Suddenly I find that I have become very fond of complaining about work. How do I adjust?

This situation shows you don't like your job and want to avoid it.

It's normal to dislike your job. You don't have to be hard on yourself about it.

Adjusting yourself is not just about emotions.

Think about the good and bad points of this job. If the good points convince you to stay, great. If not, you might want to look for something better.

Second, can you respond to and resolve unreasonable events at work through communication? You may discover that some things are not as unreasonable as you think, or that there are reasonable reasons for them. Communication may reduce these events and make you feel more peaceful.

Finally, it's about how you feel when something happens at work. If you can't control what happens or how you feel about it, you can only change how you think about it. There's no right or wrong in the workplace. There are more pros and cons than you think. Once you understand this, you'll be able to handle things better.

Good day, question asker!

I am a Sunshine Dolphin floating ball, which is to say that I am a psychological counselor.

I'm not sure if you identify as male or female, and I'm unaware of how long you've been engaged in administrative work. Do you typically interact with other departments frequently? Allow me to offer you some encouragement.

I hope you can find a way to change your habit of complaining. This is a good realization, and I believe you can do it.

It seems that the reason for your dissatisfaction is that you are not willing to do this extra work. Have you ever considered whether there might be some benefit to this cross-departmental work that you haven't yet identified? It's not uncommon for people who are initially reluctant to work across departments to feel that they have lost out in some way. However, it's also worth taking a moment to reflect on what you might have gained from the experience.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider things from a different perspective.

I'm not sure what position you're in right now, but have you considered making a career plan for yourself? Have you thought about promotion? If you have these desires and have not made a career plan for yourself, you might benefit from treating this kind of cross-departmental work as a learning opportunity.

I'm not sure what position you're in right now, but have you considered making a career plan for yourself? Have you thought about the possibility of promotion?

If you have these desires and have not yet made a career plan for yourself, you might consider treating this kind of cross-departmental work as a learning opportunity.

No matter what your goal may be, whether it's expanding your knowledge or honing your existing skills, you will always reap the rewards of your efforts. As the saying goes, "Opportunity favors the prepared mind." We all want a promotion when it comes, but only the capable will get it. It's always a good idea to plan ahead for your career so that you can seize such opportunities when they arise.

?‍♂️If you do this extra work with a grateful heart, I believe the spiritual wealth you gain is of greater value than economic wealth. In today's world, people's values are not fully developed, and they often equate value with benefit. This may contribute to the prevalence of complaints. If the value of various items, spiritual gains, knowledge gains, and learning opportunities were converted into benefits, which would be more valuable in comparison to complaints?

I hope my answer is helpful to you. I care about you.

Hello, I'm June!

I totally get it. I've been feeling the same way recently. The unclear division of responsibilities at work is really frustrating, isn't it? I've been there myself. I've complained about it, and I know it's made me less enthusiastic about my work. I can empathize with you completely.

I've been lucky enough to work in companies for nearly 20 years, both listed companies and private enterprises. From my perspective as someone who has been there and done that, no company can truly achieve a completely clear division of responsibilities. This is because:

1. From the workflow perspective, there are some tasks that fall under different responsibilities in the job description.

2. From an enterprise management perspective, it's a bit of a tricky situation. The clearer the division of labor, the higher the enterprise's costs.

3. From a human perspective, it can be tricky when there's not a clear division of labor. It can make it harder to stay motivated when things aren't as straightforward as they could be.

I can see how the unclear division of labor in the workplace might make you feel a bit unfairly treated. But I think there's more to it than that. It's probably a combination of the lack of reciprocity between effort and reward, as well as interpersonal communication issues.

You said, "When I first took over someone else's work, I understood the work content and there was a clear division of labor, but after a period of time, I found that the boundaries of the leader's work were very unclear, and sometimes the work of other departments would also be assigned to people in our department."

From what you said, it seems like when you first started the job, your salary was in line with your abilities. It's also pretty common for newcomers to lower their salary requirements to stay in a company.

As you've been with the company longer, you've become just as capable as you were when you first started. This means you're able to take on extra tasks, but your salary hasn't increased. This can make you feel like you're not being fairly compensated.

So, my advice to you is:

1. Go for it! Accept those work assignments!

Taking on additional work is a great way to show your abilities. If you have long-term plans for your career development, this is an amazing opportunity for you! Then, take a moment to think about whether you can handle this additional work with ease, and what skills you might need to add.

So, when you're really good at your extra work, does that mean you're in a position of "one person, two positions"? Does it mean you're irreplaceable?

If you do, then you're on the right track! You're very competitive in the workplace, and you'll definitely get a higher salary and a higher position.

2. Don't be afraid to chat with your superiors!

It's always a good idea to think from the company's perspective. Is it necessary to adjust work processes and merge positions? If so, who will be qualified to do the job? You've got this! Prove your competence by summarizing your previous work results and use them to make a reasonable request for a pay rise.

A good leader can see the amazing abilities of their subordinates!

It's also a great idea to chat with your colleagues!

It's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed when you first start taking on extra work. It's also natural to communicate with your colleagues in a way that's a bit critical and complaining. But, this isn't the best way to develop your career. It might even make you less popular!

If you can look at things from the perspective of your own career development, the lack of ability of your colleagues is not a hindrance, but rather an opportunity for you to grow. The stronger your problem-solving skills, the greater your chances of a pay rise and promotion!

I really hope these suggestions are useful for you! Warm regards!

In the workplace, you can adjust your perspective to make things better.

Your job is administrative and personnel work, which is very diverse and requires patience and attention to detail. It exercises your emotional intelligence and communication and coordination skills. If you have complaints about the work assigned to you by your leader, it is understandable. But if you see it as an exercise in your own emotional intelligence, that would be even better.

Second, how good are you at this job? There are five levels: I know, I have done it, I am familiar with it, I am proficient in it, and I create it. Think about the six modules of human resources and the three modules of administration and management. Consider where you fit in each one and whether there is room for improvement.

Third, think about whether you like the job, are passionate about it, are good at it, and want to develop your skills in this area.

Your leader matters. Can he inspire you, guide you, educate you, support you, and help you grow?

You should spend your time where you want, where you put in the effort, and where you get the most out of it.

If you have the chance, talk to your boss about your career. I can help.

Dear questioner, My name is Annie.

I have reviewed your question and understand your frustration with the situation. It seems that you are facing challenges in refusing orders from other departments and your leaders.

It is important to recognize that you are the primary source of pressure in your work, and that complaining is not an effective solution. Instead, consider offering a supportive gesture to the individual who is expressing dissatisfaction.

The original poster stated that the leader would take matters from other departments and assign them to you. You have responded to the leader, but it seems that the leader is unable to provide a reasonable explanation, so you have to accept it. However, your reluctance still affects your work mood. You want to express your emotions, but your reason tells you not to. You can't reconcile the conflict within you, which makes you dislike this side of yourself.

The feeling of being aggrieved has led to the expression of discontent, which can be an effective way to relieve stress. While expressing one's emotions can provide a sense of catharsis, the experience of discomfort persists.

The additional workload and emotional strain will impact our work efficiency, so it is not a viable option.

In order to answer the question "How to adjust one's thinking to not complain," I will now present the following suggestions.

It is important to remember that expressing frustration is a normal part of the workplace. It is not a sign of weakness, but rather a natural response to challenging circumstances.

It is not uncommon to feel aggrieved and to voice one's concerns. This is simply a natural part of being human, and there is nothing wrong with that. One can try to remind oneself of this fact.

"I voice my concerns because I believe I have been treated unfairly, but I am not discouraged by this because I understand it is only a temporary situation."

"My current objective is to refrain from becoming angry or complaining and to complete the task at hand to the best of my abilities. I will take a moment to calm my mind and prepare myself for work, ensuring I can perform to the highest standards."

When you feel the urge to complain, take a moment to pause and assess your emotions. How do you feel? Are you experiencing anger, helplessness, or frustration?

Then, consider the following: What is the best course of action now? What is the next step?

Use rational thinking to adjust your emotions and the desire to complain will quickly dissipate.

Secondly, there is no obligation to take any action; the decision is simply whether to act or not.

Furthermore, we tend to complain because we believe it is our duty to do so, even though we may not genuinely enjoy it. Conversely, expressing gratitude for the task at hand can foster motivation and creativity in the workplace.

To reduce the energy consumed by unwillingness to compromise, do not give yourself the option of having to do it. There is only the choice between "doing it" and "not doing it." If you choose to do it, then devote yourself to it as much as possible; otherwise, do not do it.

A direct choice between two options can help us feel much more relaxed.

Third, identify the benefits of your work.

It is often said that one gains something if one loses something. When we undertake a task with dedication and commitment, the gains we make along the way can often outweigh the losses.

For instance, if the questioner has expanded their scope to include the business of other departments, it is possible that this type of work will enhance their understanding of the relevant departments, facilitate the establishment of friendly relationships due to mutual support, and increase their flexibility to switch between different projects.

Even if you accept that highly repetitive work can make you feel monotonous, you can still introduce a slight variation each time to make it more engaging. Incorporating a little creativity into your work will give you a sense of accomplishment and make it less of a burden.

It is my hope that the questioner will be able to discover his or her full potential at work.

Best of luck! One Psychology and I Love You

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

From what I've seen, I know a lot about the work I was supposed to take over. It's pretty clear how the work is divided up, and I can arrange it so that it can be done in working hours.

After working for a while, the questioner noticed that the leader was allowing others to have an unclear division of labor. For work that didn't belong to the questioner's department, the leader's reason for being vague was also to make the questioner obey his arrangements. After a while, the questioner felt like complaining about work whenever he opened his mouth.

Take a step back and rethink your schedule.

The leader lets other departments assign work to theirs, and they're happy to accept, but the work is still done by the subject and their colleagues in the same department. Since the subject's leader said not to be so clear about the division of work, can they also give their work to them to do and then enjoy the fruits of their labor?

This arrangement isn't fair. It also disrupts the questioner's schedule with the occasional increase in workload. If you plan to spend a certain amount of time working, you can learn something else with the rest of your time. But at any time, other work will be assigned to take up your time. You're not responsible for this work, so you have to keep learning according to the work.

This kind of work makes the questioner feel out of control, and it can make people feel anxious. The leader's arrangement makes the questioner feel dissatisfied, but there's nowhere to talk about it. All these pent-up emotions make the questioner feel like they want to complain at any time. It's normal for the questioner to feel dissatisfied because the leader's arrangement didn't take their feelings into account.

It'd be great if you could communicate.

Taking a step back can lead to a bright future. If the questioner takes this step back at work, it might seem like they're following the leader's arrangement, but it also means that in the future, if a similar situation arises, the questioner will still have to compromise and accommodate them.

Everyone has their own job to do. If the work is something the OP has to take responsibility for, then it's fine to complete the workload that's part of their own job. If someone else's work is made to be completed by you, will the other person give you a share of the salary when it's paid? If not, then why should the OP help the other person complete it?

The questioner can try to talk to the leader and let them know that the extra work is affecting their own work and that they can't complete other people's work. If the leader still assigns other parts of the work to the questioner, then the questioner can prioritize and complete their own work first, and slowly complete the work that is not their own. If someone is pushing them to do it, they can just take it back and do it themselves.

If you do your best to complete the assigned work, the leader will probably take it for granted. A leader who values talent won't engage in such unclear division of labor. So, after seeing the questioner's work ability, the leader will likely assign more work to the questioner, rather than rewarding the questioner according to their abilities. After trying to communicate ineffectively, it's also a coping method to let yourself fail appropriately.

Take a moment to decompress.

Because the work schedule makes you unhappy, you feel like you need to talk about it, but you can't find the right person to talk to, and it leaves you stuck in these depressing emotions:

1. Exercise: Office workers don't have a lot of time to exercise. If they're busy, they basically give up. Exercise is a way to relieve emotions. During exercise, you can combine it with abdominal breathing to exhale depressed emotions in your body and inhale fresh air. Repeat this cycle. If you insist on exercising for a period of time every day, your happy state of mind will change the way you look at things and handle the problems you face more calmly.

2. Distract yourself: When you're tired, why not put on an episode of a funny variety show, have some snacks you like, and laugh as much as you want? You can also download a singing app, put on some headphones, and sing along to the rhythm. Clean up your living space, get rid of things you don't need or use, donate what you can, and throw away what you should. When you see a neat and clean home, your worries will also be put aside. Distracting yourself by doing other things is also a good way to relieve your emotions.

3. Meditation: Before meditating, the questioner can prepare a little by lighting an aromatherapy lamp for themselves, or something similar with a scent. In a quiet environment, take some time to relax, listening to guided meditation and music to feel your body and emotions unwind. At first, you can meditate a little more often, for example morning, noon and night, according to your own schedule.

Sometimes, when you make a compromise at work, you don't get the rewards you deserve. If that happens, you can try to fight for them. At least let others know your attitude first, and then make a decision based on reality.

I hope this helps. Best wishes!

Dear, I believe the above content is very well composed and very true. This is also a problem we often encounter in the workplace.

So, are we thinking, "I shouldn't complain?" or are we thinking, "I encounter unclear work boundaries in my workplace"?

"How should I respond?"

If we can identify these two aspects of our perception, we can then focus on working towards these two goals.

1. Would it be beneficial to voice my concerns?

This question can be approached from two perspectives. On the positive side, complaining is an expression of our own dissatisfaction. It could be said that emotions are messengers.

I wonder if I might ask what my dissatisfaction here is.

The work in question was increased, completed, and not originally assigned to me.

I believe I did express my refusal to this task.

The leader indicated that other departments have pressing tasks and therefore directed you to take on this additional responsibility. This suggests that the leader is aware that this task is not directly related to your department's core responsibilities.

Perhaps it would be helpful to view this as a task assigned by your leader at short notice.

It might be challenging to refuse when your leader gives you an order. If you are very busy with your work, you could politely explain to your leader that you don't currently have the time to take on this task.

I believe this is an acceptable situation.

If you are not overloaded with work at the moment, have a lot of free time, energy, and the technical skills to do the job, then refusing the job might be seen as a loss of initiative, a lack of willingness to work together with the company, and a way of thinking of yourself as a tool for a particular position. This could potentially hinder your career development.

It might be worth considering that if your work is highly substitutable and can be done by anyone, there is a possibility that you could be at career risk if you change to someone else.

I hope you understand that by accepting this job, you are not in a position to complain. This is simply the result of my acceptance.

2. You indicated that you understand. It seems that the issue here is that you have unfinished expressions.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider this. I'll mention a few possible avenues to see if they align with your circumstances.

If I might suggest, there is another possibility which is that you have cross-departmental difficulties in your actual work. It may be that there are insufficient resources and support.

Or it may involve cooperation with other departments.

I would like to inquire as to whether there is any possibility of a pay rise should my workload increase. I am concerned that I may be working for nothing.

In some cases, I have had the opportunity to apply my skills in other departments. I am wondering if there is a way I can get

Appropriate recognition may include promotion, responsibilities, and rights.

It would be beneficial to clearly organize your work and express it in a clear manner.

It would be beneficial to ensure that you have a clear understanding of your role, the impact of your work, and whether this is a temporary or long-term position.

It would be greatly appreciated if you could do this for now. Please be aware that you may not get paid, promoted or transferred for doing this job. However, your leader will see your performance and growth here.

This part is about your own choices. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider how much more you could do.

Perhaps it would be helpful to do your own assessment. It might be worth considering whether there could be a psychological issue of "rejection" involved in this part.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to develop this in a counseling setting.

Could I perhaps draw your attention to the difficulties I am experiencing in my actual work? I would be very grateful for any assistance my leader could provide in solving this problem. I would also like to include a report on the work content in my written account.

I would like to kindly request the corresponding rights in the process of resolving this part. I would also appreciate the affirmation of the leader on this matter.

If it is not an inconvenience, could I inquire as to whether the salary could be supplemented? For example, the market price for a similar design is 2,000 yuan, and the company provides some resources. The part I completed is worth 1,000 yuan.

If I may, I would like to respectfully propose that we consider the following:

Naturally, this part should also be considered in light of your own particular circumstances. Factors such as the corporate culture, your own personality, and the affirmation of your own value and business ability may also be relevant.

I believe these are all things that need to be taken into account.

It is often our hope that those around us will truly understand our needs through our complaints.

In light of the above, I would like to reiterate that I accept the current work assignment and therefore do not intend to complain.

If there are any difficulties, I would be grateful if you could let me know. Similarly, if there is any dissatisfaction or a need for affirmation, I would appreciate the opportunity to discuss this with you.

I'm so grateful for your kindness.

I am grateful for your inquiry. When confronted with challenges at work, it is possible to proactively adapt and seek assistance.

First and foremost, it is imperative to recognize that these circumstances are not your fault. Being tasked with an overwhelming number of responsibilities can be both exhausting and frustrating, particularly when it impedes your own work and even affects your normal work attitude.

It can be exhausting to maintain a high level of activity and engagement while others in different departments appear to be less invested in their work. This discrepancy can lead to feelings of imbalance and a sense of being out of sync with the demands of the external environment.

If we concentrate on the dissatisfaction with the external environment and attempt to alter the operational approach of the unit, it may result in feelings of helplessness, frustration, and expressions of discontent regarding the prevailing circumstances. While it may not be feasible to modify the external environment, there is the potential to modify our work and thought processes.

In lieu of complaining, it may be more efficacious to contemplate methods of adapting to the prevailing circumstances and enhancing the quality of life and work.

It is this author's recommendation that:

1. It would be beneficial to consider the following: What type of work would be preferable? Is the current workload, which includes tedious administrative tasks, causing boredom, or is there a sense of resentment towards the additional tasks that lack clear boundaries?

2. What is my communication style with my superior? Is there a way I can communicate with my superior in a new way?

One might inquire as to the manner in which other individuals decline requests in a polite manner. It would be advantageous to observe the conduct of colleagues in this regard.

3. Are there additional sources of frustration or unexpected occurrences in your personal or professional life that cause you concern? To what extent are you satisfied with your current lifestyle and occupation?

Please identify the aspects of your current situation that you find satisfactory and that give you a sense of happiness.

4. How might one achieve a balance between work and life? One possible approach is to set aside time for relaxation, to engage in conversation with a friend or family member, or to contact a hotline or professional teacher for discussion. These strategies have been demonstrated to be effective.

5. Consider adopting a different perspective. Undertaking a task outside of one's usual remit can enhance one's work performance, expand one's professional network, and facilitate career progression. It may be the case that my current level of expertise is insufficient for navigating my personal and professional circumstances, and that I require further training and education.

It is my sincere hope that these suggestions will prove beneficial. I extend my best wishes for success in your professional endeavors and for a life filled with joy and contentment.

Good morning, host.

It is a privilege to engage in discourse regarding your professional endeavors. Based on your account, it appears that your role falls within the purview of the administrative department. At the outset, the delineation between responsibilities was evident. However, at a later juncture, you perceived that the duties of other departments were being attributed to yours, which gave rise to a sense of inequity. Consequently, even when you performed the tasks, you voiced discontent.

Firstly, it is reasonable to conclude that the emotions expressed are justified, regardless of the department in question. It is essential to establish a clear delineation of responsibilities to ensure the effective functioning of any organisation. Without a defined structure, it is challenging to achieve optimal outcomes. A transparent division of labour enables employees to utilise their strengths, leading to enhanced efficiency and greater benefit to the company.

The question thus arises as to why there is a tendency towards an unclear division of labor. It would be beneficial to discuss this matter further.

1. It would be beneficial to gain a clear understanding of the specific responsibilities of the administrative department. At the time of assuming the role, was this information provided to you by your superior?

What was the nature of the initial request from your superior for work that was not within the purview of your department? At the time of the request, did you recognize that the task was not within the scope of your responsibilities?

Please describe your emotional state at the time. Subsequently, when an increasing volume of work that was not within your purview was required of you, did you engage in any communication with your superior?

2. It is of great importance that the administrative department provides assistance to other departments of the company, but only in terms of work. It is not permissible for an administrative department member to be asked to perform tasks in a personal capacity, such as fetching a courier for someone else. The scope of work for an administrative department member should be limited to company work. For example, if a leader in another department requests assistance in purchasing materials and supplies, this falls within the purview of the administrative department and does not involve doing work for other departments.

It is therefore necessary to ascertain whether the work in question falls within the purview of the administrative department. Additionally, it is essential to determine whether the work is of a public or private nature.

3. In the event that the work assigned by one's superior does not fall within the purview of the administrative department, it is advisable to engage in a discussion with the superior to gain clarity regarding the nature of the work. This approach not only circumvents the potential adverse effects on one's emotional state and well-being associated with an increase in work responsibilities, but it also has the potential to enhance the overall functioning of the department and improve overall work efficiency.

4. Should one experience feelings of resentment, it is advisable to accept them. This is a reasonable response. Regardless of the context, individuals possess emotions. These emotions are not a direct result of the event itself, but rather a function of one's perception of it. It is possible that a shift in perspective may lead to a change in one's emotional state. Therefore, it is not uncommon to experience a range of emotions, and it is important to prioritize self-care.

Ultimately, it is my sincere hope that you will soon find a solution to your problem. I wish you the utmost success in your professional endeavors and in all aspects of your life.

Dear Question Asker, I can perceive the confusion you are currently experiencing, and I extend to you a gesture of comfort and support.

You are currently experiencing difficulties in your professional career. Please allow me to extend a further expression of support and encouragement.

The answer to this question depends on whether the individual in question views their current position as a career or a hobby.

If one perceives one's current position as a long-term career trajectory, the act of work itself may be experienced as a burdensome obligation.

When this perspective is adopted, it is likely that the individual will become more inclined to express dissatisfaction.

However, if one alters one's perspective, the outcome may be entirely different, and the negative feelings may dissipate.

One might posit that it is beneficial for one's professional development to have one's manager assign tasks from other departments. Given one's extensive experience in administration, there is an opportunity to gain insight into the operations of other departments within the same organization.

When one adopts this perspective, it becomes evident that learning is occurring in the workplace.

When one perceives that they are engaged in a process of learning at work, it becomes less likely that they will engage in complaining.

It is my sincere hope that the issue you are currently experiencing can be resolved in an effective and timely manner.

At this juncture, I am only able to consider these factors.

It is my hope that the aforementioned responses prove both helpful and inspiring to the individual posing the question. As the entity responsible for providing answers, I am committed to continual learning.

At Yixinli, we extend our greetings to the world and express our affection for you. Best wishes!

Hello, host! I'm thrilled to answer your question. After reading your information, I understand that you're engaged in administrative work.

At first, your leader gave you all the work you could handle. Then, they gave you a chance to grow by assigning you tasks from other departments. You were excited to take on a new challenge, but your director said, "Since it's from above, just do it."

You feel unhappy when you're doing tasks that aren't your responsibility. But don't worry! This is totally normal. We all feel this way sometimes. You can easily overcome this feeling by taking a deep breath and reminding yourself that you're doing your best.

Administrative work is the glue that holds the unit together, dealing with a wide range of tasks and issues. While your personal contribution might not always be visible, the value you bring to the department as a whole is undeniable. After spending time in this role, you'll feel like you've accomplished so much, even if your self-worth isn't reflected in the same way. It's natural to experience some negative emotions, but don't let that stop you from celebrating your achievements!

However, there's a better way! By changing your mindset and focusing on the positive, you can shift your energy and mood at work. Your leader will see your dedication and commitment, and you'll feel more engaged and motivated. There are two main ways to deal with these negative emotions in life.

From a rational perspective, it's not the event itself that affects our attitude, but our perception of it. If we keep being given work that's not part of our job description, it will increase our workload. But from another perspective, it also enhances our ability and experience in solving some other problems!

And this improves our overall strength!

There's another way! You can release the pressure brought to us by trivial matters in life in a harmless way. You can do this through a professional platform, where you can talk to counselors and listeners on a professional platform for grievances, depression, and reform.

Professional listening and counseling are the perfect way to release all that negative energy and emotional stress that accumulates in your heart. It's the ideal way to maintain inner psychological balance and health. And the best part is, you can face all those challenges at work and in life in the best state!

I'm thrilled to have an appointment! 1983. The world and I love you!

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, and I'm here to help! I'm Coach Fei Yun.

I totally get where you're coming from. The lack of clear roles and responsibilities has led to you and your team taking on a lot of work that shouldn't be yours to do. It's a lot to handle, and although you're doing your best to get the job done, your emotions and complaints are causing some internal friction.

Now, let's dive in and take a look at the problems that trouble you:

?1. Resentment comes from being treated unfairly, making you feel disrespected.

At work, there are relationships between leaders and subordinates, and between managers and the people they manage. But at the level of "people," we are all equal, so we all long to be treated fairly—and we can make that happen!

Leaders always assign work outside the scope of departmental responsibilities, which presents us with an opportunity to rethink our internal expectations of "fairness." When we do so, we can avoid the feeling of being disrespected and ignored.

And here's another fascinating fact: "demanding fairness" itself is a "pitfall" set up by the brain for us!

People are often used to judging fairness from their own perspective, which is great! But what is fair from someone else's perspective might not be fair from their own. Our perception is limited, but we can work on it!

When you feel unfair, you have the opportunity to embrace your emotions, express your feelings, and even walk away from the situation if you need to. This kind of behavior is actually empowering!

This kind of emotion often occurs in cooperation, affecting the outcome. Now we know that this is a "pitfall" set up by the brain for us — and we can work around it!

So, as long as it's a win-win, you've got the green light to choose!

? 2. Let's dive into how you can stop internal friction, adjust your state, and find a sense of value in your work!

I also grew up in the workplace, from novice to manager, and I've found that there are two main things that employees should focus on: completing their own work and the work assigned by their leader.

As you complain, it is "the work delivered by the leader." For example, you belong to the management of Department A, but you also get to work with the manager of Department B on an ad hoc/occasional basis, which is a great opportunity to learn from them!

Absolutely! If this pattern becomes the norm, then you need to consider the management regularity of this company and the management level of the leaders.

Internal friction occurs because what you think should be the case is actually the case. This is an opportunity for growth! The conflict between what "should be" and what "is" is a chance to learn and adapt. It is normal to complain when you don't know how to dispel your negative emotions. This is a chance to practice positive thinking!

I've got two suggestions for you!

1) Look at this "extra" work from a different perspective. If it is helpful for your own growth, you can accept it gladly. It gives you the opportunity to understand the work of other departments and accumulate more "skills" and abilities. Talented people who are specialized in one field but also versatile are most loved and entrusted by their leaders.

2) When we have complaints, it is easy to feel frustrated. We have done more than our fair share of work, and we have spoken up/complained, but the result is only one: "no praise for our efforts." Focus on what you have and ignore what you don't have. For example, some of the benefits are: extra work brings "good relationships," increases opportunities for connection/cooperation with other departments, and is conducive to understanding information from other departments...

If this extra work isn't rewarding and is purely repetitive, it's a great idea to chat with your leader and get their take on it. If the work is trivial and you can handle it on your own, you can refer to the above two suggestions.

I really hope the above is helpful to you, and to the world! And I love you! ?

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