Sophomore year, didn't get into the university of his choice during the college entrance exam, but after college, he always gets addicted to his phone. What should he do?




I am a sophomore with average grades. I didn't get into the university I wanted during the college entrance exam, so I hoped to do very well in university, but after I got there, I was always addicted to my phone, sometimes not necessarily playing, just unable to concentrate on my studies, and had an avoidance mentality towards many things.
At the same time, I am very afraid of talking to classmates and strangers. Since entering my third year of high school, I have become more and more reluctant to speak. During the holidays, I also lock myself in my room, always thinking that others must really hate me for my personality.
As a result, I get very nervous and scared every time I go to an unfamiliar environment. My grades are getting worse and worse, and I'm also becoming more and more of a loner.
I feel that I have no hope for the future, and I feel very guilty towards my parents. And I often stay up late at night, not wanting to go to sleep.
In the third year of junior high school, I had a period of mild depression. Since then, I have been constantly adjusting my state, but it has never been good. Especially after my mother got sick this year, I dare not tell her anything unhappy. What should I do?
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I can relate to how you're feeling. It's tough when things don't go as planned. Maybe it's time to seek professional help, like a counselor or therapist, who can provide guidance and coping strategies for your feelings of anxiety and depression. Also, consider talking to someone you trust about what you're going through; sometimes just sharing can be very relieving.
It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden all by yourself. Have you thought about joining clubs or groups that interest you? Meeting people with similar interests could make socializing less daunting. And remember, it's okay to not be okay sometimes. Everyone has their own pace in life, and it's important to take care of your mental health first.
Hey there, I know things seem really hard right now, but have you tried setting small, manageable goals for yourself? This might help you regain some confidence and focus. Also, maybe start with little steps towards reducing phone use, like setting specific times to check it. It's also great if you can talk to someone about your feelings; they might offer support and understanding.
Your feelings are valid, and it's important not to blame yourself for them. Sometimes we need to give ourselves grace and understand that it's okay to struggle. Reaching out for professional support can be really beneficial. Additionally, try to establish a bedtime routine to help you wind down at night. Small changes can lead to bigger improvements over time.
Feeling this way must be incredibly challenging for you. Perhaps finding a hobby or activity that brings you joy could help shift your focus away from negative thoughts. Remember, it's okay to ask for help. Whether it's from friends, family, or professionals, seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. You're not alone in this.