Student, 5-person dormitory, interpersonal difficulties, what can be done to improve?
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
I am a student and now have interpersonal difficulties. There are five people in the dormitory, and one of them likes to play games, so she is not included in my social circle. One person has a bit of a conflict with me, and one has a very nice personality. I am also very nice to her, but whenever I am alone with her, it is awkward. Another person gets along well with me, but now ignores me. I don't really like group activities because I always follow the crowd and can't take the lead. But I get along well with one of the girls in the dormitory, so I often do a lot of things with her alone. But recently she has distanced herself from me, and is getting along better with each of the other roommates than with me. I am very sad, and I really want to get along with them, but apart from the girl who gets along well with me, I always feel like I don't have anything to talk about with the other roommates when I am with them, and it is very awkward. I am very afraid of being embarrassed, so I avoid being alone with them. For example, when it is time to wash up, the other person has already finished going to the bathroom before I go, which causes them to think that I am not sociable and they have a bit of a bad opinion of me. What should I do to improve this situation? I always feel like I
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Comments
I understand how challenging it can be to navigate dorm life. It sounds like you're really trying to connect with your roommates but are facing some obstacles. Maybe you could initiate a conversation with the girl who has distanced herself and ask her if everything is okay, expressing that you've noticed a change and value your time together.
It's tough when you feel like you don't fit into the group dynamic. Sometimes just being honest about how you feel can open doors. You might want to consider sharing your feelings with your roommates, letting them know that you sometimes feel left out or awkward, and see if they have similar feelings or can offer support.
Feeling isolated in a dorm setting can be really hard, especially when you want to improve your relationships. A good step could be to try and participate more in group activities, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Perhaps suggest an activity that you're comfortable leading, which could help boost your confidence and show your roommates a new side of you.