significant degree of ambivalence regarding the issues of child-rearing and elderly care. She perceives a fundamental incompatibility between the responsibilities of child-rearing and the provision of care for the elderly. Additionally, she is anxious about the prospect of elderly care, primarily due to concerns about the financial implications.

This dynamic is highly detrimental to the stability of the relationship. The girl's emotional responses are now a constant source of distress for you, and you are also experiencing considerable confusion about how to proceed in light of the circumstances.

The girl's concerns are indeed a significant issue, and her primary focus is on what she deems important after marriage. It is evident that the parents of the two boys require assistance with childcare, and a solution has already been proposed regarding how to balance this.

The girl has accepted this answer.

The girl's concerns regarding the issue of elderly care are a significant issue that requires the attention of both families. The reason behind her concerns is that she is seeking a commitment or a solution from you.

Otherwise, she will experience significant discomfort and perceive a lack of equality in the treatment she receives. As previously stated, she exhibits a degree of calculation, which is likely influenced by her own considerations and those of her family.

It is imperative that this issue be addressed through open dialogue between both parties, as failure to do so may result in irreparable conflict between their respective families.

Although marriage is a matter of two individuals, it will inevitably be fraught with conflict when the family is involved. The girl undoubtedly harbors feelings for you, yet she is compelled to navigate this complex dilemma.

She will ultimately terminate the relationship, yet she is conflicted and uncertain about her decision. If this matter is not resolved, the conflict between you will persist.

Given that emotions are inherently ephemeral, it is imperative that you engage in a candid dialogue with one another.

It is my sincere hope that this information will prove beneficial to you. I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello.

From your question, I recall a psychologist's words: A good marriage isn't managed, it's selected. Don't try to change anyone. Marriage is about finding the right person and changing yourself.

You can't change another person. Their perception is shaped by their genes, family, upbringing, etc., and it's challenging to alter.

A good marriage requires finding the right person. This applies to both men and women.

The woman's concern is a fact: she minds that you have a younger brother. But your brother has been around for 20 or 30 years, and you can't just say now that because the woman minds the fact that you have a younger brother, you can do without one.

This is something that is simply not up for debate. Regardless of how much you assure them, you cannot convince the other party that your parents treat everyone equally.

What is considered equal treatment is open to interpretation. Your standards may differ from those of the other party. What you perceive as fair may not align with the other party's perception.

This standard is personal. The other party has a preconceived idea or a bad experience.

For example, in a family with two boys, the parents are more partial to the younger one, and the child with better conditions needs to pay more. She is worried that the same problem will occur in your family. She will hold a magnifying glass and always have a scale in her heart to see if the parents-in-law are not fair.

In short, you cannot change the situation with two brothers in the family. You will need to spend more effort in the future to balance and explain.

Your own conditions are probably pretty good, so the girl minds, breaks up, but then says she's not feeling well and wants to think about it some more. Your conditions aren't so good that she feels she can make up for your flaws, so she's struggling.

Resources are limited, so it's normal for her to worry about an uneven distribution. If you have enough resources, or if your family has enough resources, even if the distribution is uneven, you will still get much more than the average person. Those with a better attitude will worry less.

The problem is that your own conditions may be good, but they are only slightly better than average. At this time, the resources from the original family and parents are very important. It is clear that the girl's family conditions cannot give her much support, so she values the support from her in-laws.

Two ordinary people will care more because there are only so many resources.

This is the reality of the situation.

Be honest with her. Explain that your family cannot be changed and that your parents will try their best to be fair. But there is also a lot of uncertainty about the future, and you cannot guarantee absolute equality.

You can make one promise: you will work hard to earn more money and provide more resources for your young family. Acceptance from your partner is not necessary. If they cannot accept this, you may need to reconsider.

The past is gone, and the future is unknowable. You can't change the past, and you can't make the future set in stone.

I am both Buddhist and pessimistic, an occasionally positive and motivated counselor, and I love the world.

Dear question asker, My name is Rose, and I am here to listen and provide support.

From your statements, it is evident that you are currently experiencing distress and uncertainty. It is also apparent that you hold a highly positive perception of the relationship and your partner. However, due to the challenges posed by your partner, you are unable to achieve your desired outcomes and are uncertain about the best course of action. Despite your efforts to address your partner's concerns, it appears that you have been unable to assuage their apprehensions.

A sense of powerlessness is experienced, accompanied by uncertainty regarding the optimal course of action, namely, whether to terminate the relationship.

Given that you have sought assistance, it is evident that you desire the continuation of this relationship. This is your genuine sentiment, and it is imperative that we acknowledge it. The primary challenge lies in determining how to alleviate your partner's concerns about your post-marital life. This is a prevalent concern among women and a crucial aspect that every couple must address with care and preparation.

1. From the female perspective, her purpose is evident.

From the information provided, it is evident that your partner is particularly concerned about this matter. Additionally, it is clear that your partner is a highly prudent individual, which is an admirable quality.

She may have formulated a multitude of comprehensive plans for your future life together and is an individual who exhibits a high degree of responsibility.

The field of evolutionary psychology posits that women seek long-term marriages with loyal partners who can assist in childrearing. This is a fundamental aspect of women's marital needs and a prerequisite for their decision to marry and have children.

Such a situation is one that every woman will inevitably face.

It is understandable that she is concerned about the potential for inequality in your family, given that you have two sons.

She is concerned that her future residence will become a source of distress due to the influence of her in-laws. It is important to note that the presence of a son alone does not guarantee happiness.

The capacity to foster genuine happiness within the family unit hinges on the ability to assume shared responsibility. The woman's role in childbearing is inherently challenging, and her husband's capacity to demonstrate sufficient love and care is crucial. In the event of her experiencing mistreatment at the hands of her in-laws, her husband's ability to provide her with emotional support, empathize with her feelings, and collaborate with her in problem-solving is vital. This ensures her protection from further mistreatment and the potential for a more fulfilling and contented life within the family.

It is therefore important to consider the other person's concerns and engage in open dialogue about them. Addressing and discussing one's respective problems in a clear and transparent manner before marriage is of paramount importance.

One potential solution is to draft a prenuptial agreement that outlines the strategies for addressing the respective concerns.

2. The woman's subsequent regret indicates her concern for the relationship.

This also demonstrates that she values you as an individual and desires to enter into matrimony with you to embark on a long-term journey of companionship. It is merely that she is deeply invested in these matters and lacks the external circumstances she desires, as if her marriage is incapable of achieving happiness.

Indeed, this is also where her own problem lies, which is related to her own perceptions and concepts.

It is difficult to ascertain whether a family with a few children will experience peace. Conversely, the more one cares, the more one is likely to perceive even minor discrepancies as significant.

If one is indifferent, there is no basis for discussion.

If one is able to share the responsibilities and burdens of one's family, then other problems can also be solved. For example, when it comes to family matters, regardless of one's parents' actions, they are only a source of assistance. It is of the utmost importance that one takes responsibility.

Consequently, the issue of responsibility for a future family is not merely a personal matter; it also concerns the other person. This is a topic that requires further discussion with the other person.

When these issues are discussed, the other person often becomes emotional. It is important to recognize the emotions behind this behavior, which are often driven by concerns and fears about the uncertainty of the future. Providing more understanding and reassurance can help to alleviate these feelings.

Indeed, marriage is a matter that requires careful consideration. Emotions serve as the foundation, while the reality of life comprises a multitude of trivialities. The ability of a couple to withstand these trivialities is a crucial determinant of their long-term happiness.

Indeed, marriage is a matter that requires careful consideration. Emotions serve as the foundation, while the reality of life comprises a multitude of trivialities. The ability of a couple to maintain their resolve in the face of these trivialities is a pivotal determinant of their collective happiness.

It is imperative to consider this aspect of marriage regardless of the individual in question. Failure to do so, particularly if the couple is unprepared mentally, can result in a disastrous outcome. The additional responsibilities and pressures that arise with children can be a significant test for any marriage.

The world and I love you.

In this era, we are moving beyond traditional family structures and the division of responsibilities. We are emphasizing individual growth, family harmony, and the depth of emotional connections. Let's explore how to understand and solve your problems with a new perspective.

1. Move beyond traditional frameworks and embrace a diverse view of the family.

First, we must recognize that the form and function of the family are constantly evolving. While traditionally, families with many children may have had problems with uneven resource distribution and sharing of elderly care responsibilities, these problems can be solved in modern society.

On the contrary, society has progressed to the point where we have more choices and tools to build a family environment that is both fair and loving.

The girl you mentioned is worried about the future of the two boys, which is a natural reaction to the uncertainty of the future. We can guide her to think outside the traditional framework and consider more open and flexible family models.

For example, family members should develop closer emotional ties and enhance family cohesion through regular family meetings, joint activities, and mutual support. At the same time, new models of elderly care, such as community elderly care and family mutual aid networks, should be explored to reduce the burden of elderly care on a single family member.

2. Strengthen communication and consensus and establish a shared vision.

Communication is the cornerstone of any relationship, especially when facing major decisions and disagreements. You must have in-depth conversations with your girlfriend. Listen to her concerns and worries, and share your thoughts and plans.

You must maintain an open and respectful attitude throughout this process and avoid mutual accusations or emotional arguments.

Through communication, you can and should work together to develop a shared vision of what you want your future family to be like. This vision should include your expectations for your children's education, your plans for family life, and your views on responsibility for the elderly.

When you have a common goal and direction, you can find solutions to problems and remain united and consistent in the face of challenges.

3. Cultivate independence and a sense of responsibility to promote personal growth.

In modern society, it is crucial to foster independence and responsibility in individuals. The girl you mentioned is concerned about the lack of future childcare support and the unequal distribution of pension responsibilities, which reflect her apprehensions about the independence and sense of responsibility of family members.

Together, you will develop independence and responsibility for yourself and your family.

You must encourage your children to be independent and self-sufficient. This means involving them in household chores, developing their interests and social skills, and so on. At the same time, you must make them understand their responsibilities and obligations as a member of the family. They must learn to contribute to the family.

You must also continue to improve your abilities and qualities so that you can better shoulder the responsibilities and obligations of the family in the future.

4. Get professional help to overcome challenges together.

When faced with complex family issues, it is often necessary to seek help from outside professional sources. Meeting with a counselor or family therapist is a valuable step in gaining professional advice and guidance to help you better understand and resolve your differences and conflicts.

Furthermore, you can take family education or marriage counseling courses to learn how to communicate and cooperate better, and how to work together to face challenges. These courses will strengthen your bond and provide you with practical tools and skills to meet future challenges.

5. Maintain love and respect and create a better future together.

Love and respect are the cornerstones of any relationship, no matter what challenges or difficulties you face. You must always keep this in mind and put it into practice in your daily lives.

When you have disagreements and conflicts, treat each other with understanding and tolerance. Then, resolve conflicts and misunderstandings with love and respect.

At the same time, we must maintain optimism and hope for the future. I am certain that through your joint efforts and unremitting pursuit, you will create a beautiful future full of love and harmony.

You will continue to grow and improve, becoming better partners and family members.

We must examine and solve current problems and challenges with a new perspective and mindset. We can create a fair and loving family environment by going beyond traditional frameworks, strengthening communication and consensus, cultivating independence and a sense of responsibility, seeking professional support, and maintaining love and respect.

As you continue, you will find more and more reasons to value each other and to love each other more. I am certain that you will be able to work together to create a better future.

Dear Sir/Madam, Thank you for placing your trust in our platform and for sharing your concerns with us.

From your account, it appears that the relationship between you and the girl is gradually approaching a quasi-marital state. However, you have expressed some reservations about her calculating nature. You have highlighted potential conflicts that may arise after marriage and have questioned the necessity of continuing the relationship.

It appears that you have formulated expectations regarding your future family. You have discussed your future with your children and your parents' retirement, among other topics. It seems that you have already conceptualized your family structure and anticipated the challenges you may encounter.

It appears that there are discrepancies in opinion regarding the handling of future family relationships.

1. Your parents will undoubtedly provide assistance with childcare, and by that time, your brother's children will be older, allowing your parents to offer support as well.

2. In regard to providing financial support for your parents in their advanced years, you will do your utmost within your financial capabilities. You will not be concerned with the extent of your brother's contributions.

3. You have not yet developed the requisite skills to effectively navigate disagreements with your partner post-marriage.

The girl's thoughts are as follows:

1. There is a possibility that your parents may be unable to provide an equal level of care for the grandchildren between the two brothers.

2. You have some concerns about assuming a greater responsibility for supporting the elderly with your brother.

3. When you opted to adopt an indifferent approach to the issue, she expressed disagreement, resulting in a conflict.

There are fundamental differences in your respective approaches to life. The girl's stance on complete equality is at odds with your own. In particular, you are disappointed that she is threatening to break up with you and are reluctant to continue the relationship. However, she will take time to reflect on the situation, which provides some reassurance. Do you believe that the girl has a promising future ahead?

Love and marriage represent a significant transition in one's life. It is not uncommon for individuals to have reservations and inquiries regarding their decision to enter into a partnership with another person to navigate the challenges that arise. The fact that you have these reservations indicates that you are giving serious consideration to the potential difficulties that may lie ahead.

It is evident that you are anticipating the opportunity to start a family with someone who aligns with your values and outlook on life. This matchmaking candidate presents a unique profile compared to what you initially anticipated.

This appears to be the reason for your reluctance to proceed. Therefore, I am interested in learning what factors are motivating you to continue.

I must confess that I am really curious.

My assumption is that:

1. Given that your younger brother has already married and had a child, are you feeling any pressure to get married yourself?

2. The individual you met through a matchmaking service is from the same city as you, and there will be numerous conveniences after you get married.

3. The duration of your relationship is 11 months, during which you have visited each other's homes. This has likely led to the establishment of a certain level of intimacy and a degree of certainty about each other.

4. The dissatisfaction you describe with the girl is limited to her tendency to focus on gains and losses within the family. It appears that, aside from this one issue, you are still satisfied with her performance.

If the above hypothesis is valid, what action can be taken?

1. You have already demonstrated this approach. You addressed the girl's questions individually, aiming to address her concerns. While this method may not be the most effective, I believe your responsiveness is a crucial aspect of relationship-building.

2. It appears that there is a lack of understanding among girls regarding the dynamics of a family with many children. I would be interested to hear your thoughts on how to facilitate a better understanding of your views on family among this demographic. Letting the other person understand you is also a way of communicating.

3. When a group has new members, there will be a period of adjustment. With an attitude of looking forward to integration, everyone will accommodate each other. It also takes a certain amount of wisdom to show yourself. I believe that you, who are good at thinking, will be able to find a way that suits you.

I encourage you to take the initiative and try new approaches, without fear of making mistakes. Be open to accommodating the needs of others and maintain a positive outlook.

Hello, I have read the description. Love is a matter of two people, while marriage is a matter of two families, which can indeed be a more complicated matter. The girl has raised some realistic issues that she may face in the future before marriage. You always argue because you disagree, and you are worried about the various conflicts that may arise after marriage, so you are confused about whether to continue this relationship.

I can appreciate your feelings on this matter. Perhaps we could discuss it further?

I believe I understand your question better now. I have different opinions with my girlfriend about the problems we may encounter after marriage. This makes me think that she is someone who loves to argue. This makes me think that there will be all kinds of conflicts after marriage. This makes me waver about whether to continue this relationship.

If we follow this logic, we can deduce that if you and your girlfriend cannot reach a consensus on some issues before marriage, it is inferred that there will be many conflicts after marriage, which means that you cannot enter into marriage. On the other hand, if you cannot find any conflicts that you cannot reach a consensus on before marriage, you can enter into marriage. However, if you find conflicts that you cannot reach a consensus on after marriage, what should you do then? Should you give up a marriage?

It might be worth considering whether you should get married if you can't find a girl who can resolve differences of opinion before marriage.

The above statement may be a bit direct, but I believe it reflects a logical perspective. How should we approach these questions?

In any relationship between two people, whether it be family, friendship, love, marriage, etc., there are bound to be differences due to the two people's upbringings, backgrounds, ways of thinking, values, etc. It is therefore only natural that there will be disagreements during the course of the relationship. On the basis of believing in this fact, we are faced with the question of how to analyze, view, and deal with the differences when they arise. Here are some possible ways of thinking:

1. It would be helpful to understand the two people's views on marriage. What are the reasons and purposes for entering into marriage? What do you value most in marriage? And what kind of partner do you hope to find?

2. The importance of similarities and differences between the two parties. Since any two people will undoubtedly have similarities and differences, how would you assess the importance of your own similarities and differences?

3. How should one respond when differences, conflicts, and disputes arise? Is it preferable to avoid them as much as possible, or is it valuable to engage in open communication to find solutions? Is there a way to identify common ground while respecting differences, or to establish a set of rules in advance for addressing issues as they arise?

Given that you have known each other well and have been able to get along for 11 months, it seems likely that there are aspects of each other that you find attractive and recognize in each other. Do you think that these aspects coincide with your views on marriage? When these practical issues raised by the girl lead to differences in opinion, how would you assess the relative importance of these differences in terms of the mutually recognized aspects of "sameness"?

Have I considered the various ways to seek common ground while reserving differences, or have we each been expressing our views without trying to bridge our differences?

As the saying goes, even an honest official may find it challenging to resolve family matters. However, I would still like to express some personal opinions:

1. With regard to the matter of childcare, it is important to recognise that parents are not obliged to provide assistance with childcare. The decision of whether to offer help and which child to assist is a personal choice for parents. Similarly, children have the right to decide whether they wish to accept help from their parents and, if so, which parent is willing to provide it. It is essential that couples engage in open and constructive dialogue to navigate these issues.

2. With regard to the matter of supporting the elderly, there are pertinent legal provisions pertaining to this issue, and it would be advisable for all of us to adhere to these legal norms. Supporting the elderly also encompasses moral and personal qualities. A person who is reluctant to go the extra mile when supporting their parents may not be the kind of person you can trust to have a strong sense of responsibility towards their wife and children.

Could reaching the aforementioned underlying understanding facilitate the resolution of your differences?

3. With regard to the question of whether the girl is too calculating, I am not inclined to agree with that assessment. In fact, the two examples cited in the description seem to reflect the girl's pursuit of fairness. If we want to discuss this further, we could perhaps start with the principle of what is fair. However, it might prove challenging to reach a consensus if we get too caught up in specific cases and each person remains firmly attached to their own views.

4. Seeking common ground while reserving differences means coming up with an inclusive solution. For example, if two people go out to dinner and one says that they don't like spicy food and the other says that they want to eat Sichuan hotpot, the conclusion of not seeking common ground while reserving differences is that they each eat their own food. One way to seek common ground while reserving differences is to go to a Sichuan hotpot restaurant and order a mixed hotpot.

It requires significant effort for two individuals to have a positive relationship. For effective communication, it is essential that both parties recognize the importance of common ground, are open to communication, and are willing to explore various solutions that balance differences and similarities. When these conditions are met, there is a greater chance of reaching a mutually acceptable outcome.

The future of the relationship is, to some extent, open to interpretation. It is therefore important to understand the logic behind each potential outcome, as otherwise it may seem somewhat hasty and arbitrary.

I hope it will be an inspiration to you. I would also be grateful for your feedback at your convenience, so that I can continue to learn from experience, improve my abilities, and help more people.

I hope this finds you well. Please accept my best regards.

Good morning, questioner! This worry on the girl's part is completely unnecessary, so don't worry about it!

Sincere interaction is the way to go! It's important to understand whether his worry is about the family or if it's just a feeling he has. Either way, it's crucial to know!

The two of you open up to each other and communicate deeply, which is so important!

Marriage is a beautiful thing! It's not just about two people, but about two families coming together. As adults, we have the amazing opportunity to take 100% responsibility for our new family. In the future, whether or not our parents help us with our new baby, we have no reason to blame anyone. This is our own business. The elderly may help us, but we should be grateful for their help. If they don't help us, we can still be reasonable and work it out together!

Every newly formed family is created by the two of us to create a happier future, not depending on factors such as our parents and younger siblings. What do you think?

Are you truly together for love? Or is there another reason? Think carefully and let your heart lead the way!

Take a deep breath, be honest with yourself, and listen to your heart. Why do you want to get married? What is your motivation?

This is the most important thing! The rest is just a bonus.

Now for the fun part! Plans after marriage.

Every family has its ups and downs. Life is like a potpourri of moments, some smooth, some a bit chaotic. How do we embrace this beautiful, ever-changing reality with a sense of ease and joy? Or do we let the complexities of emotions cloud our view?

I absolutely believe that before getting married, you should plan everything well and take on all the responsibilities so that you can be happier and more content after getting married. If the two of you can agree on these things, then your marriage is definitely worth continuing!

I'm so excited to share with you the secrets to a happy marriage!

I'm a listening therapist, and I'm here to help you find your own inner happiness!