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The school has been under strict closure management for three weeks, and I want to go back but can't, I miss home so much.

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The school has been under strict closure management for three weeks, and I want to go back but can't, I miss home so much. By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

It's not that the school dormitories are really uncomfortable to live in, but it's just quite difficult. I have to take the college entrance exam in 40-odd days, but every day I feel a bit listless and don't have much motivation to study hard. Especially when I listen to math classes, I can't concentrate.

And I haven't seen my parents for a long time. I was a bit afraid of social interactions, but now I have to socialize with others even more, which scares me... My roommates are actually quite nice.

But I'm still scared. Anyone who is a little mean to me or whatever will leave me with lingering fear... And I feel like taking a shower is quite a hassle.

If I take a bath early, I feel sorry for the roommate behind me, and if I'm the last one to take a bath, I feel like I'm losing out. I'm also afraid of asking for help, because I'm afraid that people will think I'm too dependent on them, and I'll be afraid to ask for help myself. I just want to go home, where I can take a leisurely bath!

Christopher James Martin Christopher James Martin A total of 9656 people have been helped

Hello, classmate! I can see the confusion you are facing right now, but I'm here to help! Hugs to you!

You're going through some emotional challenges right now, but you've got this! I'm sending you a big, warm hug to help you through it.

Oh my goodness, yes! The nasty epidemic has kept you locked up in school for three weeks. You want to go home, but you can't.

I totally get it. It's been a while since you've been home, and I know you've been missing your folks. Let me give you another big hug across the screen!

Luckily, technology is so advanced these days! How old are your parents?

I bet they use WeChat too!

If you have WeChat, you can make a video call to them when you miss them. It's a great way to stay connected!

Oh, and one more thing! You'll definitely run into some interpersonal problems living in a dormitory, but that's totally normal.

I remember when I was studying in London, England, I lived in a school dormitory for a while. It was so much fun! Then some classmates guarded the bathroom with their books, and I later realized what they were up to.

It turned out that they were on a mission to find the least busy time to take a shower. They wanted to make sure they got to take a shower at the perfect moment!

As for what you said, I'm excited to tell you about a technique that can help you in this situation!

This is great! It means you can refuse to do things that are not your responsibility.

For example, if they ask you to take out the trash every day, you can say, "Sorry, that's not your job."

And the best part is, after you refuse them a few more times, they won't bother asking for your help anymore!

When I studied abroad, I used this method, and it really worked!

It's totally normal to be afraid of asking for help! The good news is that you can face it with an ordinary attitude, knowing that your classmates are only obliged to help you out of friendship.

I'm sure you'll find an effective solution to the problem you're facing soon!

I've got some great ideas for you!

I really hope my answers above are helpful and inspiring to you! I am the answer, and I study hard every day!

Here at Yixinli, we love you! Best wishes!

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Sophia Michelle White Sophia Michelle White A total of 8022 people have been helped

Hello!

You mentioned fear in your question five times. It seems like you're uncomfortable at school. Hugs!

The epidemic has made life difficult for this year's high school graduates. You have been confined for three weeks without going home because of the epidemic. I can imagine how you miss your parents and taking a leisurely bath at home. This is the result of the times. Let me hug you again!

You have to face the college entrance exam and the epidemic. Every student in middle and high school has to face this. My child is in the third year of junior high. He has not gone to school since March 1st. He may not go home until after the exam. Even a young junior high student has to wait a semester to go home. It's heartbreaking to think about such a young age and having no choice.

Many children have been separated from their parents because of the epidemic. Some have gone to a field hospital for isolation, and some have been placed under home isolation. You have probably seen this before. These children are in a difficult situation. The best way to deal with it is to be strong.

You're in your third year of high school and stuck at school for three weeks. Think about it this way.

You said your roommate is nice. Let's talk. Write down what you like about your roommate.

I'm surprised you can still go online for help when you're locked down at school. Your school's management is still quite good. You should be able to take a bath often. If you can, tell us about the good things you feel about your roommates or the school management. Or just talk about the fear you mentioned. If it's not convenient to go online, just write down your true feelings.

Secondly, writing down your feelings is a good idea. Your school is well-managed and humane, so it would be great if you could call your parents! Video calling would be even better!

You miss your dad, but it's hard for you to call. Sometimes it takes ten days, and he only gets five minutes. We're still lucky, right?

Next, I'll talk about showers! Can we take showers like this?

If there are eight people in line, we can buy one machine and let everyone take a turn. Then, we can compare and see if you prefer washing in the middle or at both ends. Which is more comfortable? We can choose whichever one you prefer.

You are sensitive and considerate of others. At first, you were afraid because we didn't live together long and there wasn't much social interaction. But you are thoughtful and respectful!

Your roommates are nice!

You feel good about your roommates, and they feel good about you. This creates a virtuous cycle. If it weren't for the stressful college entrance exam and the epidemic, you would have been able to try out more dorm friendships.

You have also felt a lot more, right? How could you have tried this kind of life?

If you can feel the pain instead of feeling it, it proves you're growing. Look back and see if you've learned to get along with classmates better. This may be a problem you've never thought about. Maybe you came for help because of this epidemic!

You've learned a lot and grown up by seeking help from science. Look at what you've learned in the past three weeks.

If you read to the end, you'll see that the fear you mentioned has been reduced.

You've experienced the goodness of the dormitory! Your roommates give you strength!

I know it can be hard when your roommate is mean. But you're strong, and you'll be even stronger next time. You're learning to grow up. If you can be patient, appreciate the situation, and give it your best, you'll overcome this challenge.

Let's all work together: parents, teachers, and all high school and college students. We must work together to overcome this difficult situation. High school and college students may have to pay more, but hard work will pay off. This year's high school and college students will be more resilient in the future.

You are one of them. Fight for the university of your dreams!

I love you, world.

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Vitaliano Vitaliano A total of 3392 people have been helped

Hello, dear!

How do you feel now? Are you in that math class you can't pay attention in?

Or are you still aimlessly moving bricks in a sea of problems? Or are you just enjoying your own company on the playground?

Haha, just kidding!

You mentioned academic and social problems, but I feel that the social problems seem to be more of a problem for you. You miss home very much, and I bet that apart from missing your family, it may also have something to do with your social problems.

At home, you feel totally safe, comfortable, and relaxed. You know in your heart that your family loves you no matter what you do!

You don't need to think about what is appropriate!

But at school, you get to consider so many things! For example, when to take a bath so that your roommates are comfortable and so are you; how to help people in an appropriate way; I think if you constantly have to consider these things and can't find a clear answer inside, you will feel a bit anxious and tired.

When we were young, we often felt that there was a standard answer to many things. We wanted to be the best, we wanted everyone to like us, and we wanted a definite answer. But we were still immature, and we had very little experience of society and of getting along with other people.

It's totally normal to feel a little lost in the face of increasingly complex interpersonal relationships. Your classmates probably feel similar confusion deep down, but it's all part of the journey!

It's just that everyone's degree or way of expressing it is a little different, and that's what makes it so interesting!

It's great to want to be considerate and make everyone feel comfortable! But remember, what's considered appropriate and good differs from person to person.

Even for the same person, different times will bring different feelings. And it's the same with helping people!

When we're in a great mood and see someone in need, we're happy to help! But if we're not feeling so great and someone needs a little assistance, we can still make a difference.

Because we're in a state where we need help, we don't have any spare energy!

Am I going around in circles? What I mean is that there are no specific standards for social interactions, which means there's so much room for creativity and flexibility!

There are so many specific moments, specific people, and specific things! And these moments are always ever-changing, which makes life so exciting!

There's no one-size-fits-all answer to this question! You can respond flexibly based on your own state and the state of the other person at that time.

Guess what! One day you might really want to be the first one to take a shower. You can even talk to your roommate about it!

And who knows—maybe one day you'll be happy to be the last one to shower! Things change, and that's okay.

And there's more! Helping others is also good. One day, you might be so happy and fulfilled that you'll naturally help someone in need when you see them.

And if one day you are feeling particularly down and have no desire to help anyone, just rest and take care of yourself!

We are not static. Our moods, intentions, thoughts, and states of mind change, and so do the outside world and we!

So, you can communicate with the outside world in whatever way suits you at the time, while still respecting the other person. You might not always get what you want, but it's so important to be clear about your needs, communicate in a friendly way, and not be attached to the outcome.

It feels amazingly flexible and relaxed!

Finally, I would like to say that our minds are used to thinking a lot and always trying to find the best solution. In fact, this makes us afraid to act and makes us panic. But there's no need to worry! We can conquer this challenge by simply taking action. Try different solutions until you get it right. You've got this!

Whatever happens, just do it! Try different solutions until you get it right.

This is a great way to gain more experience and find a breakthrough solution! It's much better than just dwelling on it.

I really hope this helps! Best regards,

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Daphne Pearl Foster Daphne Pearl Foster A total of 5345 people have been helped

Hello, host.

From what I've read in the comments, I can sense your distress. It's not so much about moving forward or backward in terms of getting along with your classmates, but rather that it seems like no matter what you do, it's not quite right.

[A strong sense of right and wrong]

I can understand how the whole shower thing might make you feel a little awkward.

It seems that there might be a difference of opinion as to the best way to proceed. One view is that washing first is better, but this can lead to feelings of sympathy for others who wash later.

On the surface, it may appear to be a matter of who gains and who loses, and how to achieve a balance of interests.

I wonder if it might be due to an overly strong sense of right and wrong.

I wonder if our parents may have been a little too strict in their approach to education.

It might be helpful to remember that there is no right or wrong in many things.

When we are in a group, we may find ourselves facing a variety of challenges and differing perspectives.

Perhaps the answer lies in finding a way to balance the different needs and interests involved. It's important to recognize that not everyone wants the same thing.

It is possible that even if everyone wants the same thing, competition and cooperation can coexist.

Perhaps the first step would be to try to understand others, rather than projecting our own thoughts and feelings onto them.

Perhaps if we were to let go of our strong sense of right and wrong, we might find ourselves less afraid of problems. Our minds might become more flexible, and solutions might come to us more naturally.

[Home and outside]

Home is often seen as the most relaxing place for a person, and resources are not always in short supply. Even if they are, parents often prioritize their children's needs first.

It might be said that when we are at our lowest, home is the best place to heal ourselves.

If we are young people, we have the opportunity to become the pillars of our country and our parents. We can use this time to leave the warmth of home and create our own world.

Perhaps it would be beneficial for us to consider ways of strengthening our emotional intelligence and relationship skills, with a view to narrowing the gap between home and the outside world.

The ancients said, "Keep your friends close but your enemies closer." It would be beneficial to treat our family members as friends and pay attention to their feelings. For example, we could ask, "Mom, I'm going to take a shower first, does it bother you?" Similarly, we should treat our friends as family and care about them. We could inquire, "xxx, are you in a hurry to take a shower?"

If it's okay with you, I'll take a shower first today, and you can study. Tomorrow, you can take a shower first, and I'll take a shower after you. Is that agreeable?

"

"It is often said that thoughts determine emotions."

Perhaps it would be helpful to remind yourself that everything in the present will contribute to a brighter future.

I believe that my emotions will become positive and sunny.

My name is Amy. I hope you can find your own peace and achieve good results.

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Ida Thomas To forgive is to move from a place of darkness to a place of light.

I totally get how you feel. It's tough preparing for such a big exam while dealing with all these daily stresses. The dorm life can be challenging, especially when you're missing home and feeling the pressure to socialize. But try to find small moments of comfort, like talking to your roommates about how you feel; they might understand more than you think. Also, remember it's okay to take breaks and do what you need to stay sane, even if it's just a short walk or a call to your parents.

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Rosemary Anderson Forgiveness is a way to turn a negative into a positive.

The stress of the upcoming exam is really getting to me too. I know it's hard to focus on math when there's so much on your mind. Maybe setting small, manageable goals each day could help you feel more in control. And about the shower situation, don't worry too much about inconveniencing others; everyone has their own routine. Try to remind yourself that it's normal to need some personal time and space. It's not selfish to take care of yourself.

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Calliope Sage Be sincere in your thoughts, and you will be sincere in your actions.

It sounds like you're carrying a lot right now. I can relate to feeling scared of social interactions and being overly sensitive to how others treat you. But remember, it's okay to reach out for support. Your roommates seem nice, so maybe you can confide in them. They might offer some unexpected kindness. As for studying, sometimes changing up your environment can make a difference. Maybe finding a quiet spot on campus or joining a study group could help you concentrate better.

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Clifford Anderson Forgiveness is a bridge built over the chasm of hurt and pain.

Feeling listless and unmotivated is so common during this intense period. I admire your awareness of your feelings and your efforts to manage them. It's important to acknowledge that it's okay to feel this way. Perhaps you could set aside specific times for selfcare, like taking that leisurely bath you mentioned. Also, consider talking to a counselor or mentor; they might provide some strategies to cope with the anxiety and help you feel more at ease in your surroundings.

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