Small consecutive things are annoying, and I feel a bit irritable. How can I adjust myself?

Hello, host. I'm confident my answer will be helpful to you.

The original poster is cute and has a good understanding of psychology. He knows that when he is in a bad mood, he should deal with his emotions.

Asking your questions here about your own problems is a great way to solve them. Here are some more suggestions:

1. Accept that they are just the way they are and that we cannot change other people.

As it says in "A Change of Heart," there are only three things in this world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. We are troubled because we do not control our own affairs. We worry about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven. We need to stop worrying and start taking control of our lives.

Other people's thoughts and actions are their own business. We have no control over them. Everyone is an independent individual. What they think and feel is influenced by their genes, upbringing, education, and living environment. They are who they are, and there's nothing we can do about it.

Let me be clear: what other people think and do is their business. We cannot control it. Everyone is an independent individual. Their thoughts and ideas are formed by their genes, upbringing, educational background, living environment, etc. So they just are the way they are. If they don't want to change, there's nothing we can do to change them.

We can change ourselves. We can accept them and express our needs and feelings to them.

We can change ourselves. We can accept them and express our needs and feelings to them.

When you truly accept them, you will not be disgusted by many of their behaviors. You will be calm because this is the real them. They are not the way you idealize them to be. They have their limitations, but this is how they exist. Their way of existing is different from what you expect, but that does not make them wrong.

2. Express your feelings and needs in a way that is consistent with non-violent communication.

The steps of non-violent communication are: state objective facts, express your feelings, express your needs, and request the other person to take action.

If something they do or say makes you feel uncomfortable, you can say something like this: "So-and-so, you just said that... (state the objective facts, being careful not to accuse or judge), "I'm really troubled (express your true feelings), "I'm all grown up now, "I hope you can speak more slowly (express your needs), "In the future, I'd like you to... (ask for the other person's action)."

Once you understand each other's needs and feelings, you'll see your emotional bond strengthen. You'll also gain a deeper understanding of each other, which will help your relationship grow.

3. Release your emotions in a suitable way.

Talking to your boyfriend and confiding in him is the best way to deal with emotions. There is no other way at the moment, but there are still some other effective methods that we can use to release emotions.

1. Call someone else to talk to, but make sure it's someone who accepts and supports you, not someone who rejects and attacks you.

2. Go paint a mandala. It'll calm your mood.

Write down all your feelings and thoughts on paper. Don't worry about whether your handwriting is neat and tidy, or about the logic of the content. Just express your feelings.

4. Relax with box breathing.

This breathing technique slows your breathing rate and improves your concentration. It teaches you how to deal with stressful situations by focusing on taking deep breaths.

You will feel calm and focused in just five minutes.

Method:

Exhale all the air from the chest and hold your breath. Count to five.

Inhale through the nose, counting to five.

Breathe in for five seconds, then hold your breath.

Exhale through the nose, counting to five.

This is one set. It's called "box breathing" because there are four parts, like the four sides of a box.

For best results, repeat this routine for at least five minutes, and practice for 10 to 20 minutes every day.

[Principle]

Your body reacts to stress by raising your pulse and breathing rate, narrowing your blood vessels, and increasing your blood pressure. Breathing and meditation influence your parasympathetic nervous system, slowing your heartbeat and breathing and improving blood flow and digestion.

Breathing and meditation also affect the brain, improving your mood, concentration, and ability to perform everyday tasks.

Here's a tip:

When practicing, you must be in a comfortable position, whether sitting or lying down. Pay close attention to your body for any signs of tension. As you breathe, keep your head, neck, and shoulders relaxed.

You can overcome stressful situations by practicing with positive, affirmative thoughts or focusing your attention on an object or image in your mind.

You've got this!

Hello!

We've all been there! Sometimes at work, we find ourselves stuck with colleagues we don't particularly care for.

You're not feeling well, and the person you want to talk to doesn't have time to respond to you. I can imagine how frustrating that must feel!

I'm guessing you don't like these two colleagues. It might be because you think "chatter" is bad behavior. In psychology, this is called a "stereotype," which is basically a negative belief that makes you feel negative emotions.

It's totally normal to feel irritable when you're dealing with physical discomfort and a lack of time. It's like your body and mind are reinforcing each other!

Let's say you're in a great mood today. Would having diarrhea and not having time for your boyfriend make you feel irritable? I really don't think so!

You might say, "I need to take some medicine for my stomach. I'll call you when I'm free."

So, it seems that the root cause of your irritability is that you have a negative view of the behavior of "chattering and rambling." This can cause you to feel unhappy and irritable, which I'm sure you'd prefer not to experience!

Absolutely! If you want to, you can:

We all have different tastes and habits, and it's totally normal that we won't always see eye to eye with everyone. It's not easy to find people who are exactly like us, right? So, try to find things you have in common with others while accepting that we're all different. This will make your interactions with others much more relaxed and enjoyable.

Try to reduce some stereotypes, be more open-minded, and allow yourself to accept behaviors that are different from your own. It's always a good idea to establish positive thinking. "Rambling on and on" is just a different way of expressing yourself, and it also shows that they are careful and prudent in their work, which is not a bad behavior at all!

It can be tough to get past some of those fixed ideas, but you've got this! With a little long-term persistence, you can guide yourself to a happier, more relaxed place. And remember, subjective willingness is the most important thing. So, go ahead and put in the effort to make yourself happy and relaxed. You've got this!

I wish you the best of luck!

Greetings, I am writing in response to your query.

Question:

1. In the workplace, two new colleagues have been introduced, yet communication remains somewhat strained.

2. The boyfriend is preoccupied and unable to engage in communication.

3. Physical discomfort, diarrhea

From the questioner's account, it is evident that the change in personnel at work has caused discomfort and communication difficulties. This can be conceptualised as a trigger point that has initiated a cascade of adverse physical reactions and negative emotions.

The development of a working rapport with previous colleagues and the formation of emotional connections can lead to feelings of discomfort in the event of sudden personnel changes. The re-establishment of rapport and communication in a new environment requires time and energy, which can result in a sense of longing for previous colleagues and the previous work atmosphere. This emotional response is similar to that experienced by individuals arriving in a new environment and feeling out of place, lonely, and helpless.

It is important to recognise that this is a normal reaction. There is a well-known saying in psychology: "The more you resist, the more it persists; the more you accept, the more it changes." It is inevitable that we will experience many changes in our lives that require us to adapt. It is a common human experience to feel nostalgic.

It is important to note that transitions from elementary school to junior high school and from junior high school to high school also entail significant shifts in environment and social dynamics. Initially, it is common to experience a period of adjustment, during which feelings of isolation and helplessness may arise. However, with time, individuals can gradually integrate into their new environment and begin to form connections with their peers. This process may parallel the one currently experienced by the original poster.

It is therefore recommended that the questioner attempt to reduce cognitive resistance to new colleagues and instead focus on the resolution of work-related issues. This approach may help to mitigate the psychological internal friction that is being experienced.

In the event that the questioner is unable to regulate themselves and their loved ones, or in the event that their loved ones are too occupied or unable to provide assistance, they may also seek professional psychological counseling.

It is hoped that you will be able to achieve a state of happiness.

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

I see you're feeling down, so I'm here to help. Diarrhea is the worst, so make sure you've taken your medicine. When we're not feeling well, it's okay to be alone, but if we have to be distracted and do other things, we will feel more irritable.

The questioner's work has been redeployed, and there are two older colleagues on the questioner's team. After brief contact, the questioner has determined that these two colleagues lack understanding, repeat themselves, are somewhat confused, and ramble on about irrelevant topics.

The questioner's evaluation is not wrong. Our first impression of someone plays a big role. In social interactions, there is a psychological effect called the primacy effect. This effect refers to the influence of the first impression of contact between the two parties on future interactions. It is the effect of "forming a preconception."

People have different personalities, so they will handle things differently. However, the comments you gave to the two new colleagues seem to be similar, so it is understandable that you think people of this age group behave in this way.

You are annoyed by a series of minor things, and your mood is irritable. How do you adjust yourself?

1. Identify where your emotions come from.

The questioner is wrong. Their minor problems are not the source of their distress. They are upset because things are not going as they had imagined.

When you have diarrhea and are not feeling well, you need to rest. But then two new colleagues come along. As an older employee, they may want to ask you for advice too much in areas they don't understand. You are enthusiastic, but after getting to know each other, their progress is not as fast as you thought, so you begin to feel a little irritated. This is one of the factors.

I don't know the scope of your work, so I can't say what the two new colleagues need to adapt to. But I'm sure it's similar to when I'm tutoring my child. Even simple topics can be difficult for children to grasp, and if they don't understand after a few attempts, I tend to become impatient. I've realized this is my own problem. When children encounter something new, they don't yet know how to process it. It's not about comparing them to your standards.

When you are physically uncomfortable, you are vulnerable. When your contact with your new colleague does not go well, you are annoyed. The first thing that comes to your mind is to talk to your boyfriend, but when you find out that he is busy, you may have had this thought before you even find someone to talk to: What would my boyfriend say to comfort me and what advice would he give me? You know that's not what really happens, and that's what makes you annoyed.

2. Look at the same thing from a different perspective.

Diarrhea is uncomfortable, but it's the body's way of telling us to slow down on the food. It's a natural cleansing process that gets rid of the bad stuff and makes the body feel better after a rest.

As an old employee, the questioner can finally give full play to his abilities when in contact with two new colleagues. Colleagues are slow to accept because the questioner had a certain strength in ability at the beginning, so he can get started faster. Nowadays, you are like a teacher, teaching the work experience you have gained to new colleagues. From your perspective, you will let them learn a different understanding from your own, and automatically block their shortcomings. After all, they are just colleagues, so it doesn't really matter what they are like.

Our mentality affects our emotions. We can change people and methods to get the same result we want, and possibly get more different results, since our boyfriend is busy and has no time to listen to us.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the original poster. Best wishes.