Student, I always suspect that others hate me lately. How do I adjust?

Good day, colleague. I can see the confusion you are facing right now.

You are experiencing some growing pains. Please accept this gesture of support and encouragement.

Your reluctance to relocate to a new dormitory stems from a negative experience of being isolated by your classmates in your current one.

These are, in fact, some of the issues that arise during the process of growing up.

It is not necessarily the case that your classmates are isolating you because of your performance.

It is within the realm of possibility that the experience of being isolated in your current dormitory has caused you a certain degree of psychological trauma.

In such a case, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a professional psychologist.

Please be advised that platform counseling offers a student discount of 50%. To apply, simply fill out the form and submit a school certificate for current students.

If your school has a resident psychologist, you may also wish to make use of their services.

The school psychologist is required to provide this service free of charge.

I hope you will be able to find an effective solution to the problem you are facing as soon as possible.

At this time, I can only suggest these possibilities.

I hope my responses above will prove useful and motivating to you. I am the solution, and I study diligently every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our best wishes to you and the world.

Dear reader, I can imagine that you must feel a complex array of emotions, including anger, distress, and sadness, upon learning that your best friend has inexplicably ignored you and enlisted the help of your other friends to isolate and exclude you. Betrayal and disregard are two of the most distressing experiences in life, particularly when they occur from individuals with whom one has previously enjoyed positive relationships. In this context, I extend my support and understanding.

You have already demonstrated considerable fortitude in expressing your opinions, and your willingness to engage in introspection indicates your desire to comprehend the factors that may have contributed to your best friend's actions. It is evident that you place a high value on the opinions of others, as this has resulted in significant personal distress.

From your introspection, you perceive the possibility that this treatment is not a result of your own actions, given that you have never been subjected to such treatment previously. Is this an accurate assumption?

From the tone of your inquiry, it appears that you are uncertain as to whether you are culpable.

The conventional wisdom holds that one only enters society after graduating from school. However, this is a misnomer. One enters society when one leaves home to go to kindergarten. This is because when one leaves the supervision of one's family and faces the uncertainties of the outside world alone, that is the beginning of entering society. This raises the question of why many children cry when they go to kindergarten, while others do not. This reflects a person's ability to adapt to new environments and their interpersonal skills. Children should not be underestimated. Why do some children like the teachers while others cry alone? This is related to an individual's ability to integrate into and be independent in this small society of kindergarten.

As is the case with adults in society, one's personality and abilities serve as the foundation for one's relationships, which in turn shape one's status in society.

If one finds oneself isolated, it is indicative of underlying issues in one's interpersonal relationships. It is essential to examine the underlying causes of this phenomenon. If the cause is one's own actions, this is not a cause for concern. It is inevitable that one will make mistakes in life; mistakes serve as reminders of our shortcomings and motivate us to strive for improvement. When one reflects on their life experiences, they will likely perceive a sense of beauty and perceive the absence of absolute right or wrong.

If the situation was not your fault, it is imperative to inquire until a definitive response is obtained. Only through this process can the truth be uncovered, emotional distress be alleviated, and the perception of being judged and isolated by others be rectified. This is a crucial step in preventing further harm to oneself.

It is my sincere hope that this information will prove beneficial.

Give a hug to the troubled questioner!

Oh my goodness, why do friends suddenly ignore me?

And even gossip about me with my friends!

First, give the sad questioner a big hug!

This is an exciting question! It's about finding out what kind of person is suitable to be a friend.

What is a friend?

Friends are the best! They're people who aren't related by blood but who share a lot of things in common. They're usually honest, trusting, and considerate. They have similar interests and hobbies and can listen to each other's problems and offer psychological support.

For most people, friends are the absolute best! They're there for you when you need them the most, ready to lend a helping hand in times of trouble.

What kind of amazing person can become a friend?

Zeng Guofan was convinced that choosing friends is the most important thing you can do in life. He believed that the success or failure of a lifetime depends on the integrity of one's friends, so it's important to be careful and choose wisely!

1. People with similar personalities and interests!

2. A kind-hearted, honest, and trustworthy person!

3. Outspoken. Knowledgeable.

4. A forgiving person with high moral character!

How can you handle it when you hear someone saying bad things about you?

1. Like the original poster, don't say anything. Pretend you didn't hear, but be sure to let them know you're not happy about it!

2. You can nod with a smile, look him straight in the eye, and use your gaze to tell him, "I heard you. Let's talk about it face to face."

3. Go right over and ask what they're talking about. Join in and listen!

Oh my goodness, former friends!

So, your friend is with your current friends, talking badly about you. Well, now is the time to consider whether he can be considered a true friend!

If someone you don't know well says something bad about you, just remember this:

If you don't attract jealousy, you're probably just mediocre.

Talented people have all come this way through blood, sweat, and tears, so the questioner should be a very talented person before anyone would say such things behind their back.

The questioner is excited to start this new chapter in their life, but a little nervous about making new friends in their new dormitory.

The host just needs to be himself, and he'll be great! The process of interpersonal interaction is one of getting to know someone from not knowing them to knowing them well.

In different environments, everyone has their own unique personality! People from different places and families will have many differences in their living habits, so it's important to respect each other.

❣️The main point is to remain optimistic and confident! You should know that optimistic and confident people have particularly good friend groups!

❣️Read more! People with a wide range of knowledge are particularly attractive.

❣️Get out there and develop a hobby of your own! There are so many possibilities, from green plants to calligraphy, painting, musical instruments, or dancing. People with a hobby are always very popular among friends, so get creative and find yours today!

You thought other people hated you and saw some clues, so you wondered if there was something wrong with you or with those who isolated you.

It's good to be able to come to your heart for help. It shows you can think about your actions and find solutions.

During school, there will always be problems with classmates. Girls often get isolated.

We can try to understand why some girls stick together and isolate others.

Why do people stick together and look for enemies?

Imagine:

If someone is unimportant, I won't pay attention to them.

If someone can make me feel strongly about them, it means I care about them. What they say or do affects me.

The biggest relationship in school is competitive.

She felt threatened by your good qualities.

Let her feel safe with you.

Small groups will naturally come together to feel safe. They will talk badly about people outside their circle or look for faults. They will even make things up to make themselves feel better.

Are you more relaxed now?

There's something about you that makes her uneasy.

You are you, with your strengths and weaknesses.

We should improve ourselves, not to please others.

Be yourself.

Do what you think is right.

Ask for advice when you need to.

Believe in yourself. Do it for yourself. Be yourself.

It feels bad to be isolated. There are ways to break the ice.

Don't be afraid of being isolated.

At school, your main focus should be your studies. Let go of childish things and don't be afraid of being isolated. It will make those who say bad things about you feel powerless.

Second, focus on the issue, not the person.

Be friendly and helpful to your classmates. Smile and show them you care.

Roommates are not the same as friends.

You don't have to be best friends with your roommate. A good friend shares your values and respects personal boundaries.

You can be friends with people in other classes too. Making friends is also about following your heart.

Express yourself.

It's rude to imply things to your face, so why be afraid?

Ask them directly, "What do you mean?"

"Are you talking about me?" If not, say, "No, oh, that's good."

"Let me know if you have any comments. It's okay."

"That was disrespectful."

"Tell me if you have any comments. I'll make improvements if you need me to."

If she doesn't respond, walk over and ask her, "What's wrong?"

They're both students, but they come from different family environments and have different personalities.

Don't be frustrated because they are different. The world is diverse. Find a way to deal with it.

I hope this helps.

Let me give you a hug. It's hard to feel alone, especially when we leave our parents and move to a new place. We need to feel safe and accepted. But life is not what we expected.

Interpersonal relationships are hard. If we don't study enough or have enough experience, it's hard to avoid mistakes, especially in a new environment.

You seem less confident since you were hurt. You're afraid of new roommates and interacting with new people. You doubt yourself and think you won't be accepted. You must feel uncomfortable and worried about getting along with others.

Did you have good friends and people you trusted before? If so, you can handle a relationship. If you have also been hurt, talk to a professional or do some counseling. This can help you heal, improve your self-assessment, and boost your confidence in getting along with others.

Third, when you meet new people, do you think about things? What kind of girl can you play with? Is she your friend?

What kind of friends are good for us? Friends should understand and respect each other.

How do you keep your distance from others? How do you handle disagreements?

We need to think about this carefully. If we hurt others, how do we deal with it?

You can learn from books and talk therapy.

Don't stress about setbacks. Find answers to your confusion. You will be strong in the future. Best wishes.