Started taking a leave of absence in 8th grade for four years, feeling like my life is over, what should I do?

Dear Sir/Madam, I am pleased to see your request for assistance and hope that my input will prove useful to you.

From your description, it can be seen that taking a break from school has made you somewhat fearful and insecure about the content you studied at school. However, this is not the real reason why you don't want to go to school. Rather, it is more about your dissatisfaction with the current exam-oriented education system. You feel that it has too many restrictions on you, preventing you from truly realizing your potential. You want a learning method that is unrestrained and based on your own inner will. What are your thoughts on this matter?

In essence, the objective of a test-oriented education at school or self-study is to achieve a happier and better life in the future. Both methods have the potential to fulfill this objective, therefore the choice of learning method should be based on the individual's needs and preferences.

Furthermore, your description indicates a well-defined plan for self-study and a high level of confidence in achieving the desired changes through this approach. What are your thoughts on this matter?

For all individuals, learning is a lifelong endeavor. As long as there is an awareness of the necessity for continuous lifelong learning and a commitment to learning, there will be no impediment to pursuing one's own learning, particularly when there are aspirations and a clear vision of the desired life trajectory.

There is no need to be concerned. School and self-study are simply different methods of learning. It is important to identify the learning style that is most effective for you.

My name is Lily, the Q&A Museum's resident expert. I extend my warmest regards to you and the world.

Hello, question asker.

From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling pretty confused.

On the one hand, without a degree as a stepping stone, it seems that you can't do a lot of the things you want to do.

On the other hand, if you're not a fan of exam-focused education and are concerned about keeping up with the studies,

I think you've got your reasons for taking a break from school.

I saw a documentary today about a 10-year-old boy who has involuntary bowel movements due to a congenital deformity. He's basically never been to school and has spent all his time in the hospital. His greatest wish is to go back to school and go to school with his friends.

He's particularly interested in drawing and is hoping to stop having surgery, which he's had three times already at the age of 10, and is about to have a fourth. Once he's recovered, he'll be able to let his mother drive him to art school.

If you have to take a break from school for any reason, it's really straightforward to just pick up where you left off. School is about more than just learning knowledge; it's also about learning to socialise and get along with others.

You can learn in your own way. If you can get good grades in your own way, then do it your way.

Test-oriented education has its drawbacks, but it's also a fairer way to compete and learn.

Take the big shots at Jingdong, Xiaomi, Tencent, etc. for example. They're all the best in the exam-oriented education system. Just as there are rules in exam-oriented education, just as there are rules in society, it's tough to break them by yourself.

You have to decide for yourself whether it's easier to break the rules or follow them to achieve success. People tend to seek out what's beneficial and avoid what's harmful, and they'll always choose what suits them.

Why do so many people pursue financial freedom? The main reason is that it gives you the freedom to be independent.

Do what you enjoy and don't let others make decisions for you.

This is a goal many people aspire to, and some are fortunate enough to do what they love and make a living at it.

If you want to do what you love and be able to support yourself, you need to have the skills and confidence to make your own choices.

For instance, there was an aunt who loved painting, but at first she had to clean to make ends meet and could only paint in her spare time after work. Still, this gave her great comfort and she felt that she was living a fulfilling and happy life.

It's great to feel capable and believe in yourself, but you also need to make the most of your abilities. There are still many limitations in reality. Even Van Gogh wasn't recognized by many people when he was alive, even though he was a great artist.

You can have both the moon and sixpence, but you have to have the courage to pursue them. Be brave and take control of your own life. That's the only way to live a happy life.

Think about how you're going to make a living.

Think about whether studying and getting a degree will help you reach your goals and if you can get the degree you need.

Take some time to think about what you enjoy and what you're good at.

Come on! I truly believe that no matter what choice you make, you will live your own wonderful life.

Pursue your own interests and don't try to fit in at school. Know how to love others and adapt to different people and situations. At the same time, don't force yourself too much.

To truly love others is to wish and give them happiness. This should be done for everyone, including the weak. We should accept and forgive, or let go of the ego and forgive. If there are mistakes or shortcomings, then we should correct them. Everyone has the right to happiness. People can bring each other comfort and joy. It is good to love and accept others and oneself. We should be kind at heart. This is beneficial to others or society. We should not despise or reject ordinary people, or be jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you don't get along with people, it can lead to negative energy and emotional problems. You need to love others, adapt to people and things, and correct your energy field so you can find and have love and suitable relationships and careers. You can also share your interests and hobbies with others.

Love your life and be happy with the little things.

Negative energy can affect your health. Massage your whole body to keep it comfortable and healthy. Massage your head deeply and firmly with your hands, and don't press your stomach on an empty stomach.

If you feel negative emotions or thoughts, don't feel comfortable or healthy, have a lot of things that don't go your way, or have problems at school or work, it is because you are too self-centered and have accumulated too much negative energy. You need to learn how to truly love others, adapt to people and situations, and correct your energy field to avoid or reduce negative emotions, resolve conflicts, improve interpersonal relationships, and better solve the above problems.